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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!




--Jack

advice

Of your favorite music genres, which do you think is the *least* popular, nation-wide. If the person before you has the same answer as you, please choose the second least-popular. I'm interested only in genres that you like, and I already know statistics. Thank you very much for your time, I truly appreciate it.

Theymos

I tend to like a lot of Christian rock-
I guess that's not exactly popular with most people.

Is this what you mean?
--Jack

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i listened to my ipod all day today and i ran the battery all the way down. i plugged it in and it didnt do anything. it didnt show that is was charging. the screen says " No battery power remains. Please connect iPod to power."

i have the blue iPod nano. What do I do?

Keep it plugged in. It probably doesn't have enough battery to say "Battery Charging". Unless you've somehow managed to throw it at a wall and it still will plug in, there should be nothing wrong. If nothing shows up for 5-10 minutes, go to http://www.apple.com/support/

and you'll find the solution there.

--Jack

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I was wondering, dont ask me why, but If you are dead is it considered rape or what?

No- there is a word for it, which is slipping my mind, but it definitely isn't rape. Anyone that does that is weird..

--Jack

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ok.
so i dated a kid we will call A for 6 months.we were the perfect couple that everyone based there realtionships on and came to for help--at first.i guess the novelty wore off and i broke up with him about two weeks ago.i guess i still like him but he can be really embarrassing.but i dunno if i like him enough for a relationship.i have a new bf we will call B.hes really nice & all but hes really clingy.he tells me he wants to get married and we havent even been tgr for 2 weeks.and he always has his hands all over me.and then theres my friend C.hes a year younger than me & at the same school.(btw B goes to a diff school and we arent even allowed to see each other we have to sneak).im pretty sure he would go out with me but he went out with one of my friends and they broke up pretty quickly.i really wanna go out with him but i dunno how to break up with B without hurting him because he REALLY likes me.and A still really likes me too.i need advice on A B & C please.thanks

If you want to go out with "C", then it is your choice. Do it. Plain and simple. Yes- he may be a year younger.. but that really doesn't matter.. Age shouldn't be a factor unless there is like over a 10 year difference...
As for B- he seems a bit psychotic.. seriously. If you've only been together for like 2 weeks- and he already wants to get married, I think he's saying anything to be able to have sex with you. I may be wrong. He may actually like you, but still.. 2 weeks and already talking about marriage is kind of weird... Just let him down easily and try not to hurt his feelings too much- but that is very hard to avoid doing when breaking up with someone.
As for A- rekindling a broken relationship is not always the best idea. If you even have one doubt that it won't work out, then I don't suggest you go for it a second time, when it didn't work out before. You can't help who likes you either.. so don't feel bad if you like C, but don't like A that much. That is A's problem, not yours.

--Jack

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13/f

One day, I was coming home from school, and told me that I'm getting older, and she'll let me have sex(protected) next year when I turn 15.

I'm scared, I have a great b/f, but i don't like him that way!!!

what do i do???

Who is she?
If you don't want to have sex- no one can make you. Its ultimately your choice and choosing not to is the best decision. If someone is trying to force you into having sex.. which I'm not sure because of the grammar of the question... That would be illegal, especially since you're underage..

--Jack

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So i like this kid Bob, and hes a total ass to me. So why do i like him?

Its hard to tell.. I guess maybe sometimes Bob isn't an ass. But if he's always an ass, then I don't see why you like him. Looks? I'm not sure... maybe add some more information to this question...

--Jack

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(14.f.) so i have the sweetest boyfriend ever.when we are together hes really affectionate and everything.and so am I, but when we chat on aim or something i dont really seem to show him that i really do love him..does anyone have any tips on how i can express how i feel when i talk to him online?I need ways to show that i really do love him..help anyone please?thanks in advance.
tommyleehottie

Hmm- I see what you're saying. Usually it is hard to be loving to someone online like you would be in person. I actually feel that love isn't what you make it online, on the phone, or through text message.. its what you make it in person. When you're with someone you love in person- its much deeper and greater than loving them over the phone or on AIM. Honestly- don't feel that you need to be as loving, but to answer your question, just try to say what you normally would in person to him. Talk about new and interesting things. Talk about anything and everything you can think of. The sky really is the limit here. And if you're feeling embarrassed to just say random things to spark a conversation, don't- he's your boyfriend and he will accept it.

