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Dealing with sexual abuse (Sorry kind of long)
Okay. I'm 25yrs old. Married. I came across this site while googling "How do I know if I was sexually abused". I've wondered for years. The details are fuzzy. I don't know what I really remember, or what I've made up to cope with it, or cope with myself. I've only told one person in my life EVER. My mom always told me she thought I showed signs of being sexually abused. I always assured her I wasn't. Too ashamed I guess. After reading tonight I've kind of decided that the answer is most likely yes, but I don't know what to do now? Do I really want to know ALL the details? I do want to deal with this... Everything just says "Talk to a professional". For one, that cost money I don't have. I just don't think I could ever talk to someone face to face. My biggest fear is being judged or analyzed even. The thought just makes me cringe. Or if its a guy, what if he hits on me or something? I know that's probably stupid to think, but how can I trust someone I don't even know? What if I see them somewhere? I know they are taught to be professional, but they are only human. I work in the medical field I know just how "professional" some people can be. Is there like phone counseling or something more anonymous? Recommend any books? I don't know...
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if a man hits you yelsl at controls you that is abuse counsling might be but you need some one to tslk to dont keep in side you are some one dont stay with him just because you dont want to be alone ive been in abusive men it scares you and its hard to get out thier out reach clincs that are free in every area alot of mental heath places hace counslers that are free for abuse ypu can enven go to the hospital to get help also.but i have a good counsler i use to see her ever week but i moved i call when i need help with somthing if you go to human resourese center they can help pay for one they have some one thier cantalk to you soical worker get paid by the state so you dont have to pay counsler will not judge you they canonly help you if you want to be helped they will give you option leave deal with it or move on they would not to be mean ive been in counsling my hole life and i love to share my feeling with my counsler because she cant tell any one else what going one on less you want her to. never think you dume ok your not dont let any one walk alover you thier are women rights if he hurts you again go to a friends house pack your bags dont tell when you leave get a rustaining order on him if you dontget him help for his abuse or he dsnt admit it its time to get out or it will get worse yiu need to get it out of your head and move on ok this is good for you be the women you want to be. you want to be happy not sad all the time you can do better i did it you gooda tell your self or your goingto be stuck some times you gotta take people adive some one gives to you take it dont give up ok hope this helps.
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When someone has been abused at a young age it is common for them to
Block it out and when you get older starting to have dreams and flash backs
Of bits and peaces of that experience, is the mind way of try to work it out.
This is something that know one should ever have to go through alone there are multiple
Sites that you can goggle that can help you [Link](Mouse over link to see full location),
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location) here is
Two very good sites that can help you through your experience, please feel
To send me a message if I can help you further
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As a victim of sexual abuse myself, I understand how hard this must be for you, & I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Some people choose not to try to remember it, but usually it sort of happens, sometimes in the form of flashbacks. But whether or not you can remember it all, you can still take steps to heal & recover from this. This is a site that has helped me TREMENDOUSLY. [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). It has a forum & a chat room for survivors & secondary survivors. It has a lot of helpful topics, such as healing steps, dealing with flashbacks, & tons of other stuff. The people there are completely non-judgmental, & most have been through a similar situation. You have the chance to post what happened to you, but you are absolutely not forced to do so. It's all about what you feel comfortable with. I can't recommend this site enough. Please visit it, I've never been to see a professional, & this site has helped me heal so much.
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