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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



Feel free to drop one by in my inbox and I'll tell you what to do to the of my best ability in any situation. But remember, if it doesn't seem right, then don't do it. It's only my advice, not me telling you what to do.


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Thanks.. and.. I hope I helped. =) ♥

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so here... i like this guy and idk if he likes me. I really REALLY think i could ask him out... just for the heck of it... and i want to... and i can.. i think hes friend-less... and i dont know what to do.. please oh please help me cause i am desperato and i dont know what to say when i ask him out. AHHH!

Okay. You're all paniky and that's not hott. Just, chill and ask Guy out! Talk to him on the phone or something and be like, "You know, I really like you," if you want it to be personal.. more special. If you don't give a *bleep*, then simply ask him online or have a friend do it for you. Most likely, he'll say no to Friend though...

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okay..The guy that one of my best friend used to like, but likes another guy now, but i'm not sure if she still likes him. But today, he sorta asked me out and i didn't know what to do. Cuz i don't want my friend to hate me for going out with him because she still likes him. Should i tell her and say that he asked me out and how should i do it? I rate: HELP

Okay. You're missing a key part of this. Do you even like him? You never said that you're desperately in love. You gave me this information:

1. Friend used to like Boy.
2. Friend likes Guy now.
3. Boy asked you out.
4. You don't want to disappoint Friend by going out
with Boy, even though she likes Guy.

If you like him, tell Friend that you like Boy and Boy likes you.. likes you enough to go out with. So, tell her that you'll totally say no for her sake, but you REALLY like.. maybe love ..Boy.

If you don't like him, tell Boy no and don't even bother telling Friend unless it comes up.

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I had a dream last night and it was weird because I couldnt figure out what it meant. I saw you translated other dreams and are really good at it, so here it goes:
Okay I was in this weird building and the guy I really like, Andrew, was there too. We were being split up into groups and Andrew wasn't in mine, and I just felt so seperated from him. There were all these girls with him and I felt really jealous. [On Monday I asked him out and he said I dont know, and still hasnt answered me, and everytime I see him with other girls I get jealous so I guess that's where that part of my dream came from] And then this girl came up to me and was like so you still like andrew? and I was like yeah and she like acted all shocked.. and then I woke up. I feel like it really means something but I just can't figure out what. Thanks for your help!!

Okay. So, this guy you like, Andrew was there because.. you.. like.. him. And you feel, in life, that you're always being drifted from your sweetie. You are the jealous type, obviously, and you hate when other girls are with your dude. But, the girl was shocked because she likes him too, just like you. (I see you have good taste!) She acted shocked because she was disappointed that other girl likes HER sweetie (aka YOUR sweetie).

This all leads to something.. I swear! It means your jealousy is no good because these other girls that hang with your boy are probably jealous when YOU hang out with him. So, I advise you to continue haning out with this kid, but don't expect him to be your boyfriend because.. he's a lady's man.

Sorry if that sucked.

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Ok i always have a tough time talking to guyz i like.. i always get so shy and locked up... and the thing is i get all shaky and nervas. It's so emaressing! I no they probably feel the same way but it seems so hard... what should i do?

Just make sure that your comfortable with the guy that you like. If he makes you nervous, then he's not the type for you. You should feel bright and breezy! Some tips:

Plan some things to say. Don't go too far with this though. I mean, if he brings up a topic, don't steer away from it just to bring up yours. Go with the flow.. just have a little mental list of some things to say if it gets all silent and such.

Make him do the talking. He may be a jabber! It's a great way to figure out what he's into.. then maybe you could accidentally on purpose run into him at his hangouts.

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I had a weird dream last night can you interperet it?(i saw that one dream you interpereted..)here it is:

We were at an "Advicenators Convention" and you each had a topic. And yours was telling ppl about the dangers of STD's telling them to go to their doctor and getting tested.

(that's my dream, hope you can tell me what it means!)

Ohh! Fun; I love doing this!

You were at an "Advicenators Convention" because you are feeling kind of insecure at the moment. You feel like you have issues, but you don't want to be put on the spot, so you just want general help. The reason why I was telling the dangers of STD's is because you feel like I am the one that would talk about anything if it meant helping someone out. You know that I am someone who wants everyone to be safe and happy.

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well i really like this guy, and it seems like he likes me. my friends have asked him and everything if he liked me and he always just says "i dont know." i have been really patient with this whole thing, but i really just want to go for it and ask him out. the only problem is i dont know how. if i asked him in person he might get uncomfortable because thats just how he is. i cant call him because his mom doesnt like girls calling. your advice is much appreciated!

Uh.. didn't you just ask this?

