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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.
I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.
Much love, Teza
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this is really mebarassing but..you know how people make jokes about buttt hair? is it normal to have it?
Yes it is. Everyone has it. Not a lot, but some.
Ok im a guy and im lettin my hiar grow out cus it looks bad when short but its growing out straight so my question is how do i make my hair curl alittle with out specail shampoo or curlers or anything else that guys shouldnt us
After you get out of the shower, towel dry your hair then take some moose and put it in your hair. Mess it up and then take a little bit of gel and put it in there. Don't brush your hair, just run your fingers through your hair and it won't be straight.
I went out with a guy on and off for over a year, we broke up the last time about five months ago but I never really got over him.
On Friday night I had a party to celebrate my birthday. One of my best friends was there as well as my ex boyfriend. My best friend knew I still like him but she ended up kissing him at my party.
I was really upset about it and she told me that she didn't mean to and that nothing was going to happen between them so I forgave her.
My ex boyfriend said he cared about me a lot as a friend but that he likes my best friend, she likes him back.
Now my best friend won't go out with him because she doesn't want me to be unhappy but she's being really resentful towards me. She said that I was an attention seeker for being unhappy about it and some other stuff.
I told her that she had to choose between me and my ex boyfriend and she found it really hard. I've known her for about 10 years so I was really hurt that she found it that hard to choose when she doesn't even like him that much.
I feel so guilty about it. Either way I'm going to be unhappy. If they go out, I'll lose him and her as friends, I won't be able to hang out with my friends in school because they'll be there and it will be uncomfortable and I'll be generally unhappy. If they don't go out, I'll feel guilty and it won't make him like me. So no matter what I do I lose.
So I have no idea what to do, please help me.
I want you to understand that I'm not trying to be mean at all! Why would you make her choose over you and your ex? It's always going to be hard for you to get over him, and as well as many other girls to get over their ex. You have to understand that you and him are over. If things are meant to be, you guys will go out again. For now, you have to let him go. You can still care about him, that's fine but you can't just get mad at every girl that he goes out with. This is your best friend you are talking about, and you are letting a guy come between your friendship. She likes him, and there is nothing wrong with that. I'm just wondering who made the rule that friends can't go out with friends ex boyfriends. I know it might hurt their feelings and all, but if you really liked him then go for it. I'm sorry that you are unhappy, but when your friend said that you are an attention seeker, I don't think that is really true. I understand that you wouldn't be happy if they go out, but your friend is in a really tough situation as well. She doesn't want to loose you as a best friend, and you want her to choose over you and the guy she likes. She loves you, but I don't think she would want to loose him as a friend. I know how you feel though because someone went out with my ex that I really cared about. Although I was upset, I let her be happy. She also deserved it. Maybe you could atleast do that. This isn't about loosing or winning. You won't loose eather one of them, but if you keep acting like that you will. Acept it. It's hard to but accept it. You can't just make him like you again. He said he still cares about you but in a friend way. Like I said, if things are meant to be between you and him, they will be.
Me and my friend Paul are practically brother and sister! We've always been tight but over the summer it seemed as if we were getting feelings for eachother that werent normal 'friendly' feelings. He invited me everywhere with him. We went to the beach to watch fireworks, i joined him for dinner, and almost every weekend we hung out at his house watching the stars and talking. i never feel uncomfortable around him and i can tell him anyhing. Were both strong christians and believe that God will lead us in the direction we need to go. But I just dont know ...
is this Love? :-\
Even though you guys really care for each other and are good friends, you can still love each other. I think you guys do. If things are meant to be between you guys it will happen. You are lucky you found someone like him, and he is lucky too.
How can you usually tell if your in love?
You can't really ask that question because no one can tell you the right answer. If you are asking then you aren't in love. It's just a feeling you will get when you really care about that person. How do you know you love your family and friends? It's basiclly the same thing. You will care for this person a lot and think about them all the time. Trust me, you'll know. It's not something you figure out.
Do creams for stretch marks actually work (like, get completely rid of the stretch marks?)If not, then do they fade them even?
