Member Since:
November 23, 2007Answers:
519Last Update:
July 8, 2014Visitors:
35575Favorite Columnists
xosodapopx3
JustJessOx
Jackieee
about
advice
Hello ,
So I have this situation , I go to the gym , and there is this guy that works there , and so , we use to eye eachother , he works there by the way , and later on he said ''hey'' to me one day , and the next time he was like ''whats up'' and as he came back hes like '' I always see you here , your here like 24/7'' and stuff , and then now he says ''hey'' to me or ''smiles'' to me and stuff , and I want to get to know him more , what should I do ? Should I ask him to hang out?
PLEASE HELP
Thanks.
BETTY
Hey there,
Yes, I would definately give it a shot :) He obviously likes that you are there, so ask him to hang out, grab a drink, go to a movie with you, or even just for a walk through a park. I am sure he will say yes; he already talks to you and smiles at you :) Ask him if he is interested in some quality time with you and then smile at him... I am positive he would like to get to know you better
I am 16 years old female. It's my sophomore year of highschool and I am becoming depressed. I have a younger brother and sister that are twins. They are freshman in highschool and i hate it. Exspecially since my sister is like a mini me, only people think shes prettier and it just seems like shes better than me at everything. Like school, sports ect. We both hangout with the same type of friends. Sometimes I feel like my friends like her better than me. During my freshman year in highschool the upperclassman guys all thought i was really cute and were trying to get to know me and stuff. Now it seems like they would rather talk/hangout with her and not only is it embaressing but it really hurts. I am already selfconsious about my looks as it is. I even left school one day crying because someone tried to give me a compliment but it turned into a bigger insult by saying alot of people think my sisters prettier than me. It's making me want to disapear. I dont know what to do anymore. Please help me :'(
Hey there,
I am sorry that you feel this way, younger siblings can be very difficult to get along with. No matter what others say about you and your siblings, you are all different people and you will be good at different things. Sure your friends may seem to like your sis more, but she is just someone new. They have known you for a longer time, so it seems as if you aren't noticed as much. Newer people may seem interesting at first, but they tend to get less interesting as time passes on.
If the upperclassmen thought you were cute before, do not worry... they will always think of you as cute. Your cuteness doesn't just go away because they talk to someone else, they are still crushing on you (secretly). You will always be a person who is unique, special, and talented in your own way. There are many things your siblings cannot do that you can. I am sure they wish they were older so they could have what you have. You are allowed responsibility, time, and freedom at your age where they cannot have these things.
If you feel flustered or frustrated, don't go near them. You have your life and they have theirs. Surround yourself in the people that make you feel good inside, listen to your favorite music, and don't be afraid to do something you are capable of. Dance around your room, sing outloud, or soak yourself in a bubblebath and think of all the good things you have right now. There is always one thing that can make a person happy... I am sure you know what your 'happy' is. So, hold your head up high, smile, and ignore what others say. You will get through this thing called life, just never forget what makes you smile
Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
Please just tell me your opinions.
Hey there,
No, for the most part it isn't wrong for a guy to fantasize about other girls. Guys tend to have something in their brain that forces them think about other girls and therefore they like to imagine being with them.. which is completely normal. But, if he is not sharing what he is doing with you.. such as: doing things behind your back, actually being with someone else, lying to you, and not treating you right.. then you should be calling him out and asking 'why are you doing that?' or say 'I'd like it if you stopped that... Now'.
You shouldn't be mad, you should just talk to him about it and let him know it really bothers you. He probably won't stop doing it completely, but you could ask him to look at it in private and to not bring up the subject/comment on other girls when you are around. He should be treating you with respect and care about how you feel inside. Yes, guys will make comments about other girls and if he does that, tell him straight that you don't appreciate it.
