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My name is Kate! I'm 19 years old and I'm a freshman at Penn State Univeristy! I play tennis and love to listen to music. I love to write and I'm planning on majoring in Advertising/Public Relations.

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E-mail: kys5102@psu.edu
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Location: Brodheadsville, PA
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I just started playing tennis about 2 months ago and i decided to try out for my high school team. But now im not so sure if i should try out or not because all the other girls have been playing there whole lives. Also does anyone play tennis and have any tips for serving?

Give it a shot. We only have a varsity team at my school, so our coach usually keeps everyone. I'm not on varsity but the other girls and I go to all the matches and practices and get to play matches against the other girls on the other teams. The games don't count for the school team score, but it is a lot of fun. You could really learn alot from the other girls on the team, and then have a good chance of making the team next year. As for serving my best advice would be to take your time. Also practice throwing the ball Straight up and high, that way you have enough time to hit it on the way down. Don't worry about serving at 78 MPH just worry about getting it in the service box.

Kate

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Is there really a difficult rope awaiting inside every high school gym? i am horrified of "the rope" I COULD NEVER CLIMB THAT THING!!!

I can't climb it either, so don't feel too bad. Infact my high school doesn't even have one. We had one at our middle school but even then you weren't forced to climb it.

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Does anyone know any bible verses about faith and doubt?? or just really good bible verses, i'd rather they were about faith and doubt tho. HURRY!

I found this online somewhere awhile ago. It's called God's Answers. I hope it helps you out


"It's impossible" = All things are possible (Luke, 18;27)

"I'm too tired" = I will give you rest (Matt, 11:28-30)

"Nobody really loves me" = I love you (John, 3:16)

"I can't go on" = My grace is sufficient (II Cor, 12:19)

"I can't figure things out" = I will direct your steps (Prov, 20:24)

"I can't do it" = You can do all things (Phil, 4:13)

"I'm not able" = I am able (II Cor, 9:8)

"It's not worth it" = It will be worth it (Rom, 8:1)

"I can't forgive myself" = I forgive you (IJn, 1:9 & Rom, 8:1)

"I can't manage"= I will supply all your needs (Phil, 4:19)

"I'm afraid" = I have not given you a spirit of fear (IITim, 1:7)

"I'm always worried and frustrated" = Cast all your cares on Me (IPet, 5:7)

"I don't have enough faith" = I've given everyone a measure of faith (Rom, 12:8)

"I'm not smart enough "= I give you wisdom (ICor, 1:30)

"I feel all alone" = I will never leave you or forsake you (Heb, 13:5)

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ok so last night i have this guy come over to my house and we were makin out and shit and he then started to finger me. It got harder and harder. He fingered me so hard tht i was hurting after wards and i didnt tell him to stop goin so hard because i didnt want to look stupid. it even hurt when i had to go to the bathroom. well i thought it was just the one night thing. but now im hurtin again and still when i go to the bathroom.. if anyone has any advice on what this good be or if its normal. everything is appreciated.

It's normal for it to hurt for the first couple of times if you are a virgin. Next time just tell the guy that it hurts and to not go so hard.

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What books changed your outlook on life?

To Kill A Mockingbird
High School's Not Forever
Cut
Ordinary People
The Bell Jar

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Me and my boyfriend are getting closer ..I think i love him because everytime i am around him i am very very nervous about what i will sya how i look and how i act and i get butterflies in my stomache and when i tell him i love him he says it bak and it feels right with everyother guy that tiold me tha ti felt really weird but i never said it bak to them if i did i said it fast so do i love him????I am 13 and a girl..

I usually send this to people who aren't sure about their feelings:

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's lonliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidents.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults becuase you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded uncomprehensible mix of pain and realtion pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your dealth?
Then it's love.


Now if love is painful and tortures us than why do we love? Why is it that all we search for in life is love and agony? Why is it all we long for? w . h . y ? The answer is simple: because its love.

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How does one become the perfect girlfriend? Internally and externally, how does a girl make her guy feel completely fulfilled?
Thanks

No one is perfect, you just need to be yourself. Infact lots of guys love when girls are themselves. And when you are with someone who really loves you they see your flaws and accept you for who you are. The "Perfect" Boyfriend will love you unconditionally, so then it works vice versa. If you are yourself and accept your guy for the way he is unconditionally then in my eyes you are being the perfect girlfriend.

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I have a decent-sized range from the D below Middle C to the D three octaves higher. But how can I tell if I'm an alto or soprano? My registers sound like two different people. My chest voice is hard, rough and very powerful. A bit like Patti LuPone, if you know who that is. And my head voice is clear and bright, like a soprano. I can technically sing both alto and soprano. What am I?!

You can sing either. I know it sounds a bit silly but I am the exact same way. My voice teacher and my choir director put me as soprano 1. I would ask a music teacher or a choir director at church to help you decide, but really if you can sing either part you should sing with the part you are most comfortable singing.

Kate

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f/13
okay well people at my school are saying that my friend stuffs her bra. she does not she is not that kind of person to do that. We are 13and she is a size B but she is not big but it looks like she has big boobs because she is really thin. What do i do i want to tell her that people are saying that but i dont want her feelings to be hurt

Well you could just say something like "I've heard the craziest rumor..." and then tell her. Then if she gets upset just explain that they are jealous and they just wish they could be more like her.

Kate

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anyone know any good bands or songs that sing songs about love?

