herbivore's advice column | Page 14

home view feedback ask questions add as friend advicenators

Gender:

Female

Location:

mich.i.gan

Occupation:

pro basketball player

Age:

14

AIM:

xmarksthespot43

Member Since:

April 8, 2006

Answers:

287

Last Update:

June 7, 2006

Visitors:

24260

Favorite Columnists

KELLY_ELIZABETH

BEAUTiFUL_DiSASTER_xo

Main Categories:

Fashion and Styles

about

hey. my name is christina. cool people call me X. so can you. kelly is my best friend. you can see her column on KELLY ELIZABETH i absolutely love basketball, shopping, and friends. stupid question=stupid answer. go ahead, ask me anything! dont be shy!

advice

My ex called today to say “happy easter”. We dated for 4 months, he dumped me, and it’s been 3 months since the breakup. We go to school together, have lockers next to each other, and have the same friends, but somehow we’ve managed to ignore each other. We were at the same small party last night, and he smiled at me a few times across the room, but I thought it was just coincidence. Why did he call? He has a new gf, but I think they might have broken up. Any insights into what he might be thinking or trying to do would be much appreciated.

hey. most likely he was just trying to be kind. probally the ignoring got to him and he wanted to tell you that you guys are still friends. i think that it was very kind of him. you might want to make sure that they are broken up before you get any ideas. if you still like him you could maybe (slowly) start up the relationship again with talking to him and asking to hang out. i hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

My life has been sucking. I was rapped, my boyfriends have been treating me like dirt, i had to get a job (14/f) because my crackhead (litteraly.) parents are too stupid (litteraly, neither went to college=hard way to find jobs) to get jobs and my dad is an alcoholic who beats me over little things such as my weight (a lil chubby), my grades (as and bs)and having friends and going out. so i decided to do drugs. my friend nick and i decided to go get the ingredients from the CVS down the street. then we did it. and we cant stop, i mean i dont remember a think while im high and i love it but one time i slept at nicks house because i was too high to remember where and what was happening and i woke up and tried waking nick up and he wouldnt wake up, eventually he did but it was a real scare! i went from doing it so much in one week to..only a lot in a month (there was some of a difference) and im just not sure what to do..my family hates me and treats me like an outcast and i hate it..i wanna runaway..but i REALLY wanna stop all the bad things im doing, im going to parties, having sex and drinking/doing drugs. i wanna stop..but im already so into it i cant stop..PLEASE HELP ME!!NO ONE ELSE WILL!!

wow. you have been through a lot. do you have any guidence counclours at your school. i would go ask them to help you. tell them all the things that happened to you and tell them that you want to stop. if you dont have any counclours, then talk to your principal or better yet a friends mom because the probally know you better. tell them EVERYTHING... dont hold anything back because the more they know, the more that they can help you out. its horrible what you have been through and i hope you stay safe. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

check out some of these sites:

http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/drug_alcohol/alcohol/drinking_drug_problem.html

http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/drug_alcohol/alcohol/coping_alcoholic.html

http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/drug_alcohol/drugs/know_about_drugs.html

So I am a "couch potato" so to speak, but I actually just plain don't like exercise. For 5 years I have not done anything besides being forced to in gym class. How do I start exercising again? I want to focus on running.

hey. if you want to break your couch potato habit then i suggest starting off with lots of short workouts each day. start small, so you may want to jog for 10 minutes around your block, or do light cardio. after about a week once you have gotten used to moving again, you can start to increase your work out. remember to be consistant. jog for 20 minutes or do some pushups and situps. the most important thing is to be patient because results dont come immediently. here are some websites that might help:
http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/food_fitness/exercise/exercise_wise.html

http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/food_fitness/exercise/pilates.html

http://www.kidshealth.com/teen/food_fitness/exercise/motivation.html

What are some exercises to build muscle and get rid of fat in your high thighs, and the fat where your bra strap is near your arm pit? lol thanks!!I rate 5's!!

hey. lunges are amazing when you want to trim some flab off your legs. you can even to them with weights to increase the results. for the arms, you can lift weights working on your triceps. if this is a great problem, then you should see you doctor and find other ways to loose the fat. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Okay, so there's this party coming up in like a month. It's one of the "biggest" parties of the year, if you will. Which means, EVERYONE will be there, and I mean everyone. I know my mother will not let me go to one of these unsupervised, drinking parties. How do I get away with going to one, or better yet, convince her to let me go?

hey. i know it may sound stupid, but i would follow what your mom says. i was invited to this girls halloween party and i really wanted to go... my mom convinced me not too go and i found out the next school day that everyone got in fights and started beating eachother up. i learned to listen to my mom. but if you still want to go, say that you will be responsible. offer for them to pick you up so they will have a responsible driver. also you can discuss a curfew that may be a little earlier than usual. if she still says that you cant go, maybe earn the privialge... offer to do the dishes after dinner, clean the house, or make dinner one night. that should do the trick. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

14/f. i know a boy that lives 3 hours away, but sometimes he's in town for gigs and stuff. he's the same age as i am, and he seems like a cool person. i just want to be friends with him because he is a lot like me. do y'all think that it would be weird if i walked up and started talking to him about random stuff, etc.? would you freak out if anybody did that to you? keep in mind that he has no clue who i am (i emailed him once, and he emailed me back, but i've never met him in person).

hey. i think that it would be fine if you went up and talked to him. just say... " hey i have heard you music and i think that it is really cool." you can start a conversation and then ask him if he wants to hang out sometime (as friends). hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I have really bad undereyes.. they are really blue and just gross would would cover them up??

