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hey, i'm not a very nice person if i get pissed off, but i've gone through a lot in my life so i think that i can give good advice on a lot of things. if anyone isn't sure that they can talk to someone because they don't understand then feel free to IM me on my AIM and i can talk to you, and i don't mind letting you guys know about my past.
*~*shan*~*


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(this is my favorite quote) "as long as you've got one person in the world, you've already betten the odds"



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Ok. I used to eat like all the time and always have cravings for food. I'm 5'1 and i weigh 120-130. now...lately ive been etaing like a bird and sometimes when i look at food i realize the calories and how much fat it is and i wont eat, and sometimes i even skip meals, it gets worse and worse every week and i dont know what happeneing...am i anorexic? or are these signs of becming anorexic later in life?

i'm going through the same thing, everytime i get the thought that i want to eat i'll look at food and then not want to eat it. with me it's stress i've got a lot of that in my life, you might want to talk to your mom, she can help you out a lot with something like this. good luck and i hope i helped
*~*shan*~*

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Ok my friend is 12 years old and she's drinking and i don't know how to make her stop. she just started because she thinks she 'needs to' but i think its because this other girl does. please give me ideas or help me or something

tell her that she's WAY to young to be drinking, and tell her if she doesn't want you to tell her mother then she will stop drinking. if your friendship means anything to her at all she will do it. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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okay i love my boyfriend like sooo much and i know he loves me too...but he gets these mood swings where one day he acts like he cant live without me and the next day he acts like im just another bump in the road...what should i do? thanx so much~!
>*BaiLeY*>

talk to him, find out how he really feels and if he makes you feel like you don't matter to him, then maybe it's time to move on, good luck
*~*shan*~*

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Ok Here goes this is a bit embarissing im 17 and my penis is quite small when my gf saw my penis
she joked a bit about it and thinks i should be bigger and well im feeling a bit low at the moment
does it matter to a lot of girls and how can you make it bigger?

here's my thought, to a girl like me it wouldn't matter at all, if you find a girl who cares about you, then she won't care how big you are. just remember it's not the size that counts, it's how well you can make her moan ;-) good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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yea umm im 14 and a girl
Ok this is gonna be long. I went out with this kid joe for like 4 months. the whole time we were going out this girl Amy was always flirting with him even around me. I would tell her to stop but she never listened and always denied liking him. Well when me and joe broke up I asked him if he liked Amy cuz it kinda seemed like he did but he said she would be the last person he would ever go out with. So then like two weeks later he goes out with amy. I was over him completely but it still made me mad that he had lied to me. They'e been going out for like 4 months now and theyve gone all the way. Two months ago my best friend andrew asked me out. I'm sooo in love with him but guess what's happening. Amy likes him even though shes going out with joe. She always tells me online how andrew always flirts with other girls when im not around. when i ask my friend nichole whos around him a lot she says thats not true.I know andrew would never hurt me or like anyone else. Hes liked me more than anyone else from the moment he met me. One time andrew had to sleep over amys house because her mom is friends with his mom and he couldnt get a ride back home.
Amy: Did andrew tell you what he did on sunday?
Me: No. Why?
Amy: Oh he wouldn't have.
Me: What did he do?
Amy: He slept over my house.
Me: ((theres nothing i could do about it anyway)) thats cool
Amy: OMG!!! Why dont you ever care what he does!! He flirts with like everyone and you dont even care!!
Me: I do care but i trust him so i dont worry too much.
Amy: w/e
I know she is lying but idk what to do. Please help me out. I hate her and i dont know how to handle it without like telling her i hate her cuz she kinda thinks we're friends. I cant be mean to people and i really dont wanna lose my boyfriend cuz i love him more than anything. Please help me!!!!! ((sorry this is so long))

tell her to shut up and stop being jealous that you've got a good man who doesn't want her. trust your man, if he says that he won't hurt you then you've got to give him the benefit of the doubt. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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(I'm a girl and I'm 15!) Alright...I usually don't ask for advice but I really need some right now! I started talking to this guy and at the begining it was great. We were friends first and did everything together with the rest of our friends then we started talking and we hung out every single night and all the stuff! It was so great. I loved every second of it but then its been a month or so and now I'm lucky if I see him once a week! I never talk to him he doesnt call and When i call him hes not home or something! I hate it! Its pretty sad when his best friend calls me more than he does and I'm with him more than he is! All his friends point it out to him too! Finally the other night i got fed up with it! I called him and we got into a fight cuz i told him i never get to see him and its gets old n i dont think he wants to be with me and he said i was just being a drama queen. so then i went drove over to his house and there was like 7 of us over there and he didnt say a word to me! so we all went out to the car to leave again and one of my girlfriends called him over the car and told him that me and him should talk! he wouldnt talk to me and he doenst think hes doing anything wrong and says im just making a big deal outta nothing! Maybe I am maybe im not but i need to know what someone else thinks! So basically what im asking is what (in your opinion) i should do! and if u personally think im making a big deal outta it! tnkx

