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i go to a private school and its really small. i'm in 8th grade and next year i'll be going to a public school for the first time. i know i'm ready. i'm smart so that won't be hard. and all my best friends are going there, and i know lots of people that go there. and i'm planning on playing tennis. but do you think there is anything that i should watch out for/look forward to or anything else i should know? (link)
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That it'll be big! I did the same thing and the amount of people i was suddenly thrown into was overwhelming so try to remember that it's going to be quite different.
Generally I found that you have to take more responsibility for learning- your teahers won't be as ready to make sure you're pulling your weight- if you're naturally an A student but can coast at a B, they won't pull you up on it like they might at private school.
Also, (nice big stereotype coming up), the people are likely to be quite different to what you're used to. You and they will get away with more as a general rule and some of the kids you meet will be a lot more...worldly. You may well start off feeling like a bit of a clueless dork, but don't worry, it'll pass!
Basically just don't be too hard on yourself if you find it hard to adjust at first, because it may be a big change and you WILL get used to it.
Best of Luck
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okay my sister is 12 and well, theres this girl and she is bullieing my sister! shes like "omg you better take my pictures off that websight or blur my piicture outt or i SWARE TO GOD ill kill you!!" then my sister called me over and i said
me- is that a thret
her- if you call it one it is
her- wanna piece of me?
me- no hunn, i want the whole thing!
her- right
me- couldn't thing of a good comeback eah?
her- if you dont take the pic out, i sware to god! i will kill your sister becasue i know this is may. i sware to god i will.
me- ifine want me to call the police
her- then ill delete your myspace and the picture site
me- i dont give a &#@! what you do!
her- you will when you see your sister in a funerol in 3 days
my sister- you litte &#@%! im older then you and you cant boss me around you little %!@@#*
her- yeah i can and i will
me- right i wanna see that
her- dont go to school tomorrow or youll be sorry that you did!
can you help me because this is really annoying me
ill rate you no matter what, unless if it is really bad and un-detailed adivce. try uour best :) (link)
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ok,
1) however rude this girl is (and she sounds it) she has a perfect right to not want her picture on the internet so tell your sister to take it down.
2) The death threats are unpleasant (and silly) but you and your sister aren't exactly being civilised about it either-swearing at her isn't going to help anyone. rise above it and ignore the £*&$*%^ girl.
3) If once you've taken down the picture the unpleasantness continues ask her to stop, calmly and politely or you'll involve a member of staff.
Remember people, manners cost nothing and buy you everything
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This might be stupid, because it happened to long ago but I want peoples opinions about it. I'm 15 female, & my sisters 22 female.
My mom has been on asthma ever since she was a young girl, and one night in June 2005 I wake up to her coughing an over amountage & weezing [deep breathing] I was super worried because I didn't know what to do, so I woke my sister up & had her come in my mom's room, my mom started throwing up because she was coughing so much, & she couldn't breath, so we decided we were going to take her to the hospital, because that's the only choice we really had. At this time my dad was living away, but my parents don't hate each other or anything, it's just he moved & they we moved a couple months later. But anyways, when we decided we would take my mom to the hospital my sister goes into her room, changes from her pajamas to regular clothes & then says shes ready!!
I didn't even care what I looked like, I didn't want to waste anytime because I knew that my mom had a hard time breathing, and it must be horrible to have that problem. But, my sister changed and that's what made me really mad, because it just seems like she doesn't care what happened to my mom in that 3 minutes. Blah, well basically I was just wondering, don't you think that that's wrong? I know I shouldn't be worrying about it now, because my mom's perfectly fine now but I just can't stop thinking about it.
Automatic 5's just for reading. Thanks a bunch =P (link)
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Yeah I can see why you'd be upset but it's perfectly possible it just didn't enter your sister's head. I know when I get really stressed I lose the process of rational thought and go onto autopilot.
That ot she just didn't think it was such an emergency as you did. Perhaps she's seen your mum like that before and wasn't so worried?
Either way I'm sure it didn't mean she doesn't care about her. Perhaps you should talk to her, tell her how scared you were and find out what was going through her head.
Hope she reassures you.
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can a guy tell while having sex with you if you were a virgin before he had sex with you? (link)
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Not really. He may think he can by whether you bleed/whether it's painful or not but the fact is some women's hymens break before they lose there virginity- so some bleed, others don't.
Either way honesty's the best policy when it comes to stuff like this, if you're not a virgin, tel him. If you really mean something to each other it shouldn't matter either way.
