♥[?]♥ I have really short arms, so they look fatter than other people's arms. I really hate it -I work out alot and I'm in shape, muscular everywhere, including my upepr amrs. They are just so short that no matter what - they look fat! How can I make it so my short arms look normal - not fat? I eat well and I am a perfect weight, I don't eat junk food and I have a extremely healthy diet, so dieting won't really make a difference. Is there anthing I can do?!
Not Really, Kiddo. I mean, it seems you've alReady tRied all of the appRopRiate steps, an unfoRtunately nothing appeaRs to be woRking. SoRRie this isn't the answeR you wanted, tRuth is.. I just don't see much that can be done =/
♥[?]♥ thers this gy who lives next door ive seen him twice weve made eye contact once and i don't no him and i feel like im in love with him? how do i meet him without sounding like a complete idiot? what do i say? pleeze help me ill rate high.
he lives next door and im becomeing obssesed with watching for him to pull up in his car and hes skatebordes.
thanks so much 8 )
It's NOT 'love'
..betcha a beeR on that..
It's just a common infatuation. WheRe do you watch foR him?? Out youR window??? Why not tRying hanging aRound out fRont. That way, when he passes by, you can wave. OR if you INSIST that waving will make you look like a doofus, flip youR head up like a 'cool' kid.
Why don't you tRy asking him to come along bowling oR out to dinneR one night with some fRiends of youRs?? I'm shoRe he'd appReciate an invitation like that. And if you'Re scaRed it may seem like you'Re asking him on a 'date', then say it hypeR-sounding, and even with a fRiend oR two standing next to you. Just be polite and smile.. I'm shoRe you'll do fine.
Go get 'em, TigeR!! :P
♥[?]♥ i am 14 years old and i have masterbated quiet a few times. I was wondering......i have not had my period for 6 monthes now and wanted to know if my masterbating could have effected that? also i wanted to know if a gynocologist can tell if you have masterbated? because i do not want my mother to now! please help me!
I seveRely doubt mastuRbation had anything to do with the absence of youR peRiod. Though, if you HAVE ALREADY staRted youR cycle.. and you've missed it foR six months now.. you should see someone about that. Is that WHY you'Re going to the Gynocoligist?? And she will not be able to tell whetheR you've been mastuRbating oR not. :)
I was wondering if masturbation is the same as sex?
thanks
THEY'RE COMPLETELY DIFFERENT!
I think this might be betteR off if left to the dictionaRy.....
MASTURBATION:
"Stimulation of one's own genitals and body parts to achieve sexual pleasure. It may or may not result in an orgasm."
Taken fRom:
- http://www.ifsha.org/glossary.htm
Basically what that's saying is.. mastuRbation is when you touch youR OWN 'pRivate paRts'.
SEXUAL INTERCOURSE [SEX]:
"Sexual act during which the penis is inserted into the partner's vagina"
Taken fRom:
- http://www.ifsha.org/glossary.htm
Basiscally.. that's selfexplanatoRy.
Hopefully that clarifies!! :P
♥[?]♥ hey I posted this question.. but id really like you to answer it
There is this absolute gorgeous guy who I have somewhat of a crush on. My friends and I just started hanging out with him a few times this summer. He was flirting with one of my friends at a party. I was talking to him on IM that night, and we were flirting alot. He asked me when we were going to hook up. I told him only if hes not hooking up with other girls, and he said no only you. A few nights before he told me he wanted to hook up, he slept with this one girl. They didn't have sex, they just slept together. I don't want to go out with him, and I know this won't be anything serious, but I'm scard that if I hook up with him, I might get involved, and end up with a broken heart. I've never hooked up with a guy before, and this is the only guy I would ever want to. What do i do?
Okay, so I believe you'Re talking soley about a "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" Relationship, since you have no desiRe to become Romanticly involved, yes??
And a "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" Relationship is when two people whom aRe *NOT* cuRRently in a Relationship with one anotheR engage in sexual activities on a RegulaR basis, which I'm shoRe you alReady knew.
FRom *MY* expeRience.. if BOTH paRtneRs feel nothing moRe than fRiendship foR the otheR peRson, theRe shouldn't be much of a pRoblem with this situation.
HOWEVER, it is when ONE, and only ONE, paRtneR staRts to develop feelings foR the otheR due to the message that sexual activities would NORMALLY send that it becomes messy and huRtful, ya know?? SOOOO.. to avoid this situation.... avoid "fRiends with benefits" Relationships!!!
