Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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Theres a girl I work with for a year and a half and that whole time she had a boyfriend (they were together for 3.5 years) until they broke up two months ago (they both decided to end the relationship together and overall had a "nice" and mutual breakup). I never thought of her as a girlfriend material and always saw her as a good friend, but for the past three-four weeks we started to get closer, phone calls, text messages etc and last week it really seemed like she had something for me - came to seat with me more, flirting, touches etc, it came to a point where people started asking if there is something going on between us and that I should make a move...(for the recored, I would date her if given the option).
Yesterday I caught her for a talk and asked her if what I see is true and if she wants to "take it a step forward". Well, she said that she doesn't want any relationships with anyone right now and that "there have only been 2 months since the breakup", I asked her if she still has feelings for her ex, she said yes, so I asked if she would get back with him if she could, then she said "yes, but he wouldn't..."
So, What the f**k?! I understand you had a 3.5 year relationship, but common, that dude obviously doesn't want you back (he's really nothing special at all and to be frank he is **a bit** ugly, I don't know what she found in him in the first place, but thats non of my business), and you have this opportunity now, why not jump on it? Her answer doesn't have any influence on me except for a "wtf is wrong with you" reaction, I told her it doesn't change a thing and we're still gonna stay good friends (although it seems that what I said [I think] had some influence on her because she doesn't act like a week ago for example, but we still talk normally etc), but hey, I really don't understand this, enlighten me... (link)
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You should be thrilled she said she wasn't ready for a relationship. She could have jumped into one, using you as a rebound, and than left you a couple of weeks/months later. She's being smart, not complicated.
She has been with her ex for 3 in a half years; it's only two months. Some people need longer times to get over their ex's. She is still going through the rough part of the break up. Just give her time. She is watching out for your needs and hers. She knows she can't give you what you need right now because of how she feel for her ex. And he may not be anything special to you, but he was to her or she wouldnt have been with him for almost 4 years.. She was probably leaning towards you after the break up because thats how girls are. We become really close to someone to help ease the pain of heartbreak. When you hinted to her that you had feelings it probably scared her a little bit. You probably need to let her now that you care about her and you dont want her to feel like your rushing her. You only mentioned it because you wanted to know if what other poeple was saying was the truth. And you still wanna be good friends. And to not let it affect you guys friendship;
Godd Luck, if you need anything else don't heistate to send me a message to my inbox
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Hi i'm from the philippines, i would like to ask how would i change how people perceive me? because a friend of mine told me that the impression or aura i give is that i'm an easy girl like they could bed me easily. (link)
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You need to ask you friend what about you makes you seem easy. You will never be able to tell about yourself, and neither can we because we cannot see or be around you.
First thing you need to do is think about how you act in public with guys. Are you all over them?
Second, how about the way you dress? People judge on the way other poeple look. Think about what type of clothes do you wear? Do you show your cleavage? Short or real tight clothing? How do you do your make up?
Your appearance is what makes people think your easy, unless you really are easy and people tell other people about sexual experiences they have had with you.
You can either realize how you act, and notice your clothing habits; and change it.
But I'd ask your friend why people look at you that way, and what does your friend think you can do to change it. Like I said none of us know what you look like or how you act; so advice isn't as easy.
Hope I helped.
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Okay.. I am a Corporal in the USMC and I am currently over in Afghanistan serving!!! She is 19 and I am 20... I love her as if she is my whole world!!! We have two kids and two dogs!! I just need to know how to not make her worry every time I call her back home!!! I call her as much as I can!! But I don't want to make her worry about me while we are talking on the phone and Web cam chatting!! Could you give me some tips on how not to make her worry about me too much??? (link)
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You can't make her not worry. As being your girlfriend, your lover, your bestfriend, and most importantly the mother of your two kids, she will worry. Its normal for her to worry.
There isn't really anything you can do to make her stop worrying. The only thing that can make her stop worrying is if you were back at home and never leaving again.
