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My friend is being an idiot and I'm scared for her!
18/f my friend Deliah is 17 and I think she is goin to get hurt. She met this guy when we were at this water park. We were staying there over night and he was the concierge. She talked to him and at first we were all just kidding around, next
thing I know she asks for his number. He's 21 and is really weird. He's rude and I don't trust him. I just don't get a good vibe. Also, he told her how his last girlfriend was a stripper. The one before that cheated on him three times. Then, he says he's in college but not going right now at all, because he is waiting for one specific class. She called him one day at like 2 and he was like why'd you call you woke me up. And she was like why aren't you up yet. And he's like because I always wake up at 3. He sounds like such a bum. Also, he lives an hour and a half away. He wants her to come down all the time. Deliah hasn't told her parents about him. Deliah is a realy really good girl, she's actually pretty prude, which gets annoying sometimes, but she's also a huge push over. I'm really worried about her safety. I knowthis is far fetched maybe, but what if he tries to rape her or something. I mean honestly, what does a 21 year old guy want to do with a 17 year old girl? She just turned 17 over a week ago too. He turns 22 soon. I like older guys too. But not that old, and I'm also 18. At least i'm considered an adult. I know I can't force her to do or not do anything, but what should I say? How should I say it? My other best fried who is very close to deliah also wants to say something
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I think you should talk to her about it. Dont mention age. I mean im 19 and im married to a 24 year old. Age is just a number. But it does sound like he is the wrong type of guy for her. Explain to her that he sort of sounds like a bum and you are worried about her safty and that you are trying to be a good friend because you care about her. let her know there are a ton of guys out there that wouldnt treat her like that and wouldn't sleep in until 3 in the afternoon. and i doubt hed ever bring her flowers. i know i love flowers.
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You need to confront D about this and tell her your concerns, which are very real and VALID... her behavior is cause for alarm. I think your instincts are right about this. In the end, you can't stop her from doing anything she really wants to do, but you CAN make sure she knows what you think and what danger could be involved. Do an internet search for stories about girls and "date rape"... lots of scary stuff out there! And don't be afraid of her anger. She may not appreciate your opinion and even be mad at you, but if you love her you will be able to handle it. I'd rather my friend hate me than be hurt because I didn't give her fair warning! She is lucky to have someone like you in her life. I hope she listens to you, but if not, you can at least have the peace of mind of knowing you did all you could. Good luck.
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Hey there,
Based on what you've told me, I believe Deliah isn't really thinking things through. I am glad you care about her and want the best for her. The only way you are going to get her to look at the situation differently, is if you let her know that this probably isn't the right guy for her. Say to her 'are you sure you are hitting it off with this guy?' or 'maybe he isn't the right guy for you'. You should say it firmly and make sure that she knows you aren't trying to get rid of him; just trying to help her make the right decision. I am sure she is an intelligent girl, so let her know she should really think about what she is doing first and not just see him because she can. Let her know she can meet guys who she will relate to on a better level. If you have already got a bad vibe from him, that is not a good sign. Always trust your instincts and let others (Deliah) know how you feel. Once she thinks it over, I'm sure she will make the right decision <3
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