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Me and My Friend and a pair of scissors...
My friend and I used to cut together. I don't anymore, but she does. And she rubs it in my face, and I get really annoyed by it. I tell her to "Piss off!" but she continues to do it. I don't care if she cuts or not, but it annoys me how she takes it as a joke (it wasn't a joke to me...). And honestly, she has NOTHING to cut over! She has the happiest FUCKING like of anyone I KNOW!!! What should I tell her? What should I do to change the situation?
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I don't understand why she is rubbing it in your face. I think it's good that you stopped cutting. You should probably tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you are proud that you have stopped and the whole situation isn't something to joke about. If she doesn't understand, then you just need to stop hanging out with her as much. It might just make the whole situation worse.
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Tell her to stop..or just change the subject whenever she brings it up. hope i helped! xoxo mauuh
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Right now, it's not the fact that she's rubbing your nose in it, or that she has nothing to cut over - you just need to get her to stop cutting. (Congrats to you for stopping.) I reckon she's joking about it to try and make you see it's not a big deal, but it is.
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I suggest you find a time when you won't be disturbed and when she's not overly hyper. Sit her down and ask, quite simply, "why are ou cutting?" Don't prompt her in any way, and if she tries to dodge the question or asks why, just repeat the question. If she still won't answer, wait for five seconds. Don't say anything. This is a professional counselling trick - if you wait long enough she will come out with the honest answer.
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After you find out why she's cutting, you can use your best judgment to help her stop. Tell her to call you whenever she feels like cutting, or to put an elastic band against her wrist and flick it (this apparantly gives the same form of pain as cutting).
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Whatever you do now, do not tell her to piss off. There will be a serious reason as to why she's still cutting, and you two need to work it out. If it gets too much, talk to your or her mum or dad or older sibling or someone. (Not your friends.) She needs to stop, and you need to help her see that. Encourage her to keep a diary, or journal, or anything like that. Instead of writing her pain on her arm, get her to write it down on paper.
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Hope this helps!
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Look. I cut and so does my friend. I have things to cut over and so does she but not all of my friends know the reasons why I do it. You never know, she could have a pefectly good reason for cutting herself but it's most likely it's just attention seeking. Try talking with her and asking if she has any problems with family or something and if she says she does then be there for her. If that doesn't work then try and stay away from her. If she carries on cutting there is a risk that she could start you doing it again and it's not good, I know from experience.
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You never know, she could have problems that you don't know about. In this situation though it does seem like she's doing it for attention. Threaten to tell on her, I bet she wont think that its so funny then. And as for rubbing it in your face, does she really expect you to be jealous that she is scarring her body?? Your friend needs help.
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open a can of whoopass
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just let her know what you told me like that she has a good life and plus you shouldnt cut anyways and why would she rub it in your face.. let her know that thats nothing your jealous of
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Well, most likely she's doing it for attention. A lot of people seem like they have a great life, but it doesn't mean they do. If you feel this way, then you 2 probably aren't the best of friends. Report her anonymously to guidance, just don't let her find out, the teacher that reported me to guidance, well I hate her now, and she hates me, and always had, so I'm still wondering why she tried to help me. You need to talk to her, and tell her if she doesn't stop then you are going to tell somebody, but let it be up to her as to who you tell, if she doesn't decide, then tell guidance. You make it seem that she's doing it for attention, but you can never be too sure. Good luck with that though.
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