I know you hate to see her go through this, I'm sure each time you guys Web Cam and talk on the phone, it seems as if its harder and harder for her to say goodbye; But I think all females would be worried that it may be the last time they will ever speak to their loved ones again.
The only thing you can really do is reassure her, and I'm sure you have been doing that a lot. I guess the only thing you could do, is everytime you see her on Web Cam or speak to her on the phone, act like everything is fine. You may not want to tell her if anything bad is going on, because that will make her worry more. If you don't like keeping things from your girlfriend, than be honest with her. But that is really the only thing I can think of to make her not worry as much.
Good Luck!
and Thank you for serving our country. Your appreciated greatly!
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I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half. We were fighting a lot over the summer, so we took a short break (it only lasted a week) during this time, I found out that he started to have feelings for one of the girls he worked with. The day before we got back together they kissed. Even though we were on a break, we were still technically together just without the label of being in a relationship. It obviously hurt me when he told me about the kiss and it made me almost not even want to go back with him. He apologized and said it would never happen again, but that happened in august and it's now november and it's still haunting me. I don't know what I should do about it. My friends tell me to get rid of him, but my heart tells me not to let go. Anyone have any advice? Thank you (link)
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This is an iffy situation.
I'm going to give you two different answers of what you could do; followed by what I think you should do.
You have been with him for a year in a half; I'm sure things get intense between you guys; once your with someone for that long, it easier to fight and such. I personally don't believe in "breaks" or "break ups" when you know you will get back together with that person. Breaks, ruin relationships. I've always said that, and from seeing with what happened between you too, I'm right.
1) You can stay with him. A break is a misleading thing. When you decided to go on break, was it a mutual thing? Was it your decision? His decision? Did you guys talk about what you could and could not do during this break? If not, I don't think a peck kiss is something to throw a year and a half relationship away. It was just a kiss, nothing more. Yeah he shouldn't have done it, but still he told you didn't he? He didn't keep it from you, right? Give him some benefit of the doubt here. I know its wrong, and I'm not defending him at all. It's just silly to throw it away like that.
2) You can leave him. If you believe this kiss meant more than just a kiss, and if he still has feelings for this girl, than leave him. Obviously, it cannot be fixed. It's still haunting you and you seem to not be able to get over it. I don't understand that after a year and 6 months of being with someone, how they could just go and develop feelings for someone else. Was he not worried about you? Did he not care about what that one stupid kiss would do to you? Shouldn't he had been more worried about you guys getting back together, than his lips on another girls? Think about it.
IF YOU WANT TO STAY WITH HIM & GET OVER IT:
Than first thing you need to do, is tell him. Tell him how you feel, tell him how you don't understand how after a week of being apart, he could go and grow feelings for someone else, and kiss them. If you feel like this kiss is something you can get over, than maybe you should find ways to work it out. You could always suggest your boyfriend get transferred, or get a new job.
BUT...When he apologised for kissing this girl, did he seem sincere? OR did he seem like he was only saying it to make you feel better? You know your boyfriend a lot better than we do, you should know when he means what he says, or when he's feeding you bullshit.
If you need anything else, or you are confused about what to do after this advice, PLEASE DO NOT HEISTATE to send me a message to my inbox. I'll help you until you feel comfortable with any decision you want to make. I'm here for you, along with other people. Stay strong.
Good Luck
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There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do? (link)
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I'd let him go as a boyfriend material type of guy. He obviously isn't ready to be tied down. He's enjoying talking to other girls. If you feel like he may like you, bring it to his attention; if that doesn't work than that will show you that his intentions are far more different than yours.
I hate it when guys waste a girls time. They could have the respect to let a girl know "it aint like that". But they don't. He's only keeping you as "another girl", wouldn't you rather be "that girl", "his girl"?
You know what you need to do, and I agree its the right thing. Don't waste your precious time anymore than you already have! Your too good for his games!
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, don't heistate to send me a message to my inbox!
