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ok so my friend alexia has a really popular twin sister who is named ashley. i hang out with alexia but i also sometimes hang out with ashley. and alexia and i decided last year in 7th grade that we wanted to be more social and popular in 8th grade. so far things are going well but she is more popular than i am because of her sister. i guess that is just a natural advantage. and alexia has got such style and lots of clothes (because her and her sister share clothes) and if you meet alexia then she will automattically be the leader of the group just because that is part of herself i guess. so anyways i want to be like her because like guys like her and guys dont really like me. what does she do to make everyone like her? well anyways i want to be like her but dont get me wrong i love me, myself, and i and who i am but still i want to be like her. what should i do. please help!!
-ARIELLE
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its normal and natural to want to be like someone else. but what you have to do is just be yourself but confident. know that you are smart pretty and outgoing. the fact is shy people cant be popular like how u want to be. im not saying go out and really flaunt yourself but just be more out there a bit. but dont try and be Alexia becasue there cna only be one alexia just like theres only one arielle and style and clothes has nothing to do with it. it just helps oyu out a little bit. be yourself always good luck
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well, Your still young, and trust me, everyone, including me, goes through that at one point in their life or another, and well, to say the least, it not worth it. I mean I have had an amazing boyfriend for over 10months, and I didnt have to change myself to get him to like me, he likes me for me. and you shouldnt have to change yourself to have friends or to have a guy like you, when your at that age, guys are wierd like that, but when you get older and your a sophmore or older, then the guys arnt that bad, but as for now, they're just wierd. Just be youself, and everything will be fine, and you'll be glad that you didnt change yourself for someone else, because then its not really real or really true, and if a guy likes you, then they really just like the girl that you are pretending you are, not the real awesome and amazing YOU! so just be yourself and everything will work out fine, eventually, just be paitent.
I hope that this helped!
GOOD LUCK!
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If you try and be like her, people will recognize that and not like you for that reason. People do not like people who try to be just like someone else because they seem fake and people do not trust fake people. Just wait and the guys will realize what they are missing with you. Just be yourself and things will even out with time. You might not be happy with this answer because it's not a quick fix, but it's the truth. You just have to be outgoing and yourself and the right guy will be there for you waiting.
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well, i don't know ashley so i don't know how she's popular. but really, being popular is having a lot of friends. so to get a lot of friends, is to SMILE. seriously, people like happy people who seem to be fun around. so joke a lot + laugh. say hey to people in the hallway. talk to people! do something drastic that will get people talking about you in a good way, like dying your hair. lOl or w/e. but really all there is to it, is to be NICE ! :) * be crazy + spontaneous, that doesn't hurt either! hehe :D
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So you want to be more popular, well talk with more people. Don't just stay in your group, go up and talk to people you usually don't talk to. The definition of popular is having a lot of friends. Well my brother used to be unpopular in high school and they always looked down on him but he made lots of friends in university and now they still look down on him but he's way more popular then they are.
Just get out there and make more friends, some make them easier then others do- its a fact of life. She does have an advantage but now she probabley hates how she didn't work her way up from the bottom- she's accepted because of her sister. Don't worry too much about it and concentrate on making more friends that way you will be invited more into their group outings and you will get to be more social.
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