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ok so ...

theres this goth/skater/punk/whatever the freak he is. well for the past few months he has been seriously flirting with me. problem: he and i both know that i already am seeing someone. a while ago we went to this play out in the city. of course i had to sit next to him because we sat near each other on the bus. on the bus he kept looking back and staring into my eyes and stuff like that. then when we got to the play and everyone was settled in their seats, the lights went down. i was watching the play and then i felt him touching me kind of uncomfortably like all over my legs and arms. after a while it was bothering me so i would slap his hand because he was annoying. but then every five minutes or so he would start stroking me. after the thing was over i was like whatever and we left.

now in school he comes to my locker every morning and afternoon even if my bf is standing there (my boyfriend gets pissed off too). also, the guy always wants a hug in the halls and sometimes makes sexual comments online. in 4th period (language arts), he always tries to catch my eye and when he does, he makes very ... innapropriate body language. if you know what i mean =/

he's in my social studies class. i think it's normal for him to act like that to girls because theres another girl he tanterizes in my ss class and even a group of his friends he has who like his behavior at lunch. he likes touching our hair and hes always finding a way to touch someone -- and one time he even licked my hand. but you have to see that most of the times he jokes and plays around. but im not sure. gosh does that even make sense?

he's nice and makes me laugh sometimes but what kind of friendship is this?

what can i say when i just want him to quit it?

It is by no means "normal" for him to act this way! That is SEXUAL HARASSMENT. You tell him that if he doesn't stop, you're going to sue his ass. Yeah, I know it seems like he's just joking but if you feel harassed, which you apparently do, and you've told him to stop, that makes it harassment. Tell a teacher, the principal, your parents, or someone else if he doesn't stop. THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOU TO PUT UP WITH THIS.

is limewire illegal? what happens if you have or get it?

Limewire itself is legal, but using it to download copyrighted music is not. I don't know if this always happens, but it seriously messed up my computer with all the spyware and viruses.

Is it just a myth that you can masturbate too much?
If it isn't, what are the consequences of it?
How much is too much?

I'd appreciate real medical answers instead of just guesses or rumors, but I'll take anything. If it makes a difference, the question is for someone m/21. Websites would be great. Thanks.

There is no such thing as too much.

And it can't harm you unless you are masturbating with a knife.

I guess this isnt really a question, more of an opinion and/or your relation or differences to this topic. Its about my parents control over me..they dont care what I do. Ever. 15/F. Chicago. I have no curfew..weekday or weekend, no 'chores', they don't care who i'm hanging around with, my mom knows i smoke marijuana. I can, and do, leave the house for days without them calling my cell phone and asking what i'm doing and where I am. I've left the town and state for days numerous times. I get good grades in my private school though and only got in trouble with the police once. I think i'm a pretty good kid. I am going to ozzfest this year and they dont care. I'm always in bad neighborhoods and whatnot. So, basically, whats your opinions on my parents? I dont think theyre being very resposible.

I agree with you. I think that what they are doing is a form of abuse. They may not know it, they think they are giving you what they want and not telling you no, and that this is a good thing. It's like when parents will give cookies and toys to little kids constantly. It damages the child. It's good that you realize they're not living up to their jobs as parents. And I sympathize. I really do. I don't know what you can do about it, short of laying on a train track and shouting, "LOOK. This is what I do when you're not watching!" (Don't do that, by the way.) I think that you're doing all these dangerous things to get their attention. I think you basically want them to tell you that you can't do something, and they don't, so you go to a higher extreme. That's really not healthy. I'm not saying you're a "bad" kid. I don't believe in stuff like that. But I really don't think anything will wake them up. Your parents are irresponsible. But you're fifteen. You are old enough to be responsible for yourself. You know all these things are bad, so don't do them. I know you want their attention and I'm not trying to say that they don't love you or that you don't love them, but they're not worth it. The way you're going, you could get yourself killed. NOBODY is worth your life, not even your parents. Actually, I've rethought that. Your child is worth your life. But you either don't have a child, or if you do, he or she is not the issue. Your parents are the issue, and they're not worth dying for. I'm sure if they thought about it, your parents would agree with this statement. I know mine would. They would rather die to protect me than see me hurt. I'm sure that this is how your parents feel. It's not that they don't love you, it's just that they don't know how to show their love. They might think that it will hurt you if they say no.

