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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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so my friend seem tyo hate me and came up with 170 things they disliked about me i know i should just leave them but my friendship with them has existed for over a year and its hard to make new friends this far in the year so im trying to be better and more normasl but cant they just accept me for what and who i am i think that if i can at least try to keep the friendship in tact then so should they i just want 3 things in life: acceptance friendship and to never be lied to if i have not lied to them unless its really stupid like ive been to mars but honesty i wish theied just accept me
long story short how do i fix the friendships.

Solemnstar

Leave them i know it wil be hard but try to hang around with other friends in your class. Tell them that they need to accept you the way you are! they dont seem very nice. show them the list of 170 things they dont like about you. but boxes next to all of them and give it to them ask them to tick the boxes which are right and they have to be truthful. hope i helped you
luv shelly

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so my family is not very well off. i`ve had the same shirts for way too long, and i get SO SICK of wearing them over & over, when it seems like all the other girls have a different outfit every day. i tried talking to my mom about it, but most of our money`s been going to pay hospital bills (my brother just had surgery--nothing too serious) so i dont really have time or money to buy any clothes, seeing as i dont et an allowence. i was wondering if anyone knew how to spruce up outfits with every-day things? or even just making my own clothes...like turning an old pair of jeans into skirts? anybody know how...

Try and get a job at a local shopping centre or local paper round to try and get a bit more money you can spend on new clothes. if you have a long skirt but it to make it shorter, If you have a long sleeved top cut the sleves off and make it short straps, or get a long sleeved top e.g. yellow and get another long sleeved top e.g. blue cut the sleeves out of both of them and sew them on each other so the yellow top has blue sleeves and the blue top has yellow sleeves. a bit confusing sorry.hope i've helped you
luv shelly

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I enjoy talking with this guy that comes to a lot of my clubs, and he asks me sometimes about my friends (who he sometimes crushes on) so I considered him my friend. Soemtimes, though, like if I tell him I bought some new CD or I went to the mall on Saturday, he totally flips out at me and tells me that no one cares. Sometimes I don't understand it- I mean, seriously if my friend told him the same thing he would laugh and talk about it with her.
Should I consider him a friend or not?

Not really he doesnt seem very nice. try and talk to him and ask if he is your friend. thats the only way you can find out.
luv shelly

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I recently asked the question about how my guy friend and his girl broke up and how I wanted to be there for him. Well he asked me to help, and today I tried to talk to him about it. I said do you and her now have an undertanding? he was like yea. I said so are you ok? and he goes it sucks but I'll live.. I have to go. Then leaves. What the hell? Im trying to help like he asked me to and then he leaves? Whats his problem? Should I leave him alone or say something?

He might have just been upset thats all and wanted to be alone. Just make sure your there for him when he needs you thats the main thing
luv shelly

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how do you know if a girl is lying to you like when you ask them out and they say something. How do you know if they are telling the truth or lying to make you feel better??

well when i'm lying i go all stuttery and never know what to say but it is different with all people.
luv shelly

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What are some quick and easy things to do to pass the week quicker? I have a huge event i am so exited about Saturday and i need to Pass up Thursday And Friday fast! What are some easy fun ideas? Let me know.. Anything I dont care games, websites, things to do in your room, im not pickey just times slowing down after a FAST week!!!

-Xo-Thanks-oX-

Go out with your friends, invite them over after school to hang out or go and watch a movie with them.
luv shelly

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my hair is naturally black and i died it lightish brown and a couple of days ago i washed my hair but some color came out and my hair is darker .. on the box it said permanentt why is this happening?

Im not sure why but when you wash your hair get some colour protect shampoo see if that works

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okay well in exactly a week im getting a mole reoved form my cheek adn im so anxious to get it done like i cant think of anything else to do... anybody haev any ideas how to take my mind off of it for a little bit? thank you!!

go out with your friends HAVE FUN!!!

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my friend wants to have sex with this guy and she was too shy so i had to talk to the guy for her. and after a while he started hitting on ME and asked me to one of his parties i thought i might havefun but i thought about my friend. i now kinda want to go but ill feel really bad for my friend and she might never talk to me again. please help me

dont go it will hurt your friend way too much! especially if she finds out he's hitting on you!

