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why am i like this?
16/f
im not sure if theres something wrong with me. i cant really figure it out but maybe you can help. i could use some help right now haha
well, my parents act like they hate me sometimes. and i guess they have a reason to. i hate talking to them. like i have a ton of friends and at school im known as the class clown. i have a great boyfriend who i love and i am very social. i love being around people but i just HATE talking to my parents and even being around them. like when they leave the house i am soooooo happy. i just feel like they are ALWAYS talking. they act like annoyong 4 year olds half the time and i tell them that i want my space and they say im rude.
they always say stuff like DID YOU ASK HOW MY DAY WAS? YOU ARE SO SELF CENTERED AND SELFISH. but really im not. i care about my friends so much more than myself and im the one always trying to help everyone. just not my parents. i mean theyre my parents and i love them i guess but really i couldnt care less sometimes. like i really honestly dont care. and i know this might sound bad but its the truth. i pretty much force myself to talk to them sometimes. its really getting to me too because they get so mad at me but i just cant help it. it takes so much to even talk to them because i just hate it. i short answer them and try to stay out of my house as much as possible. i just find them really annoying and i cant take much more of their nagging.
does anyone know whats wrong with me?
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First, as stated below, its normal. Teens are biologically programmed to want to get away from home, and from the parents. Its the biological impulse behind your social butterfliery.
Your parents want signs of affection. They want to know that theyre in your thoughts. Remember, they aren't mind readers any more than you are, and it hurts when your kids suddenly see you as the anathema of fun.
Its especially hard on parents who are really close with their kids. Throw them a bone eery once in a while, it won't hurt you to give them a little validation and to let them know you care. Ask how their day was, talk to them.
Honestly, having no desire to know about your parents lives is a little selfish. They aren't upset for no reason. Just because whats going on is motivated by something normal doesn't mean that indulging it is.
Everyone has biological motivations to act like a dick. I work in customer service. I want to curse out, throttle, or castrate half the people I meet on a daily basis. I don't, because I have to make rent. And the whole "prison" thing.
You're old enough for some empathy. Put yourself in their shoes for a minute. How would you feel if your parents just didn't give a shit, didn't really want anything to do with you, and treated you like a burden constantly?
It sucks. Caring parents are something to be treasured, and if you act like a selfish ass now, you WILL regret it later in the time and pain that you go through fixing the mess you caused as a selfish brat of an irresponsible teen.
In simplest terms, whats wrong with you is you're cutting off your emotions in regards to them because you don't want to feel guilty. You do what you want, you don't care about the results, and no one but you is happy with the situation.
Take others into account a bit more. Friends is all well and good, but the measure of a person is how they treat their inferiors, not their equals. In realistic terms, thats what your parents are (to you) and thats how you're treating them. Like people who don't matter quite as much as you and your friends do.
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There isn't anything wrong with you. You're a hormonal teenager that likes being with her friends. You don't want your parents in your business and you don't like when they're always talking or asking questions. But your parents aren't going to be there forever. In two years you'll be an adult and be able to go wherever. You're going to find out that you are more dependent on your parents than you think. Try being appreciative and suck it up and talk to them every once in a while. Even if it makes you cringe. Trust me, you want to stay on good terms with your parents.
Hope this helps(:
-Darby
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lol. there's nothing wronge with you. your a teenager. were all like that. we want are space. and yeah most of us can careless about are parents because they are anoyying and tlak all the freaken time. this is how i deal with there talking. i take my ipod blast it really loadly until i can't hear them. and just be in my room listing to the music really loadly trying to block everything else out.
good luck.
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I'm sure they don't hate you. If they did, they probably wouldn't even waste their time trying to talk to you. They love you, & imagine how you'd feel if someone you loved (like your boyfriend or something) never wanted to talk to you. It probably hurts them a lot. I know most people usually don't like to do this, but maybe you could get some family counseling for all of you. It's not as bad as it sounds, I promise, & they can probably help get to the root of why exactly you don't like to be around your parents.
If that doesn't work, maybe try just doing some fun things together. Go bowling or play baseball or something, that way they won't ramble on as much & you'll have some quality time with them.
Also, this could just be a phase. You're a teenager, teens get pretty angsty & aggravated easily. It could go away on it's own in a few years.
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