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There is a girl at school at she is really comfortable around the guy I like. They are like best friends and I'm friends with him too but not like she is. Sometimes I get sort of insecure around him and act weird. If I didn't like him, obviously, it would be so much easier for me to talk to him and be myself. The only place I'm really okay talking to him is online. Do you have any advice for me to "open up" more? He even said, since I told my two best friends they were being mean to me, that I could hang out with him and his friends.
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Just pretend that you don't like him. I mean you just need to be comfortable with him and get over this insecurity of yours. I mean obviously he is cool with you, so you just need to learn to be comfortable with him.
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Ok, well, i've been looking around advicenators and stuff. I noticed all these kids between ages 13-15 are so damn caught up on sx and shit. Well, for you to know, I'm 13, and in my town people are so layed back. It's a really small town. I know almost like everyone in the middle school which are ages 12-15. No, one does any of that shit. They all think it's stupid at this age. You never have to worry about having sex at the right time and when. Everyone is like a virgin in my school. I was really confused and distirbed about this......do you think 13-15 is to young to be having sex or not? I'm so confused. Is there something in my town that we're not getting?
thnx so much
-roxy- (link)
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I think its too young, but you got to understand that these kids grow up in this environment. They are used to everyone having sex when your young. Besides, you never know if someone in your town is lying and have had sex. People surprise you. I think it's better to not have sex when you are young. It's just too much drama otherwise.
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Well I have this best friend thats a guy who has had this girl friend for 9 moths and now he wants to b me wit me but i dont know wether or not if its for sex or not. But at the same time he's still wit his gf and he wants to break up wit her but doesnt know how and he always says hes goin to but he never does. So I dont know what I should do and any advice would b soo great. Thanxs~Lauren (link)
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Don't even mess with him right now. If he hasn't broken up with her yet, who knows if he will. Wait until he breaks up with her and then decide if its fo real or not.
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i have a friend who is bi....but im ok w/ it .but she asked if i wanted to come over?and i told her no cuz i have plans..but i dont,and people have told me wen they stayed the night w/ her that she want to do stuff and im not like that at all....wat should i do??? (link)
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Well, if you are cool with her being bi than you should trust her and you should trust that she won't do anything with you. You can't always trust what people say. If you really feel uncomfortable with her though, than I guess you just can't go to her house. If you do go to her house and she tries something, then you just need to set her straight and tell her what is what. If she doesn't respect that, then I guess that's the end of your friendship.
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ok so my friend alexia has a really popular twin sister who is named ashley. i hang out with alexia but i also sometimes hang out with ashley. and alexia and i decided last year in 7th grade that we wanted to be more social and popular in 8th grade. so far things are going well but she is more popular than i am because of her sister. i guess that is just a natural advantage. and alexia has got such style and lots of clothes (because her and her sister share clothes) and if you meet alexia then she will automattically be the leader of the group just because that is part of herself i guess. so anyways i want to be like her because like guys like her and guys dont really like me. what does she do to make everyone like her? well anyways i want to be like her but dont get me wrong i love me, myself, and i and who i am but still i want to be like her. what should i do. please help!!
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If you try and be like her, people will recognize that and not like you for that reason. People do not like people who try to be just like someone else because they seem fake and people do not trust fake people. Just wait and the guys will realize what they are missing with you. Just be yourself and things will even out with time. You might not be happy with this answer because it's not a quick fix, but it's the truth. You just have to be outgoing and yourself and the right guy will be there for you waiting.
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ok wellll.. i have alot of friends, but there all obsessed with me. its not like we all talk to eachother, they just fight over me.. they literally do. Like at lunch they all want to sit next to me and it get's really annoying. I feel bad because if i'm talking to someone or sitting next to someone other people feel bad. ahh they want to be just like me too. Don't get me wrong, i love them, but it's really immature too. I mean it's been going on for a long time and in 6th and 7th grade I could understand, but now we're in 9th. What should i do? (link)
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I understand, but it seems kind of conceited and ungrateful. Be happy about having a lot of friends. Some people say high school was awful because they didn't have any. I guess just talk to them. Make them understand that they need to be their own person.
