I am trying to get on birth control but my appointment isn't for a few weeks. I had sex last night with my boyfriend with a condom, which did not break. Also, when he came, he came in the condom which was not in me at that moment. I have Emergency Contraceptive at my house just incase...Should I take it to be safe? I took it about three weeks ago, I just am not sure how safe it is to take it that many times. What should I do?
I don't think you have much to worry about. If he came in the condom I doubt you're pregnant, especially if it wasn't in you when he came. I understand being nervous, but I'm pretty sure you're not. I wouldn't advise taking the emergency contraceptive this time. I really don't know what it can do to you if you take it too much, but I wouldn't take it unless you really need it.
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hey i need advice as soon as possible. i'm having a little get together tonight and me and my boyfriend got into a fight last weekend so i haven't talked to him all week and itold him to call if he wanted to talk about it..he never did. so i'm having this little party tonight andone of my friends accidentally clued him in on it. i haven't told him about it yet but idk if i should. i love him and we've bee together for 9 months and i plan onmaking it last longer but idk what to do. should i invite him? and how? what should i say to him? thanks so much
If you want things to last between you two, you should probably invite him. Try to get some alone time to talk about your problems, though. Don't start a fight again, though, & even if you were right, just don't bring it up. Tell him you love him & you just want to put it behind you all so you can have fun. If you don't invite him, he'll probably be pretty upset.
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So this is propably the number one question asked on this site...anyways here it goes. I had sex for the first andonly time ever on March 7th, we used a condom much to my partners dislike, It did break but before it went inside me. It was a spermicende Trojan one. Anyway, the next day I had my period, and it lasted he normal 5 days as usual. I have a very irregular period, and sometimes it can be up to 3 months before I get my next one.It's april 25th and I still havent had it and I have shown no sighns of being pregnant. No morning sickness or dizzyness, or sore boobs, nothing. I am so scared that I am pregnant anyway, could I be?
If the condom didn't break inside you, I really doubt you're pregnant. I mean, as long as he didn't put it in after it was broken, which I doubt he did. I wouldn't worry. Stressing out & worrying over it could also cause your period to be irregular.
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i have a 1997 mustang. i'm looking to get two subs to go in my trunk, probably either 8s or 10s, because 12s wont fit [we've tried]. i dont know what kind to get though. i dont wanna go to like best buy and ask because they'll try to get me to buy the most expensive ones, and i'm a girl so they'll automatically assume i'm not car-savvy, which i'm not really ha. so what's a good system? i want it to sound good, but i dont need anything over the top, and i'll probably be buying second-hand from ebay to save some money. any tips here?
I got my boyfriend to help me with this one. He said the best ones he know of are JL Audio, W3 or W7 series, 10 inch for better bass, enclosed box with no portholes. He said Jensens are pretty good, but they stopped making them so you'll have to look on Ebay. He says Lightning Audio's pretty good, too. Good sound & affordable, & you can usually find them at Wal-Mart. He said don't buy the Sony brand because they can burn easily.
I don't know anything about this. My boyfriend had to tell me all of this, so good luck. And if you need any more help on this, you can message me.
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i like this guy and we have had eye contact on and off.. i use to see him regularly then stopped then again then stopped... i could however just be there randomly to conduct my "devious" plan :p
mind you we've talked once before and it was very formal and work related nothing personal or casual and then we haven't talked for a while. long story short he works for my college library and i asked him once for a paper clip and there was a little flirting going on... needles to say that was the last time we interacted.. i was thinking when the semester ends i'll pass by and give him a box of paperclips and say thank you to kind of initiate something but my mind is telling me not to.
i am kind of shy and i think he is too.. i don't want to be awkward or cause awkwardness especially when the guy he works with is a loud jerk who might make a scene or something... and i can't get him on his own! what should i do? abort this stupid idea right?
The paper clip thing sounds like a great idea! It's so cute & subtle, & it'll probably be a great icebreaker, & a way to make things a little more casual & comfortable between you to. If you want to ask him out, go for it! It may be hard, but the worst he could do is say no, & that's not the end of the world. It's a lot better to know than to sit around wondering 'what if?'. I usually don't suggest things like this, but maybe write him a little note saying you'd like to talk to him (alone), & then ask him out on a date or something.
