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jealousy
I am 16 years old female. It's my sophomore year of highschool and I am becoming depressed. I have a younger brother and sister that are twins. They are freshman in highschool and i hate it. Exspecially since my sister is like a mini me, only people think shes prettier and it just seems like shes better than me at everything. Like school, sports ect. We both hangout with the same type of friends. Sometimes I feel like my friends like her better than me. During my freshman year in highschool the upperclassman guys all thought i was really cute and were trying to get to know me and stuff. Now it seems like they would rather talk/hangout with her and not only is it embaressing but it really hurts. I am already selfconsious about my looks as it is. I even left school one day crying because someone tried to give me a compliment but it turned into a bigger insult by saying alot of people think my sisters prettier than me. It's making me want to disapear. I dont know what to do anymore. Please help me :'(
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I totally get how you'd feel this way. It makes complete sense. Well your friends love you and it may seem like they like your sister better but I mean they have known you longer. If it bothers you so much then find some more friends. Friends that aren't always around your sister. If it would help any you should talk to your friends and tell them how you are feeling about your sister. The guys will come and go. I doubt they think you're not pretty. I mean yeah, they are most likely thinking your sister is pretty too. But do you think what they thought of you changed? Doubt that, you're still a really pretty girl.
Well don't focus on this kind of stuff. Boys aren't gonna be there forever and your sister will be. Don't be jealous of her because there are things you are better at than your sister. Love your sister and enjoy her while you can while you're young. She looks up to you so be happy about that. Good luck!
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Hey there,
I am sorry that you feel this way, younger siblings can be very difficult to get along with. No matter what others say about you and your siblings, you are all different people and you will be good at different things. Sure your friends may seem to like your sis more, but she is just someone new. They have known you for a longer time, so it seems as if you aren't noticed as much. Newer people may seem interesting at first, but they tend to get less interesting as time passes on.
If the upperclassmen thought you were cute before, do not worry... they will always think of you as cute. Your cuteness doesn't just go away because they talk to someone else, they are still crushing on you (secretly). You will always be a person who is unique, special, and talented in your own way. There are many things your siblings cannot do that you can. I am sure they wish they were older so they could have what you have. You are allowed responsibility, time, and freedom at your age where they cannot have these things.
If you feel flustered or frustrated, don't go near them. You have your life and they have theirs. Surround yourself in the people that make you feel good inside, listen to your favorite music, and don't be afraid to do something you are capable of. Dance around your room, sing outloud, or soak yourself in a bubblebath and think of all the good things you have right now. There is always one thing that can make a person happy... I am sure you know what your 'happy' is. So, hold your head up high, smile, and ignore what others say. You will get through this thing called life, just never forget what makes you smile <3
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Dont be depressed. High school is supose to be fun. Think of it this way. Your little sister looks up to you. She may succeed a little better at stuff but that is only because she watched and learned from you. Dont worry about how many guys like you. Trust me I am 19 and have been through high school. The guys will be your past. focus on your friends that is what really matters alot of them stick with you for a long time. guys come and go until you find mr right. being self consious dont be if you dont like something about your self make your self like it. run everyday. find a hair style you like on your self. try differnt ones hair grows back. practice your sport you are in. dont be jealous of your sister i wish my brothers and i were closer and i doubt it will ever happen and you will want that to trust me.
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Awh , do not worry , it is okay , trust me everyone is pretty in their own way , and I am sure you are pretty , and do not worry , just be good with yourself , do you think you are pretty? if you think you are pretty , which I am sure you do , do not even ignore what people say , and do not even let your sister get to you , just face the fact she is pretty , and people think so , and face the fact that you are pretty and no one can top you , do your nails or put a new look for yourself , something with a change , you will feel good do not worry , and trust me there are so many guys out there , and they cannot all go for your sister , they will go for you , mostly , too and you got to face the fact , guys and girls will always be like that and turn into threats, or negative comments , but you have to be able to put up with it , because if you do not , then this is what happens right , and you know what you should do right now? you should wipe away those tears and turn your frown upside down into a positive smile girl , :) be happy that God made you this way , be happy for your sister , because trust me the best will come back your way ;)
Good luck girl
- Do not let her get to you!
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