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how do you ask a guy out? i have done it many times before but this time.. hes just .. different. his mom doesnt like it when girls call his house, he barely gets online, and i just dont know if i could do it in person. i could write him a note.. but what if he shows his friends and laughs at me about it? i rate 5's if you respond quickly!

You pretty much just eliminated all options. You won't call him, you won't ask him online, you won't write him a note, and you won't ask him in person. You can't have a friend do it for you because, most likely, he'll say no. So, sorry chica, but unless you can scoop up the confidence to do it in person, you just won't be able to go out with this dude unless he makes the first move. Some tips for you: Ask him out on a group date. Something like, "Me and some of my friends are going on this huge group thingy and I was wondering if you'd like to tag along?" Another option: Figure out where he hangs and magically appear. You know.. accidentally on purpose run into him?

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See.. I like this guy. I mean I want him to like me back, but the thing is he's in all my classes and if he says no then I'd see him ever day and feel soo stupid! Also, I don't like to tell guys I likethem because I feel all embarrsed and I don't like what happens usually. What do you think I should do, I really like this guy. =] thanks!!*

If you like someone, you obviously want them to like you back.. duh. Anyway, have a friend ask him when he's by himself or something (it seems like I've said those words 1,000 times...). If you get a green light.. go for it. If not, then, just remain friends with this dude.

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How do you tell your mom/dad that you like a guy or you are going out with him?

I wouldn't tell your parents that you just like a guy because parents usually tease you about that stuff.. but if you want to, just say, "I made a new friend today. His name is ______. He's really cute...haha I like him!" LOL... I donno!

If you're going out with a guy.. talk to him on the phone and then when you get off.. be like, "OMG, Mom.. I JUST LOVE HIM! MOOOOOOOOM I HAVE A BF!" Lol... I donno I'm really messed up right now.

However,
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ok...well I don't know if you have been asked this question already but I am absolutely lost right now and I heard you are really good with this type of thing. Ok so I just got over a breakup that happened like...3 months ago or something like that and so I'm really glad. But now I think I am starting to like this other guy...but some of my friends have made fun of him and his friends are all popular and his x's are just...I just don't know how I could ever measure up. He probably doesn't even know who I am. I just need help...I don't know what to do. I don't want to hear.. "don't worry about what your friends think. its what you think that matters" becuase in the end i could end up be laughed at by my friends and thats the last thing I want to happen. I know that you might say "well if they laugh at you they probably weren't your friends in the first place" I just need to know what to do about this...and how to make my friends understand without being laughed at. please...PLEASE help.

If you like him.. discuss it with your friends. Say like, "Hey.. [his name] is SO funny all the time in [#] period. You should hear the things he says." If they respond, "Ew.. that kid is SO retarded, I hate him." Ask them why. Tell them that he really isn't all that bad. In fact, he might be pretty damn good. If you like him.. go for it. But, don't do it if your friends are totally against it. However, I think you should follow your head and not your heart in this situation. You could lose a friend to a guy who will break up with you eventually! Not worth losing friends.

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hey. I like this guy.. well I think hah. Well I mean I've never had a boyfriend [ik thats weird], but I want to like him. The thing is I really don't think he'll like me back. I don't know what to do because I really like him, but as i said I've never had a boyfriend and idk what to do! I'm not a loser or weird or anything, just no body likes me! Please Help Me!!!

Heh.. you crack me up. "[ik thats weird]" "I'm not a loser or weird".. hahaha. No, I'm just playing around. I'll answer your question now.

About never having a boyfriend.. many people in our grade haven't had one. I may not be one of them, but I bet more than half of the people in our grade haven't had a boy to call their own. Or a GIRL to call their own either. (I can't leave the boys out of this!)

How do you know he doesn't like you back? You are COMPLETELY positive that he doesn't like you? Because, you probably aren't looking hard enough. He may really like you. Ask one of your friends to ask his friend if he likes you. (Sorry if that was confusing.) The ONLY REASON why I don't want you to ask him directly yet is because you seem really REALLY unsure.

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Okay... so i like this guy.. lets say his name is.. bert.. and so well i am like... IN LOVE WITH HIM! i cant get over it... he is sooooo hot.. unpopular..(i love that in a guy) and he is super sweet. his friend.. uh.. Kermie.. said that a lot of s like him but he doesnt care about it. like 5 of my friends want me to ask him ot sooo badly.. and 3 have offered to ask him out for me. I want to, but i cant. Im afraid that what kermie said is true. and i dont want a heartbreak. but i love him. so what should i do? im thinking about switching and liking a kid named jeff... cause hes hott and sweet too..and i tried it... but i cant get over.. what did i say.. uh...... bert. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!? please help.. and answer truthfully... cause i am one of your friends. and i need your help desperately. lyl!