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13/female
Okey dokey...I've know this guy for like 2 years now and we pretty much everything bout each other! He's a few years older then me and I really like him! Right now we are just extrem good friends! He has a girl friend but yet we talk on the phone for like 3 hours every other night or so and we talk about how we wanna have sex with each other and everything! So what should I do?? Lol
This guy sounds like trouble. He's talking about how he wants to have sex with you when he already has a girlfriend. If you dated him, chances are he'd talk to another girl about how he wants to have sex with her. It's really wrong of him to talk to another girl like that when he's in a relationship. But since you're pretty young, most people your age don't worry to much about committing to someone. Honestly, I'd advise you not to have sex yet. In my opinion, you're a little too young for that, not to mention you'll probably regret it later if you have sex with someone who you're not in a serious, committed relationship with. Whatever you do, don't try to interfere with his relationship with his girlfriend. If you really want to be with him, tell him you're not comfortable talking to him about things like that when he has a girlfriend, & if you two end up dating, be careful.
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like with a guy.
i don't know why.
but i'm just afraid too.
oh, and i know this is a little awkward.
but how do you keep your vagina from having that embarrasing smell by the end of the day?
It's normal to be nervous to do something with a guy. Chances are it means you're not ready for anything like that. Even if you are ready, you might still be nervous, but just wait until you're 100% sure you're ready for that kind of thing before you do anything like that.
As for the smell, it's probably normal. It's really frustrating, I know, but don't be tempted to buy douches or sprays for it. Sprays & things like that can cause infections down there, & your body naturally cleans itself down there, so there's really no need to douche. If anything, try washing it with UNSCENTED soap daily. If the smell is still too unbearable, go to a doctor so they can check to make sure you don't have an infection or anything like that.
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ok i need serious help. I'm in love with my boyfriend, but the way he's acting is ridiculous.
the other night someone told him that i had started smoking again, he fliped and took my ciggarettes and then yelled at me for not coming to him first. He is so convinced that i'm going to cheat on him with one of my brothers friends that he had a panic attack that put him in the hospital. He wont let me go around my bro. and he is constantly reminding me of how i started smoking behind his back. He told someone behind my back that i dress like a slut around other people(a turtle neck is slutty to him). He went through my fone and called eveyone who txted me!
Thats just the bad though.
i absolutley adore him. i'm in love with him. He's always calling just to say i love you and he always makes sure im comfortable.
but apparently the way he's treating me has caused my best friend to stop talking to me until i leave him because my BFF is tired of me being treated like this.
What should i do!?
PLLLEEEAAASSSEEE HEELLLLP ASAP
Thank you
Love always ~heather
You probably don't want to hear this, but you may need to leave him. He obviously has serious trust issues, & trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Not to mention he's calling you a slut behind your back when he's supposed to love you. And no guy should come between you & your family. You should be able to talk to your brother.
This sounds like the start of what could potentially be an abusive relationship. If you really don't want to leave him for good, maybe tell him that he needs to get help & that you two can get back together when he straightens himself up. But honestly, if he won't, get out now while you still can. If you stay with him, chances are it'll be a lot harder for you to leave him, & he could start abusing you (I know this from experience).
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i normally get B's and C's on my report card, with an A every now and again. well, my school just let out today (early, i know) and a week ago, my dad made a big deal about how he wanted me to finish out the schoolyear with all A's. i knew i couldnt promise all A's, so i just told him id try my best. and i did! i really did...but i dont think he'll believe me if i say that.
see, the thing is, i have a really bad memory problem? like, i can remember some stuff, but not everything. and that reall screws with me in school. geomatry is where my problem is. i understand everything, and the teacher teaches very well. but as soon as i get home, i forget almost everything. and then i get F's on my tests and graded homework. but this week i really buckled down and tried my best on my last test and homework, and i got a 100% on my homework, and an 80 on my test (yes i know its a C-, its the best test grade ive had in a while) but that still didnt stop the inevitable D- waiting on my report card for geomatry.
now my problem is i have NO IDEA how im gonna break it to my dad! he always says how smart i am, but how can i be that smart if i forget everything in just 30 minutes?! "smart" people dont fail geomatry. i dont know what im gonna do.
can someone please help me? tell me how to break it to my dad in a subtle manner without disappointing him? the last thing in the world i wanna do is disappoint him.
thanks for any advice
You're smart. Failing geometry doesn't make you not smart. Different people are just better at different subjects. Your dad needs to understand how hard it is to get good grades all the time. Tell him that you really did try hard, but geometry is just really hard for you. Maybe even promise him that next year (if you'll still be in school), that you'll try to work even harder at improving your math/geometry skills.
