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Hey, My name is Ryan, And I will be your shrink for the day, I have 18 years of life experience, trust me I have been through it all, loss, births (no I didnt give birth silly), Parents divorce, my own bad relationships, I have fixed heaps of relationships, basically, I'm the one who will lay it out straight! if you dont want the answers everyone seems to give like those stupid answers that never really help, then come to me, I condone the realists approach, the ways that REALLY work :D so ask me about ANYTHING..

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Hey, i think i can write this here, do any of you guys know a good website to download MSN Messenger 7 from? All my friends got it from all these different places, and their laptops have all slowed down. But chatting is a crucial part of a teenagers life, and i need to get the latest version!! HELP!!!

its only a beta verstion which i why there are so many problems.. i just searched it on microsoft and got it straight from the source.. it isnt very good.. im using Windows Messenger again :P

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there is this boy in my class who came here in the middle of the year. and now he thinks he owns it. its really annoying!! he thinks he is cute and always brags. but he wears the same pants for like three days straight. its kinda nasty. he smells funny too. but the thing is. he makes fun of everyone, but he doesn't really have any room to talk. what should we do.

confused classmates. ( 9th graders )

id say repay the favour.. the only way a guy like that will ever learn if you are rude to him.. make fun of him.. spray him with girly deoderant.. and if he asks why ur being so mean.. the explain to him that that is what it has felt like to be you for the past 6 months :P

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I am 17, 5'11' and 103lbs. I ont know what to do. I need to gain weight. I was just wondering if anyone could recommend anything for me. I am so skinny its disguting. Help Please!

well.. try going on a high energy diet.. eat foods with high glicemic rates (releases the energy fast) and do little exercise ie walking.. and the energy will turn into fat.. it could take anywhere from 1 month to 6 months.. but yea.. hope this helps

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do you think its better to fit in and go agianst yur own beliefs OR to be a little ""less popular"" and do what you want to do? i am stuck in between.

the less friends you have.. the better friends you have.. if you have lots of friends.. chances are they arent very good.. the ties you have between lots of friends become weaker.. if you have few friends then the ties are stronger because you have less people to tether yourself too..

so say you have 10 peices of string..
popular person may have 50 people to tie that string too.. put that string under pressure it breaks.. if you have about 5 - 15 people.. there is less tension.. and there is more pressure you can put on the string without it breaking.. think about this..

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hey ok im on a diet and im afrid that if i lose to much weight i will look funny!! and i dont want my boobs to shrink or anything. and this is only the first day of it and its goin pretty good but im scared that soon ill get sick of it and quit i dont know what to do can someone please give me suggestions on ways to like stay on my diet thank * i rate *

have interestin foods.. make sure you exercise heaps.. if you want to loose weight then walk for half an hour everyday without fail.. eat healthy.. not too healthy.. no softdrink or cordial.. just water.. at least 8 liters a day.. im on this diet.. yes im a guy.. but this is what my personal trainer tells me.. umm.. so like no chips.. try and stay away from carbs and have no more than 10 calories a day.. hope this helps

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guys always use me and then dump me! i am sick of it, i can never have a real relatioship! they just like my looks! what should i do? its not like i give them any sometimes only

umm.. drop a piano on urself? make urself less sexy.. dont wear slutty clothes all of those things can make a difference.. dont brush ur hair.. dont wear makeup.. eat greasy foods... then you will end up with someone who truly loves you... oh... and you may also be shallow.. has anyone who is not hot.. or good looking ever asked you out? coz those are the ones who love you for who you are!

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My best friend has OCD... and she reminds me of it like 24/7. Whenever she leaves the house she asks like over and over if she left sumthin on and such. I keep reminding her that OCD is just that she is detailed and stuff like that (my parents are both doctors and explained it). It's driving me NUTS! help! what do I do?

tell her to shut up coz she is a moron.. and OCD is where you must do something... like somepeople must be clean.. its an obsession.. like gamblers or alcoholics.. its an obsession.. thats all .. its something you can get over.. like i have an OCD.. its revving my car when i get in and start it.. i just cant not do it.. its like i must do it or something will go wrong..