If so for those two, which kind would you recommend and whats the price?
Strech marks will go away, they won't be there forever. They just appear as you grow and mature more. You can buy cocoa butter and that isn't expensive. You have to keep using it, but they won't go away completly. They will go away on it's own so don't worry.
Should I be mad if three guys bet on me saying I bet she'll say no to you when they ask you out or she'll say ya to me, and I knew them all as friends and stuff? I rate high, thanx.
I don't know if you should be mad, but if they did that to me, I would be. I'd think that they are just using me and thinking whatever they want but if they are joking around then don't be mad. Anywho, what they are doing isn't really that nice.
does dark red hair (burgundy) drain out ice blue eyes?
Not really, more like green. It could look pretty but it would bring out green eyes more. Brown looks gorgeous with blue eyes.
If im about 5'2 and 13 1/2 years old and weigh 115 pound am I fat or overwight?
Your weight is perfect for your height so you don't need to diet or anything and you are just fine.
I had my period for two years not and it still doesnt come every month. Like when i do sports i never have it but over the summer i have. Is this normal? Im a 14/f. I asked my mom and she says its normal but my friends started last year and they have theirs every month. Do i need to get it chech or am I worring about nothing.
Thanks For the HELp
Yes that is normal. You really have nothing to worry about though. Everyone has irregular periods. Physical activities, diets , depression and stress can cause it not to come every month. Since you are healthy then it's normal.
ok here i go basically this boy asked me out at school i really like him but i said yes then i changed my mind and said no kinda. Because i thought about the other guy who likes me and i did not want 2 hurt him. Now the guy that asked me out won't talk 2 me because i hurt him i don't know what 2 do in college tomorrow someone please help. Thank you.
It's kind of lame that he won't talk to you. You need to talk to him and apologize and tell him you didn't mean to hurt him but you didn't know what you wanted. Also tell him you really like him. I know you don't want to hurt the other guys feelings, but you and the guy that asked you out have feelings yourself. Why waste them? You like him and he likes you. The other guy should understand that. Just take sometime and figure out if you want to go out with him or not but you need to talk to him soon so he isn't mad or anything.
i want to ask this guy to like this spooky woods thing.. but im kinda scared.. (feeling like an idiot if he rejects me) we are friends, and i was thinking of like, on aim, i should be like "haha, your so cool we should hang out sometime." like that? then asking him tommarow :/ but idk. can you help me?
You can just invite him to come along. I always do that. Like if I am going somewhere and I want someone to go I just tell them to go and hang out. You don't have to be scared and don't worry I don't think he will reject and say no because you guys are freinds, and why would he? Asking him on AIM or phone or anything else would be fine. It doesn't really matter as long as you ask. Have fun!!
umm is stealing street sign illegal, like a stop sign or a name of a street, i think i know the answer but if you could help id appreciate it
Yes it is. You can get in a lot of trouble for it so please just don't do it.
did u know ure like the koolest kid alive?
No, I did not but thank you for telling me. You're even kooler now!
I'm having a Halloween/ Birthday party today and I rented Amutiville Horror and Texas Chainsaw Massaccre. I was wondering are they really scary, like should I be watching the,? (i'm 13)
I haven't watched Amutiville Horror but it does seem scary and I've seen the previews and such. I've seen Texas Chainsaw Massaccre and yes it is scary. It's a good movie and I was 12 when I saw it so you should see it. Have fun and happy birthday!
i want to hang out with one of my guy friends tomorrow craig...but I dont know im like scared. I've never really hung out with guys before and I dont know it might be awkward im like 13 1/2 soo idk what to do, what to say...especially cause he might like me. I need your help! should i just call it off...ive blown off plans with us before...but i think its just best me and him hang out 1 on 1. Its not that im immature i just need help cause i dont wanna mess up.