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Ok so i don't know whats wrong with me! its been like a year since i saw my x bf and i am beginning to miss him. Everytime i think i miss him.. ok but i don't understand why because he was horrible to me! he did not care for me. He never even gave me a card for my birthday but i miss him. What shall i do, I don't think i want to talk to him again because i want him 2 miss me. But im not sure if he does!! help. (link)
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Sounds like you're going through a guy-drought or a patch of low self esteem (both?).
The guy sounds like a creep so maybe you're missing the whole idea of having a boyfriend rather than him personally, and want to reassure yourself that someone wants/wanted you.
Go out and socialise and get on with the task of meeting nice guys who deserve you.
Happy hunting
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'We'll be going to Davy Jones' locker'. What does that mean?Is it like kicking the bucket? Who's this Davy Jones anyway? (link)
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Davey Jones' Locker literally refers to the sea-bed. Davey Jones is considered to preside over all evil spirits of the sea and was a comon nautical term when chucking someone overboard (dead or alive). Yes now it is often used more generally as a euphemism for death, but particularly death at sea.
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i guess this question would go under it
ok well on my advice column some asked me a question and their like people make fun of my cause i sacrfice llamas and turtle for fun how can i cope with this? And then they stared talking about how their grandma smoked pot and meth and saying one time she almost smoked the kid and the kids cat. Then they said please help me SHELLMINSTER (my nams shelly) then they said please help me or i'll comitte sucide. So i just answer go see a pro or talk to some one you truset. Cause if i deleted it and kids were playing a prank on my then it seemed like i was chicken.
I just don't know if it was real cause then i really should tell this person what to do but if it's fake then why say something that will sound really stupid. So basically is there a way to find out weather it's real or fake or find out who said it??
Sorry for the length!
THANKS! (link)
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Llamas. And turtles. Being sacrificed. It's a joke. I sincerely hope you've not lost sleep over this.
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At my school one of my classes means being assigned to a show and working on a play. The teachers assign your possisions.
The thing is, this year alot of my friends got really great positions and I got kinda cruddy ones. Not terrible. Just an assistant and a crew member for shows that happen at almost the exact same time...
Makes me feel like my teachers don't really care or notice me and I'm really down about it. Any ideas how I could deal with this feeling? (link)
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Do the job fantasically. Be efficient, polite, and know what you're doing. It'll make you feel great and people will appreciate it and compliment you which will definately make you feel better.
You say it's a cruddy job but in my experience bad crew = bad show and belive me, the people putting on the show will know how much of a difference it makes. A good crew member will be everyone's darling, a bad or sloppy one will make more enemies than hitler.
Do a good job and be proud of yourself
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hi i'm 15,male,ohio and there is this girl that i like but shes really popular and i'm not i'm hated by everyone popular and i'm not sure if she hates me and i'd really like to get to know her shes gave me her number but never sits by me on the bus and jus says hi. (link)
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For a start, sod the "popular" people. I have a good friend who's hated by just about everyone whereas I happen to think they're prety damn cool. Secondly, if she's given you her number chances are she is/was expecting you to do something with it-call her or text her, just a friendly message.
I imagine she's a bit unsure as to why you haven't and so probably doesn't really know what to say hence only saying "hi".
Just contact her. The worst that can happen is that you don't get on.
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my sister has let me babysit her son more and more, and i used to like it, but now it's getting ayyoning, she always makes it a huge hasel on me like making me be at her place at 6.30 AM. and im thinking of charging her 2.50 and hour. and i dont wanna be rude but i dont like waking up at 6.00 AM every morning. should i charge her money, stop whining and do it. or just not do it at all. and if i do do it, how can i ask her for money without her screaming at me and getting mad at me. (link)
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You need to set limits on the amount of time you spend babysitting, and on the sort of times you are available. You need to gently impress that you have a life you need to be free to live so if there is a time you can't do, you need to tell her.
There's nothing wrong with doing favours for family without being paid- particularly if that's the way your family works (i.e.: she does favours for you too when you need them) but at the end of the day he is her son, not yours, and you need to make sure the babysitting doesn't take over your life and leave you in a position in which you feel you can't say "no".
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ok i just started algebra in school yesterday, since it was my first day and in middle school i only did pre-algebra so i dont really know algebra.... I need some help on questions
one of them is 1 7/8 + 3/4... any idea??
5 3/4 * 1/3.......... 2 1/5 divided 4/5
2/5- 1/10
IF ANYONE COULD HELP ME out with how too do these... i only did 1 of each kind so i can learn it but i need help on how to do each one...