An honest guy will listen to you and put an effort into what you ask him. Do not break up with him over this, unless he continues to lie and do it behind your back. And please, don't compare yourself to a porn star, you are much better than that. He should listen to what you say and work with you to make things better... If a guy doesn't do this, he is not the right guy for you
18/f my friend Deliah is 17 and I think she is goin to get hurt. She met this guy when we were at this water park. We were staying there over night and he was the concierge. She talked to him and at first we were all just kidding around, next
thing I know she asks for his number. He's 21 and is really weird. He's rude and I don't trust him. I just don't get a good vibe. Also, he told her how his last girlfriend was a stripper. The one before that cheated on him three times. Then, he says he's in college but not going right now at all, because he is waiting for one specific class. She called him one day at like 2 and he was like why'd you call you woke me up. And she was like why aren't you up yet. And he's like because I always wake up at 3. He sounds like such a bum. Also, he lives an hour and a half away. He wants her to come down all the time. Deliah hasn't told her parents about him. Deliah is a realy really good girl, she's actually pretty prude, which gets annoying sometimes, but she's also a huge push over. I'm really worried about her safety. I knowthis is far fetched maybe, but what if he tries to rape her or something. I mean honestly, what does a 21 year old guy want to do with a 17 year old girl? She just turned 17 over a week ago too. He turns 22 soon. I like older guys too. But not that old, and I'm also 18. At least i'm considered an adult. I know I can't force her to do or not do anything, but what should I say? How should I say it? My other best fried who is very close to deliah also wants to say something
Hey there,
Based on what you've told me, I believe Deliah isn't really thinking things through. I am glad you care about her and want the best for her. The only way you are going to get her to look at the situation differently, is if you let her know that this probably isn't the right guy for her. Say to her 'are you sure you are hitting it off with this guy?' or 'maybe he isn't the right guy for you'. You should say it firmly and make sure that she knows you aren't trying to get rid of him; just trying to help her make the right decision. I am sure she is an intelligent girl, so let her know she should really think about what she is doing first and not just see him because she can. Let her know she can meet guys who she will relate to on a better level. If you have already got a bad vibe from him, that is not a good sign. Always trust your instincts and let others (Deliah) know how you feel. Once she thinks it over, I'm sure she will make the right decision
im a 22 year old female the person im getting to know is 22 male i met in 8th grade of middle school almost 10 years ago and we went to the same high school also but we never talked, i was very shy and he was more outgoing and popular..so now he came to my job and remembered me,he told me he had a crush on me in middle school and always wanted to get to know me..so after that we talk & are getting to now each other.he was in a relationship for almost 6 years and has 3 kids. his ex had cheated on him.. the longest relationship i had was 5 months & i have no kids. we found out we have many things in common like music,movies ,we both have 2jobs & stuff like that.so after a week of getting to know each other he asks me to be his girlfriend i said yes cause i was really starting to like him.after 3 days he told me he was sorry but he thought he went to fast & he just wasnt ready for a relationship yet, but still wants to get to know me well & wants us to be a couple in the future. i understood perfectly. we still talk/text almost everyday & we go out once in a while. the last time we went out he kissed me & i know i should of stopped it but i like him he says he likes me. it feels wrong cause we are not a couple. but im confused. what if he is only using me maybe to forget of his ex. i feel like im not his type. he has had much more experience than i have i still live with my parents because i help them. i have 2 jobs but is still treated like a teenager by my parents even though im 22.im still shy around him so what kind of questions should i ask him?? how do i ask him if he really does like me? do u think its right to go out with him? i would like advice if anyone has had experince this how do u think this relationship will turn out?
Hey there,
I would say, go for it. Sure you both have your differences, but you also have your simularities. I think it is bold of him to tell you about his crush he had on you in middle school. Guys are usually too nervous to talk to a girl they really like. Now that you know how he feels about you, go with it. It does not matter if he has been in a relationship, you should still like him for who he is. If you feel that you have a connection with him and you know he is over his ex, then don't hold back now. It is sweet of him to say he could see you two together in the future. It won't hurt you to get to know him and be real good friends with him right now. The future can be far away and so you should live in the moment with him.
I really doubt that he is using you. I believe he would like to get to know you better for he had feelings for you before, so he already knows you are a great person. I believe he wants to hang out with you for you can be a person to talk to, a person to do things with, a person that will listen, a person he still has a crush on (high school crushes don't just go away) and someone he knows will treat him right.
