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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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Hey,okay this might sound really pathetic, but recently I was talking to this guy who is friends with a guy I kissed randomly at a night club before.
The guy i was talking to told me what the guy i kissed said about it he said "it was shit"
so now im really worried that i could be a bad kisser..! I havnt had anyone say anything before as far as i know i dont use too much tounge or bite or do a washing machine on it and i put alot into it. what else could i be doing wrong?
should i be worried? or could it be just the guy saying this in spite because now were not really friends. it has me feeling kinda self concious! and the next time i kiss someone it will be at the back of my mind. anyone any advice?!

He's a loser and you shouldn't kiss random guys at night clubs. Find someone you actually like the next time you kiss someone...

xoxo,
dottie4

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ok so the other morning I was texting my boyfriend. this was our convo.
me:hey
him:hey
me:can I ask a question.nd u gota be honest
him:ya.
me:are you going to or thought about breaking up with me?
him:no. y?
me:im just askng cuz I don't want you to.and it always seems like im making you mad and I just want to make you happy like you make me.
him: ..I thnk that's just called a lil love.

my question.. wat dus he mean by that last line? my friend sed maybe its his way of sayng he loves me. bt it kinda dusnt sound lke it. but I don't know. please help. thankyou in advance

If you keep acting like that, he will break up with you, so stop it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Well, I'm 14/f and I just started going out with this AMAZING guy a couple days before Christmas. So we've only been going out for about 2 weeks or so. Already, I feel this strange connection to him that I haven't felt towards any other guy. I like him a lot...enough to call it love. So I love him, but I'm not IN love with him. Well it's weird, because no matter how much I want to see him again and just hear his voice, every once in a while I just find myself not answering his call or text just because. I mean, this doesn't happen all the time, but every now and then I'll just look at the caller Id and just not pick it up :/ Is this normal? I mean, I love him to death, but sometimes I just feel like some down time... does anyone else feel like this? Thanks!

Yes it is fine. You have your own life too besides him. I do the same thing.

xoxo,
dottie4

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14/f

Ok I have this boyfriend and we just started going out. We haven't held hands or anything yet. We sit by each other and if we do hold hands I'm kinda afraid too because I get so nervous and my hands get all sweaty...its not like really bad but its only cause I'm nervous. Its kinda gross to me but it could be worse. Is there anything I can do about this? I get more comfortable after awhile but my hands still are a little sweaty. Please help. Thanks!

I'm sure it really wouldn't bother him that much. Just tell him how you feel, and I'm sure he's worried about the same thing. If it's that big of a deal, just let him put his arm around you.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Weirdest question that will probably ever be asked on here.... but does Tom from Myspace have a Facebook? haha. And wouldn't that be like... I don't know. Lol. Thanks.

If it's that important just search for him

xoxo,
dottie4

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Where can I get cheap uggs (I want short gray ones) or ugg look-a-likes? (I don't have an issue with any other brands, but some of them just look so different its awkard)

Payless
Walmart
Internet

xoxo,
dottie4

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well this kid i know snorts oxycotin, and i really dont know about that drug. can he die from it?

It's a pain killer that is a form of heroin.

Yes he can die if he overdoeses on it. I would report it.

xoxo.
dottie4

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Ok. I'm sorry if I make this akward but my boyfriend, nathan, sometimes pressures me into things I don't really want to do. I really love him and I have never felt this way about anyone. I don't want to break up with him but he pressured me into having sex in his friends house and now I feel like a slut. He males me feel that way sometimes and everything is always bout sex. He loves me and he cares slot bout me but idk what to do! Someone please help me!!! I'm a girl and I'm 13

That's very common for your age. To feel pressured to do things that you don't want to do. And no, your not a slut so quit being so down on yourself. Tell him how much it really bothers you and if it continues, get rid of him. You deserve a lot better.

xoxo,
dottie4

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17/f

I feel a way I shouldn't: my friends are annoying and boring. Perhaps I don't deserve to have friends if I continue thinking like this. I have really had enough of them though. I enjoy being a leader but they have really begun to follow my every move and I cannot get away from them. How do I fix this? Thanks.

You probably think that way because they are. I would just get some new friends in that case. First I would tell them how you feel that you and why you find them annoying and boring. And yes, them following everything you do would be annoying. Tell them you want them to be there selves. You like them for them.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so i have this friend 'jane'
&&her mom does && does && does for her.
she does everythinq she says.
i mean i quess you could call her mom a sort of 'push over?'
then my friend [13years old) starts screaminq && pouts.
im like wtf dude?
i tell her to chill out ; butt she acts like thats okay for a thirteen year old qirl to do.
its almost like when you see a qirl in a movie yell at her mom.
she trys that butt she looks ridiculous.

what do i tell her so she can stop makinq a complete fool of her ; her mom ; && me in public?

