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Pretty Simple Creatures
Not to be wanting to break your stereotype... I'd rather not be called a pretty simple creature even if it is true of a lot of guys.
Anyway, I suppose now I'll have to come up with a question;
What do you think is the best way for guys to get to know people, when they hardly know anyone?
It feels kind of useless sitting around with groups of people who I might know one of, because I just sort of become like a brick in the wall.
And suggesting just going up and talking to people isn't that great either, because I can never keep a conversation going long enough - never practised it as a kid.
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Heh sorry. You're duly exempt from my sweeping generalisation.
It sounds like a very simple answer but I think you need to think about what you enjoy doing, hobbies etc, then find a way to do it socially. Sport and drama are obvious ones but even if you're into something as generally solitary as reading, there are book clubs and so on that would allow you to use your interest to meet people with similar interests.
Basically it sounds like you need something like this to act as a built in conversation starter. If you involve yourself in activities like this, the conversation opener can be a question or comment to someone about what's going on.
I'd also advise starting small- that is, talking to someone who looks quite nervous or alone and who would be grateful for someone to talk to. Ask people questions about themselves (everybody can talk about themselves for hours) then build your next questions on something they've just said to show you're listening. It's flattering to think someone is genuinely interested in what you have to say. Hopefully this should provoke them into asking you about yourself and so the conversation goes on.
If you're in a new place and you're nervous-admit it to the person you're talking to-honesty is the best policy in these situations so people understand why you might be acting a little strangely at first.
Hope it goes well
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