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help i will rate 5 for any answer i promise
i have this friend claims to be a strong muslim, having a relationship with a christain, and he told her that he is tired of this country and want to move to another, the problem is that she thinks that if she dosent say yes then he'll leave her what do i do ?
please note , she went out with him knowing that one of her friends liked him, what do i do ?
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Let me caution your friend and you not to go down this road. If he wants to go to a muslim country to live, they will have to marry. It would be against their laws not to. Then if she goes to a muslim country with him you will never ever see her again. She will be treated like dirt there, worse than dirt. His family, who they will move in with, (because the families all live together in compounds) will hate her because he was not originally muslim. She will have no freedom. She will not be able to leave he house without him. She will not be able to leave the country without him. She will have no say on how her children are raised. Her daughter (if she has one) when she is grown will be given away in marriage to some old man, and he may even beat her and there is nothing she can do about it. SHe may even been beaten by her husband, and even his mother, and even his father, and there is nothing she can do about it. It is not against the law to do this to your wife in the muslim countries. IF she embarrases him or his family, they can kill her, and that is not against the law either. And the United States government will DO NOTHING to help her get back to this country with or without her children. She should let him go. I am sure that he is handsome and is very attentive to her, but muslim men, within their own countries, do not treat women nicely. They do not have to. If you want to convince her there is a book out called NOT WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER. It was also a movie. There are lots of books out, and even stories that you can find on the internet. About american women who married muslim men and who went to the middle east (just for a vacation) and never came home to the us again. Their families are heartbroken. These women,when they can get a call out of the country, call their families and ask for help, beg, plead, cry. But there is no help for them. She should run as fast as she can in the other direction. The rest of you should stay away from him also. Believe me his family wants him to marry somone of his own faith.
Sometimes if the American families have money, they will hire mercenaries to sneak into the muslim countries to kidnap their daughters back to the US. but they can't always get the children too, so the children are left to suffer without their mom, or the mom changes her mind and stays on and suffers for the rest of her life.
Please I am serious. Get the facts and show them to her. I hope you can convince her. Have her write to me if she wants more info and you have trouble finding the proof.
Michele
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If she doesnt want to leave her country then she doesnt have to and just becuase she says no is no reason to break up with her! If he does end things with her then he is a loser. Its her choice and there are other guys she can go out with. she needs to tell him that she doesnt want to leave though. hope i've helped a little
luv shelly
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I think that if they love each other and that is the issue, then i believe that it can be compromised. If they both sit down and find out where they want their lives to go, then they can figure out a solution. If both of them are that deeply in "love" then each person should try and give a little until both partners are happy. As long as the two of them are togather and agree on a solution i don't think it will become any more of an issue then it is now. Good luck to you me child.
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Well maybe you should tell them to sit down and work things out. And if he loved her then he wouldn't leave her.
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She needs to sit down and them have a big talk about what they want to do in their lives and what is going to happen. If they talk it out, maybe the issue will be resolved. But when they talk they should be straight forward and honest with each other.
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