You will never know if you are someones type if you never give it a chance. The only way a person can know, is if they try. Sure he may be different, but he still accepts you for who you are. It doesn't matter what happened in your past, just know you learned from it and keep moving. I know what it is like to be treated like a child even though you are an adult. It may take time, but one day your parents will realize 'wow my child has grown up' and they will see you in a new light.
Never be afraid to smile and be yourself. You can ask him anything you want. Ask him how his job is going, what he does for fun, if he has seen a new movie that came out, what his favorite things are, how his kids are doing, or if he would like to hang out that weekend. Be confident in what you ask. If you want to know if he really likes you, flirt with him. There is no harm in flirting if he is already over his ex. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know. If he grins, fidgets, or flirts back, you will know he has feelings for you.
I believe the kiss was him trying to show you his true feelings. One sweet kiss can tell a lot. I believe if he accepts you and if you feel comfortable around him, it is definately okay to date him. I believe this relationship can turn out however you want it to. If you are accepting, supportive, and loving... you can make any relationship work
so there is this guy lets call him trevor. well my friend allison likes him. she stopped liking him and was liking some other guy. while she was liking this other guy i started crushing on trevor. well she thinks the other guy is talking to this other guy so she starts liking trevor again. she asks me for advice about him and i give it to her. she decides to write him a note and she asked if i could give it to him. well i did. i know things arent going to be akward with trevor because he talked to me a lil bit two class hours after i gave him the note. but i just wanna know is it wrong that im crushing on a guy that im helping my friend get with. I mean its not a big crush. its just that he talks to me. and he never really talks to my friend. and if nothing happens between her and my friend she will probably like someone else. even though she keeps going back to liking this guy. but anyways do you think what im doing is wrong? thanks :)
Hey there,
It is not wrong to crush on a guy just because your friend likes him. You obviously both have simular interests ;) and as long as you and your girl friend are getting along and as long as all three of you are getting along, then no worries. It is common for this to happen to anybody. He isn't dating anyone so it is kind of a free for all.
If she dates him, he is hers and then you can still crush on him, but you cannot take him away from her. If he doesn't really like her or moves on eventually after dating her (or not), then you can have your chance. There is nothing wrong with helping a friend have the guy she likes. That is very nice of you. As for now, he is available (first come, first served) and as long as he is, crush away. You never know, he could be yours in time
ok so lately i have been feelin tired ALL the time. i never have energy anymore.
my boyfriend and i are sexually active, but i am never in the mood. if i force myself to try to have sex, i feel gross and dirty...like i want NOTHING to do with sex. this has caused problems with our relationship and idk what to do ro what is wrong with me.
advice?
Hey there,
If you are tired all the time, try taking B12 vitamins. They are called the energy pill and if you take the correct dose everyday for about a week you should start to feel less tired. A lot of people are B12 deficient and usually they don't even know it. Or try going for a walk/taking a nice shower, they help you to wake up as well.
As for never being in the mood... that is likely because you are doing the same old thing and never spicing up your life in bed. Try something new! Try a different position, try new moves, wear new and attractive underwear (it not only makes you feel sexier, it makes him excited too), do it in a place in your house you've never done it before, and be sure to set the mood. Not only having the right physical set, but having the right mind set is crucial.
If you introduce new items, there will be more facination. If you have him take more time on foreplay and slowly build yourself up, you will be more willing. And, if you can use all your senses, you will be more psyched for sex before and during.
There probly isn't anything wrong with you, you are likely just having an off time or maybe he isn't pleasuring you the way you really want. Tell him what feels good and have him do the same for you. If he communicates how good it feels for him and how he hopes he is satisfying you during it all, you will feel more turned on just by his voice/words. Communication always steers you towards better sex.
If any of what I said helps you towards a better sex life, the next time he is in the mood, tell him you want him to blindfold you and seduce you. Not knowing what is coming will allow you to only concentrate on his motions and his movements. Try the new, focus on the moment, and soon your mood will be nothing but pure happiness
All right. I'm not super popular at school and I've only had a couple boyfriends, one of them I've dated twice, but he really wasn't my type and he was mostly after sex, which, I am glad to say, I never agreed to. But, anyway, there's a homecoming dance coming up on Friday and a lot of people have dates for the dance afterwards...