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me and this one boy are like really close friends family as he says .we went together for about a year i known him for a three and so we was on the phone the other day and this other guy kept texting me so i became frustrated and he asked me what was going on and i told him that this one guy gets like so jeasouls of certain things and the boy aka ma ex he said did i want him to call the jeaslous boy and curse him out .now my question is do that mean that he still have feelings for me ???? (link)
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Like you said, you and this boy tried dating, and it didn't work. This is why he's your ex. You also said that you guys are really close, like family. That right there should tell you that he was just "having your back". Now if he flirts with you, or mentions that he still cares or loves you; than him wanting to call that jealous guy would mean a little more. But how I see it, he was just protecting you, like a good friend would.
If you feel as if we are wrong, and that he may have feelings for you, you could always ask. It never hurts too!
Good Luck!
If you need anythign else, please do not heistate to send a message to my inbox!
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Hi i went out with a guy and i dont know if he likes me. when we broke up i acted cool and collected but inside i died. ws it the right move to act like that? Also i need a way to make me his girlfriend? PLEASE HELP IM DYING WITHOUT THE HELP ive asked friens but they dont know!!!! (link)
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I can't give you great advice, because your not very detailed. If you want, you can send me a message to my inbox, and answer these questions:
1. Why did you guys break up?
2. How old are you, and how old is he?
3. How long were you guys together?
4. Who broke up with who?
But if you do not want to send me a message, here is the advice I can give you,
Usuaully when you go through a break up, people tell you to act like it doesn't bother you, and/or treat them with kindness. In some circumstances that doesn't always work. When I broke up with my boyfriend, he pulled the "I'm going to act like it doesn't bother me card", and yes, it hurt me to see he was just fine, while I felt like I was literally dying inside, but I figured since he was acting like that, it was really over between us. Turns out, he was hurting too, and he wanted me back.
Him acting all fine and dandy really made our breakup/ getting back together harder.
Guys on the other hand, when they see someone is doin just fine without them,
1. they try to get them back
2. the say screw it and let them be.
You need to figure out what type of boyfriend he was.
This is all I can give you, until you can answer my questions! I'm sorry!
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ok, me and this guy have been talking for about a month and we have kissed a couple of times. He sometimes calls me and we talk a lot on facebook. One day i told him that i liked him but he said he is not ready to be in a relationship because of the things that he sees happening to people, and he doesnt knw when he will be ready. I want to convince him and re-assure him that i will make him happy and i would never hurt him or anythng like that.
Im 17 and he is 21. (link)
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You can't rush him. Plain and simple. You can tell him over and over again the things he wants to hear, but it still won't make him ready. If you really want to convince him about how bad you want to be with him, than give him the time he needs. Don't push him into being with you, and don't move on to another guy just because he isn't ready to be in a relationship.
BUT, you can also let him get to know you better. A month really isn't a long time to get to know someone. You have to show him that you aren't like most girls. You have to inform him that EVERY couple is different. In order for him to know that thing could go bad, is if he tries. He never knows. Things could be perfect between you too.
I had a guy I use to talk to. I was 15 and he was 19. He said the same thing. Turned out he just didn't want to settle down. He wanted the friends with benefit part, but no strings attached kind of deal. Which wasn't fair to me because of course, I wanted more. I eventually gave up; and I'm glad I did.
Reason why I mentioned that is because you need to figure out if the reaosn why he doesn't want a relationship is because of "the things happening to people" or if he just simply loves the single, no strings attach life.
I also believe that he has been hurt pretty bad in the past by ex girlfriends, or maybe a female figure in his life, or he has trust issues. This may be why he is having a hard time being with you. He may just need time to open up, and feel comfortable around you. Do you even know anything about him, (I'm sure you do, but I mean things a little deeper) like about his past, his ex relationships, ect
I would love to know how things go, and I know if you give him time, he will be with you. Just don't rush it girl! If its meant to be it'll happen (:
Good Luck!
If you need anythign else, please do not heistate to send a message to my inbox!
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Okay, I know this is a silly question. I am 19/f. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and things have always been wonderful. Recently, I moved schools and now live really close to him. We practically spend all of our time together, which I love, and we both feel like we always want to be together.