I hope that answers your question!
--Jack

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Im sorry if this is long. But, i like this guy ,and im good friends with his best friend. The guy i like, is in the group of people i hang out with, its just i talk to everyone in that group but like him. and he talks to like everyone but me.
Hes cute, and i would like to get to know him better.
But its weird, he treats everyone so much different then he treats me, like he joke-endly makes fun of them and like talks to them more. But never me ? i dont get it.
I dont think he likes me like i like him though.
i dont know , im just confused.
and whenever we do talk its for like 2 seconds.
HELP ? please
does he hate me you think ??

im sorry if this confused anyone, or anything
xox melissaa.

I don't think he hates you..and by no means does he- if he did.. it would be very odd, since you don't seem to know each other very well... I mean if you only talk for 2 seconds at a time, I think its safe to say he doesn't have special feelings for you. If you want to get to know him- just do it, you never know, but something could happen!

--Jack

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we had this project and we have to cite our sources. i used a Funk & Wagnalls New Encyclopedia as one of my sources. it doesn't really say who the author is/are, so should i put Funk & Wagnalls as the author or just leave that blank?


thank you.

Don't include the author if one isn't given.

--Jack

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sorry i know this was in the wrong category..
but whats on 4.20.? details please. thanks.

420 is the police code for marijuana smoking. Tomorrow- all the druggies are going to smoke pot because "its cool". 4/20 is also Hitler's birthday, though that has nothing to do with it, I assume. 4/20 is also the anniversary of the Columbine shooting 8 years ago...

--Jack

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do guys get hard 3 times at night while they sleep? like EVERY SINGLE NIGHT???

No- not every night. Yes- it does happen a lot to most guys but not exactly 3 times a night for every guy.

--Jack

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what are the bases? like sexually. what do you do to be at first base, what do you do to be at second base, what happens to be at third, and to be at home.

I believe this is what they are:

1st base= kissing, making out
2nd base= feeling each other up above waist
3rd base= feeling each other below the waist
Home= sex

--Jack

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On wensday i got a text from my friend telling me that she'll have her drivng test that afternoon. I reply back saying "hope you fail, just kiddin". it was a joke like saying "break a leg".
so the next 3 hours or more my phone rang, and it was my friend sam. she told me that danielle fail her drving test, i ask sam why and how did she fail, but sam told me that danielle didnt explan.i ask sam why you called me and told me and why not danielle. she didnt know why danielle told sam to call me.
anyways the next day i send her a question on myspace if she was going camping with me and my famliy next month. she didnt reply. i called and she didnt pick up. its been almost two weeks. (it even read on her myspace her last login, and it read 4/6/07 that day after i sent her that message of asking her a qeastion.)
well i began to wonder if she was mad at me for her to lose on her test. so i ask Sam about it and she said it'll be stupid and childish if she was. cause Sam knew i was joking around.
so i wrote her a message on her myspace saying. "whatever i said or did I'm sorry okay."
the next day she sent me a reply on my myspace "the reson why i didnt reply is cause i have famliy over i was bussy" that didnt make no sents at all. she been logining on her myspace often the whole time of this week.
I called her and she fineally pick up. i ask her what was up with her and are you mad at me. she didnt even said a word. i sighed and said forget it.
so what is the deal. was she mad? why was she acting like a kid? i told her it was a joke. why was she mad at me?

She was obviously nervous before her driving test. Yout text probably just sent her over the egde. I know you've said I'm sorry- but the way you said it sounded rude. Please appologize to her again- meaningfully- and explain to her that it was just a joke. Don't be upset at her because she may feel upset. If you two are good friends- this will mend in no time. Just remember not to be so pushy with trying to appologize.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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i'm using AOL Explorer as my internet thing, and i have a lot of useless favorite folders. i know i can just delete the ones i don't need, but i think it would be easier to just start over. is there any way i can do this? also, lately, when i try to delete things from my favorites, it doesn't delete. i would click delete, but it would just stay there. what can i do?

thanks.

