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Brother In Law
My brother in law is living with me and my husband.
I don't mind that he's staying in our house. What I can't stand is that he is messy. He'll go into the kitchen and get something to eat and not put it away. He'll get a glass of juice and not wash his glass. Not only does he not wash it, but he leaves it on the kitchen table for me to do it.
What do you suggest I do?
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well men are like that just talk to him about it
and if he doesnt argree and start helping around the house tell him he has to move ou if he doesnt start pulling his weight
roxie
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definitley sit him down and discuss the whole matter. tell him where both you and he stand in terms of your home. dont come across to hostile though, and instead approach it in a calm but stern way. get the point across clearly, so he knows exactly what you're speaking of. good luck!
-Jenny
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have your husband talk to him.
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flip out on him. it's your house.. your doing him a favor by letting him life there.. so tell him that if he doesn't start cleaning up then you are going to kick him out! good luck!
♥ Katie
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just say to him.. "could you wash out your glass from now on"
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Okay.. this is just my personal opinion and mischievous idea.. but I think that you should get all of the stuff that he leaves out and stuff it inside of his bed. It'd be hilarious!
No, I'm just kidding. But if you do try that, please tell me how it works out for you!!! Anyway, when he leaves stuff out and you're in the room, then say in a I'm - kidding - around - but - if - you - keep - it - up - I'm - gonna - kill - you voice, "Hey you.. CLEAN THAT UP! I mean, it's not fair that I am stuck doing this all of the time. I don't mind you being in the house and all, but I would be very appreciative if you would just clean up after yourself."
Hope I helped.. fill me in on what happens!
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confront him. or better yet confront your husband. tell your husband that his brother cant stay at your house unless he learns to clean up after himself. just say it in the nicest poossible way and add that you dont want it to come between your relationship so you better figure it out before it does. good luck!
~ANGE
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You need to talk to your brother-in-law and tell him that you can't be his maid by cleaning up after him. Tell him that he needs to start being more responsible by cleaning up his mess when he is done eating and/or drinking. Since he is living with you, he should listen to you and be greatful that you let him stay with you but he should clean up after himself. Also, if you see him eating or drinking something in the kitchen, tell him that he needs to clean up after he is done. Once you start to do that more often, he'll get used to it. Hope I helped :)
-Karen
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Girl, you need to do some busting up...you need to lay down the law. ok ok maybe a bit drastic. but you need to remember, this is Your house, Your space - both you and your husband.
The last thing youd want to do is cause issues, so i suggest a little chat with you husband about the cleanliness in the house, and see what he thinks about it. cleanliness is next to godliness! your husband should know what to do next hun!
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sit him and your husband down and tell them how you feel. it things do not get better, tell your husband he needs to do something about or that he needs to go.
~*Sarah*~
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I think you should just set down some laws. Tell him that although he's a grown man, if hes going to be living with you guys he has to do some stuff. Give him a few "rules" that he has to abide. But dont go over it... like my school does lol. hope i helped ya!
<.::~*~ SuGa HiGh ~*~::.>
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tell your husband how you feel about his brother being such a slob, and ask his brother politely to clean up after himself because you are not going to let someone make you clean something up that is not yours to clean up it isnt fair for you.
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Clean up your mess and your mess only - and tell your husband to do the same. It'll get pretty messy, but it should get the message across to your brother in law that he has to tidy up himself or no-one else will!!
If that doesn't work, tell him to start being tidier - at least out of his own room (if he has one) or he'll have to go. You don't have to mean it, but it's a threat that might make him do something, lol!
Make sure you talk it all through with your husband before you do anything though, just in case he gets offended...after all, messy or no, this guy is his brother.
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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I've dealt with people like him before.Even if he's your brother in law, you have to tell him that you don't appreciate him doing what he's doing. Don't be too hard on him, like making him do dishes every night or giving him chores, but tell him about it, then see if he's trying to improve.
If he isn't, then is the time for you to be more strict. Sit and have a talk with your husband. You two will work something out. Hope I helped you any, and good luck!:D
*Diamyn*
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Tell him your not his maid or mother. If he wants to continue living under your roof, the least he could do is pick up after himself, and even help with the housework.
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