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hi i came across your advice again... so i decided to ask you: why do we have to feel sorry for ourselves? why do we think we deserve more? how can we gain our confidence back? i am confident and i can put up with the demands of everyday life, BUT at the end of the day, i am sad and remember the pain this guy put me through.. am i depressed?!?! how can he treat me so unfairly, i have been honest with him all the time...thanks.. needed to rant...
Anna 33
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You know, by what your saying, I think you need to let this person go. Anyone who treats you unfairly more than fairly doesn't even deserve you time, attention, or affection. No one deserves to feel like they aren't enough for someone. And no one deserves to wake up and wonder "I wonder what I will do wrong to make him go off" when honestly, you have done NOTHING.
So lets start with your first question,
why do we have to feel sorry for ourselves?
-I think it may be because of how we are brought up. The main reason we feel sorry for ourselves is because of the confidence we have. People don't see that confidence affects more than just how we feel about ourselves. I also believe the reaosn why we feel sorry for ourselves is because deep down, we know what we deserve, but yet we always settle for less. That jus how us females are. Its normal.
why do we think we deserve more?
-How people talk to us when something bad happens. Everytime something bad happens between a girl and a guy, majority of the time people will say, "Oh you can do better". When you hear it enough, you start to believe it. Now as of deserving more, its just once again how we are. We think we deserve more, because we aren't satisfied with what we have already. We are always wanting more and more.
how can we gain our confidence back?
-This is a question I cannot actually give you answers too. Only you can give yourself confidence back. You have to love yourself, and be happy with yourself. That alone will allow you to have confidence. Someone who loves theirself is often called concieted, or air headed, because when you love yourself, it seems like you have all the confidence in the world. If there is something you don't like about yourself, only you can fix it.
It sounds like you could be depressed. But I think its because your emotionally, and mentally exhausted. You have to understand that, this guy didn't know what he had when he had it, and there is nothing you could have done to change his actions or words. You have done nothing wrong to deserve the bitterness, and negativity that he gave you. Usually all you can do is give them your all, but sometimes in the end you get nothin in return. A relationship takes two people to work, not just one. If you look back and realize you gave more than you recieved than that alone should show you that he isn't worth the tears, depression, and the pain.
If you need to rant anymore, please feel free too. The only way the pain will disappear is by talking about it, and i'm here to listen and help you as much as I can.
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