Click under "Favorites" and then "Manage Favorites". A window will pop up and then you click on what you want deleted- then click delete. If you're having problems- you can go under "Help" and it can help you figure out what's wrong.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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so theres this guy and he's like my best friend. i realizied i really like him, we've talked and hung out alot lately, and he's single. the prob is when we look at each other in the hall im not sure if h feels the same. also i have never been kissed and ive decided i really want him to be my first. im 15/female. any suggestions on how to get him to like me and or how can i tell if he likes me for sure? thanks!

As I've said time and time again- trust me- I've answered this question many times and seen it many times. The only sure-fire way I see fit to find out if he likes you is to ask him. Don't play silly mind games to try to figure it out- Just ask him- plain and simple. Who knows? He may like you and you could just end up going out =]

--Jack

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okay well my friend is having a party on saturday. it` going to be really big andd really fun. she invited guys and the one i like is invited too. what do you suggest i do to get his attention at the party. i mean like should i wear something reallyy hott, or should i hang out with a bunch of other guys? how do i make him noticee mee?

pleasee helppp

Just talk to him, but let him do the talking, unless of course he doesn't talk much. Be yourself. Don't dress "hott" just to impress him. Dress how you would dress- not how a celebrity would dress.
Try to find things in common- and make sure that you exchange phone numbers unless you already have each others.

Hope I helped!
Enjoy the party
--Jack

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ok so my parents are getting divorced and for about a year now my mom has been in her room a lot speaking spanish all the time. my mom has 2 cell phones, one for her regular calls and the other for her secret bf. she told me that the cell phone that i found out she talks to her bf w/ is what she uses to call her friends with. now one day i pretended to be asleep when i was resting and i she came next to me and started talk to her phone service and she said that she need a new cell phone so she could talk to her "boyfriend" and thats when i found out that i knew who she was calking to all of the time. she gave my little sister a new cell phone and i called it one day and the voice mail came up and it was someone talking in spanish they were saying like hey babay and something in spanish and ily at the end and then i knew it was my mom since she must have used that phone and it was scratched up. also i looked at the contacts list in my moms phone that she uses to call her bf and there was only one person and it was someone named babo. then she was talking to my sister and i and she meant to say baby for some reason and she accidentaly said babo. she is still married to my dad and i think my mom will get mad at me if i told her that i knew about her secret "boyfriend." plz help♥!!!

I know you might not want to hear this- but the best thing to do is not get involved. If your parents are getting divorced anyway- it would just cause problems within your family. So- just stay clear of the situation and hope for the best!
--Jack

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okay...I'm seventeen and my girlfriend is sixteen.. two weeks ago my girlfriend and i tried to have sex...(with a condom).. it didn't go to great... we didn't get anything done because she was too tight.. well, a virgin.. we eventually stopped and she got on top of me..(without a condom).. i felt her vagina on my penis, but it didn't go in.. it might have lasted four minutes.. i didn't cum, not even close, but i might have precum.. is there a good chance she could get pregnant?

Yes- there is a chance. Anytime sperm comes in contact with a vagina- there is a chance.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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i haved asked many ques. and i get a resonse link in my email, but it only brings me to my ques. how do i get to the answer!

The answers to your question are at the bottom of the page, just below the question. If they aren't showing up- you might want to contact DN (DangerNerd)

His email is all over the site =]

Hope I helped!
--Jack

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So my feedback total is coming up to 250, and I know and understand thats the total that shows on your feedback section (& that is only shows your last 30 days avg. on your column)

But you know the "view feedback" part of your column?? after 250 will those stop showing up?

No- they will show up, but the end ones just probably fall off the page- they are usually so old that it doesn't matter much.

Does that answer your question?

--Jack

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