Any tips on asking a guy out? I have really bad issues asking them out since I'm, like, super shy and a bit self-conscious... I don't do sports either, don't know anything about them. I'm 16/F and I mostly write fiction... No, I don't like aliens, sorry. :(
I don't know if that helped or not, but hey, maybe.
Hey there,
When asking a guy out, you just have to be yourself and go for it. It doesn't matter if you are shy or not, if you put your mind to it and gather up your courage, you can do anything. Just walk up to a guy you kind of like and say "hey, I was wondering... are you going to homecoming?" or "are you availible Friday night? (or whatever day the homecoming dance is)". If he says yes, ask him if he would like to go with you. A guy will love you when you show him you love yourself. Keep a conversation going by commenting on something he has, asking for his opinion, or talking about something he likes. Find a common interest you two have also and go with it, it will help you connect more. Do not forget to smile and make sure to thank him after homecoming so that he knows you appreciate what he did for you :)
Never be afraid to follow your heart. Put a smile/grin on your face, take a deep breath, then go for it. You have got nothing to lose, only more to gain
ok im young 17 and im on birth control i have sex frequently so at any time and any moment and always a posiblity that i may be or become pregnant. i dont use condoms any more and havnt for a bout half a year. same boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. stick to the question. i dont know if im being pranoid or that i really am pregnant. i hear that while on birth control i could still be pregnant and get my so called period. for two weeks before my period i have had bad cramps. some say ovulating maybe idk. i have had frequent car sickness feelings that come and go. yesterday i was working and i felt like i was going to throw up i felt totally fine the night before and when i came in to work towards the end i was going to puke. i thankfully had enough power to not throw up embarasingly infront of everyone. but when i came back home i laid down still felt sick and RAN to the bathroom and threw up like three times ew. i'm not the one to throw up randomly the last time i really threw up like this was YEARS ago i was 12 im not kidding. on the other hand people could just feel sick then be okay. which happend to me i felt fine after it was a great releaif. i told myself if i feel this way again ill take a pregnacy test but i didnt but then again it comes and goes. idk if im being stupid i have not yet got my period im gonna wait and see its coming in 7 days supposed to and i have been spotting this week but i did forget to take my pill once day this week and have been taking the rest of my pills later at night so that might be why on the other hand if that was the case i would have more brownish blood in my panties i just dont know i dont want to feel stupid i keep telling myslef im not but then again i could be. i have some sighns of pregnancy and same amount of getting my period ugh but how will i know if im going to get it any way because im on the pill i need major advice. calm myself let me know if im being paranoid i havnt told my boyfriend any of this becuase i dont want to be wrong and have worried him. which is annoying.
Hey there,
There is no way to know for sure whether you are pregnant or not... but you do have some signs so I would highly recommend getting a pregnancy test and taking it. If you don't feel comfortable talking to your boyfriend about this right now, then you don't have to right at this moment. You may be having a weird period right now because you are stressed. Your hormones can change when you are stressed, so that could be a reason for the spotting and strange periods. Yet, there is still that chance you could be pregnant, so please go get a pregnancy tester and be sure.
You know your body better than any of us, so if you think something is different (such as the puking) then get it checked out. Do not wait too long if you think you may have even the slight chance of being pregnant. Better to know sooner than later. Trust your gut feeling
when itunes asks if you want to backup your library, what exactly does that mean? if i decide to do it...will i be able to access my purchases on another computer if mine were to break? please help! (and try to describe it as if you were talking to an 8 year old lol)
Hey there,
When itunes asks if you want to back up your music, it is just asking you if you would like to burn them to a disk. If you have a lot of music, and you say yes to backing up your songs, it may ask you if you would like to put them on multiple disks. Click yes and have a few blank disks ready. Put in the first disk and hit 'back up', then after it fills up the first disk with music it will ask you to insert another disk. Put in another disk, then click on 'back up' again. If you do not have a ton of songs in your itunes, you won't have to worry about this.
Know that, if you back up your music to a disk, you can't actually listen to the music on the disk, the songs are just on it so that if your computer breaks down/crashes you don't lose all of your songs and have to buy them again later on.