There's one HUGE problem with your question. You said, "a lot of s like him." I have no clue what s is. Is it girlS? Is it Sluts? Is it Super Sweet girlS? I don't know. I'm going to guess it is girls.. because that's probably the most reasonable answer. PLEASE correct me if I'm wrong by making a re-post or IMing me.

If a lot of girls like him.. then you're going to have to beat them to it! You seem desperatly in love.. so go on! Ask the boy out. Or have "Kermie" do it for you.

If you don't want heartbreak.. then just kill yourself now. (PLEASE DON'T TAKE THAT LITERALLY!) There is no way you can slip by in life without heartbreak. It happens. But, think about it. If you don't take the chance to ask him out.. then you'll be DEVISTATED because you can't get to your loved one. If he says no when you ask him out.. you'll be devistated. Either way you lose. Or maybe not...

You're only choice is to hook up with him. He'll probably say yes if you take the time and thought to ask the boy out! If Kermie does it for you... you might not get a positive response. So, why don't you look in some of my past posts on ways to ask a boy out. Alrighty?

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i like this one guy..... lets call him Zion.... heheh, well i like zion. and he likes me too. but my other friend also likes him and he also likes her too.... so me and my friend both like him and he likes both of us back. some people asked him out for me without my permission and he said no b/c he's not allowed to have a girlfriend right now. i like zion so much and i wish he only liked me. dont tell me that i have to wait or try to get his s/n or try to be above the other girl... b/c, i'm the very out going person who's not like that. i dont just go up to guys and ask for their phone and call them. i asked him for his s/n though, but he doesnt have one... i dont know what to do in this situation.... please help me.....
you know you love me,
;-)

Sorry.. but being the little innocent girl isn't going to help you much. If you're quiet, don't want to call him, he doesn't have a screen name, and you only see him sometimes in the hall.. you're not going to get anywhere. I know this isn't want you want to hear, but you have to get out there and talk to him. Sit with him at lunch one day or something. If things go well.. slip him your digits. If he doesn't call either:
1) he doesn't like the phone
2) he lost your number
3) he forgot
or most importantly...
4) he doesn't like you.

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SAMM! you know me... i injured my ankle over the presidents day weekend and it suxx butt....hole. i have track tryouts soon and the physicals are on friday... i have to wear this brace for 2 weeks and i hate it. is there anyway i can make it heal faster before tryouts?
you know you love me,
;-)

There isn't any way that I know of to make it heal faster. But, since you were on the soccer team, I'm sure that they know you are a good runner. Let the leader of the tryouts know that you are really committed and would love to be on the team. Let them know that you will be finished with the brace in two weeks and then you should be all better.

Come to the try-outs, come to the meets and help out with things they need. Be there for your team!

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my friend is in a great depression. she has wrote things about almost cutting herself... but cant... wanting to die.... thinking she's ugly.... i really want to help her... but i dont know how. everyone tells her that she is beautiful, has the best personality, and everyone loves her... so why does she need a guy, and she hears this every time she reaches for help, but she hears it over and over again, but she needs to hear more. she decides that the truth is not what she wants to hear and just keeps doing what she does. i want to give her the biggist hugg, and just let her cry and cry inn my arms and to let everything just pour out of her.... but its hard for me to see her like this everyday. please. i really want to help and dont tell me thats she past the point of reason cuz theres always a silver lining. i need help to help her. thanx
*just wanna help her*

Okay, about the whole cutting thing.. this girl needs HELP! Seriously, if she is attempting at cutting herself and letting people know about it.. THIS IS A CRY FOR HELP! This is the biggest sign of all that I know of. She may need help more than I can.. or you can. She needs SERIOUS help.

She may be beautiful.. but can't see it. It's really hard for people to bring out the good and see the silver lining. When she sees herself in the mirror she probably picks out all of the horrible things that nobody even notices. But, she does. As many times you tell her that she is pretty, she's not going to see it.. temporarily. Continue telling her this, but she may not soak it in for awhile. It may take her months.. years. However, any compliments that she gets will be much appreciated in the long run. Make her feel loved.

As far as I can see though, you do make her feel great. But, it may not be enough for her at the moment. DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO MAKE HER HAPPY EVERY SECOND EVERY DAY! It is impossible.. it can't be done. It can NOT be done. Just do as much as you can.. without being stalker-like. While depressed people like to be talked to.. they do NOT like to be bombarded. Keep this in mind.

I really truly..
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P.S. I am almost positive that this is about me. I tried as hard as I could to answer in the third person. Sorry if I slipped. And.....thank you.