here's the deal, tell him straight up that if you two don't have a serious talk then you're friendship is over. or just ignor him wait until he calls you but keep hanging out with his friend, it seems like something can start up with that one. good luck
*~*shan*~*

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i have a real big problem.. my best friend cuts herself.. she doesnt seem to think that theres anything wrong with it. but there deff. is. and the reason she does it is bcuz the kid she likes isnt going out with her but he likes her. and i keep talking to her telling her that she needs to stop bcuz shes gona end up killing herself one day. and she keeps saying i know i know im gona stop. but she never does. and she told me not to tell her mom or any guidence counclers or anyone. how i can help her stop hurting herslef without telling anyone about it??

first of all there's more than just the guy thing bothering her, you don't cut yourself for just one thing, you need to talk to her find out what's bothering her and then tell her that you are her friend and you are there to talk problems out with and if she is truly your best friend she will stop because all she needs is someone who she can talk to who cares about her. just talk to her and make sure that you listen to everything that she has to say, good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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Does anyone know a site where I can ask a question on sex. I believe my question would be too graphic for this site because of how young most of the people here seem to be. :\ Or maybe a girl that would be old enough to answer my question (im 16)

send a message to my AIM i'm on almost all the time my sn is babishayklown08

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Well their is this guy that I have know since I was like 6 or older. we have always seen each other and I have always had a crush on him. he is like 20 turning 21 in feburary. I am only like 15 turning 16 in october. Is it bad for having a crush or like maybe a thing wit him even if he is a lil older then me? I like him so much but I don't know if my parents would like that he is older and I am so young for him. When we see each other too. we have so much stuff to talk about together and we are happy when we see each other and It hurts me when other girls hurt him. I don't want to do. well thank you Jenny,16,female

i think i can help you with that, my best friend/ex boyfriend is 21 and i'm 17, so i know how you feel. here's what i did, i just talked to my mom about him. and she said that as long as there's no sex invovled (or i talk to her before i do have sex with him) then she said that it was ok. don't try dating him behind your parent's backs because that almost never works. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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Okay yeah i know i give advice all the time but this time i just need some...i have this friend and we use to be really close and everything but then she started to down grade my bf and yatta yatta so i still stayed friends with her and everything but then she just stopped talking to me and everything shes said one thing to me since her bday and everything and i mean i miss her friendship but is it worth going back to if all shes does is diss me and my bf and everything else? I dont know what to do Help please
Cassi

if she can't respect you and your man then i don't think she's a very good friend. you can find better.
*~*shan*~*

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do u guyz think u have 2 be a certain age 2 be in love?? im 12 but i do think i have been in love.. i bet most ppl will say it wasnt.. i wasnt even dating tha guy but i totally felt like it was love......and like i sed i loved him and stuff.. and i meant it. he sed it back 2... but he thinks hes to young 2 be in love... i juzt dont think u have 2 be a certain age 2 be in love. like if hes all u think about, all u dream about and all u talk about. is that love? or is that juzt like?

x3 CuRiOuS BeBe x3

there isn't a set age for someone to fall in love. but you just have to be careful about it, sometimes you can think you are in love but you really aren't. when you are then don't worry you'll know.
*~*shan*~*

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i have a serious relationship with my boyfriend, but lately things have been changing. When we are online, we say one word to eachother. I havent seen him for over a month.no phone at all either. When i ask him to do something he says "maybe or no" and when i ask him if his feelings for me have changed he says he doesnt know...? i dont want to keep bothering him about it so.. what should i do?

this may sound harsh but,it's over, i'm sorry to tell you but it's time to move on. if you haven't seen him in a month then you don't have a realationship worth saving. i'm sorry if you don't like what i've said but hey i like to keep it real. good luck and i hope i've helped.
*~*shan*~*