If you decide to back your music up, you will be able to then take that cd you backed up the music onto, then put it on your new computer and upload the music onto another itunes on that computer. I highly recommend backing up your music, for if you don't... and your computer crashes, you may never get those songs or your money you paid for them back. Hopefully this made sense and helped you :p If you need help with anything else related to itunes, you can always inbox me
Ok well me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex(stupid) and i unknowingly gave him chlamydia as soon as i found out i had it i told him and he was really understanding. Anyways i took the antibiotics and was cured he had not yet went to the doctor and we had an argument and he told me if u were here right now we would have some rough sex and i stupidly said I wouldnt have sex with you because you have chlamydia and i dont it was supposed to be a tupid joke but he thinks i was scorning him and now he is really upset...how d i get him to forgive me...byt the way we aare in a long distance relationaship...HELP ME PLEASE>
Hey there,
That is a rough thing to go through in a relationship. I am glad he was understanding about the whole thing, since you didn't know then. What you said about not having sex with him because he has chlamydia... really does come off as a burn towards him. He had sex with you even though you had chlamydia, and he forgave you even under the curcumstances. I think anyone would be upset after hearing what you said.
I believe the best thing you can do now, is talk to him. And if possible, in person. Being in person allows a person to see your true feelings. Explain to him that you didn't mean what you said, that you weren't thinking straight, and that you are really sorry. He won't forgive you the first few times you say these things, but keep trying every few days when you talk to him, be yourself, and show him that you are being honest.
If you cannot see him in person, call him. He may not pick up at first either, but he will eventually. Leave him a voicemail letting him know you are sorry and you hope he will talk to you, for you would like to talk to him. Just keep trying and in time, you will talk one on one and you both will feel better about what happened. Forgiveness isn't something you can make a person do, you can only guide them to it
Ok so do guys prefer girls with big butts. I think it makes girls look weird when they've got huge byte but they are the ones who get all tha guys. I'm asking this because im starting to get a big butt. Should I be worried and try to get it smaller or do guys like that. And ifthey do is it because there's "more to grab" or what. I'd really prefer a guys opinionbut girlopinions are good to.
Hey there,
Yes, guys do like big butts. It may seem strange on some people, but most guys would still find it attractive. Not all guys go for a girl just because their butt is big, some guys actually care about a girls personality and wisdom instead. No, you shouldn't be worried about having a big butt, it is normal. Eventually you will have guys looking at your butt though and at first you will probably like it, but when you don't, tell a guy to knock it off or just wear a longer shirt/bunnyhug.
Guys love big butts for many reasons. Yea, they do like them cause there is "more to grab", but they also like them for they are bigger, more visually attractive, and having a bigger bum is a good sign of fertility, which guys like to have in any girl. All in all, love who you are. You cannot shrink your butt in any easy way, so go ahead and be yourself
I finished cosmetology school in april of this year. yet when i took the test i failed it the first time and that was in june. Im really scared to take it again but i am going to in the next few weeks. I have all these student loans to pay and it has been hell trying to find a job. Last week i found a part time job at hallmark and that will only be seasonal but i want to get into asalon as soon as i am done with getting my license. I currently live with my boyfriends family and me and him really want to move out but we cant until i can support myself. I apologize if this was kind of long. I guess there isnt a specific question but i guess i am looking for advice
Hey there,
It sounds like you are on the right track. I believe you are just wondering if what you are doing is the right thing. If your boyfriend is fine with you living with his family and himself, then continue staying there. I'm sure he knows that you are trying to complete school and that you will be able to support yourself in time. If he doesn't, you should talk to him and let him know you appreciate his support.
You do have the job at Hallmark and then once you get your license... it should all work out. Continue what you are doing, study hard and go for the passing mark in your class. I know it is hard to pay student loans, but as soon as you get a stable job, everything should become easier.