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hey.. okay just to let you know i like your colum thing.. i think you give good advice.. but anyway.. i have been going out with my boyfriend for about a month.. and one of my friends keeps on saying that everyone thinks we should break up, that we look bad together, and that i just said yes to him when he asked me out because i just wanted a boyfriend.. and i really do love him.. like really.. and it just really annoys me that like people think that.. and i also don't know if people really do think that.. i have a feeling that she likes him and she just wants me to break up with him... ughh this sucks soo much.. okay im sorry thanks sammy!! ilu

First of all, thank you and no need to be sorry.

Okay, now for advice time! *Warm-up stretches* Okay.. seriously.. I'm good now.

Now, if you are happy with your boyfriend.. everyone shouldn't matter at all. I realize that this is your friend's opinion and that affects your way of thinking, but ignore it. You are affectionate towards your boyfriend (try not to throw around the word love) and he is affectionate towards you and your friend is in the way.

So, tell her this: "_____ and I are happy. Why do you and some others keep convincing me to break up with him? When this is said to me, it, it really upsets me. And then I'm no longer happy. I wish that everyone could be supportive of this boy that I really care about. Do you know the reasoning of why people are being so ignorant to my feelings and what makes me happy?" Try not to use the word "you" alot. As you can see, what I told you to tell your friend didn't use the word "you" more than once. It makes the person feel less targeted... clearing up any opertunities for a cat-fight.

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Hi, I am in 7th grade and i need help. My three best friends and I have sat at the same table at lunch for a year and a half. Then this one person split us up, now they barely talk to me. I feel really left out. I have tried talking to them but they just kinda blow me off. What should I do?

Okay.. I know who this is and I know it involves me. But, I'll ignore that fact for now and just tell you what one should do in this situation.

The person that split you up probably is not aware of what she is doing. You should talk to her, or make friends with her! I mean, if you make friends with your friends' new friend.. then you will probably be more included in their hangouts, outings, and parties.

If that is a complete no-no, you should be there for your friends.. even though you might feel like they aren't going to include you. Sit with them at lunch. Make plans with them. Talk to them in the halls. Call them up just for fun. There is TONS you can do to make sure that you guys remain best friends!
If they don't respond to your efforts, then I'm sorry to say that you might just have to leave them. Also, one friend might be more loyal to the other. If that happens, don't feel like you have to stay friends with both of them. It's better to have one trustworthy friend than two friends-one nice, the other miserable.

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My brother in law is living with me and my husband.
I don't mind that he's staying in our house. What I can't stand is that he is messy. He'll go into the kitchen and get something to eat and not put it away. He'll get a glass of juice and not wash his glass. Not only does he not wash it, but he leaves it on the kitchen table for me to do it.

What do you suggest I do?

Okay.. this is just my personal opinion and mischievous idea.. but I think that you should get all of the stuff that he leaves out and stuff it inside of his bed. It'd be hilarious!

No, I'm just kidding. But if you do try that, please tell me how it works out for you!!! Anyway, when he leaves stuff out and you're in the room, then say in a I'm - kidding - around - but - if - you - keep - it - up - I'm - gonna - kill - you voice, "Hey you.. CLEAN THAT UP! I mean, it's not fair that I am stuck doing this all of the time. I don't mind you being in the house and all, but I would be very appreciative if you would just clean up after yourself."

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There is this guy I like and 2 of my friends like him too. I was thinking about making a move on him. (Like writeing a note and telling him how i feel and stuff.) Is it wrong to make a move on a guy i know my friends like?

You might want to run this over with your friends. This is kind of unfair to your friends because you know that they like him, but you're going to ask him anyway. It's like stealing him away. Plus, you won't be able to have group dates with your friends and him IF you two go out. The risk might not be worth it.

But if your friends give you the okay, (a solid confident one.. not an "I guess...") then go for it!

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I auditioned for drama and I am only a townsperson. I was so confident cause all mi friends were like "you will get the best part". Were they lying to make me feel better?

Hey.. being a townsperson isn't that bad! I was a townsperson last year for my school production and I must say that I had a blast! I mean, you could've been great, but maybe you just don't fit the part. You might look and act weird with the other actors. Or maybe you're a wonderful actor, but you're singing voice isn't all that great. You should go to an acting camp or class this summer and they'll tell you what you need to work on.

I've got to more things to say. Number one, you're friends probably thought that you were great because otherwise they wouldn't have said anything to you. And number two, DON'T QUIT THE PLAY JUST BECAUSE YOU DIDN'T GET THE PART THAT YOU WANTED TO! My friends are all doing that this year and it shows that you're not dedicated to the production, you just want the spotlight. No pun intended. ;)

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