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I'm a married man. I used to have a group of female friends in high school and they recently contacted me. I want to see them, but my wife would probably not want me to. Should I see them secretly, ask my wife and respect her wishes, or tell my wife and do as I please? We are just friends.
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Well are your friends married? If so ask your wife if she wants to come with you to see some old high school buddies of yours. Maybe go out for dinner and a drink.. But whatever you do don't go behind her back and see them. She'll find out one way or another and think it was more than a reunion.
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Tell your wife. If she finds out you lied to her then she will be even more mad. So tell her, and if she doesn't want you to go, assure her that you will not do ANYTHING with them and that they are just friends. You could have them come to the house to meet your wife, and just talk to her about it. Good Luck.
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I'm sure as long as she knows exactly what you're doing and you tell her she won't care. Just go ahead and tell her your plans and maybe even bring her along.
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Bring your wife along.
Do not secretly see them that will cause problems.
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becareful not to offend your wife and definetly do not meet your freinds behind her back cuz if she happens to find out it aint gonna be pretty.be hones tell her that your going to go out with them but if she gets mad i think you shouldnt because it can ruin your marriage and shell get all jealous then you should just forget going out with them if itll anger your wife put yourself in her place how would YOU feel.goood luck
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Dont go behind your wife it will only make her upset. Maybe you should talk to her and ask her if you can go out with a few high school friends. also you should include your wife with whatever you decide to do while hanging out with these friends
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Why not just include your wife in on whatever activities yall have planned for whenever your old high-school buds come back into town? Being a wife myself, if my husband was like im going to go see these girls I went to highschool with, kay bye. Yes I would be upset. Naturally, you should want to introduce your wife to these people, not want her to sit home. So, I think if you were like baby, some of my old highschool friends want to meet up for lunch, I want you to come so I can introduce them to my sexy ass wife...lol I think she would be perfectly fine with that. But if you just want to meet these girls and leave her out on it on purpose, then yea I would be upset to. Keeping it from her is also not good. What if someone that knows you sees you together with these women and goes back and tells your wife, then you got a lot more explaining to do. Plus, a story that she probably wont even believe. I mean you saying baby I swear I wasnt seeing another woman, there were old highschool friends, then she's going to wonder well if they were just friends then why couldnt he of told me that in the first place? I dunno, I'm not trying to make this more complicated for you, I just want you to see things from her point of view. What if someone came back to you and said Hey, I saw your wife with like 3 men at such-n-such. You would be pissed. So.... answer is: talk to her and let her know. Invite her to go.
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Doing anything like this in secret is a recipe for disaster in any relationship, whether you are married or not so I would immediately advise against this. Look at it this way, do you think it would make anything better were she to find out that you had lied to her?
The problem is that a lot of women tend to be insecure when it comes to men, so the prospect of their beloved wanting to hang out with a bunch of potentially attractive women is very daunting. She doesn't know them and for all she knows, they could be just waiting to take her wonderful husband away from her.
If this is likely to be the situation, you need to sit her down and actually give her the opportunity to react to this information. If you haven't told her about it yet, you have no way of knowing what she will say, so that is the first thing you need to do. The chances are, it might concern her a little so what I would strongly recommend is that rather than let these women remain an unnerving mystery to her, let her meet them too. Perhaps not the first time you see them because the chances are this will make the matter worse. You will be talking about old times together and she will feel left out.
However, after that, you could arrange a barbeque or some other kind of gathering and let her get to know them, so that she knows they are not a threat.
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you should never lie to your wife. just tell them that they were friends, and she shouldnt be jealous because you love her and only her, or say something like that so shell trust you. (she should be able to trust you anyways)
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NEVER go behind her back, because eventually, she will find out, and that will make her even more mad then you going to see your friends. Or even if she doesn't you will probably feel bad for hiding something from her. Have you ever thought about bringing your wife with you to meet your friends? Or is that embarressing because you don't know what the girls are going to say? Well, if it is, you should be like "Hey Wifey, is it ok if I go visit a group of female friends from high school. I promise nothing will happen blah blah you can trust me." Stuff like that. She SHOULD respect you and let you go.
Best of Luck ♥
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