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should i ask her to talk to him?
I like my guy friend and a bit over 2 weeks ago I told him that I did in sortof a risky way, he was freaked out about it but we briefly discussed that before vacation started, and thankfully we're still friends even though it's still a bit awkward. We didn't talk over the vacation though, and I feel like either he's trying to forget about it and assuming I'll take it as a "i just want to be friends" or he's still not sure how to respond to it or how he feels. I want to believe the second thing because it is somewhat likely but still I can't get my hopes up to high. But either way he never really responded to it, like he never said whether or not he feels the same way, and it's understandable since it's not everyday this guy in particular has a girl tell them they like him and he's not one to talk about his feelings or what he's thinking that simply. But I kindof want to know what he's thinking and maybe see if I still have a chance with him, and I don't want to do it myself because I really don't want to be pushy. We both have a friend (who's a girl) who he's pretty close to and before I told him I liked him I told her about it and asked her what she thought. But anyway since we just got back from vacation I was curious if he told her about what I did. I asked her today and she was surprised, which I figured since I didn't think he told anyone. I kindof want to ask her to bring it up with him and see what he says. I definitely know she's the right person to do it over other people and I know she'd respect what i would/and wouldn't want her to say but i don't if i should have her say anything at all. I mean if he didn't tell anyone about me telling wouldn't he have a good reason? And I'm lucky that he's been nice to me and that we're still friends, what if he gets annoyed that I told her about it in the first place, or that she's saying anything about it? And I'm absolutely sure that whatever she'd say would be logical and wouldn't make a mess of everything (i can't explain why here, you'd just have to know her) but I don't know if I should do it or not. I just want a response you know? Telling him was really hard and I hate the idea of it just going to waste. What should I do?
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Ok well if he is a shy guy (it sounds like he is) then it probably shocked him. He might think that you were joking around and trying to mess with his feelings or he may even feel like it never really happened. Dont bring it up with him just go talk to him or text him like you normally would. and just have a normal conversation. If he brings it up first then that is ok, but dont be the one to bring it up, he may get weirded out. But you dont want something like you telling him how you feel, to affect your friendship or whatever you guys had before.
Also i wouldnt have your friend say anything either, especially if he knows that she is friends with you, he will probably think that she will just go and tell you (which she will) and so he wont really talk about it, or he wont say what he really feels.
Good luck & hope i helped =]
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I'd give it some time. If he seemed a little freaked out, it's probably going to make it worse if you keep bringing up the subject or have someone else bring it up. And since he didn't tell your friend about it, he'll know you're the one that told her, & he might guess that you told her to talk to him about it. Just give him some time to think about it & don't push it on him.
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