Have you tried talking to them about any of this? I think if you have a counselor at your school, you could also tell them. If you want, you can try to get someone to intervene. But for now, I think, if you want a curfew, nothing is stopping you from setting one yourself.

anyone know any sites to learn more information on lesbians, gays and bisexuals?

http://www.dayofsilence.org/
http://www.speakoutnow.org/Topics/GaysLesbiansBisexualsandTransgender.html

There's more, obviously, but I don't have time to pick out the good ones from the bad. Try this:

Hope you find what you need!

My guy is mad at me because he thinks it's fun to be mad at me . This is totally not cool by my rules. What can I do?

THanks soooo much !

Dump him. He doesn't deserve the awesomeness that is you.

whats the name of the song that goes "never had a dream come true, till the that i met you" i know it but i cant remember it...i rate 5's ♥

Tis "Never Had a Dream Come True" by SClub7.

Next time this will work:

That is what I do whenever I need to know a song, and most of the time it works. I think once it didn't. =) Not that I minded answering this, it's just that google is faster than advicenators.

im 16/female and i have diabetes type 1, ive had it since grade 2 and im still living. I need to know if anyone else who has this disease can help me. I want to know what would happen if my nondiabetic friends took insulin(what i use)and what would happen if i did pot. Thanks

Uh, don't do that. The insulin will seriously screw your friends up, and it's illegal to give it to them. The pot will seriously screw ANYBODY up, and it's illegal.

There are PLENTY of non-dangerous things that AREN'T drugs that you can do.

Here are just a few examples: drawing, reading, yoga, meditation, writing, learning a foreign language, swimming, running, playing board games, jumping around, going to the movies, planting flowers, teaching children how to read, creating something, rollerblading, playing basketball, etc.

And those are only a FEW things.

Please, don't ruin your life with drugs.

okay so i couple days ago i had sex for the first time. and it wasn't technically "sex" i mean it was because he was in me but only for like 2 or 3 minutes. and he didn't cum in me or even after at all. we didnt use a condom but he didnt cum or anything and he knows for sure. and i am supposed to get my period in 2 weeks and today i had a really big sticky like thing of discharge in my underwear does this mean that i am going to get my period or what exactly was it i have seen it before but this time it was a lot.

Not to scare you, but that is still technically "sex", and he may have ejaculated. Many guys can't prevent themselves from ejaculating, and it doesn't take ver long. Even if they don't, there is still pre-cum which does contain semen. I don't know if you're going to get your period, but stressing can cause you not to, so just calm down. Don't worry about pregnancy until you see more symptoms than this.

How did Prue die?! I missed it yesterday!!! I've missed it like twice already!

I think Cole kills her. I think. I know she gets killed by some demon. If it's not Cole, it was probably somebody working for him. You may try googling it. There are usually sites that have episode summaries.

idk if its the right subj, but im sick and ill be out of school tomorrow caz its a half day and my mom doesnt want me in school. im 13/f and i need stuff to do with a computer, tv, and i dont know just somthing to do. thanks

You're creative, even if you don't know it yet. So draw something or write a story.

I have diabetes so i dont drink regular sugared soda. I mean i can but i dunno i just dont really even like it. But anyways ever since i got it i have been drinking diet coke. I know its not as good as drinking water but is diet soda bad for you???

If it's all you drink and you do it all the time, then yeah. It's considered junk food, but anything is fine in moderation.