Here is the downside- When it comes time to say goodnight, him to his dorm and me to mine, I can't help but get upset! Usually I am sleepy and kinda cranky by then anyways, which could be part of it, but no matter how long we have spent together, I just feel sad and sometimes I even feel mad at him that he is leaving! I have to kinda "cool off" before I talk to him again. What is wrong with me!? I know this is so terrible from a guys perspective. I don't want to be a clingy annoying girlfriend, but I just don't know how to handle him leaving for the night! I really do want some advice to make this better for him!
I really don't know why I get so mad when he is leaving. Sometimes I don't even want to say goodnight and he just wants to get out of the car :/ We have never had any problems before- why have I started acting like a two year old! :(( (link)
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I think its because you guys have been spending alot of time together. Nothing wrong with that. Its normal to miss your boyfriend when he lives. I know when I use to talk on the phone with my boyfriend, I would get so upset when he'd get off the phone. I'd miss him instantly.
Just seems to me that you just enjoy his company. There is nothing wrong with that.
Has your boyfriend told you that you are being clingy, or annoying? Does he seem bothered by you gettin mad or upset when he leaves? If he is, than you just have to tell yourself, "The sooner I go to sleep, the sooner I will be able to see and talk to him again". That statement is what got me through every night. You just have to keep thinking of seeing him the next day, in order to get you through that night.
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, or have any more questions that you didn't feel I answered enough, please don't heistate to inbox me.
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I was raped about a year ago and I have slowly began to date.I feel like I have to do things with my boyfriend. He keeps saying things like "oh well when your ready", but he says it a lot, like if he says it enough I will change my mind. We do things, but I end up freaking out and feeling guilty about it afterwards. We attempted sex once,but I ended up shoving him away and curling up and crying. Any ideas on ways to help? Please I feel lost!! (link)
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I feel your pain. When I had sex with a guy after I was ALMOST raped, I felt so guilty. I felt nasty. I felt like a whore. I felt so so upset. I didn't know why. I shoved him away, and I just couldn't go through with it.
Does your boyfriend know about you almost getting raped? If he doesn't, than this may help with your sex life. The only way I could get over the crying and feeling guilty was I had to be the one to make the first move. I also felt a lot better when I talked to my mother about it. I literally came in 1 minute after I pushed my ex off, and went to my mom. I guess I felt better after she reassured me that for someone my age, its okay to have sex.
You just need to sit down with your boyfriend and explain to him how you feel. I think its because you were honestly not ready. There is no rush at all, with all that you have been through you have a right to wait as long as you want, doll! If your boyfriend really loves you, (which I'm sure he does) he will understand and will not rush you. You also need to tell him that when your ready you will tell him. And he needs to stop bringing it up, because it feels like he is rushing you.
I'm sure everything will work out, and I promise when you are ready, all this will stop. I promise!
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, or have any more questions that you didn't feel I answered enough, please don't heistate to inbox me.
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i was friends with this guy, we had to separate countries, but still kept in touch with e mail. he visited me and then he invited me over so i went. He was really sweet in his e mails... until when i visited, i found out he has a girlfriend. He kept on denying it. Well there was something between them he kept on sending her messages and erasing them... he was so annoyed that i was there. i never felt special the whole time, he was super busy and just denied everything. i was so irritated and cant control my emotions sometimes and he said it didnt work out bec i was always asking him about the girl and i never believed his stories.. and so i went home. but i feel so stupid for falling for him, why is he lying to me? why cant he be at least honest? we were friends anyway... i feel so terrible. i hate him so much...what will i do to get him off my mind or for him to tell the truth or what do i just do about it all? i dont deserve this at all.... thanks to you all who can help me..am 33 he is 38 the girl is 21 and she stinks. serious. he is divorced, i shouldnt have entertained him in the first place. (link)
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You are right, you don't deserve this at all. For someone who is a FRIEND he shouldn't be lying. The only time I could see him feeling the need to lie to you is if you were dating, but that obviously isn't the case. The guy sounds like a waste of time to me. But i'm sure to you he isn't, or you wouldn't be asking for help.
