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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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Hi,
So I am 15 and I am in high school and I get made fun of non stop now I know its not because Im fat because a girl that makes fun of me is fat also and I know its not because I have glasses because I just got contacts, I try to be nice to people and if they are nice to me Im nice to them, I would really like some advice on how to make people like me more thanks!!

Just be yourself the nice person that you are. If you try to make people like you by being someone that you aren't sure your going to make friends but there not the friends that you want. And she is right about smiling and saying thanks. I do it all the time but i say "thanks i take that as a complement". Good luck dont let them know it bothers you or they will keep on doing it.

19/f
i know it is long but pleeeease read it...Hi im Gery from Italy...i wrote about a month or so ago about my best friend whom i like and he was flirting with me and showing feelings at one time and acting as if there was nothing there the other time...anyhow after constantly flirting 4 months and having conversations about having a relationship withour talking directly about as (we where acting as if we where talking in generyl) he finaly kissed me 3 nights ago...after kissing me and hugging me the whole night i had 2 go back 2 italy 4 a few days so we didnt really talked about it...a few days before that happened a buddy of him asked me out and said that he liked me without him knowing...i told him yesterday per chat that he asked me out and asked him 4 an advice how 2 gently say no etc...(because we r best friends we used 2 talk about that stuff so i didnt give it much thought...)and he acted as if nothing happened between as and that i should go out with his friend because he really likes me and that would make him happy...and that hurt me and so i told me that he is worth nothing because he doesnt care who he hurts...and i dont know what 2 do..i really like him but it hurts me when he acts as if nothing happened...what do u suggest i do...i know the best thing is probably talking completely open with him and tell him that i like him etc but i cant...i just felt as if after he kissed me he just pushed me over 2 his friend...

He likes you he just isent going to admit it because of his best friend. Maybe his best friend has liked you longer then he has and he isent going to take you away from him. Explain to his best friend that you don't seem him as anything more then a friend and that you like someone at this time. Good luck

ok so do guys think its hot if girls like kiss each other on the cheek or sleep in the same bed? my friends and i are just like that and hold hands and hug and kiss each other on the cheek and occasionally sleep in the same bed if we have sleepovers or w/e. my bf said it doesnt bother him and he understand cause we are friends. (tho guys would NEVER do that hahaha) but i have heard some guys think girls r hot when they do things like that-but my friends and i dont like makeout! we are just friends who love each other a lot and show it :) thanks so much!

It all depends on the guy most guys like that or dont mind it. There are hardly any guys that would say that they think thats wrong or nasty. Me i dont mind it. Hope i helped

Do guys find it cute when girls are totally nervous around them and say stupid things then blush about it...? Or do they just think 'what the heck is wrong with her?'
I'd like to hear from guys only please...thank you!

Ya i think thats cute.

Okay, so when I was 8 I was raped and I kind of blocked it out of my head, but now I am very paranoid when someone touches me, especialy guys. I'm 15 and I've never done ANYTHING or had a boyfriend, because I have too many anxieties.

But one of my friends, who is a guy, he is the only one I have ever told about the rape, because he asked me why I don't do stuff with guys, and so I told him. He offered to do stuff with me, and I said okay, and now he is all worked up about it and giving me all this advice on how to turn him on when the time comes for us to do things.
I'm extremely nervous and I don't know why, because I am afraid it will be awkward since we were friends and stuff.
But I also think I should because he is the sweetest guy I know, and I really need to get over my fear, and he is probably going to be the most patient guy out there.
Soo... I really need tips on how to do things, like blow jobs, and fingering, and even making-out.
Should I be nervous?
Is it going to hurt?

Just tell me whatever you think I should know...