To show how much you appreciate your boyfriend and his family, help out around the house. The little things you do, such as helping clear the table or picking up something laying around.. shows that you care. I think you know that you are going to be in a better spot once you pass your class... So work hard, appreciate what you have, never give up, and you will be able to get yourself where you want to be
hi i had sex with a guy i was dating like two or three months ago and i was taking the pill but the day after i ran out and then im just now like a week ago getting back on it but im always tired i get the hickups all the time i fee weak i feel sick i was eating dinner with my mom it was this stuff i use to like and as soon as i smelled it it made my belly turn and i hjust couldnt eat but i took a test a week after we had sex could it be the pill doing that to me ? i hada miscarriage before when i1st started taking the pill but i didnt know i was pregnant until it was too lated and im getting sharp pains that start at my belly button and it shoots all the way down my vag i have no idea what it is but i had the pain before but i was also on the pill before when i got the pain to so idk if im pregnant the test said i wasnt so i didnt stop taking the pill and i dont want to talk to my mom about it she would get mad that im on the pill she got mad when she found out my 35 year old sister was on it she doesnt like it cause what can happen when you on it and she also got pregnant with my brother on it so please help thanks alot
megan
Hey there,
If your pregnancy test said you weren't pregnant, you likely aren't.. but you never know, there are those odd cases. I think that the pill could be making you feel different towards foods you like or else your diaphragm could be irritated. You can have hiccups from eating too quickly, feeling nervous or excited, or by having a little irritation in your diaphragm. Birth control can have side affects such as changing hormones, feeling sick at times, having depression, changing of your periods, and making you feel tired. If you are having sharp pains in your stomach, I would go see a doctor. They know more than myself.
I used to have a sharp pain where you mention having yours, and at first the doctors thought I might of had appendicitis but it just turned out that my period was causing this pain and it eventually went away. It was extremely painful, I was in tears. Have a warm bath or use a warm damp cloth to soothe it. You likely have pain because of your period like I did. The only other reason I could think of why you would have it, is because you may have a non-cancerous liver tumour. No worries though, it is just a thought, cause I heard about people that have had sharp pains there and happened to have this. It is not too common, but if you continue to have pain there for several days, I would definately go see a doctor.
As for being on the pill, there isn't really any records of birth control harming a baby if you happen to be pregnant and still continue taking it. Sorry to hear about the miscarriage and I hope that next time you can find out right away whether you are pregnant or not. If you know you feel the symptoms and even if the pregnancy test says 'no' the first time, I would still check a few days later with another tester... just in case.
I wouldn't tell your mom that you are on the pill right away, but maybe eventually you will have to. It does come with side effects, but its always better to be safe then sorry
So i was with my boyfriend the other day..and the topic came up, and he basically said that he thinks vaginas are unattractive. I thought guys liked...looking at that? I mean he didn't mean specifically mine, he just meant in general. I was kind of offended and now I'm really self conscious about it. Is that normal for a guy to say he doesnt like the way they look or whatever? (and no he isnt gay). Guys opinions would be good. Can anyone give me some insight please??
Thank you!
Hey there,
I would say, it is alright if he thinks vaginas are unattractive at first. It is simular to a girl thinking a penis is unattractive at first. Maybe he just isn't that comfortable around them... so if you talk about it a bit more and gradually make him more willing to like them, then he should. I'd think a guy would find a vagina strange since they've had a penis all their life :p
He just has to get used to the unusual, by the sounds of it. Let him know what he said made you feel uncomfortable and then ask him if he will be a little supportive. It is okay if he thinks they are unattractive, but if he doesn't want to go near one... then help him realize what he is missing. Have him list some good things about vaginas and if he can't think of any, compare a vagina to a penis. There are things they have in common (Head of the penis and the clitoris for example). I know it sounds crazy, but once he realizes there are simularities, he should start to change his mind
soo me and this guy had a thing at the end of the summer it was only for a few weeks but i was really starting to fall for him. then he just stopped texting me and told me he's kinda with this girl now. i work with him and i kinda want to make him realize like "wow thats what i missed out on". i don't like being played and messed with..how can i do thiss?
Hey there,
The easiest thing to do, is ask him if he wants to hang out sometime. See if he wants to catch a movie at your place, take a walk around a park, get some ice cream, or have a picnic. It doesn't matter if it is anything extreme, it just has to be something where you are alone with him and can show him your personality, which will make him smile :)
You say you already know him a bit, so you would know if he is a player. Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, it probably is. The only way to know for sure, is to get to know him better.
