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why is he lying to me? why cant he be at least honest?
i was friends with this guy, we had to separate countries, but still kept in touch with e mail. he visited me and then he invited me over so i went. He was really sweet in his e mails... until when i visited, i found out he has a girlfriend. He kept on denying it. Well there was something between them he kept on sending her messages and erasing them... he was so annoyed that i was there. i never felt special the whole time, he was super busy and just denied everything. i was so irritated and cant control my emotions sometimes and he said it didnt work out bec i was always asking him about the girl and i never believed his stories.. and so i went home. but i feel so stupid for falling for him, why is he lying to me? why cant he be at least honest? we were friends anyway... i feel so terrible. i hate him so much...what will i do to get him off my mind or for him to tell the truth or what do i just do about it all? i dont deserve this at all.... thanks to you all who can help me..am 33 he is 38 the girl is 21 and she stinks. serious. he is divorced, i shouldnt have entertained him in the first place.
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Now you know why he's divorced. It sounds like you were just entertainment for him. Walk away from this one and move on. He is not right for you, or anyone else for that matter. You deserve better than a liar.
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You are right, you don't deserve this at all. For someone who is a FRIEND he shouldn't be lying. The only time I could see him feeling the need to lie to you is if you were dating, but that obviously isn't the case. The guy sounds like a waste of time to me. But i'm sure to you he isn't, or you wouldn't be asking for help.
Lets start by each question you asked.
why is he lying to me? why cant he be at least honest?
-I honestly don't know why he is lying. Like I said before, you guys are just friends. The only thing I can think of, is maybe he likes you? Or maybe he just cares about you enough to not to want to hurt you. Some men, NOT ALL, usually go by the expressing, "what she doesn't know, won't hurt her". Big mistake, right? maybe this is what he is thinking. Since he lives in a different country, than he probably didn't expect you to ever find out about his girlfriend. What I don't understand is if you guys are simply JUST FRIENDS, why would he lie? This is very confusing for me, so I can't imagine how its making you feel.
what will i do to get him off my mind?
-I know its hard to forget about someone who you care about and are good friends with. But seems to me you need to find a new friend, someone who doesn't live as far away either; its easier to build a stronger, long lasting relationship, when you guys are closer by distance. In the mean time, try not to talk to him for a few days. Go do things you like to do, and try to find you a hobby that refreshes your mind, and makes you calm.
Now I'm not sure how you could get him to tell you the truth, but you could send him an email, and let him know exactly how you feel. Tell him that you really cherish his friendship, but friends aren't suppose to keep things from each other, and aren't suppose to lie. Tell him that it hurt you that he would lie to you, and tell him why. Than tell him that you don't want to lose his friendship, and it's best if you guys don't talk for a few days. Give him time to actually think about what he has done. Don't be mean or cruel, because in the end you don't want to have any regrets, ya know? Be sincere and nice about it, just in case things between you two don't work out as friends, you will know you did everything you could to make him be honest with you.
Or, maybe he doesn't trust you yet? He could have really bad trust issues. Maybe this girl really isn't his girlfriend? Who knows. The only perosn who does, is this guy, and he isn't honest, at all.
Good Luck!
If you need anything else, or have any more questions that you didn't feel I answered enough, please don't heistate to inbox me.<3
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