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oK..I'm 13 5'4 and about 98 pounds..I used to be skinny and stuff but now I'm starting to get a big belly. I run and do situps and drink water and try to eat healthy and everything, but I starting to get larger than I should be. Any ideas on how to keep a flat stomache and stop gaining to much more because I used to see myself good now Im huge. sorry if thats kinda long.
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Girl, if you are 5'4 and 98 pounds then you are skinny. I am your height and I'm like 10-20 pounds over 100. I'm about 50% as the reagular girl. So that means you are below average. If you want a toned stomach then just do crunches. Do different kind of crunches to make sure you work out every part of your stomach. You don't need to lose any more weight and you are not huge. Trust me.
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Okay heres the thing i like this guy A LOT and were close friends and the other night he told me that he likes me too..which made me happy but the thing is right now we cant date because 3 of his best friends ( theyre girls ) like him and it would hurt them and start A LOT of drama...but he told me " i need u right here now i need u right now more than ever" and he told me i make him happy but its real hard ...and i dont know if he wants me to wait until everything cools down with his friends or should i try moving on n puttin interest in someone else....because i mean we both like eachother and we have chemistry....so what should i do!? (link)
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I think you should wait for the drama with his friends to cool down. Girls can get catty so it's better to slowly let them get used to the idea instead of all of a sudden going with him. I mean you can still be with him, just don't be snobby and in their face about it. Besides, if you guys like each other I don't see why you should move on. It would probably end up hurting both of you.
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My friend and I used to cut together. I don't anymore, but she does. And she rubs it in my face, and I get really annoyed by it. I tell her to "Piss off!" but she continues to do it. I don't care if she cuts or not, but it annoys me how she takes it as a joke (it wasn't a joke to me...). And honestly, she has NOTHING to cut over! She has the happiest FUCKING like of anyone I KNOW!!! What should I tell her? What should I do to change the situation? (link)
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I don't understand why she is rubbing it in your face. I think it's good that you stopped cutting. You should probably tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you are proud that you have stopped and the whole situation isn't something to joke about. If she doesn't understand, then you just need to stop hanging out with her as much. It might just make the whole situation worse.
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My friend has has some things happen to her this year, and she cut herself afew days ago! She is the nicest person I have ever met in my entire life and I'm not even exaderating. What should I do? (link)
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You should talk to her. Make her understand that cutting herself is not the way to fix things. If you remind her of her good qualities, that will also probably make her feel better. Think of other ways she can make herself feel better and offer those suggestions. Also, just listen to her. Be a true friend and that could help a lot.
If worst comes to worse have her get some help. Either from teachers or her parents. Sometimes you can't help her, it could be too big of a job.
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What are some good ways to make your girlfriend feel special, like make her feel like you are the best guy in the world (well I know that's probably around impossible. So I am exaggerating a bit, haha.)? What do you girls think would make you special if your guy said them to you or things like that? (link)
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It's always nice to make a comment about her shirt or tell her she looks nice. Little compliments always make girls feel special. Also, giving little girfts or notes are always nice.
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I have a business plan to do and I'm opening a nail salon. Should I name it "Paint" or "Tips and Toes"? thanx for your input (link)
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Tips and Toes. Paint is too plain.
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My mom just moved in with a guy and he has a 13 daughter that I believe is a great person, however I just got out of a mental institution for attempting suicide and depression! I started cutting again and now she is following in my footsteps, I dont want to be a leader in that kind of way, but I cant seem to be able to stop! I want to be a positive influence in her life however I'm just confused! How do I be positive when I'm still a cutter!?! (link)
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You can't be a postivie influence if you are a cutter. It is just not possible. You need to talk to your mom and explain to her the problem because that is a huge issue. You also need to explain to the girl how bad it is to be a cutter and how even though you do it she shouldn't because it is addicting and a bad thing to do. It will be very hypocritical of you but you need to fix the problem somehow and fast.