NOW, *I HAVE* been in a "fRiends with benefits" Relationship befoRe... and judging on what I just said.. WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENED????
Yes, I fell foR the guy. I completely LOVED the attention and feelings I got fRom him. Then, I began to cRave moRe. It got to the point wheRe I was unshoRe if it was **HIM** I wanted.. --OR-- if it was just 'THAT' kind of attention that I just so happened to NOT be getting anywheRe else at the time, you see?? LUCKILY FOR ME.. he felt just as I did about it all [but it does NOT always woRk out that way, you MUST undeRstand this!!]. We weRe in the midst of "taking ouR Relationship to the next level" when I discoveRed I was moving acRoss countRy. FRom then on, we just soRt of dRopped it all, and it was neveR bRought up again. END RESULT??? HEARTACHE!
That's pRettie much all you'Re doing.. setting youRself up foR heaRtache. HoweveR, if YOU feel it's woRth it foR a night of fun and passion eveRy once in a while... only YOU can decide that.
If this is something you STILL decide to do, and theRe's absolutely NOOO shame in that, as *I* see it... make shoRe you'Re educated on the matteR. Judging fRom youR question, I'm going to assume you've been sexually active in the past. But eitheR way... being sexual active is SERIOUS decision; a decision with many possible consequences [STD's, AIDS, pRegnancy]. DO NOT Risk this unless you'Re Ready to face up to them.
Just please... be wise.. and be caReful.
Know that I'm always heRe if you eveR need to talk to someone.
♥[?]♥ does anyone know any music sites that actually have WORKING urls because i'm guessing this one server is down or something and all the song uploaded into there doesn't work. I want music urls that work or websites like xanga, myspace etc. thanks in advance.
♥[?]♥ ok heres the deal, i'm 15 years old and i've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. We've done basically every thing a boy and a girl can do..except for sex. He asked me if i wanted to and i said i'd have to think about it..do you think i'm too young? i can't decided..! help please
love brittany
Heyyy BRittany!!
FoR staRteRs.. aRe you "too young" foR sex?? *I* couldn't Really answeR that. I don't think theRe is an APPROPRIATE age, EXACTLY. I view it as a matuRity thing. The way I view.. BRittany can have sex when BRittany can SUPPORT A CHILD!!!!! At 15.. I'm just going to assume that is something you can not do on youR own, coRRect?? TheRefoRe.. *I*, peRsonally, view sex foR BRittany NOT a good choice at this moment.
You'Re still in school, aRen't you?? You'Re still a baby youRself. You have youR ENTIRE life ahead of you. You have youR ENTIRE life to engage in sexual inteRcouRse, and have a family; don't jump the gun. Enjoy being a child WHILE YOU STILL CAN.
But what exactly is the big huRRie??? Do you feel you aRe Really tRuly 100% IN LOVE with this guy??? If not, DON'T do it. If so, then won't he ALWAYS be theRe??? Won't you ALWAYS be togetheR??? So why must you Risk youR ENTIRE lives foR one oR a few nights of passion and Romance?? NOT WORTH it. And theRe's PLENTY of way to spend a Romantic evening togetheR WITHOUT having sex...
But I know I can't make up youR mind foR you, so if you feel this is something you *MUST* do, just be wise about it. Use condoms. StaRt biRth contRol. "Pull out". Educate youRselves of the NUMEROUS STD's out theRe, and be pRepaRed foR possible pRegnancy. And if you think the Risks aRe slim to none the fiRst time.. let me tell you.. I've seen **NUMEROUS** giRls thRoughout my life pRegnant theiR fiRst time aRound.....
Just be cautious and know that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!!!
Feel fRee to come back to me ANYTIME you need me; I'm ALWAYS heRe to lend my suppoRt and opinions. ♥ ♥
♥[?]♥ okay...im 13/f. i excercise a lot, i play: softball, basketball, and volleyball. I go to the gym around 3 times a week atleast. im 5'3". What should my ideal weight be? (i weigh about 117 now.)
PERFECT as you aRe, actually! :P
♥ Mackenzie!!!
♥[?]♥ how do you add people to your favorite list?
It will be eitheR at the TOP oR LEFT oR RIGHT side of theiR page, which you must visit. You click on the link that will eitheR say "MAKE FAVORITE COLUMNIST", "MAKE FAVORITE", oR "ADD AS FRIEND"
Hope this helps!! :D
♥[?]♥ I've heard and read about this thing called JAMA. I've only heard asians talk about it. What is this JAMA thing?