Thanks. i will rate

hey. i found out that DREAM MATTE MOUSEE works really well, it hids basicly everything but you dont have to use that much, also you could use a little brozer. you might want to use a make up brush to apply it so it will look natural. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

well;;i am 13.
and have yet to start my period.

i have had discharge for 3 1/2 years now. and have hair down there. i dont no really when i will start. when will i start? please dont tell me your lucky or everyone starts at different times.:] also, how should i tell my mom i started my period. i dont want her to be all weird about it. thannks!

hey, dont worry about it... even though you dont want me to say that everyone starts at different times, ITS TRUE!! i thought my mom would be all weird over it too, but its not that bad! someone else was asking this question so here is a webiste:

http://www.kidshealth.com/kid/grow/girlstuff/when_period.html

also, dont be afraid to talke to your mom about it, she has been through it so she knows best! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Okay I really want to model and I need some advice on how I convince my mom ... I'd like to talk to her about it tomorrow sometime -- perferablly in the morning so I need advice NOWW!! Please just tell me the positives of it. Thanks so muchh =]

hey. i did some modeling when i was younger and i had such a blast! the photographers are so nice! modeling really helps boost your confidence. it helps you to take care of yourself and it teaches you responsiblity! hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

i always find the wrong guy!my last boyfriend was totally abusive!he would hurt me a lot..now im with this guy Zach and he FLIPS out over every little thing. like we went to the mall and we were holding hands and that, then i saw my friend Joe and i gave him a hug and after zach was like "your such a f**king hoe if you ever cheat on me again ill break up with you"..i guess i deserved that.then i went to go get some big cookies and he wanted a medium and they were outta medium so i got him large and he flipped out..what should i do!?

my advice... BREAK UP WITH HIM! no guy should get mad if you hug another guy as a friend. you DO NOT deserve to be treated like that! no one does! who cares if you got him a large! he should be glad that you even stood in line for him! it seems like he is taking advantage then you. i'm SURE that you can do better than him. if you are not comfortable with this, then i suggest that you talk to him. say that he should lay off a bit. hope his helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

15/f- Okay so theres this guy, Ryan. Hes one of my friends cousins, and Lives like 2 hours away from me. I met him last summer, and ever since then, we hang out everytime hes in town. Well usually when we hang out, theres a little flirting and stuff, like we bicker back and forth and stuff like that, but when we hung out time before last, he wrote me this big long not on my cell phone about how he hoped I didnt think he didnt like me because of the "fighting" because he did. Well I didn't know whether to take that as he liked me as a girl friend or friend. Well he was over here last night with 2 of his friends, and we were all hanging out. We started cuddling and holding hands and stuff. When he was leaving, we were standing by his car and he had his hands around my waist, and we almost kissed, but my mom ruined it lol... well anyways, neither of us will really take the first move. I would, but its been like a year and a half since I've made out with anyone, so I'm afraid I'm gonna suck at it again. Its like starting all over for me. And I'm scared he'll pull away, because I misread the signals or something. I don't know. But I'm starting to like him a lot, and he said he liked me when we were laying outside. So I just dont know what to do. He'll be here in 3 weeks again. Any advice? Please, anything would help.

hey. if he said that he liked you, then why wouldn't you trust him? it sounds like your relationship is progressing and i think that you should take the next move. maybe you could ask him out on a real date as boyfriend and girlfriend. i wouldnt be worried about sucking at making out. ;) call him up and talk to him so then things can be straighted out before he comes to see you again. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I went to the doctors in like february and the doctor said I was going to get my period really soon and to be ready.

I still haven't gotten it.

Why is this? I mean i know they can't really tell when you're exactly going to get it or anything. But i think she just said that because i had hair down there. But i've had it for a while. and I've had discharge for about a year or 2 now. I just don't know when i'm going to get it. does anyone know why i havent gotten it yet and is that like weird? 14/f

http://www.kidshealth.com/kid/grow/girlstuff/when_period.html

hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

Well my hair is extremely curly and frizzy. I want to know what I can do with it to make it less frizzy/curly without any products. I use heat styling (straightning irons, hair curlers) all the time but my ends are getting really split so i need a new way. I tried sleeping with my hair in pigtails and then hairties down the whole thing, it takes the frizz away but it looks bad. I also tried rag curlers and that didnt turn out the best does anyone have any other ideas?