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my relationship of 5 years is going down the drain. we have a one and a half year old. today he got upset because he could not find me. he was at work and i went to school to do some papers. when he got off of work he called me a bitch and a whore and he did not believe me that i was at school. i was about to go back to school for class so he hid my makeup, messed up my hair, and threw laundry around the house. then he followed me to school with his bright head lights on. my son was crying and i told my boyfriend to change his diaper and put him to sleep while i go to school cuz he was fussy. his reply was he was not going to do shit. i am stuck as what to do. i do not work much cuz i am a college student. is it ever ok to tolerate this kind of behavior. it is becoming regular. what should i do and how can i do it? i am bad at making decisions, especially the right ones. thanks for listening. (link)
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You should not ever be treated like that. You are a person and he acts like he owns you and can control you. Talk to your parents about the situation or an adult you trust so you can work out the fine details, but it seems like it's about time to dump him. Especially if it's becomnig regular. You should not be the onyl one taking care of you child, and he should not be following you or hiding any of your things. Find a way to get out of the situation without it being too messy. Find a job that will still aloow you to go to school and take care of your kid. You might have to start putting your kid in some kid of a daycare.
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Hey, I'm stuck in this bad situation. I like two guys. Well, one guy I like is really sexual, like I've never done anything with him, of course since I'm only 14.. And the other guy well hes like great, he always calls me beautiful and really cares for me but always says that I like the other guy. Who would you choose? I think I have an idea, but I'm not so sure. Thanks! (link)
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If you have and idea then go for it. They are your feelings. I can't tell you who to choose. Follow your heart. It will lead you to what's right for you. Of course that's if the sexual guy isn't pushy and won't make you do stuff you don't want to do. If he will force you into a bad situation, then he is not the one for you.
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i am being forced to move from my home in texas, to the cold and mean streets of chicago. my mother got a new job, and she is carting me up there in february. however, my father lives here in tecas. i have the oppurtunity to live with him, but i never have, and we arent very compatible. should i go with my mom, or stay with my dad? (link)
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It's whatever you feel more comfortable with. If you would rather stay in texas and risk trying a relationship with your dad then go for it. He might turn out to be better than you thought. If you'd rather live with your mom, the go to chicago. It's not that bad up there truthfully. Sure it's kind of cold, but atleast there's actual snow. Also, it'll be a new environment. It could be fun.
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why is it that everytime a guy i like starts to like me back, i stop liking him completely? (link)
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You probably like the challenge of trying to get a guy to like you. When he starts to like you back, the challenge is gone along with the fun you were having.
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I know I've seen a question similar to this before, but I haven't been able to find it. So, I'll just ask it again. I'm usually have my period anywhere in between 21 and 28 days. Well, I'm a bad, stupid little girl and I forgot to mark my last one down on a calendar. I'm pretty sure the last time I had mine was on November 2, but I'm not sure. That would make today Day 27 if I'm right about the last one ending on November 2. I'm still kind of nervous about it though. I've never -- well, I have once -- missed a period. I'm a 13 (nearly 14) year old virgin female. Is this normal? I've had my period for about two years. (link)
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It's normal for your period to still be sort of irregular. Atleast mine still is and I am 14 and have had it for 2 years. It becomes a problem if you are having it too frequently or not frequently enough. Or if it is only lasting a couple of days or weeks. If you are really worried, talk to your mom or a doctor.
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So, i've been thinking about but not really knowing if... I mean it's not that I want to commit suicide... I guess i'm just depressed and no I don't want to go on medication cause it's not like my brain is screwed up... it's just that I dunno I feel ugly I feel bad and whenever I tell anyone it doesn't seem to be relevant to them... and yes I know by posting this there will be people (stupid) saying that "YA U SHOULD U WORTHLESS PEICE OF ****" and I really don't care cause I probably should... I know that you guys probably don't care whether I live or not cause I mean it'll just mean one less mouth to feed and one more room to fill...
