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Sad/mad when saying goodnight to boyfriend?
Okay, I know this is a silly question. I am 19/f. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and things have always been wonderful. Recently, I moved schools and now live really close to him. We practically spend all of our time together, which I love, and we both feel like we always want to be together.
Here is the downside- When it comes time to say goodnight, him to his dorm and me to mine, I can't help but get upset! Usually I am sleepy and kinda cranky by then anyways, which could be part of it, but no matter how long we have spent together, I just feel sad and sometimes I even feel mad at him that he is leaving! I have to kinda "cool off" before I talk to him again. What is wrong with me!? I know this is so terrible from a guys perspective. I don't want to be a clingy annoying girlfriend, but I just don't know how to handle him leaving for the night! I really do want some advice to make this better for him!
I really don't know why I get so mad when he is leaving. Sometimes I don't even want to say goodnight and he just wants to get out of the car :/ We have never had any problems before- why have I started acting like a two year old! :((
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My boyfriend brought this to my attention a year ago and I didn't realize it. I don't have a problem with it now but I use to. I would hate it when he would drive me home because everything would feel so rushed and I would feel like I wanted to continue to spend time with him. Or if he was at my house and he was getting ready to leave it would be like 'do you have to go?'. I then realized that I need to let him do his own thing while I do my own thing. My boyfriend had a life before I came along and just because I'm with him doesn't mean his life stops and the world revolves around me. Ever heard of distance makes the heart grow fonder?
It's funny we were talking about this Saturday with one another about how spending time together. I don't need to spend everyday with him to know that he loves me. Do I want to? Of course. Maybe don't spend so much time together? Set up days where you two can have a date night and then spend sometimes with your friends. Don't make everything about your boyfriend. I know you two have been together for two years but maybe you need give each other space and do some things on your own. Remember you will see him again, remind yourself of that and know that he does care for you and nothing is going to change that.
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I think its because you guys have been spending alot of time together. Nothing wrong with that. Its normal to miss your boyfriend when he lives. I know when I use to talk on the phone with my boyfriend, I would get so upset when he'd get off the phone. I'd miss him instantly.
Just seems to me that you just enjoy his company. There is nothing wrong with that.
Has your boyfriend told you that you are being clingy, or annoying? Does he seem bothered by you gettin mad or upset when he leaves? If he is, than you just have to tell yourself, "The sooner I go to sleep, the sooner I will be able to see and talk to him again". That statement is what got me through every night. You just have to keep thinking of seeing him the next day, in order to get you through that night.
Good Luck!
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