You are not ready don't let him pressure you into doing it. He isnt so sweet if he asked you to have sex with him when your only 15 years old especially after you told him about your past. I know its not the answer you are looking for but its the truth. Think about it

me and my bf (were both 15) and i trust him completely. he lives 30 mins away from me. we see each other once a week usually. he has alot of female friends.and for valentines day, as a joke 2 of his female friends got him boxers and wrote their names by the top strap and then wrote by the "male part" on the boxers,my name with an S, showing like ownership. and he talks about girls he met at concerts how i should meet them and how cool they are. and his other femal friends he hangs out with them and how hes gonna hang out with him.we've dated 3 months and have a somewhat sexual relationship, but not litterly sex. so i dont know if i am jealous, or i dont really trust him?i dont want to talk to him about it cause i dont want him thinking i dont trust him or i'm jealous..what should i do? am i jealous?do i REALLY trust him?

I don't think he is doing something you wouldnt want him to. Because he tells you about his friends that are girls. Normally a guy would hide then from his girlfriend if he is doing something with them that he shouldnt. Hope i helped

14f ok so.. well whenever I get the chance I love to make guys nervous or well idk. If they ask me who i like ill say you because I want see their reaction. Or Ill say hey sexy or baby or names that probably seem like it would come from their girlfriend. Or sometimes depending on who ill sit down next to a guy stroke his thigh and say hey. But I let them know that I'm just kidding. I guess I dont have a problem but I just want to know what people think of this. Like should I stop since I dont even like like them or just as long as they know Im playing then its okay?

It's alright but just be careful because a guy that you mess with could actually like you and your going to have to tell him that you don't see him that way and its gunna hurt his feelings. Or you can start to like a guy that cant see you as a girlfriend because you mess around to much. Hope i helped good luck

Would you go out to a dinner and a movie with a girl (not a best friend) and pay for both if you were NOT interested in her?

(The guy in question is 19 yrs old. We've only hung out once before...we went out for breakfast, he paid for that too.)

Yes i would pay for both best friend or not.

There's this guy who I really like, and we've been flirting a lot over the last month or so, and everyone thinks that he's really into me.
Last night I had a dream that we were together (as in dating) and we were both really happy. Like we'd spend the whole day together and we were always happy. (and the dream was like in our school, so it wasn't a random place and there were my friends in the dream too)
So yeah, I'm wondering whether that could possibly mean something?
Also today, when we were hanging out between a double maths lesson (5 min break, he's in a different class) we were messing around and I was kinda pissed off cause I thought I failed my test and he was like hugging me and trying to make me laugh. Also when we said bye to each other he hugged me really tight, and we don't hug much :\

So yeah, any suggestions of what my dream could've meant?

THankooo!

It just means that you want to be in a relationship with him which i know you already know that. Maybe you should try to hang out with him more often like out of school. If you think that he feels the same way you should either tell him how you feel about him or drop hints. Good luck

15/Female.
My mom was telling me that I was fat and I should seriously exercise but I don't understand why she keeps on saying that since she ain't so skinny herself. I weigh 109 and I am just about 5"6.

Yesterday, I thought about what my mom said and decided I needed to exercise [On My Treadmill]. After about 2 hours, I stopped and I looked at myself in the mirror and realized how fat I was and started to make myself vomit. I can't stop now. How can I loose weight without throwing up? And how do I stop?

If you want to lose weight just run and eat heatlthy. Run 3 times a week at the least. Eat salads, fruit, fish. I really don't think that you even need to because you are not fat i have no idea why your mom is telling you that you are. Im 5"7 and 120 pounds and my friends constently tell me that i am way to skinny.

15F
All of my friends have either thought about or had sex...and i don't know what choice to make.....cause most of my friends are having sex and i don't wanna b one out of the bunch that doesnt have sex....so please help me before i make a wrong descision..

I don't think that you should have sex at that early of age. Im 15 and ive already made the decision that im going to wait till i get marryed to have sex. I don't know about you but i want my first time to be with someone that i could see spending the rest of my life with. Good luck choosing what you want to do.

Basically I was sent a text saying that My best friend didn't want to talk anymore. I was saddened its been about 4-5 months that we have not talked. Funny though because he still wears a shirt i bought him and he is always staring at me. No matter what he looks at me and last semester asked someone how i was doing. Another he told that i did a great job on my project and funny thing i was in his class. i don't know what to do.. he held the door today for me but i used the other door. im confused as to what to do...i wrote him a note but im not sure if i should even bother giving it to him somehow...or sending it via email. whats a girl to do? I miss him and I have frequent panic attacks.