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16/f
im not sure if theres something wrong with me. i cant really figure it out but maybe you can help. i could use some help right now haha
well, my parents act like they hate me sometimes. and i guess they have a reason to. i hate talking to them. like i have a ton of friends and at school im known as the class clown. i have a great boyfriend who i love and i am very social. i love being around people but i just HATE talking to my parents and even being around them. like when they leave the house i am soooooo happy. i just feel like they are ALWAYS talking. they act like annoyong 4 year olds half the time and i tell them that i want my space and they say im rude.
they always say stuff like DID YOU ASK HOW MY DAY WAS? YOU ARE SO SELF CENTERED AND SELFISH. but really im not. i care about my friends so much more than myself and im the one always trying to help everyone. just not my parents. i mean theyre my parents and i love them i guess but really i couldnt care less sometimes. like i really honestly dont care. and i know this might sound bad but its the truth. i pretty much force myself to talk to them sometimes. its really getting to me too because they get so mad at me but i just cant help it. it takes so much to even talk to them because i just hate it. i short answer them and try to stay out of my house as much as possible. i just find them really annoying and i cant take much more of their nagging.
does anyone know whats wrong with me?
I'm sure they don't hate you. If they did, they probably wouldn't even waste their time trying to talk to you. They love you, & imagine how you'd feel if someone you loved (like your boyfriend or something) never wanted to talk to you. It probably hurts them a lot. I know most people usually don't like to do this, but maybe you could get some family counseling for all of you. It's not as bad as it sounds, I promise, & they can probably help get to the root of why exactly you don't like to be around your parents.
If that doesn't work, maybe try just doing some fun things together. Go bowling or play baseball or something, that way they won't ramble on as much & you'll have some quality time with them.
Also, this could just be a phase. You're a teenager, teens get pretty angsty & aggravated easily. It could go away on it's own in a few years.
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I always hear that you make a ton of money working at Hooters. Is that true? And what is it based on? Is Hooters generally busy and that's why girls make good money? Do guys typically tip higher at Hooters? I'm wondering, because right now I'm a waitress at a Coney Island restaurant (cheap restaurants in MI) and I hardly make any money when I work, because business is really slow, and it's a cheap place, so the tips you get aren't great. Ok, now obviously the economy is bad everywhere, but would I have a better chance at Hooters, none the less?
Or, if you don't know why, but have ANY experience at Hooters at all, let me know what it was like.
Thanks.
Honestly, Hooters is pretty much about boobs. The waitresses have big boobs & wear really tight shirts, so they probably get tipped pretty well since, well, most guys like big boobs. That's also probably why the girls working there make good money.
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Okay so i had my period this past week, and I'm basically done with it, started the 19th. But like i noticed brown? and when i wipe its like brown? so i dont know what the problem is. is this common?
This is very common. I've gone through the same thing many times. It's nothing to worry about unless your period lasts more than like a week (which happened to me), but just having brown blood is nothing to worry about.
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Hi,
What a great response! Thanks so much. I loved the detail you were able to provide. You seem like a very articulate writer.
Here is some more information for you. The boy has a very small face. His nose and mouth are only 1cm apart which is less than the width of a single finger.
So if you covered the boys mouth from behind, how close to his nostrils might your hand come based upon the short distance between his nose/mouth AND based upon the size of your hand?
What exact part of your hand would be nearest his nose?
Do you think the boy would be forced to smell your hand as you keep him quiet with your hand? Explain why he has no choice.
Also, do you think the boy would be able to scream for help against your hand to your neighbors? What kind of noise could he make? And what would you say to him if he tried to yell for help to the neighbors?
