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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated.

If the relationship is all physical then i think you should break up with him. You can give him one last warning if he loves you then he should respect your fear. And that grabbing at you you shouldn't let that happen let him know that thats not acceptable. Your only 16 even if you didn't have that disgust or fear you shouldn't feel the need to do what he is asking you to do. Good luck and you shouldn't feel like you can't tell him something you can tell him anything.

I want sad love songs, i love breathe again by TSFA, and Teardrops on my guitar. Can anyone help me?!!

Howie day- collide
arcade fire- cars and telephones
3 doors down- landing in london
Colbie caillat- Realize
Cold play- Scientist
Norah jones- Don't know why
Matchbox 20- If your gone
Snow patrol- Run
Taylor swift- Stay beautiful, Tim McGraw,
Red jumsuit apparatus- Your guardian angel

Hope i helped

Yes, i always think that, when she said stuff like that and or when she sits close to me and teases me.

so how can i avoid that stupid thought? always asuming she is giving me hints of liking me back but its not true(maybe)

It's a instinct maybe she really does like you. Don't put yourself down always trust your instincts. I think you should drop hints about liking her hopefully she will pick up on them. If she doesnt just tell her how you feel trust me those thoughts arent going to go away unless you find out if she likes you. Plus it sucks not knowing what could have been and regretting not telling her. Keep me updated and good luck

why will she say that?

i mean it bugs me...I always think everything she she does i think she likes me back how can i stop thinking that? its annoying.

Wait so you like her and you think that she likes you because of what she said "I just wanted to spend time with you"?

this is from (she ask me)

okay for some reason i cant focus when i go to school. (college)i have class at 3 to 4 on mondays and wensday. my friend see me those days but her class not till 530. i ask her why she is here early and she said "oh well to spend time with you"

but she distracting me of my school work. the whole time i am in class i think of what to talk about to her after class. i want to get over her but i just cant and she is making it harder on me i know its not her fualt but this is bothering me.

how can i focus?

If you can sit in front of the class do it so you can focus try to get into the subject and ask more questions. Best of luck message me back if it doesnt work out.

I will try to keep you up dated but I highly doubt that I will tell her. I might when she ask me.

I will say "you make me smile even when you are not funny. I like how you have “I don’t care attitude”. You get on my nervous but I actual like it and how you always give me a lot of attention when I don’t need it"

Well it’s so hard to get it all down how I feel about her. I want her to be happy I want her to know that life is wroth living. I don’t care about my self I don’t feel like I need to be with her to be happy I feel like I need to be there for her to support her and protected her.

That’s how I really feel about her. Not like people who think that "oh I need to be with her/him to make me happy and to not be lonely"

I don’t feel that way to her, I feel like I need to make her happy.

(If that makes scents)

she ask me twice on why i like her (the answer was the same thing), once online the chat room and on a text message. but the chat room was in 2007 in summer and the text was in winter. she ask me twice because in the chat room i told her that i was bi sexual and that i like her. and on the text she ask me that question after i ask her if she likes me more than a friend. (reason why i ask becuase she said she was jealous that i was moving on) so i ask her that question face to face, she answer no but she shook her head no. and she send me the text the next day why do i like her.

It makes complete sense the way you feel about her that is what makes relationships last. For the people that go out with someone just to have someone or just because they look good those are relationships that last a couple of weeks or sometimes days. I hope it all works out best of luck

I didnt have the guts when she ask me i was so shock i couldnt think of the words. so i said what i siad. plus i was afraid she migh get freak out.

I don't think she woulda freaked out unless you said something obsessive. Next time she asks or if you just want to tell her what you like about her. Be prepared think of stuff right now to say to her i know its gunna be tough because your probably going to be nervous on her reaction but you won't be as nervous now that you know what to say. Good luck keep me updated i want to know how it works out.

My husband (married for 16 year) for the past few months have a horrible problem with my son. He ignores him completly, does not talk to him at all, and if my son does not do something he will call him names and put him down or call my son name to me.
I love my husband and he is good to me but since my son has made quite few mistakes in his life I am just between two of them. I must add that my husband is a person with many rules and kind of "black or white". My son has made a few very stupid decisions lately like moving out a day after turning 17, drinking, ignoring us on the street around his friends, lying, failing school and playing us that he wants to stay in school and many other but really felling almost everything. Now my son is back at home now and he does not want to move out but things are bad since my husband does not want to discipline him so it's just me and because of that he blames me for eveything. We fight with my husbnad constantly about my son. I just have enough of listing to it. For example a couple of days ago my son has lost another key to our house this would be probably the 5th time and I did not even tell my husband. My son just is very irresponsible and inmature. He does not care about things or money and this is completley against my husband's way of living.
What should I do, I have enough of fights, enough of my son's lying and lazyiness but at the same time I love him I cannot just kick him out. At the same time I do not want to distroy my relationship with my husband. We have tried to set up some rules for my son but he does not follow them.

thank you.