You shouldn't be worrying about this. You guys are just going to hang out! Talk, eat, watch movies doing that kind of stuff. Don't cancel the plans because every guy hates that and there isn't any reason to. You shouldn't be worrying about what you will say or things like that. Once you guys are there you will keep talking and talking and fllirting. Those things are just natrual. They come to you. Just think about having fun with him and it will be. Have fun babe!
i have a bf, and i dont really like him i went out with him mainly because hes really nice and i thogunt y not give him a chance. but i also like this other guy and he likes me. he told me friends he thoguth i was cute and he wanted to make out with me. but he has a gf of 2 yeats. but i really like him, and i want to make out with him, but people have been callin me slutty because htye said that if i make out with the guy i like, thats being rude to my bf, witch i only lik as a friend, but i dont want to brake up with him yet, bucz i want to see if maybe my feeling change.
Look, what you are doing isn't really right, but I can't blame ya! If you don't like your boyfriend you need to break up with him. You will hurt his feelings if he found out and that you like another guy. Things aren't working out for you right now, but you guys can stay friends of course. If your feelings change than you guys should try going out once again. Anyways, I know that you both want to make out with each other, but he has a girl friend of 2 years and that is a really long time. Girls might call you a slut or whatever but you aren't and they have no reason too. You should get to know that other guy better and if things with him and his girlfriend don't work out maybe you and him could get together? One night, if you guys end up making out with each other oh well. It doesn't matter. If you really want to do it, then do it while you are single because it would hurt your boyfriends feelings a lot and you said he was nice and that isn't good. Good luck!
I've tried giving my girlfriend one but all there is a small faded red mark... that goes away within a few minutes. I've tried sucking hard, but I don't want to hurt her that much. I've heard nibbling/biting works. I don't know.
A hickey is a bruise. Just like any other bruise you get on your body, it will fade when your body heals. There's no set rate. Some people heal quickly, some people heal slowly. It all depends on your own body. It's nothing wrong that you are doing, it's just that she tends to heal easier and it goes away.
13 / Ladyy ♥
1. eh. im so confused. i have so meny mixed feelings. One of my friends (guy) is like inlove with me, & my good friend likes him...but i dont like him @ he hugs me & stuff, & trys to put his arms around me but i kind of push him away. and he said to my face...hes just like i love you ok? but not really in a serious way. & i want him to stop liking me & (S0RRY IF IM MAKING THIS CONFUSING!!) start to like her. but its just werid having him head over heals for me. how can i make him stop?
2. I still like my ex Boyfriend & its been like a long time since we've broke up. but sometimes i feel like i like alot more guys? ... i like my ex like alot alot, & another guy a bit, but i really dont know why bc when we went out he was an ass whole. and then i feel sometimes i like my friend (guy). Its just werid. i feel like i like so many people at one time, & then i dont. Im sorry if you dont get my point but can you help me out?
You can't make him stop liking you and it probablly won't happen anytime soon. It's exactly the same way with your ex. You can't make yourself stop liking it. You need to talk to this friend that likes you and just tell him that you like him no more then a friend and that you would like him to stop getting all over you because you don't like it. The girl that likes him, do they know each other well? If they don't, you need to get them together a lot so they could talk and get to know each other more and more. You never know, he might start to fall for her.
Its very normal to still have feelings for your ex boyfriend. Trust me, they are very hard to get rid of and I know exactly what you are going thorugh. I've been there. Your feelings are very strange and you don't really know what's going on and who you like. You must of loved this guy or liked him a lot. Even though he was a jerk, you still care about him. Sometimes liking other guys is a way of thinking that you will get over your ex. It's normal to like a lot of guys but it's not exactly liking them. It's more of a "crush" thing. You really can't make this go away because it will on its own. If thing are meant to be good with you and your ex, they will but when the time is right it will happen. Figure things out as it happens and all of the things you are feeling and going through are normal.
In a lifetime is only one love in your life or a couple "loves"? you know how people...claim to have been in love a couple times?
Sometimes people "claim" to be in love, but they aren't so you are right about that. You can have more than one love but it just depends on the person and if they truely know what love is. People can just say they love someone and not mean it because they really aren't sure about it. Hopefully you will find that one true love.