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i have begged and begged but mom will not let me get my tongue peirced! she says im too young to make that kind of choice.im 13! one of my family members got it done when she was 11 and my mom approves of it! i really want this done but i dont know were to go that will let u with out your parents permission and one of my friends said to do it my self which i thought about but then another friend said that if you hit the wrong spot it can kill but still this is a choice.what should i do?

tell her that it isnt fair that she aproves of an 11 year old aving it done and not a 13 year old. DONT DO IT YOURSELF the needle has to be sterolised. beg her more to have it done she may give in soon lol. ask her how old she says you have to be for her to allow you to get it done

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I got an allergic reaction from copper on my stomach from a jeans button. So it got really itchy. Now the itching has gone away. But now I have discoloration on the spot and I'm pretty sure it's from dry skin. So is there any good lotions that you would reccomend for extremely dry skin?

baby lotion might work or go to a pharmacy and ask them what is bets thing to use on dry skin

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Heyas.

Three days ago I got bad congestion. Today, this morning, I wake up and can barely manage a whisper. Theres no pain in my chest, when I breath or swallow or anything, just the usual discomforts of inflamed skin. However, it is progressively getting worse. I ahve to communicate with pen and paper now! Is it possible I have tonsilitis? What should I do to help it?

15/m

Go to a doctor he will know what you should do. if you have any throat sweets eat them. go to a pharmacy and get some throat spray it should make it a little better
luv shelly

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i have this friend claims to be a strong muslim, having a relationship with a christain, and he told her that he is tired of this country and want to move to another, the problem is that she thinks that if she dosent say yes then he'll leave her what do i do ?

please note , she went out with him knowing that one of her friends liked him, what do i do ?
i will rate 5

If she doesnt want to leave her country then she doesnt have to and just becuase she says no is no reason to break up with her! If he does end things with her then he is a loser. Its her choice and there are other guys she can go out with. she needs to tell him that she doesnt want to leave though. hope i've helped a little
luv shelly

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im fat {mostly in the winter}. ive tried crunches and deits and all i do is feel more hungary. at one time i was 131lb, i was good with that, now im 164lb then 159lb then 165lb. it keeps fluctulating. i want to be 131!!! please help me!!!

Try and join an activity at school that you like that way you are having fun and losing weight. eat healthy and drink plenty of water. try and eat less chocolate and chips and cut down on fizzy pop. be happy with the way you are!
luv shelly

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i am so upset righyt now. i told my friend some really personal things about my life. she promised she wouldnt tell anyone. it was mostly about this guy that i liked a lot. a real lot. we were firghtin the ohter day and she told him all my personal things and now she wants me to forgive her. i dont think i should because she doesnt deserve it. it was really personal and it wasnt his business. what should i do?

i think you should forgive her only if she really is sorry though! i dont think you should tell her any more of your personal things becuase she obvioulsy cant be trusted to keep it to herself!! hope i've helped and i hope that you sort it out with her
luv shelly

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i work from 2pm til 10pm mon-fri. I eat fruit in the morning and at 3pm at i have a sandwich. I don't eat again until i get home when i will cook something reasonable healthy and quick. My problem is i am worried about eating so late in the evening and i don't sleep well as it is and wondered if eating late is making this problem worse. Could you advice me on the best foods to eat at this time of the evening please and whether eating at these times is unhealthy. thank you

it could be the reason your not sleeping so well. try not to eat carbs after 5 they take a while to digest. eat something like a salad or chicken and vegtables which are healthy.
luv shelly

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Omg, can anyone help me? It's almost 3 in the morning where I'm at, and my gum's hurting really bad. It's in the back, where I used to have wisdom teeth. I got them taken out way back in Oct. and haven't had a problem since. It's not my tooth, it's my gum, but I don't know. I don't think it's gingivitis, because it's not red at all. I checked for anything there, like food, but found nothing. So far, I've tried brushing my teeth and using rinse, but that didn't help. I took some painkillers about a half hour ago, but it hasn't helped much either. Does anyone know what this could be? And what can I do to stop the pain? Thanks so much, I'll rate.
x3 Erin

go to a dentist as soon as you can and then can then tell you what is definatley wrong.
luv shelly

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hey i need help because my birthday is coming up im turning 14 and i dont no what t ype of party i should have?? i dont want to invite people over my h ouse for a sleepover so any ideas for birthday parties??? ill rate 5s

how about a 70's theme or something people will enjoy like grease and play all the grease music. or maybe just a fancy dress party that way you get to wear kool clothes!!! hope i've helped
luv shelly

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so last nite i went to my friends party, and there was a boy. lets name him jordan. so jordan was reeally cool and my friend thinks he was showing off infront of me. except the problem is that i will never see him again, and i really l;iked jordan. what should i do? should i ask my friend who held the party for his screen name and maybe have a long ship with him????

Yeah you could do that or try and find out this boys number from a friend.
luv shelly

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well i had these two friends and they are trying to make me and my really good friend to fight. what should I do?

Tell them that you know what they are trying to do and it isnt going to work! Just ignore whatever they say because you know they are lies
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