I know you love your son but its time for him to grow up and take responsibility for his actions. He is 17 if you make rules for him and he doesn't follow them threaten to kick him out or take something away from him at the least. You are just letting him run over you. I understand where your husband is coming from he is also getting run overred by your son and can't do much about it if you don't back him up. Do whats best for you and your son he needs to grow up, go to school, move out when he is finished. You don't want your son living with you when he is 30 years old because to me it looks like thats where you are headed. You also need to think about your marriage it's not looking so good right now. I can promise you right now by making this decision on being more strict on your son you will see a big difference there will be no more fighting and both you and your husband will go back to the way it was before your son started making bad decisions.

Best of luck

So there is this guy. He is really nice and funny and he is in a lot of my classes. He is in plays, musicals and he is really good at writing poetry. I always thought he was gay. He acts like a little girl too so I thought he must be gay. I am not trying to be mean I am just wondering. Because he got his ear pierced in the left ear and that is the one that means you are straight. What do you think about this? I don't want to ask him because that would be rude. He also made a joke about a gay person being gay. I was like what? My friends are not to sure of it either and one of them likes him and she didn't know if he was gay or not. Do you think he is?

If he acts like a little girl im pretty sure he is gay. Don't get acting gay mixed up with the way he walks. Some guys are just like that if he talks like a girl and chooses his words differently more girlie like then he can be gay. Another thing is that if he has alot of friends that are girls and pretty much no guy friends then he is gay. Hope i helped good luck

My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, have been together over 2 years and we were each other's firsts, and about 4 months ago I started on a birth control pill, Yasmin, because we both decided it would be safe for us, but even though I am on the pill, we still use condoms for extra security.

Over the 4 months I noticed a big change in personality, I cry a lot for no reason, get depressed for no reason. Go from being o.k. to really mad. I also have gotten a major rash all over my body, and some smaller ones. my skin has also become dry and itchy. sometimes my arm or leg feels like i have to stretch it, like it is tingly, and doesn't go away. I am tired no matter how much sleep I get, I am very irritable and anxious. I also seemed to have lost some interest in my bf all together, as well as sex.

I have a feeling it is from the pill, and I have heard of other girls having strokes, major blood clots, and mood problems from being on Yasmin and I am considering going off of it.

The thing is, is do I stay on this pill, and deal with these problems and other potential ones, or do I go off the pill, but worry about getting pregnant by just using a condom? I just don't feel like me when I am on these pills and I want to go back to my normal self. But I hate the stress of thinking something can go wrong while just using a condom. I really don't know what to do. He wants me to go off of them for the sake of my health, i'd like some opinions please!

Thank you!

I think you should go to a doctor and see if that pill isent right for you im sure its causing these side effects that you are having. Go to a doctor and see if you can find another pill that he or she would recommend. Good luck

She ask me why i like her more than a friend.

i said "i dont know i have this attraction to you and its hard to explain"

was that a good answer?

i mean it was hard to explain because it was one of those smack in the face falling for someone kinda feeling and you try to understand why u like them but you cant.

ps. f/bi/ and she doesnt feel the same way

It was alright but a better answer would have been everything and then list some stuff. Such as her eyes, things she does, her personality, the way you feel when your with her. Hope i helped best of luck

i like this guy, and he knows i do.
he walks me to my classes and stuff most of the time.
i can't really tell if he likes me.
so, if he doesn't what can i do to make him like me and stuff?

You can't make someone like you. but one thing you can do is let him know what your about don't lie no matter what. Hopefully he will like you. Best of luck

16/f. god i am so sick of this --okay, so myself and my closest friends are all eachothers pretty much close friends ("clique" --yet I hate that word) but whenever like 3 of them hang out, and I don't get invited to hang I always feel like I don't have friends. I feel like they don't like me and don't want to ask me. I know that I should ask them to hang out, but I feel like they already have plans and I don't want to be the tagalong when they already had this planned.
but it's so hypocritcal.. when I was out with my two friends, we had to lie to my other friends because they would freak out if they knew where we were .. and us three were like "its so gay how we can't do anything without like all 10 of us being invited."

but it's the fact that I just get so like depressed, I seriously feel like i have nobody. what's wrong with me.

Its the same thing with my friends im not the one 2 tag along. But i don't take it as bad as you do. What i do is just seem like i don't care if they call me to go to the movies or whatever. I actually feel that way so you basically are going to have to act like you don't. They should notice that and i know it sounds weird but ask you to hang out more.

If you don't like that then you can be the one to make the plans. Just ask them to go wherever that you wanted to or just hang out if they already have plans most likely they will ask you to go with them.
Best of luck if you have any questions don't hesitate to message me back

Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years, and I honestly do love him. It's the most serious relationship I've ever been in. We live together and everything.