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i have this one friend that i have know since 2nd grade i i really like him but the problem is i dont see him anymore beacuse he moved schools. All my friends make fun of me becasue i still like him and that he is kinda weird i still like him and really want to talk to him but even if i did i wouldnt know what to say thank you if you help me and thanks for just looking

well what grade are you in now? that kind of info might help.. but there is nothing wrong with still liking him.. its perfectly normal.. the heart wants what the heart wants.. just talk to him.. u no.. say hi.. ask him how he is.. and gradually move into it :P

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I have this boyfriend, he's 17 and I'm 14. My boyfriend's home situation and law situation aren't too good. He has outworn his welcome at my house because of my dad. My dad has tried to convince both of us to break up with eachother. How do I tell my father that I'm being responsible and love my boyfriend and age doesn't matter? Or is he right?
signed,
in need of help.

he isnt right.. if you love each other enough then thats all that matters.. nothing else matters but you and him.. and if your father tries to seperate you then he musnt be very supportive... just try and convince your father that no matter what he does or says.. you will always be with him.. even if you need to sneak out to see him.. he cant stop you.. and eventually he will wear in and come to accept him.. well he should anyway.. otherwise hell just beat you and you send him to jail.. either way works fine :P

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Well i am in 7th grade and my bestfriend is moving to West Varginia and i just met her at the beginning of the year and now she is moving at the end of january and i am gonna take it very hard because we are like bestfriends soooooooo what should i give her and tell her b4 she leaves??????? Need Help Fast!!!!!!!!! Thanx
oxoxoxo,
C.S.

phone numbers.. addresses.. email.. just keep in contact! im sure your parents will take you to see her sometimes.. but trust me.. itll all work out fine!!

when i was in 6th grade i lost my best friend.. she moved away.. now im 17 and out of school and i have caught up with her this year and we are really close now :P these things have a funnny way of working themslevs out

by the way.. im male :P

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Hey does anyone know how to get rid of viruses that replicate everytime you destroy it?? should i just get a new PC or wat??

no.. just reformat.. its the easiest way.. you should also monitor the website you are looking at.. ie NO PORNO's :P sucks i know but still.. also delete all temp internet files, and cookies.. hope this helps :)

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Hey everyone. I was wondering what YOU think is cute to paint or re-arrange your room, because my room has no windows and its always so dark and depressing down there and i was just wondering if you had any ideas to spice it up a bit at low costs? i will rate for effort.

well.. no.1 get urself some secondhand storage.. thats normally pretty cheep if you know some rellies.. as for the dark and depressing.. put in some light colors greens.. pinks.. yellows... and some neon lights will help heaps.. but they can sometimes be quiet expensive.. but yeah maybe paint your walls a nice bright color..

a couple lava lamps can really spice a room up.. maybe one of the wax ones in one corner.. and a glitter one in the other.. what you think? i got my nephew (11months) a lava lamp for christmas coz he likes bright colors and movement and i picked it up for AUD$25

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ok so you met this guy and you like fell in love with him and he liked you for awhile but he lives in a different city and you talk to him all the time and you see him occasionally but then he starts liking this other girl who is a slut and your still like in love w/ him and you cant get over him even though you have tried.and then you thought you were finally over him and then you saw him for a weekend and fell for him again and that is what happens everytime you see him. what do i do?

shut him out of your mind.. if he starts liking another girl he aint worth your time full stop! dont see him ever again.. tell him you dont want to know him :P then you are free to forget about him.. also try and find another guy a "Rebound Guy" and just use him till your over the other guy.. although youll lose respect.. im a guy so you know... i have done this once or twice but i dunno if gals do it :P but good luck

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How do you REALLY make out.... I need to know...and dont say "oh its easy theres really no way to explain it just go for it...go with the flow" thats stupid and doenst help... say what you actually do...i need help!!!!!

lol, I know how you feel.. the first time I made out with someone (in my case a girl as I'm a guy) was in year 8.. i had no idea what to do.. but as the time came.. it just sort of happend naturally.. beleive me youll know what to do.. its an instinct..

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22f
I was in an intense relationship with a pretty disturbed guy for 3 months. He frequently encouraged me to kill myself and was pretty abusive. I don't want to see him again but I still have his jumper and want to return it as I don't like it around and don't want to throw it out(it would give him a reason to contact me again, I've tried to sever all contact) --the only mutual friend we have is his ex and I never told her I was seeing him.
I would send it to him but he's moving house...any suggestions?

the best thing to do is put it away somewhere.. like in an attic.. or closet.. or somewhere you wont think about it or see it.. if he doesnt contact you about it within 3 monts.. then its safe to throw it away :)

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