I look forward to your response. The more detailed you are, the better I can understand this. Thanks again:) I promise to respond promptly once I receive your message.
adam
I guess it depends on where exactly she's putting her hand. If she's using her palm to cover his mouth, then she's probably covering his nose with her fingers. But if she's using her fingers more to cover his mouth, her index finger will probably still be touching his nose a little, so he probably would be smelling her hand regardless, since it is so close to his nose. He would be able to scream, but it would be more like a muffled scream. Still, I think he might be able to be pretty loud, so it seems a little unlikely to me, but I've heard of true experiences of people getting kidnapped this way & no one could hear them, so I guess it all depends on how the boy reacts.
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I like my guy friend and a bit over 2 weeks ago I told him that I did in sortof a risky way, he was freaked out about it but we briefly discussed that before vacation started, and thankfully we're still friends even though it's still a bit awkward. We didn't talk over the vacation though, and I feel like either he's trying to forget about it and assuming I'll take it as a "i just want to be friends" or he's still not sure how to respond to it or how he feels. I want to believe the second thing because it is somewhat likely but still I can't get my hopes up to high. But either way he never really responded to it, like he never said whether or not he feels the same way, and it's understandable since it's not everyday this guy in particular has a girl tell them they like him and he's not one to talk about his feelings or what he's thinking that simply. But I kindof want to know what he's thinking and maybe see if I still have a chance with him, and I don't want to do it myself because I really don't want to be pushy. We both have a friend (who's a girl) who he's pretty close to and before I told him I liked him I told her about it and asked her what she thought. But anyway since we just got back from vacation I was curious if he told her about what I did. I asked her today and she was surprised, which I figured since I didn't think he told anyone. I kindof want to ask her to bring it up with him and see what he says. I definitely know she's the right person to do it over other people and I know she'd respect what i would/and wouldn't want her to say but i don't if i should have her say anything at all. I mean if he didn't tell anyone about me telling wouldn't he have a good reason? And I'm lucky that he's been nice to me and that we're still friends, what if he gets annoyed that I told her about it in the first place, or that she's saying anything about it? And I'm absolutely sure that whatever she'd say would be logical and wouldn't make a mess of everything (i can't explain why here, you'd just have to know her) but I don't know if I should do it or not. I just want a response you know? Telling him was really hard and I hate the idea of it just going to waste. What should I do?
I'd give it some time. If he seemed a little freaked out, it's probably going to make it worse if you keep bringing up the subject or have someone else bring it up. And since he didn't tell your friend about it, he'll know you're the one that told her, & he might guess that you told her to talk to him about it. Just give him some time to think about it & don't push it on him.
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My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time, and it was amazing! The only not so good part of it is I got pregnant. I used three different kinds of tests and they all said I was pregnant. I am not sure what to do. I am so afraid to tell my mom because I am only 14 and she wants the best for me. Please! I really don't know what to do and I'm scared. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
You need to tell your mom. She'll find out eventually, & you're going to need her to go to the doctor since you're underage. Getting pregnant can be scary, but that's the risk you take when you have unprotected sex (which I'm assuming you did). If you haven't told your boyfriend already, you need to do that to. You both need to take responsibility & do the best you can to be good parents.
After you tell your mom, you two need to set up a doctor's appointment so that they can verify that you're pregnant, & set up appointments for you throughout your pregnancy. Just stay calm, it's not the end of the world. And if you absolutely don't think you can raise your child, there's always adoption.
If you plan to keep it, though, you should also maybe look into parenting classes, too.
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15/f
Alright well my boyfriend of two months has lied to me twice before. I got over it and we started over and he told me he would never lie to me again. Well i always have people come up to me and tell me things about him and if they have heard anything nad about him or something bad he did. Today, someone came up to me and told me he went to a party not to long ago and got drunk. The thing is, he never told me he went to a party. When i confronted him about it, he said he only stayed for 15 min. and somebody put whiskey into his mountain dew and he didnt know about it. He got drunk by "accident." So i was really hurt that he didnt even tell me this and he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want to lose my trust. Well according to that stroy, he already has. I still like him a whole lot and i dont want to break up with him but he cant be keepong stuff like that from me. He needs to tell me these things and it hurts when he dosent. He knows this and i have told him. Now, i have no idea what to do. Please help asap. thanks!