-Lost Apart of My Heart

I think you should send him that note it can't hurt. And try talking to him it seems like he is just confused about starting to talk to you again. good luck

Well I was in a relationship with this boy....i'll just say his name is bob. Anywayyss I thought everything was going great in our relationship but out of nowhere we're alone in my room and we get into this BIG argument that ends with him hitting me and raping me! Could it be that I did somethin wrong?

No even if you did something wrong no matter how bad it was you didnt deserve that. You need to break up with him if he did it once he can do it again. Another thing you need to tell someone what he did to you.

okay so i weigh like 150 and im only 16 but i wanna loose some weight by july and i need some tips. It's not that im fat b/c i dont really think that it's just i wanna loo extra special.

thank you!
=))

You should eat right (salads, and fruit). Run 3 times a week at the least. You could also work on abs if you want by doing crunches 20-25 starting at 5 sets. Every other day go up a set if you can. Good luck

I'm 17/f and I have a boyfriend whom I'm madly in love with, however, I'm just curious if this one friend of mine seems to be trying to flirt with me. He sits behind me in one class and we talk all the time, he's always talking to me, he told me he likes to play with my hair, and he'll randomly touch me (on the shoulders, arm, whatever) sometimes, and the other day, he hugged me out of nowhere. So, my question is, does he have a crush on me or is he just trying to be a friend? Thanks!

Im pretty sure that he is flirting with you. Asking you out to eat crossed the line of just being a friend. But there is a small chance that he is just being a really good friend. Is he the same with other girls? If he is then no he is just being a friend. But if he isent then yes he is flirting with you. Hope i helped good luck

from hey

tell her about what?

i was just listing what she does. it just bugs me becuase she said she no like me in that way. so y is she being so touchy?

I meant that you told her that you like her. Most people how a problem doing that. Well im not sure why she is being so touchy but don't act like it bothers you. Just go with it and maybe she will see you as more then a friend.

FROM (how can i)

nothing much happen but she been close she was always like that. sit near me and leans on me. she did that sometimes and walks with me very close, body language can be read to understand others but hers is tricky.

Its good that you told her now you just have to be patient and see where it goes. Good luck hope it works out.

We have been going out for a month or two. We are both 13. But then he moved to a different state and im confused what to get him for valeintines day because he isn't that into abercrombie and that kind of stuff. Should i get him a abercrombie necklace or braclet or cologne from there or axe.?

ALL BOYS PLEASE RESPOND TO WHAT I SHOULD DO.!
thanks you guys rockk! :)

I think you should send him a card. Wright something like a poem or a quote in it. Hope i helped good luck

I won't bore you with the whole story. Instead, I'll tell you that:

*We went out before. But it wasn't "officially" a date. We went out for coffee, and the next week went out for dinner and a movie. He paid for everything.*

*He works ALL the time (till the wee hours of the morning.) So during the week our main form of communication is texting. However, he doesn't usually initiate the text conversations.

* I don't see him more than once or twice every two weeks because he's so busy.*

*When we do go out, there is lots of good chemistry, eye contact and body language. However, this has been going on for at least a month and he hasn't made a move.*

*He doesn't mention other girls he likes or might be seeing.*

How can I tell if he likes me, or if he's just being friendly?

He probably does like you but he is always bussy with work. He doesnt want to start a relationship if he doesnt have the time for one. Just try your best to make plans with him. Good luck

i met a boy from another town in december. weve talked on the phone and on facebook since, but now we havn't communicated for two whole weeks now. it would be so akward to call him, but hte thing is, i really miss him. i think about him all the time. i even have dreams with him in them somtimes. part of me wants to tell him i miss him and am always thinking about him, and the other half of me thinks that might freak him out. but he could be feeling the same way but not want to admit it. what should i do??

I doubt he will freak out. I think he feels the same way but isent telling you because its more likely for a girl to freak out about this then a guy. Call him and tell him how you feel. Good luck

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