Thanks much =)

hey. it sounds like you might want to get a chemical relaxer at your hair salon. i know a friend who got one and it makes your hair very smooth and straight and very managable. you might have to straighten it a few times inbetween but just to get some of the waves out. hope this helps!!:) ♥ ♥ ♥

14 5'4 110 pounds

I want to lose about 10 pounds without becoming anorexic or bullemic... any suggestions for healthy ways to lose the 10 pounds?

*what to eat
*excercises
*anything else

hey. it sounds like you are at the perfect weight for your height and age. but if you do want to loose a few lbs, you can do it the most effectivly by drinking lots of water, eating 5-6 servings of fruits and veggies, maybe take a walk or run for like 10-20 minutes each day and try to avoid eating unhealthy snacks inbetween meals. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

hey, I have light brown hair, fair skin, and hazel eyes, and i want to start wearing a little eye make-up. Any suggestions?

hey. i also have hazel eyes and what i found that works is to accentuate your best feature. for me it is my eyes also, so i spend most of my time on that. you cant go wrong with a little mascarra. now dont go buy black mascarra because you dont want it to look too heavy. i would buy a brown or a black-brown color. also eyeliner is a great way to make your eyes pop. again, dont use black because you have fair skin, use a dark-medium brown. start from the middle of your eye and apply. you can also add a neutral color eyeshadow such as a sand color to even out your eyelids. try not to overload on the eye makeup when you first start out. and dont be afraid to mix and match looks and try something new until you find what fits you best. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

hi! i just started going to a tanning salon in order to get a base tan for summer! every time i go in, i've been buying these things for eye protection... they are little circles that you basically tape on your eyes. i am not sure what they are made of, but they feel like the same material that tinsel for christmas trees is made of. basically, should i keep buying these things, or is it okay to just go in the stand up booth and just close my eyes the whole time? thanks!

hey. i would recommend using the eye protection thingies. i know it may sound easier to just not use them, but they wouldnt have them if you didnt need them. you could ask the workers at the tanning salon if you need to use them. i would listen to what they say because they know the most. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

I'm having a sleepover soon, its not a big one or anything, only a couple of friends. Its just, they're new girls at school and i dont know them very well, so i dont want it to be awkward. Does anyone know any good things to do at sleepovers so we wont get bored?

hey. sleepovers are so much fun! even if they are not with your favorite friends, they are always a chance that you can make new friends. my favorite things to do at sleepovers are play truth or dare, paint each others nails, and pig out on junk food. movies are great too expecially when you dont know a lot of ppl. i would bring some magazines or something cause those can be great conversation starters. also prank phone calling ppl is a exciting too! haha jk. well i hope this helps, just remember to be yourself and have fun, and dont worry about feeling awkward!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

How do I made a messy bun so it stays in place?
It slips out like everytime (If a move fast, in minutes..or immi. if I run)
Sometimes it ends up being a ponytail ;P
What am I doin' wrong!? :S

hey. the thing that i do that seems to work good is to bend over and let my hair hang down. they i kinda scrunch it and finish it with a few ponytail holders... this should work. hope this helps!! :) ♥ ♥ ♥

ok well this is the same person w.the bestfriend thing.. well before anything ever happened between us.. we were soo close like we'd chill all the time then suddenly it all stoped.. do you think that tomorrow i should go up to him and tell him how i miss how we used 2 be before everything happened and i want things to end like hooking up between us cause i dont wanna lose him as a friend?

hey. i think that you are absolutely right. you should go up to him and tell him that you guys should stay friends. i think that he will understand. hope this helps :) ♥ ♥ ♥

ok well basically theres this guy im totalli into and he liked me to but he never told me so i got w/his bestfriend but me n his bestfriend never dated but we were tlaking and then we stoped and one night we went to this cabin and we told eachother we like eachother and we kissed and he kept saying (his bestfriend) can never find out and blah then the next week until tuesday he ignored me.. then tuesday came and there was no school wednesday and it was my frinds bday party and we kissed again and now hes ignoring me again but i rele like him and people think its because hes afraid of his bestfriend finding out and i know he is.. but he totally ignores me but he tells me he likes me and blah and he tells his friend who he talks to abt it that he likes me but he shows no emotion .. but i realli like him and i dont know wut 2 do.. do you think he rele likes me and is jus scared of his bestfriend finding out or do you think hes using me'? HELP

okay, first, for understanding purposes: pretend that your "boyfriends" name is JACK and his best friend is JOEY. i think that JACK knows that JOEY likes you. JACK is scared that if JOEY sees you too out in public that he will get mad at JACK. the best thing to do would to go ask both of them if they like you. you can clear the whole thing up with a good talk. i dont think that JACk is using you. hope this helps!! :) &hearts ♥ ♥

<<< Previous Advice Column

Next Advice Column >>>