Tell her that your going to quit hanging out with her if she acts that way in front of you. Tell her you don't care if she does it if your not around but that you don't like it because it's disrespectful and she looks like a baby.

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dottie4

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1 where is the original book "the diary of anne frank"?

2 if anne franks father published it does that mean that he didnt die before her? where was he?

3 how come her nationality was german but she was jewish, sorry im new to this i dont get stuff..
I THOUGHT GERMANS HATED JEWS. SORRY if i offend anyone im just interested in learning these stuff

thanks.

Google it.

Again google it.

GOOGLE IT!

xoxo,
dottie4

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okay. well every qirl has her 'insecurities.'
butt mine makes me SOOOO self concious. [sp?]
butt my boobs are completly different sizes.
my right one like a full B.
&&my left on is like a full A or a small B.
1; will it eventually even out? or will it always be like that?
2; how noticacle is it to others?
3; are there any ways to make me stop carinq SOMUCH?

please&&thankyou.

That is common. And yes it probably will even out, but so what if it doesn't? It makes you unique. Nobody is perfect. Your imperfections make you you. It probably isn't noticeable to others. Everybody notices things wrong with themselves. If your that self councoious about it get a padded bra or stuff the other side, but I'm sure your making a bigger deal out of it then it is. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hi ive been having this brown discharged an i havent ever had my period and now theres a little bit of blood is this the start of my period? And im not sexually active

by the way im 13!

Thx in advance

That is your period. When you first start the first day it is like that. It is normal and you have nothing to worry about. Most people start their period when they are in their preteens (12-14 years old.) You need to get some pads or tampons.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i was supposed to get my period a week ago. i have been spotting for the past 3 days and then it all just stopped. i was wondering if it is possible that im pregnant.

If your having sex, yes you can be pregnant. It is common even for pregnant women to bleed a little when they are first pregnant.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hello, I missed my period for last month and I don't know why. I have a steady boyfriend but we haven't had sex, he has fingered me though, only once this month,and that was after I was already late. But when we do those things I always go first and then I do him second, with my pants on and wash my hands.
I'm responsible for my actions and the dangers. I just don't understand, it does not seem possible, it seems more possible that I got pregnant from a toilet seat than my own boyfriend.
I had messed up my month of birth control, so I only took like a weeks worth. Could that have done something to my cycle? I am also stressed with school.
Is there any other reasons I could have missed my period?

You could be late because you are so stressed out about thinking your pregnant. And yes, taking so many of the birth control pills at one time can mess it up. And no your pregnant unless semen got into your vagina.

xoxo,
dottie4

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where can i find a CHEAP faux leopard fur coat?

Some places I would check are Target, Walmart, Kmart, or Burlington Coat Factory.

And if you can't find it at any of those places check on the internet.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my boyfriend used to finger me for how many times, ang im wondering if im still virgin? am i?

Yes you are still a virgin until a penis enters your vagina.

xoxo,
dottie4

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do you guys prefer all the hair "down there" shaved off or just leave it alone? share your thoughts please.

thanks! :)

I really don't think it matters. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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I'm 26. For ages I've stayed a virgin for a number of reasons, but finally I decided I wanted to sleep with a guy I just started seeing. He knew I was a virgin and after only seeing each other a few times we had sex. He's been really sweet. However, I got out of a bad relationship a few months ago and was really hurt emotionally. I'd made a mental pact to date more than one guy once I started dating again, just for my own self-preservation. So now that I am dating again, there are a few guys that have asked me out. I'm interested to date 3 guys at once, but have to wonder, now that I'm sleeping with one (using protection and on birth control), what if I want to sleep with the other two guys? Would that make me a slut?

No definitely not. Your old enough that you can take responsibility for yourself, and you are using protection so I think it's fine. Just be careful because you might get your heart broken again. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Okay so me and my boyfriend have decided to start having sex. I'm only fifteen and me and him arent even allowed in my room so my mom deffinitly cant know. At the health dep. here if youre under eighteen they will give you free birth control. But my mom might know because i always start the day after her. Can I start taking birth control at a certain day so it will still be the same?

First of all I find it very good that you are taking so much responsibility. Especially at so young of an age. Anyways generally you should start at the beginning of the month. Take it at the same time each day. There's usually a fourth week which is at the end of the month that should come with the birth control packet you get. Your period will be some where in the beginning of the last week of the month. However you will probably want to wait at least a month before you have sex to make sure the birth control has kicked in. However, no it won't be on the same day as you have it now. Hope I helped.

xoxo,
dottie4

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