Lets start by each question you asked.
why is he lying to me? why cant he be at least honest?
-I honestly don't know why he is lying. Like I said before, you guys are just friends. The only thing I can think of, is maybe he likes you? Or maybe he just cares about you enough to not to want to hurt you. Some men, NOT ALL, usually go by the expressing, "what she doesn't know, won't hurt her". Big mistake, right? maybe this is what he is thinking. Since he lives in a different country, than he probably didn't expect you to ever find out about his girlfriend. What I don't understand is if you guys are simply JUST FRIENDS, why would he lie? This is very confusing for me, so I can't imagine how its making you feel.
what will i do to get him off my mind?
-I know its hard to forget about someone who you care about and are good friends with. But seems to me you need to find a new friend, someone who doesn't live as far away either; its easier to build a stronger, long lasting relationship, when you guys are closer by distance. In the mean time, try not to talk to him for a few days. Go do things you like to do, and try to find you a hobby that refreshes your mind, and makes you calm.
Now I'm not sure how you could get him to tell you the truth, but you could send him an email, and let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him that you really cherish his friendship, but friends aren't suppose to keep things from each other, and aren't suppose to lie. Tell him that it hurt you that he would lie to you, and tell him why. Than tell him that you don't want to lose his friendship, and it's best if you guys don't talk for a few days. Give him time to actually think about what he has done. Don't be mean or cruel, because in the end you don't want to have any regrets, ya know? Be sincere and nice about it, just in case things between you two don't work out as friends, you will know you did everything you could to make him be honest with you.
Or, maybe he doesn't trust you yet? He could have really bad trust issues. Maybe this girl really isn't his girlfriend? Who knows. The only perosn who does, is this guy, and he isn't honest, at all.
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, or have any more questions that you didn't feel I answered enough, please don't heistate to inbox me.
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So i have been seeing this guy for a little over a month. In the beginning he would text me everyday now he rarely ever texts me first. But when he hang out everything seems to be the same. He have a great time and always make plans to hang out the very next day but i wont hear from him sometimes. Call me stuburn but i HATE texting a guy first. i feel like its the males responsibility.Am i just over thinking this ?? sometimes we will go whole days without speaking to one another (link)
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I think its because he is tired of making an effort to talk to you first. Even though you are stubborn and feel like the guy should text you first, it doesn't necessarily go like that. You have to see things from his point of view too. He probably thinks, "Well, I haven't texted her because I wanna see how long it takes for her to text me first. Why should I always have to text her just to speak to her? Does she not care to talk to me?" I'm sure he thinks if you really wanted to talk, you would text him. Therefore when he texts you, he may feel like he's bothering you because you aren't puttin in as much effort as he is.
You know, I agree with what your saying about how it should be the guys responsibility. But after he proves himself over the first couple of weeks, you guys should take turns texting each other. One day he texts you first, the next day you text him. You have to show your intersted in him, so he doesn't stray away.
Good Luck.
If you need anything else feel free to inbox me
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I am 19 and I've dated 2 guys. Technically, just one because the second didn't last very long. My first boyfriend I was very close to. We had problems but we were very fond of each other, went out for almost a year. I was 18 when we were together. When it comes to dating, I don't want to just date around for the fun of it, I want to pick someone worth being with, worth actually having a future with. The problem is, I don't really know guys like that. Also, the problem is that I'm not going to just date anybody. Religion and culture is very important to me because I was raised in such a family. It is of importance to me, so don't think it's not. I find myself attractive to guys of my same culture and religion as well, because it plays such a huge role in my life. The thing is with the guy I dated, he is of a family that holds my religion and culture, but he's not religious. Also, I am going off to either grad school or med school. I would like to be with someone of that educational standard. I mean, it's only fair to him and to me. These are just preferences, but I don't want to be the girl who has the secret love affair with the mailman, if you know what I mean. My first ex wants to go off to the airforce, and I am not holding him against it. My question is basically, should I hold on to him and forsake what I want in a guy? Or should I wait and further progress my life in the direction I want it to go in and then worry about finding the right guy? I am also not the kind of girl who has guys hitting on her all the time, so it's not easy for me to put myself out there. What should I do? (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself if this guy is worth putting your beliefs and wants behind you. If you truly love him, what he wants to do with his life shouldn't be a problem.