Lately, though, I've kind of been having second thoughts about this whole thing. We've been fighting quite a bit (but we've always fought), and I just miss dating other people. I know it sounds mean, but I can't help it. Sometimes I think I want to be with him, and sometimes I think I don't.

Don't think it's just me being mean and everything, because he's messed up a lot, too. He's lied to me, and some girl told me she slept with him (She's known for being a liar, and he denies it, but I just don't know). The thing he lied to me about, though, was him saying he wasn't with the girl when he was, and stuff like that.

I just need some help, please. Sometimes I just feel like I'm way too deep into this relationship to leave him even if I wanted to.

You shouldent feel like you can't get out of a relationship that is going down. The 2 of you should completely trust each other and be completely honest as well. If he is lying to you especially about being with another girl he doesnt care about you as much as he did when you first started dating. It seems like his feelings are fading and yours are not. My advice is to end this relationship and find someone who's feelings won't fade. Best of luck

STD, STI. WHichever you want. This is just really a curiosity. Say if there was a situation where a girl gave a boy (too young to have expeirnece beforehand, I mean literally only just UK legal) oral sex, and to put it bluntly she "swallowed". They are both virgins, garunteed. (Don't doubt this or say there's no real way of knowing, I'm talking about a situation where there is absolute certainty). Could the boy be carrying an STD that the girl would then catch?

If it is possible he had one, if the answer to my first question was yes, (and if I had no evidence to believe he did, giving that he is a virgin, and I have no doubts in him) then what would be the chances of the girl contracting it?

I feel more comfortable with the 'he' and 'she' if you wondered. Thanks for helping :)

ya it is possible but only if 1 of his parents gave it to the other while getting pregnant to have him. But if that happened he would be in bad shape and be constantly on medication. And the chances of her getting it is very high she should go get tested. Good luck

Ok so my so my three good friends got into a HUGE fight and now they hate eachother and always ask me about the other. The fight is two against one but the one person is really to blame for the situation. But the one girl turned a lot of people against the two so now people hate them. But the fact is the one girl is a complete liar sometimes and she manipulated people to make it seem like she was right. Right now i am playin both sides of the field. I know that soon i will have to choose. It may seem like an easy choice but if remain friends with the two i am afraid that people will hate me too even though i didnt do anything. If that happens it will be us three against my high school. On the otherhand if i am friends with the liar i could be friends with her friends and not be hated. I need advice quick!

Make the right choice you know what side is right and which side is wrong. I don't know about you but id rather have 2 real and good friends then a whole high school of fake friends quality is better then quantity. Choose wisely and best of luck plus the manipulators are probably gunna back stab you sooner or later.

What does "popped the cherry" and "cunt" and "bumblef*ck" mean?

thankss

If you want to know what it means AIM me i don't want to get banned for cussing.

Hi, I'm nisma but my this is a problem of my friend,She used to hv a boyfriend but he broke up with her but she still likes him a lot and she says that he uses to say good things like"Imagine if Karla was here" but in front of her he acts mean.and she is asking that what she can do make him like her!! she loves him a lot

I don't think its possible to love someone if they don't love you back. She can really care about him but the only thing that she can do is show how much she cares about him. If she is already doing that its in his hands. But if he acts so mean around her why does she care about him so much? She needs too move on from him there is no use in trying to make someone love you if they are not atleast considerate of you. Tell your friends best of luck

I just met this guy (literally, we met last saturday at my cousin's birthday party) and already he says he likes me. My first reaction when I saw him was that he was kind of cute. So we flirted a lot throughout the party, and I kind of led him on (I'll admit, I was curious at first.) However, by the end of the day I realized that he wasn't my type. He was a little too nice, and honestly, I'm a little concerned that he started liking me so much already when we just met! Now he wants my number, and he even asked me out on a date, but I refused. I appreciate the effort and everything, and I feel a little bad for leading him on. How do I break it to him gently that I don't like him like that?

You can say that you just want to be friends. I think he will understand. If he really is a nice guy he won't pressure you about it. Good luck

14/f

Okay, so me and my 2 best friends usually have like a jealousy issue. All of us. If me and Sarah hang out, Katelyn will be jealous of it. And then always ask me to hang out with her. At lunch its torchur. I can not stand it, cause theres always gossiping and whispering going on. I just cant stand it. Sorry if this is confusing. But, i reallyyyyyy need advice on what to do to stop all the jealosy going on.

thanks
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You can hang out all together my friends are the same way. What we did was just always ask everyone if they wanted to hang out so they would have nothing to be jealous about if they couldent go. As for the gossiping part that really doesnt make sense good friends don't gossip about each other. Just make it look like you don't care about it and eventually it will stop. Best of luck

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