Also in the directions it says Perform the indicated skill... (i get that in other words it means do the question)... and simplify your answer if possible (does that mean make it the smallest it can be??... im pretty sure) BUT IF U HELP me i will RATE YOU A FIVE!!!!! (link)
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Ok, don't panic it's very simple. What you need to do is make both of your bottom numbers the same. So for example, in the 1 7/8+3/4 example, you want to make the 3/4 have an 8 on the bottom also. To make 4 into an 8, obviously you have to times by 2.
The golden rule is always do to the top number what you do to the bottom.
So, because you've timesed by two on the bottom number, you do the same on the top. So now 3/4 looks like 6/8. This is exactly the same amount as 3/4 but in a form that makes it easier to add with.
So then all you have to do is:
7/8+6/8
Just add the top two numbers together leaving the bottom as 8.
So: 7/8+6/8= 13/8
Because the 8 goes into the 13, you have an extra whole number, so you can also write that as:
1 5/8
Then remember the one you had at the front of your original question and add it on and you have:
2 5/8
So the steps are:
1) make the bottom number the same (but only by multiplying)
2) multiply your top number by the same amount you've multiplyed the bottom number
3) add/ subtract the TOP numbers leaving the bottom number as it was.
4) check if you can make any whole numbers from the fraction you get (if the top number is bigger than the bottom number, you can)
If you want help with the division/multiplication ones individually, message me and i'll explain.
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Ok, so I was like in love with this boy last year and I played a harmless prank on him and he totally stopped talking to me. This year he has not said one word to me and he is my chemistry class. It's 2 weeks into the year and he hasn't said a thing. He's on football and I'm in cheer, so we see each other a million times a day. I really want him to talk to me and he just won't. Instead, I'm starting to believe he's trying to like telepathically talk to me or something because he will not stop staring at me. In the morning, he full on stares at me and does not even care if I notice. Sometimes in chemistry, he'll stare at me and I'll look at him and he'll look away, vice versa. These staring games are pretty silly. Other times at lunch, he'll stare and I'll ask my friends to block his view and he'll actually move to get a better look at me. I thought maybe he was staring at some other girl but all of my friends say hes lookin right at me. At football, when the cheerleaders run around the track, he gets so distracted by me that his coach tells him to pay attention. Why won't he just talk to me? He doesn't respond to my emails or nothing. He apparently just enjoys staring. What the heck does this mean?! I really need help. I feel like a celebrity getting stalked by the paparazzi and want to know why he is doing this! Help please!!
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He's either got a huge crush on you or is deliberately trying to freak you out (possibly as some sort of revenge for the prank?)-possibly both. Either way you need to go up and talk to him. Corner the boy-deliberately go and sit opposite him on a table at lunch then either ask him what the hell he's doing or just start a normal conversation depending on how you feel about the situation and what you want the outcome to be (i.e.: do you just want him to leave you alone or do you want him to be some kind of friend?).
It's pretty difficult to stay silent when someone's talking straight at you without seeming like a sulky child. Hope he gets talking soon!
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Not to be wanting to break your stereotype... I'd rather not be called a pretty simple creature even if it is true of a lot of guys.
Anyway, I suppose now I'll have to come up with a question;
What do you think is the best way for guys to get to know people, when they hardly know anyone?
It feels kind of useless sitting around with groups of people who I might know one of, because I just sort of become like a brick in the wall.
And suggesting just going up and talking to people isn't that great either, because I can never keep a conversation going long enough - never practised it as a kid. (link)
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Heh sorry. You're duly exempt from my sweeping generalisation.
It sounds like a very simple answer but I think you need to think about what you enjoy doing, hobbies etc, then find a way to do it socially. Sport and drama are obvious ones but even if you're into something as generally solitary as reading, there are book clubs and so on that would allow you to use your interest to meet people with similar interests.
Basically it sounds like you need something like this to act as a built in conversation starter. If you involve yourself in activities like this, the conversation opener can be a question or comment to someone about what's going on.
I'd also advise starting small- that is, talking to someone who looks quite nervous or alone and who would be grateful for someone to talk to. Ask people questions about themselves (everybody can talk about themselves for hours) then build your next questions on something they've just said to show you're listening. It's flattering to think someone is genuinely interested in what you have to say. Hopefully this should provoke them into asking you about yourself and so the conversation goes on.
If you're in a new place and you're nervous-admit it to the person you're talking to-honesty is the best policy in these situations so people understand why you might be acting a little strangely at first.