But I understand that your religion and culture is very big part of your life. And I really respect that about you. But you have to understand finding a guy who shares the same amount of committment and love towards it will be kind of hard to find. If your religion and culture mean more to you than a guy who could be the one, than I say focuse on school, and wait for this guy to come to you. You never know, once you start school there will be plenty of guys who will share the same interest as you, and be getting a degree which is also what you want.
You just really have to think about the pro's and the con's and see which one balances out to fit what you truly want inside.
Good Luck!
If you need anything else feel free to inbox me
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hi i came across your advice again... so i decided to ask you: why do we have to feel sorry for ourselves? why do we think we deserve more? how can we gain our confidence back? i am confident and i can put up with the demands of everyday life, BUT at the end of the day, i am sad and remember the pain this guy put me through.. am i depressed?!?! how can he treat me so unfairly, i have been honest with him all the time...thanks.. needed to rant...
Anna 33
you have a nice day!! (link)
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You know, by what your saying, I think you need to let this person go. Anyone who treats you unfairly more than fairly doesn't even deserve you time, attention, or affection. No one deserves to feel like they aren't enough for someone. And no one deserves to wake up and wonder "I wonder what I will do wrong to make him go off" when honestly, you have done NOTHING.
So lets start with your first question,
why do we have to feel sorry for ourselves?
-I think it may be because of how we are brought up. The main reason we feel sorry for ourselves is because of the confidence we have. People don't see that confidence affects more than just how we feel about ourselves. I also believe the reaosn why we feel sorry for ourselves is because deep down, we know what we deserve, but yet we always settle for less. That jus how us females are. Its normal.
why do we think we deserve more?
-How people talk to us when something bad happens. Everytime something bad happens between a girl and a guy, majority of the time people will say, "Oh you can do better". When you hear it enough, you start to believe it. Now as of deserving more, its just once again how we are. We think we deserve more, because we aren't satisfied with what we have already. We are always wanting more and more.
how can we gain our confidence back?
-This is a question I cannot actually give you answers too. Only you can give yourself confidence back. You have to love yourself, and be happy with yourself. That alone will allow you to have confidence. Someone who loves theirself is often called concieted, or air headed, because when you love yourself, it seems like you have all the confidence in the world. If there is something you don't like about yourself, only you can fix it.
It sounds like you could be depressed. But I think its because your emotionally, and mentally exhausted. You have to understand that, this guy didn't know what he had when he had it, and there is nothing you could have done to change his actions or words. You have done nothing wrong to deserve the bitterness, and negativity that he gave you. Usually all you can do is give them your all, but sometimes in the end you get nothin in return. A relationship takes two people to work, not just one. If you look back and realize you gave more than you recieved than that alone should show you that he isn't worth the tears, depression, and the pain.
If you need to rant anymore, please feel free too. The only way the pain will disappear is by talking about it, and i'm here to listen and help you as much as I can.
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lol, yeah we are in highschool! and what i meant by a schedule was to put like a playful schedule like we have school from 7:20-2:20 and he has practice until 6 so i wanna put that he can only play from monday-friday 7am-6pm lol. and well, hes turning 16 and im 17, and we just recently started dating but weve been talking for 6 months already! (link)
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Sorry it took a couple of days to get back to you. But now that I understand it, I think that would be a great idea. I mean, its sometihng he wants, plus something with humor, and playfullness.
I know this may sound a little girlish, but surprisingly majority of guys like it;
you could get a picture of you and him and put it in a cute picture frame. Guys, just like girls, like to be reminded how people make them feel, except guys don't express the want or need like us females do. How about a cute little love letter, to let him know from the first time you saw him, you knew things were only going to be great with him by yourside?