If you can make him laugh, he probably likes you and if he quickly says yes to one of your options, he is probably already interested. Just gain some one on one, show him who you really are, and flirt of course. Wink at him, say sweet things, look him in the eyes, lean on his shoulder, and touch his arm/leg. He will get the hint and if he likes it, he won't tell you to back off... even if he has a girlfriend. If he does say "hey, you know I have a girl" or something like that, say "I'm sorry, I was curious" and grin at him. Just be yourself and he will be sure to fall for you in time
my boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him but i havent gave him an answer yet so what do i do ? i'm 15
Hi there,
If you don't feel comfortable having sex, tell him you don't feel comfortable. He would of said 'ok' to you saying no and continued your normal relationship if he really respected you, but since he keeps bugging you, tell him to lay off. The only way to stop him is to let him know you are serious. If he still keeps pressuring you after that, don't talk to him for a bit.
If he eventually apologizes or actually stops asking you for sex, then let him back in. He shouldn't just want you for sex, there are more important things to a relationship... and if thats all he wants, he is not the right guy for you
I want a bra if not exactly like this or somewhat like this, just give me store names or links please!:) Anything will help.
http://i54.tinypic.com/9fmeeq.jpg
(my boyfriend suggested suggested this)
Hi,
The best places to look for any kind of bras is at Victoria's Secret and Lasenza. They have a ton of bra sizes and designs. They are awesome and so comfortable :)
If you can, see if there is a store near you so you can see them up close and the workers can help you find the perfect fitting bra if you need. Also, if you want a little something more to excite your guy, they sell other lingerie too. Check it out and see if you find ones you like... I am sure you will find some you and your guy will both agree on ;)
Heres the links: http://www.lasenza.com/eng/brands/beyond-cleavage-by-la-senza/Bras and http://www.victoriassecret.com/bras/very-sexy
I work at a fast food place called Captain D's. The females work up front, and the males work in the back. Im 17/F. Ive been working there for about a month now, and I've known my head manager since I was 14, which is how I kind of got the job.
I was talking to my manager tonight, and I told her I felt as if some of the employees didn't like me, and she said that, "If anyone, and Im sure I know who specifically, acts funny to you, its probably because she feels threatened by you."
WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?
Hey,
What your manager meant, was that when one of your fellow employees act strange or as if they don't like you... that person is just jealous. When a person feels jealous they will treat you strange or badly to make themselves feel as if they are doing better than you.
Your boss was giving you a compliment :) She meant that other workers feel threatened by your good working skills. You should be honoured they want to be like you... Woohoo!
Iv been having this problem for a long time and it seems like its getting worse .I'm exausted all the time and there is days where I feel like I'm going to pass out or black out because I'm so tierd .I work 2 jobs one part time one full time .but I don't think that's it because iv been tierd like this way before I worked 2 jobs .I can't quit one job because I need the money but I don't know what to do I have no insurance so I can't go see a doctor so what do I do or what is my problem anybody have a clue
Hey there,
I believe you are just really exhausted. What you could do is just rest. If you have time during a day when you aren't working, sit down, close your eyes, and rest for even fifteen minutes. It helps refreshen yourself.
What you say your life is like, reminds me of my mom. She works all the time and only sleeps from maybe 2am until 8am in the morning... the thing about her though is that somehow she manages to stay fairly awake. No matter what people say about having 'eight' hours of sleep a day, it all depends on the person. Maybe you don't need as much sleep as you think..?. Try not to worry about others work, yours is the most important and if others need your help, they will ask you :)
You could be low on vitamins too. Most people find that when they are extremely tired all the time that they need B12 vitamins to keep them going. I know this because I used to be very tired and didn't want to function much.. then I started getting B12 shots for a while. Since you cannot go to a doctor, you can go a local drugstore and purchase some B12 pills. Just follow what the reccomended dose is on the label. B12 vitamins increase your alertness, reduce tiredness, and make you feel more energized. It is known as the 'energy' pill.
If you do not want to take pills, there are foods that contain it as well. Foods such as, liver, fish, eggs, cheese, meat, cereals, plant milk, soy products, and brewers yeast. Personally, I would say when taking a pill it is easier to keep track of how much B12 you are getting, but it is all up to you. It is common for people to be low in B12 and not know it. Try it and hopefully it will help