Basically the reason why I am depressed is that cause I'm gay and i've told people but not everyone... and I just want to have someone to be able to love me back and someone to be able to cuddle with on winter's cold... I've tried online chatting (no not AIM) but actual sites that are serious and no respons... I guess it's cause I'm ugly... but I just feel... *sigh* (link)
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Don't commit suicide. It's not worth it. There are so many other people that love you like your friends and your family. Committing suicide is such a selfish act because so many more people than you will be affected. Obviously your self image is distorted if you think you are ugly and online is not the right way to find someone. It will be hard being gay. Especially if you are a teen, but you will be able to getthrough it and once you have gotten through it you will be so proud of yourself. Yes you are different, but embrace that. Sure not everyone will accept that difference but there are so many more people with differences that people don't accept. For example disfigurement, they get stared at but hey live on because they know they are worth more than what other people might think. Believe in yourself get some self-confidence. I know this might sound whack but you might need to see a doctor or get medication. You said there's nothing wrong with your brain but who knows whats going on with those chemicals. TALK TO SOMEONE!!! Anyone!!! Maybe not a professional, but a teacher or a parent or a close friend. Your life is worth so much please don't let it go to waste. People die when they don't want to. They don't get a chance to do what they were here for. Don't leave without doing what you were brought here to do. You have the chance to live and do the right things. Other people were not given that same chance. Just don't kill yourself. Whatever you do. If you can't talk to anyone else, talk to me. Go on to my advice page and send me a message and I will talk to you. Atleast you know now that there is atleast one person cares enough about you. I am begging you not to kill yourself. The reason I'm responding so much to this is because I feel connected to you. You sound like one of my friends and I know that if he ever killed himself I would be so upset. I know a lot of his friends would be upset too. Even people who he doesn't think like him, would be affected because they do care about him. It would just be a really hard blow. This might seem like a fake response to you and you might not accept anything that I am saying , but it is true. I don't know if my friend understands how much he is appreciated and worth or if you do either, just before you do anything you can't take back, think about the people you'd be affecting.
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Ok I have this friend (we'll call her K) and were really tight and all. And April 2004 she introduced me to the guy she liked (we'll call him J) that lives in our neighborhood. Yes, I thought he was cute. Well this October she hooked up (only made-out) with him for about an hour. And J got my # from one of his friends so we started calling each other almost every night and saw each other on like sat.'s and fri.'s and now since last Wednesday we are going out. Yes she is in love with him and let me inform you right now the only reason probably why she likes him is because she thinks he's hot. And J and I have a very strong relationship and he does not like her at all. I know this because his attitude towards her. They aren't really friends but she always talks to him on the internet and J tells me what K says about her asking personal stuff about what we do...its pissing me off sooo much. Its none of her damn business. K knows that I know shes in love with him its she just exaggerates it soo much. Like on her advice column! And don't worry I am NOT a bad friend because I asked K before J asked me out, that if we do go out if it would be ok with her and shes like "I don't care" And I know she meant it. Because I was like "are you sure?", "you can tell me" and once she found out we were going out like on Fri. she wanted to explode she was mad at me! and then I was like I can break up with him if you want me to for our friendship and then like 5 mins later K was all like, "oh, don't if your happy I want you to be!" and she meant it sincrely
So what should I do?
thanks in advanced & I rate high, and sorry for it being so long! :) (link)
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Hah ignore her. She doesn't know what she wants. I think she's jealous of what you have and just wants a man. If you asked her several times and even suggested sacrificing your relationship with "J" and she still said it was ok for you to go out with him, then ignore her newly found anger. If she gets angry with you again because of this, then call her out on her flip floppy attitude. Sure no man is worth a friendship, but if the friendship is kind of shaddy then it probably would have broken up soon anyways. Don't sacrifice your relationship with "J" if you really like him. I guess talk to her one more time, and for the last time. Call her out on her attitude and if she says its ok then its got to be ok. Who knows whats goin on with this chick. Girls have more issues then they like to admit.
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