Hope it goes well
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How Are You Sure A Guy Likes You?
i rate high! (link)
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All the suggestions above are great but I find one is pretty reliable:
When a guy is talking to a group of people and makes a joke check to see who he looks at first after making it- this is the person who's approval he most wants and, if it's a mixed group usually the person he finds most attractive.
They're pretty simple creatures really :)
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for some reason,i forget to eat and drink during the day. i have no earges doing the day, dont jump to conculsions i still eat and drink just not enough. somtimes i find myself at night remembering that i havent ate or drank. and i actully have to try to drink. is there anything wrong with me or am i just worrying for nothing. (link)
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Probably best to go to see your doctor just to rule out any hormonal problems.
That said, I get this sometimes and the less I eat, the less hungry I seem to be. Sometimes it can be your body playing tricks on you, thinking that sinc4e it's not going to get food, it should supress hunger pangs. try setting an alarm three times a day reminding you to eat something. It doesn't matter how small it is at first-if this has been going on for a while you're going to need to train your body back into a routine of eating. Eventually you should find that your body begins wanting food at these times of day.
As for drinking, keep a bottle somewhere you go a lot (e.g.: in your bag) and every time you go there, take a drink.
If there's nothing physically wrong with you, these things should help.
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Lately I've found myself eating less and become more selfconcious. My boyfriend pokes my stomach a lot in a joking way and I'll think he's poking my stomach fat. My friend called me fat, but he was kidding, but I got very defensive over it. If I skip a meal, breakfast, lunch, or dinner I wont think anything of it. I'll lie sometimes to my mom and say that I did eat when I know I didn't. I'm always hungry, but I never want to go eat anything. Are these signs of anorexia? (link)
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Sounds like typical teenage girl insecurity that's going a bit too far. Don't panic, you recognise what's going on so you're in a much stronger position than most girls who do this sort of thing- it means you can take control of it before it goes too far.
Explain to your boyfriend and friend that you don't feel that great about yourself right now and it would help if they stopped doing/saying what they are, even though you know they mean nothing by it. Getting the support of your friends should help you feel better and on this basis you can start to address your eating.
The best thing to do is find out what you should be eating for a balanced diet and perhaps start cooking yourself some healthy dishes. Hopefully this will make you feel more in control of your eating without depriving your body of what it needs to function.
Conccentrate on doing things that make you feel good about yourself and focus on what you like about yourself- generally give yourself a break and build up your self confidence.
Too many girls forget to please themselves in the process of trying to match up to what they think everyone else expects of them. Don't be one of them.
Smile, and go and eat your favourite food NOW. xx
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One of my best guy friend wants to go out with me. But I'm scared it my ruin our friendship after we might break up. Should I risk my friendship and go out with him or don't take the risk and save our friendship? (link)
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Life is never certain. Whichever way you act in this situation, things could go well or they could end in disaster. Do you want to go out with him? If yes just do it. You'll always wonder if you want to but don't let yourself try.
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I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday now i feel bad about it i really loved him and i still do thing is i dont know how hes taking it i was really mean to him i told some people were going to come to his house and beat him i didnt mean it iwas just upset and hurt now i want him back i text messaged him telling him im sorry and thit i love him he wont answer my phone calls what should i do im ean i am hurting too and he was a really sweet guy iwant him back. please help? what should i do we were together for 2 months but we were friends first. help (link)
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Ouch. The poor guy's obviously very hurt (and probably a little scared he's going to open the door and find some heavy blokes at his door). If you're to stand any chance of getting this guy back you're going to have to tread pretty gently. Go to see him and avoid a scene at all costs. You need to explain why you acted the way you did and give him firm solid reasons why it won't happen again. telling him "I love you, I'm sory" won't be enough. In his mind what's to stop the same thing happening again?
Good luck
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sry didnt know what to put this under... tonight i have a orientation and i have a bunch of scabs on my face from zits! how do i get them to go away by tonight does anyone know a way besides concealor? thanks please hurry (link)
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use a light exfoliator. If you don't have a packaged one, some kind of grain mixed with a yogurt will do fine. sounds odd but will help even out your skin without being too harsh on your spots and opening them up. it's easier to put concealer on then too if you wanted to because it will go on smoother.
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Hey im new to this site. And I just got 1 rating. I was woundering how many times do you have to be rated for it to show up on your column ?? Because after I got rated I looked at my column and it never showed up. So thats why I was woundering how many times do you have to be rated to have it show on your column ? Thanks (link)
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5 times within 30 days. They'll calculate and average from that
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