Hands Down - Dasboard Confessional
You and Me - Lifehouse
Hanging by a momment - Lifehouse
Speechless - The Veronicas
So Contagious - Acceptance
Okay I believe you but my tommy gun don't -Brand New
Satelites - Cherry Monroe
Lying is the most fun a girl can have without taking her clothes off - Panic! at the disco
If all Else Fails - Matchbook Romance
Niki FM - Hawthorne Heights
Ohio is for lovers - Hawthorne Heights
Collide - Howie Day


Some bands

The Academy Is
Brand New
Dashboard Confessional
Taking Back Sunday

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My fam. doesn't have a lot of money. Sometimes I get teased for what I wear and other times what I wear is really uncomfortable. How can I get cool clothes with not a lot of money?

Well you really don't need to spend a lot of money in order to have cool clothes. I don't shop at expensive stores like American Eagle or Hollister either. I shop at Walmart or Kmart or Target and most of the time I just buy stuff off of the clearance racks. The stuff on those racks are cheaper and still look good. You dont have to buy everything at once either just when you are at a store just look at some of the stuff on the sales racks...you might be surprised

I hope I helped =]
Kate

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How do you pronounce relient k? Sorry if this is a stupid question but i keep thinking it's either re-yent-kay or re-lie-ent-kay. Thanks!!

It's pronounced like re-lie-ent-kay =]

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ok so i need help. see, i used to like this guy for 3 years but i recently thought i was over him. then today i heard that he liked this one girl whos a complete slut and it hurt me for some reason. does this mean i still like him? or will it just always feel this way because i liked him for so long? please answer me! thank you!

It could mean that you still like him, but if you are also friends with him it could be that you just want the best for him and seeing him with this other girl made you upset not really because you still like him but just becuase you care about him and don't want to see him get hurt.


Kate =]

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Do u play any instruments?

Yes I've played the flute since fourth grade and I've also taken piano lessons =]

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Well if anyone would be so kind to explain the game of doubles tennis to me, it would be greatly appreciated. Actually, I know how to play, I'm really confused on when your partner serves. Let's say i just served a game, when does my partner serve? And when do we switch sides? Pleaseee HELP!

thank you!
-Janine

If you are serving game one then you serve the entire game so you start at the service line on the right side of the court and your partner stands on the left side close to the net. You get two serves. Then you serve from the service line on the left side of the court and your partner stands on the right side of the court near the net. And so on until that game is over.

In game two the other team serves the entire game.

In game three your partner serves for the entire game.

After every three games you and the other team switch sides of the court. So after game 3 you switch and after game 6 you switch

I hope that helped

Kate

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Does anyone know of any good bands/song I can put on my iPOD? I'm getting tired of all the bands I have. I'm mostly into indie/rock/acoustic/some ska/oldies.

I like Death Cab, The Postal Service, The Audition, The Higher, Panic!, Further Seems Forever, Dashboard Confessional, Hidden in Plain View, Taking Back Sunday etc. Preferably bands that you know and that aren't on the radio.

Matchbook Romance
The Academy Is
Houston Calls
A Thorn For Every Heart
Acceptance
Boys Night Out
Cherry Monroe
Brand New
Haste The Day
Finch
Big Wig
Long Shot Hero
Reel Big Fish
Lost Prophets
Allister
504 Plan
Punchline
The Starting line
Motion City Soundtrack
Senses Fail
Thrice
Thursday
With Broken Wings
Hot Hot Heat

I hope that gave you some Ideas =]

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what is the meaning of STRAIGHT EDGE?

People who are straight edge don't drink, don't do drugs, don't smoke, and don't have sex outside of a committed relationship (some abstain entirely). Also some do not consume any caffeine, as it is considered a drug

Kate

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Hey everybody! I love exercising but my Cd's are all get old. I'm going to make a CD that willbe motivating and up beat to listen to. What are some really great work out songs? I'm hopeingtoputat least12songsonto the CD. But I'm not really into R&B and Rap so those are the only two types of music that I wouldn't want on there. Thank you to anyone who replys!

Ashlee Simpson - La La
Gwen Stefani - Hollaback Girl
Destiny's Child - Lose My Breath
Mariah Carey - Shake It Off Remix
Fall Out Boy - XO
Green Day - St Jimmy
Panic! At The Disco - London Beckoned Songs About Money By Machines
Morningwood - Nth Degree
Taking Back Sunday - Liar (It Takes One To Know One)
The Veronicas - 4ever
Ally and AJ - Rush
Natasha Bengindfield - Unwritten

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okay...i'm 13, and just lost my virginaty yesterday. actually, i'm not sure if i did or didn't. i was raped by my next door neighbor who is 16, and has a gf. also, my bf came to find me, and caught me being raped, but he thought that we were actually having sex. now he's mad and won't talk to me because i won't have sex with him. i really need help talking to him and everything. and should i tell my parents? or not? help!!!

YES you need to tell your parents right away. I know it might seem awkward but you need to tell them. If they don't believe you, go to another adult, an aunt or even your boyfriend's parents. Your parents should take you to a hospital to make sure you are okay and then they can and most likely will press charges against your neighbor. What he did to you was wrong and you shouldn't let him get away with it. As for your boyfriend, try to explain to him what really happend and if he wont listen get your parents to talk to him.

I hope everything turns out alright

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i am goin to be in a new school this year and i wanna get along w/ everyone and have lotsa friends. but there are alot a bullies in school and i don't wanna pick a fight ever.is there any way i cud get along w/ anybody--even bullies??? i wud appreciate help...tnx

Well it is almost impossible for anyone to get along with everyone, so don't worry about being friends with everyone you meet. To avoid geting into fights, try not to put yourself into situtations where a fight could start.If someone says something or tries to start a fight just walk away. Just be friendly and open to everyone you meet and it should be easy for you to make new friends.

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