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hey I posted this question.. but id really like you to answer it
There is this absolute gorgeous guy who I have somewhat of a crush on. My friends and I just started hanging out with him a few times this summer. He was flirting with one of my friends at a party. I was talking to him on IM that night, and we were flirting alot. He asked me when we were going to hook up. I told him only if hes not hooking up with other girls, and he said no only you. A few nights before he told me he wanted to hook up, he slept with this one girl. They didn't have sex, they just slept together. I don't want to go out with him, and I know this won't be anything serious, but I'm scard that if I hook up with him, I might get involved, and end up with a broken heart. I've never hooked up with a guy before, and this is the only guy I would ever want to. What do i do?
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Okay, so I believe you'Re talking soley about a "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" Relationship, since you have no desiRe to become Romanticly involved, yes??
And a "FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS" Relationship is when two people whom aRe *NOT* cuRRently in a Relationship with one anotheR engage in sexual activities on a RegulaR basis, which I'm shoRe you alReady knew.
FRom *MY* expeRience.. if BOTH paRtneRs feel nothing moRe than fRiendship foR the otheR peRson, theRe shouldn't be much of a pRoblem with this situation.
HOWEVER, it is when ONE, and only ONE, paRtneR staRts to develop feelings foR the otheR due to the message that sexual activities would NORMALLY send that it becomes messy and huRtful, ya know?? SOOOO.. to avoid this situation.... avoid "fRiends with benefits" Relationships!!!
NOW, *I HAVE* been in a "fRiends with benefits" Relationship befoRe... and judging on what I just said.. WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENED????
Yes, I fell foR the guy. I completely LOVED the attention and feelings I got fRom him. Then, I began to cRave moRe. It got to the point wheRe I was unshoRe if it was **HIM** I wanted.. --OR-- if it was just 'THAT' kind of attention that I just so happened to NOT be getting anywheRe else at the time, you see?? LUCKILY FOR ME.. he felt just as I did about it all [but it does NOT always woRk out that way, you MUST undeRstand this!!]. We weRe in the midst of "taking ouR Relationship to the next level" when I discoveRed I was moving acRoss countRy. FRom then on, we just soRt of dRopped it all, and it was neveR bRought up again. END RESULT??? HEARTACHE!
That's pRettie much all you'Re doing.. setting youRself up foR heaRtache. HoweveR, if YOU feel it's woRth it foR a night of fun and passion eveRy once in a while... only YOU can decide that.
If this is something you STILL decide to do, and theRe's absolutely NOOO shame in that, as *I* see it... make shoRe you'Re educated on the matteR. Judging fRom youR question, I'm going to assume you've been sexually active in the past. But eitheR way... being sexual active is SERIOUS decision; a decision with many possible consequences [STD's, AIDS, pRegnancy]. DO NOT Risk this unless you'Re Ready to face up to them.
Just please... be wise.. and be caReful.
Know that I'm always heRe if you eveR need to talk to someone.
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