Hmm. Could it be the caR manufactuReRs?? I honestly have no clue, but that's the only thing I can think of:
http://www.jama.ca/
http://www.jama.org/
Hope.. this.. helps?? :P
♥[?]♥ (i'm 14/F and so is the guy)
This guy i met earlier this year (he went on a school trip to Paris that i went on too) , asked me to dance at the end of the school year dance, and so we danced three times. in the days following he and i talked on the phone and my friends kept telling me that "you like him so much" and "you two are so gonna go out." well sure enough he asked me out. I wasn't sure if i really liked him... but i said yes. a couple days after he went to San Diego, and i went to summer camp so i didnt see him for about 2 weeks. the first week i talked to him on the phone, but our conversations were just so dead... and i didnt think i liked him anymore. I decieded that when we were both in town we'd see a movie or sumthing with friends and if i really didnt feel anything i would break up with him. well we are both back. and i REALLY dont like him. i dont need to hang out with him to realize that. the only thing that has kept me from breaking up with him is that i hate to hurt people's feelings. I know he still likes me, and i'm his first girlfriend and all. i know i can't pretend like this forever... but I just don't quite know what to say.. or how to minimize how much his feelings are hurt.
HELP! thanks much
Just tell him you don't hold him in the same light as he holds you. Love is RecipRocal - it's not just one sided. So if only ONE of you is willing to put foRth 100% effoRt and only ONE of you holds Romantic feelings foR the otheR, then what would be the point in the Relationship?? It would be meaningless, aggRavated and headed nowheRe. What good is that?? WheRe is the sense in that?? I'm shoRe if you put it to him in this manneR he'll be okay with it. This isn't to say it won't huRt his feelings. TRuth is.. no matteR WHAT you say he's going to be upset, so just be polite, while being honest. I'm shoRe he'll undeRstand..
Hope things woRk out!! :D
♥[?]♥ ok my friend amber asked me to go on a cruise with her..so at first i was thinking "omg! this is so great!!! i wanna go soooo bad!" so i told her i would. now that the cruise is getting closer and closer...i'm having some serious second thoughts. i always get homesick - i can bairly get through a single sleepover without crying myself to sleep. i seriously need my own bed..and now that my dad is sick i really dont want to leave (he needs surgery but it stubbern and refuses to get it!)! now im having these thoughts more and more and im totally freaking out..its for 4 days and i need advice like i need oxygen! PLEASE HELP!
Honestly? I think you should tRy to be faiR to youRself and go on this cRuise. This is a once in a lifetime shot foR MANY MANY people... and you and I BOTH know it sounds like a lot of fun. I think once you go, you'll pRobably be able to settle down, since they make cRuises so calming and luxuRious. HoweveR, if you simply can not mustaR up enough couRage and deteRmination within youRself to because you feel you'll Really have such a miseRable time, then don't go. It's not that big of a deal; theRe's no MAJOR pRessuRe to go, so just do whateveR you'Re comfoRtable with. :)
♥[?]♥ Hey I saw this commercial on tv about chafing... what is chafing??? I think it has something to do with shaving your underarms or something. Can someone please explain?
Simple, chafing is the iRRitation and/oR soReness of the skin caused by Repetitive fRiction.
Hope this claRifies!! :)
♥[?]♥ My friend and I are going to a lake. we are going shopping for things to bring in 2 days. what are some things we should purchase and not forget to pack??
thanks!
ps. are you a lev.2 mod?
Ohhh that sounds like sooo much fun!!! I've NEVER been to a lake before!!! =/
HOWEVER, some things I can suggest bringing would be:
- Hats/Visors.
- Hair scrunchies.
- Sunblock.
- Tanning oil.
- Sunglasses.
- Towels.
- Tampons/Pads.
- MORE THAN ENOUGH clothes. [you never know what may happen]
- Sandles.
- Camneras.
- Gameboy.
- CD player with CD's.
- Blankets???
- Stuffed animals???
- Lawn chairs???
- Bathing suits.
- A paper pad [like a Spiral] with some writing tools.
- Deck of cards.
- Books/Magazines.
- And maybe going light to minimal on the make up?? If there's heat, chances are it will smear away, and if you go in the water, it's almost bound it run, ya know? So maybe just sime nice lip gloss and a tiny bit of foundation.
- Money.
- Some junk food for the car ride [if it's a long one].
- Those little acordian fans to cool yourselves off if needed.
- Some sports equipment, such as a football, frisbee, jump rope, FOXTAIL SOFTEE!!!!!!, and so on and so forth.