If I were you, I'd leave him. One chance is enough in my eyes. It's obvious you can't trust him (which I don't blame you for), & trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship. But if you're not ready to break up with him, you need to put your foot down. Tell him enough is enough. If he does something wrong, he needs to tell you because you're tired of having to hear it from someone else. Tell him it only makes it worse when someone else tells you instead of him, & if it happens again you'll leave him. And follow through with it! If he does it again & you stay with it, chances are he'll keep this behavior up because he knows you'll always forgive him.
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I go to high school, and I've known this guy that i like for about a year. (sorry for another 'about a guy question'). He had been going out with his girlfriend for about a year and a half, but during the last half a year they barely even spoke to each other. Anyway, he and i are really close- people always assume we're going out (even his girlfriend got mad at us for spending so much time together). But, he's also a really big flirt, so sometimes i cant really tell if hes into me- some days he'll talk to me constantly, and others he'll just talk to me once shortly, even though im there (for the whole day).
I cant tell what's going on and if im honest, im not really prepared to just go up to him and ask him if he likes me (or tell him that i like him)
any advice?
To be honest, you shouldn't do anything while he has a girlfriend. It's not fair to her, & I doubt you'd like it if someone did something like that to you. I'm not trying to be rude when I say that, though. There's only one way I know that you can go about it, which is just ask him. If you can't do it face to face, maybe you could do it by email, message, text, or IM. There's really no other way to do it, because if you have someone else ask for you he might view that as a little immature & think you're not very confident.
If you do talk to him (hopefully after he breaks up with his girlfriend), just ask him how he feels about you. It may be hard, but the worst that could happen is he doesn't feel the same, & it's not the end of the world. Tell him the way he acts towards you confuses you.
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this guy and i have been texting for the past few days but we always say whats up and we say what we're doing and there's nothing to talk about...
how do i get an actual conversation going??
i'm trying to get this guy to like me by the way so what should i say and talk about??
Try asking him about his interests. What kind of music he likes, movies, food, etc... See what interests you have in common. That'll help out a lot when you're talking to him.
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Okay. I'm 25yrs old. Married. I came across this site while googling "How do I know if I was sexually abused". I've wondered for years. The details are fuzzy. I don't know what I really remember, or what I've made up to cope with it, or cope with myself. I've only told one person in my life EVER. My mom always told me she thought I showed signs of being sexually abused. I always assured her I wasn't. Too ashamed I guess. After reading tonight I've kind of decided that the answer is most likely yes, but I don't know what to do now? Do I really want to know ALL the details? I do want to deal with this... Everything just says "Talk to a professional". For one, that cost money I don't have. I just don't think I could ever talk to someone face to face. My biggest fear is being judged or analyzed even. The thought just makes me cringe. Or if its a guy, what if he hits on me or something? I know that's probably stupid to think, but how can I trust someone I don't even know? What if I see them somewhere? I know they are taught to be professional, but they are only human. I work in the medical field I know just how "professional" some people can be. Is there like phone counseling or something more anonymous? Recommend any books? I don't know...
As a victim of sexual abuse myself, I understand how hard this must be for you, & I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Some people choose not to try to remember it, but usually it sort of happens, sometimes in the form of flashbacks. But whether or not you can remember it all, you can still take steps to heal & recover from this. This is a site that has helped me TREMENDOUSLY. http://www.pandys.org. It has a forum & a chat room for survivors & secondary survivors. It has a lot of helpful topics, such as healing steps, dealing with flashbacks, & tons of other stuff. The people there are completely non-judgmental, & most have been through a similar situation. You have the chance to post what happened to you, but you are absolutely not forced to do so. It's all about what you feel comfortable with. I can't recommend this site enough. Please visit it, I've never been to see a professional, & this site has helped me heal so much.
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i heard that hillary chipped her tooth
so she fixed her teeth but it was too big
than she shrunk it i think
so what did she do?
i heard it wasnt surgery but it was something else
did she have surgery?
if she didnt what was it called that she did?
I haven't heard anything about her chipping her teeth, but I always heard that she has porcelain veneers.
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