Ok this is kind of a personal question but here it goes:

My current boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a half now. And everytime we sleep together, I can never get an orgasm! At first i thought it could be because he wasnt good in bed but his past gf's has both said that he is amazing in bed! And i enjoy everytime we have sex. Im 17 and I havent ever been able to get an orgasm from sex. Is something wrong with me??

You're fine. Many women have problems orgasming. You may try doing something more exciting, or perhaps fantasizing while having sex, or masturbating. It will take some effort, but there is nothing wrong with you.

what does skeet mean like in all the songs?
thanks :]

When a man ejaculates on a woman (or a man, if he's gay...I guess). Similar to bukkake.

What does "friends with benefits" mean

It's kind of like your boyfriend/girlfriend, only not. You can kiss them, or even have sex with them, but you don't take them out to dinner for Valentine's Day like you would if you were dating.

I love this guy but I don't think he likes me because of the music I listen to now (( emo, rock, etc. )) He is my exboyfriend but when I dated him last year, I was really preppy and loved rap...what should I do?

Get over him. You like the kind of music you like. If a guy doesn't like you because of that, he's not a good guy for you. He's just not worth it.

what are some awsome songs -guy songs plz- im a male! (please keep in mind my name has nothing to do with my gender-male- :)

Songs are pretty much genderless. Most guys I know like the same songs that I, a girl, like.

Right now I'm listening to "Crush" by Dismemberment Plan. It's pretty awesome.

I also like anything by the Beatles, and some Alice Cooper songs.

There's more, but most of it is Asian music, which isn't for everybody.

So, look for songs that you want to hear. Everybody has different tastes. Just remember that anybody can enjoy music, it doesn't matter if they're male or female.

Also, nobody can see your name. This is completely anonymous.

is being gay a chemical imbalence?? remember:I AM NOT GAY!!!!!!!! (please keep in mind my name has nothing to do with my gender-male- :)

It could be. Nobody really knows the exact causes. Some people say it's a choice, others say it's just something you can't help. But being gay doesn't hurt anyone, so if it is an imbalance, there's really no point in "curing" it.

Hye i need some help with my biology homework, were doing cellular respiration and here are some questions i need help with:

describe what cyanide does to a cell at the cellular level?

we do not eat only clucose. where else do we get energy from? how is it converted to ATP?

What is the importance of oxygen in the breakdown of glucose?

compare the anaerobic breakdown of glucose in human and yeast?what are the products of each?

thanks in advance!

You're probably going to rate me a one for this, I don't care. But do you have a biology textbook? Because if you just read the chapter you're working on, I'm sure the answers are there. Believe me, I've done my fair share of science homework. For some reason, just skimming the chapter and looking for the answers didn't work. You have to read the entire chapter, and it will probably say word for word "The importance of oxygen in the breakdown of glucose is _________." I'm sorry this is such a bad answer. I could probably go upstairs and get a biology book, check the index, find the answers you need, and give them to you. But I just don't see the point since you most likely have a book, and not to mention that giving you the answers would be helping you to cheat. If you can't find the answers in the book, talk to your teacher. Most teachers are very understanding about this kind of thing, and I'm sure he or she will be willing to give you some extra help.

what do girls look for in a guy, i think i know but i wanna know more! rate high!

Every girl is different. I, personally, would like a man who:

-Has a sense of humor.
-Has the same basic morals as I do.
-Is not a jerk.
-Will willingly get a vesectomy for me, because there is no way I'm ever getting pregnant.
-Is romantic.
-Is liberal. Well, actually, he could be my political opposite, as long as he wasn't a racist or a homophobe or an animal killer. So, um...a liberal. Yeah.
-Has a job that doesn't keep him away. My dad is in that situation and it's not pleasant.
-Wants to adopt a maximum of four children.
-Isn't allergic to cats or dogs.
-Has a sex drive.
-Is in tune with his inner Goddess.
-Is educated.
-Isn't a rapist, serial killer, bigamist, or pro-life.

Uhm, I think that's about it. This is just for me personally, though, and I've been told I have pretty high standards.

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