If you drive, you could always take him to his favorite place to eat, and than wrap the gift up and surprise him. My momma always told me, the way to a man's heart, is through his belly!
haha.
If he likes cake, you could ask one of his parents what his favorite one is, and you could bake it for him?
These are just a couple of ideas, you don't have to do them, but I remember from your post, you said you wanted a couple of ideas.
(:
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Hi just wanna say that your advice to the 16 year old girl hit me right on !!
i DID assume a guy liked me more than friends (well he did give me false hope) and it really can be embarassing, degrading, annoying and stupid that i even thought there was something there....
Thanks for opening my eyes!!!
Keep on giving great advice, you have helped more than you know!!
Anna (link)
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Thank you so very much! Those words truly mean alot. I am only 18, so I have been through the immature guys, and sadly some guys don't grow to be mature with age, as we hope they will.
I am sorry this guy wasted your time, and got your hopes up. I know how much it hurts, and how you feel stupid for thinking something is there;
but in reality. You aren't stupid, at all. You was just blinded by this man, who came across as genuwine. That isn't your fault at all. You was taking what he was giving, and thought futurely about it; he's the stupid one for missing out on someone who truly cared for him!
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Ok so I'm 13(no age comments please), and me and my BF have been going out for 3 months. My question is this, how do I give him a boner with out being and/or acting like a slut? And with out touching his actual "package"? Thanks! (link)
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Well, whisper in his ear. Tell him you think he looks "hot" or "Sexy" really softly in his ear.
You can nibble on his earlobe, or when you kiss him, try sucking or nibbling on his bottom lip.
Kiss on his neck, or try just sitting in his lap when you kiss him.
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So my boyfriend and I are creepin' up on our 6 month anniversary and Christmas is coming up as well. He is really hard to shop for, everything he needs/wants he gets himself or already has. I am clueless and need suggestions quick! (link)
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I'm in the same boat as well, except me and my lover have been together for a year Sunday; plus Christmas!
But,
I can't really help you, because I don't know what your boyfriend is like, what he enjoys; or anything else. I don't know your age either; so idk if you can drive, or if he can, ect.
Send me a message to my inbox, and I'll give you better advice once you answer those questions.
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I'm 19/f and i have a pretty good sex life. I don't finger myself though is that weird or uncommon? I'm just kind of creeped out by vaginas and id rather not touch it haha does anyone else have this problem? (link)
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I wouldn't worry about it girl! There are PLENTY of other ways to please yourself; guys included.
See, you might find this nasty, but I don't like fingering myself either;
1. It does nothing for me.
2. I believe its weird as well.
3. Its kind of a waste of time.
So your not alone. You are perfectly normal, miss!
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Ok so I'm kind of being a chump about this but I've been working out of town the past few weeks and I asked my wife to come see me at the hotel and stay a night or two she says she doesn't want to because of money but I'm working out of town making money I Dnt understand y she wouldn't want to come so I guess I'm trying yo figure out the reasoning and what I should do (link)
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Thats a tough question.
Either she's being honest about the whole money thing, and doesn't want to waste any money, or she just doesn't feel comfortable coming and staying in a hotel.
If my husband was away at work for a couple of weeks, and invited me to come stay with him for a couple of nights, I'd be there before he could finish the sentence. Therefore, I'm not too sure why your wife wouldn't want to come see the man she loves.
I think the only way you can answer these questions, is by asking her. Sure she says money, but do you believe thats really it? You know your wife better than any of us on this website. If you don't believe money is the issue, than confront her about it, and see what she has to say.
If money really is the issue, explain to her that seeing her beautiful face is worth the money; and that you miss her laying next to you at night.
Woman love sweet phrases, especially if we haven't heard them in a while. (:
Than explain to her that the money spent on her staying, will be made within the next two days of working, so no money will be truely lost, ya know?
I hope everything goes well for you, and I'd love to hear more about this, and how it goes!
Good Luck
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