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My parents are both very picky and will argue about anything!!! Yesterday i was bathing my hamster in the sink and he got away! I had to up all the doors with towels and the whole place was a mess. And he was scared so he left behind droppings! And this was in my parents bathroom too. So, i cleaned it all up and now i see that my parents are fighting so, i take my hamster back to his cage and i had already cleaned up the droppings but i didn't put all the towels and soaps and washcloths away. My mom walks into the bathroom... and then she blames my dad for the mess. I have caused a huge problem. And i can't even try to tell her it was me cause they locked themselves in their room and they sitting there yelling and bickering at each other. I feel terrible because it was not my dad's fault and he is getting the blame! Help!!!

i think that you should talk to your mother when everyone is calm, i'm sure that she will understand if you explain everything to her. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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Help! I think im loosing my best friend. it seems like all she cares about is her boyfriend. when i invite her somewhere she says oh sry im doing something with my boyfriend. and when shes not with him thats all she talks about. when i invite her over to my house all she dose is talk on the phone with him! how rude! even my bf thinks shes needs to cool it. what should i do and say to her?

i think you should talk to her about how you are feeling in this whole situation. it's not fair to you to keep trying to compete with her boyfriend because it's not going to work if you keep trying it. talk to her and if she doesn't listen to you then she's not a good friend. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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I have two best buds, but they treat me like a third wheel! Whenever ones not somewhere, THEN the other one actually treats me normaly. Then my other bb comes back and there like..who are YOU again? I've tried talking to them, and they say they'll change, but they never do. And don't tell me to dump them.

ok i won't tell you to dump them, but i will tell you this, if they don't change then you might just have to dump them. you can really find some friends that are better than that who can treat you like a real friend. talk to them, start by talking to them one at a time and then talk to them at the same time. if they are really your friends then they will understand how you feel and do something about it. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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me and my boyfriend of 9 months dont have sex or anything but we make out alot, but it gets soooo boring..i dont wanna go TOO far (blow job/sex or w/e) but whats somethin REALLY hott and creative i cld do to suprise him?

first off, props on wanting to wait, most people who have sex for the first time have to live with regreting who they lost it to, second don't do something that you might not be comfortable with. start by a little bit of what i like to call "fun with food" strawberries and cream are a big one that people like to do. set a nice romantic setting and make him feel really comfortable and if it gets to where you guys want to make out then just do what makes you feel comfortable. don't go further than what you think you are ready for. good luck and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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iight i was suppose to go back out w/ this guy and me and him where on the phone from 11:30 till 1:35...well...when i got off the phone w/ him i was on the phone w/ this other guy...and he as telling me how ppl came up to him at skool and told him that he had a hott girlfiend(they where talking bout me) and he told them that i wasn't his girlfriend...well i was like *Sam ill be ur girlfriend and then out of no where we jst started going out...well i haven't talked to *Doug since then...and then today my friend was like o yeah me and *Doug are going out and i was like since when and she was like since 11:30 last nite! i know i shouldn't be mad but idk wat to do?

this is going to sound harsh but it's your own fault. if you really liked this guy then you shouldn't have gone with the other one, you shouldn't be mad at your friend you should be mad at yourself for letting yourself get caught up like this. i'm sorry to say but i think you might have lost out on the guy that you really wanted. sorry if i sounded mean, and i hope i helped.
*~*shan*~*

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well all year this girl has wanted to fight me but she never duz....she always called me a slut and everything well now she has my number and she calls me all the time bitching and threatning to beat my ass and i dont know what to do...i want to leave this town im just not happy here anymore plezz help me

hey, as long as you stand up for yourself she'll back-off. don't let her scare you if she was going to do something then she would have by now.
*~*shan*~*

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Me and my boyfriend were going out..But my other ex still liked me..Then i broke up with my boyfriend..Now i like my ex..But my ex gotten over me and i want me other ex bac..If you can im me on aim on lilsweetie69213 or write to me at lilsweetie69213 or just leave advice im so upset right now..Plz Help



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well i think you are screwed when it comes to both of them. maybe it would be a better idea for you to just move on from both guys and take some time for just you. don't worry about either of them if either of them want to be with you they will let you know. good luck.
*~*shan*~*

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im 13 nevr kissed b4. im goin to the movies next week wit a guy and i kno for a fact hes gunna kiss me. the prob is i dunno how to kiss and i dont wanna do something stupid!! so PLZ PLZ PLZ help me on how to kiss and some kissing tips!! THANX!

in my opinion i think that you should just follow his lead, if he leans in for a kiss then just go with the flow. you'll be fine.
*~*shan*~*

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