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Boyfriend trouble.
Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years, and I honestly do love him. It's the most serious relationship I've ever been in. We live together and everything.
Lately, though, I've kind of been having second thoughts about this whole thing. We've been fighting quite a bit (but we've always fought), and I just miss dating other people. I know it sounds mean, but I can't help it. Sometimes I think I want to be with him, and sometimes I think I don't.
Don't think it's just me being mean and everything, because he's messed up a lot, too. He's lied to me, and some girl told me she slept with him (She's known for being a liar, and he denies it, but I just don't know). The thing he lied to me about, though, was him saying he wasn't with the girl when he was, and stuff like that.
I just need some help, please. Sometimes I just feel like I'm way too deep into this relationship to leave him even if I wanted to.
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**Edit** i read your extra information, and this sounds like one of those things where you dont have proof he did it, but you have your suspicions, whatever they may be. its one of those situations where the answer to this problem could be dont jump to conlcusions, let it go. but then again, if you cant trust him and you worry about him being faithful, maybe the relationship isnt a good idea to begin with because trust and faithfulness is number 1 in a relationship.
you know your guy and you know the suspicions you have. you know him better and none of us on here know allll the details or know you guys personally. so your judgement might be the best answer here. just remember, honesty and trust in a relationship is so important.
you may use your judgement and decide to get past these cheating suspicions. if so, be sure you can trust him now, because if he is still being shady or those suspicsions are still there, its like a neverending cirlce and you will be absolutely miserable. just be sure to keep in mind you desserve a great guy, you desserve someone you can trust and communicate with, and always remember you are your own person and if things arent working out, you are strong and you will find someone better down the road.
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Dont feel trapped. You shouldnt feel tied to him, because if its like that he has the power to make you miserable knowingg you will stay with him, he iwll take advantage. i think you should talk to him about your concerns, if he really cares about you then hhe will listen and the two of you can work at it. you can also bring up the girl claiming he slept with her. tell him now is the time to completely come clean, kind of dont freak out and make him trust you so if its true he might tell you it is.
then if you hear that, maybe dumping him is for the best. as for the rest, just tell him how you are feeling. tell him you dont want to be fighting, hopefully together the two of you will try to do new activities and get back on a positive track. however, if he doesnt care, doesnt pull his share in the relationship, or if the fighting continues constantly, breaking up could be for the best
you are your own person, dont feel trapped. think about the people who have been married for 10 years + and have kids but get divorced. they pick up their life and move on, and even find someone new,etc. if this doesnt work out of course it will take time to get over him, but there will be another guy down the road.
i hope he meets you half way and is willing to communicate though
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You shouldent feel like you can't get out of a relationship that is going down. The 2 of you should completely trust each other and be completely honest as well. If he is lying to you especially about being with another girl he doesnt care about you as much as he did when you first started dating. It seems like his feelings are fading and yours are not. My advice is to end this relationship and find someone who's feelings won't fade. Best of luck
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You are never too deep. People get divorced all the time. If it isn't too late for them, it isn't too late for you.
The sad truth is that most people grow apart. Sometimes it takes weeks, sometimes it takes years. I wouldn't advise using the time you spent together as a reason for staying together. Everyone's afraid of change, but everyone has to face it sooner or later. Sometimes you just have to do it to be happier.
If you think you'd be happier with someone else, I would leave. If it's bothering you this much, then I would at least advise a break. At least spend time away from each other for awhile. It really all depends on how you feel and what you want more.
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