And no, actually I am NOT a level 2 Moderator. Probably soon though??? Ya never know..
Feel free to come back if you need anything else! :D
♥[?]♥ hey.. wow i was reading your advise column and its awesome... you alwaya know what to do! :)
well do you know of any good excersizes... thanks....
RATE HIGH!!
Aww!! Well thank you!! Feedback is always appReciated; thanks. :)
And a few good activities that can simply assist in poRpoRtioning the body in it's ENTIRTY would be anything that gets the blood ciRculation goin', such as jogging, jumping jacks, jumping Rope, and walking, and bicycle walking. Also, 'tis the season of wateR aeRobics, and they will woRk like a CHARM!!
And if you'd like to taRget youR tummie specifically, tRy doing a couple hundRed sit ups oR cRunches. I know, I know, I know.. 'a couple hundRed' is A LOT, but if you bReak it up into sessions, it's not that difficult, tRust me. I'm the Queen of lazy fuckeRs, so if I can do this, YOU can do this! :P
And to tone youR ass and thighs, do leg lifts. To do these, stand up stRaight, and slowly move youR leg -ONLY YOUR LEG- backwaRds. Like, say you'Re going to kick something, but kick BARKWARDS, and DON'T BEND YOUR KNEES!! Make sense???
To tone youR arms, take two dum bells [whicheveR weight woRks foR you.. even if 3 pounds]. Put one in each aRm, and stand up stRaight with youR feet shouldeR-width apaRt. BRing the dum bells up to youR chest with youR elbows folded out [like TaRzan pounding his chest-soRt of motion, ya know?] Then at a MEDIUM speed... extend youR aRms out to the side, and slowly bRing them back in. You can do two at a time to help balance the stRength build up and toning, oR do one at a time if it's easieR. THIS DOES CUH-RRRRAZZIIEEEEEEE AMOUNTS OF MIRCALE!!!!!!!!!! If you do it foR at least 20 minutes a day you'll see a GIGANTIC diffeRence in a week TOPS. I do them all the time; it's fun!!
Goodluck to you!! Don't be a stRangeR!!
♥ Mackenzie!!!
what i really meant to say
is im sorry for the way
i am
i never meant to be so cold
i never meant to be so cold...
please help! i cant get it out of my head!!
The song is called COLD by CROSSFADE.
LYRICS can be found at:
http://www.lyricstop.com/c/cold-crossfade.html
VIDEO can be seen at:
http://www.mtv.com/bands/az/crossfade/artist.jhtml#Scene_1
♥ Mackenzie!!!
♥[?]♥ do any other black people have advice columns here besides me?
TheRe's only two that I know of..
♥[?]♥ Hey I always get eyeliner that smudges.... any ideas for one that doesn't or very little smudge?
I think the two best bRands of eyelineR out theRe aRe "MeRyl NoRman" and "Beautique". "MeRyl NoRman", which can only be puRchased at "The MeRyl NoRman Cosmetic Studios", is pRicey [typically $8.50 - $17.00], but it REALLY IS good stuff. It goes on wondeRfully, and stays on all day!!! On the otheR hand... I happen to think that "Beautique" is INCREDIBLE, howeveR, I've ONLY seen "Beautique" at "Sally's". And "Beautique" is only .99 cents. TRUST ME.. I would NEVER EVER EVER buy cRap make up!!! I get only the best, so please, please, please, please DON'T let this dollaR pRice thRow you off - you'd be cheating youRself out of the best pRoduct out theRe!! I'd PREFER "Beautique" out of ANY otheR bRand of eyelineR!! I could easily go out and buy a $15.00 pencil, but I'd RATHER get "Beautique"! "Beautique" glides on smoothly and REALLY LASTS ALLLLL DAY!!! I CAN NOT pRomote this item enough!! And if you still have doubts... foR only .99 cents.. it's woRth a shot!! Goodluck!! Feel fRee to come back to me if you eveR need moRe suggestions. Hope I helped!! =D
♥[?]♥ how do u knowif your cherry is popped because i used to play sports (soccer) and i ride bikes sometimes!!
TheRe's not a way YOU would be able to notice it on youRself, a pRofessional doctoR would shoRe know.. but you can't check on youRself. Yes, it IS tRue that it can 'pop' by EXTREME spoRts and such.. but it's wayyyyyy moRe UNLIKELY than LIKELY. Honestly, just assume that the hymen has not been bRoken yet, because that's pRobably the case... Hopefully this bRings some ReassuRance. :D
