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Asthmatic Mother.
This might be stupid, because it happened to long ago but I want peoples opinions about it. I'm 15 female, & my sisters 22 female.
My mom has been on asthma ever since she was a young girl, and one night in June 2005 I wake up to her coughing an over amountage & weezing [deep breathing] I was super worried because I didn't know what to do, so I woke my sister up & had her come in my mom's room, my mom started throwing up because she was coughing so much, & she couldn't breath, so we decided we were going to take her to the hospital, because that's the only choice we really had. At this time my dad was living away, but my parents don't hate each other or anything, it's just he moved & they we moved a couple months later. But anyways, when we decided we would take my mom to the hospital my sister goes into her room, changes from her pajamas to regular clothes & then says shes ready!!
I didn't even care what I looked like, I didn't want to waste anytime because I knew that my mom had a hard time breathing, and it must be horrible to have that problem. But, my sister changed and that's what made me really mad, because it just seems like she doesn't care what happened to my mom in that 3 minutes. Blah, well basically I was just wondering, don't you think that that's wrong? I know I shouldn't be worrying about it now, because my mom's perfectly fine now but I just can't stop thinking about it.
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ummm...well... thats a difficult one to answer. if my sister did that i would be totoally mad. But if she didnt take FOREVER to get ready and your mom is fine now.... ii say let it go.... your m0m's okay and thats all that matters.
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Personally, I think she changed for another reason. You were all worried about your mother, and you were afraid some serious harm could come to her. You coped by trying to handle the situation. I think that your sister tryed to cope by avoiding the situation. It's perfectly fine to do it that way, as it is sometimes neccassary. She needed to collect herself in some manner as to be able to help you. That's how she did it, by changing her clothes.
Just a few thoughts. Hope this works!
-Steven
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ummm all i can say is every ohne reacts differently although your sister didnt leave your mum alone assuring you was there i understand how you feel and it may sometimes feel like a lot of responitity on your head worrying about things but you need to let them go if it happens again dont pantic take a glass of water and any medication she takes like inheaers and try and carm her down if required call for an amblance take care
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Yeah I can see why you'd be upset but it's perfectly possible it just didn't enter your sister's head. I know when I get really stressed I lose the process of rational thought and go onto autopilot.
That ot she just didn't think it was such an emergency as you did. Perhaps she's seen your mum like that before and wasn't so worried?
Either way I'm sure it didn't mean she doesn't care about her. Perhaps you should talk to her, tell her how scared you were and find out what was going through her head.
Hope she reassures you.
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Yes you are right she did make a mistake and you should speak to your sister about it. Tell her you love her but it is bothering you and you would just like to understand. If you have a good relationship she will probably apologize or offer an explaination.
There are a lot of things to consider, you sister might have been at an age where she was very uncomfortable with her body, she might have seen your mothers attacks before and not been as frightened as you, she might not have been able to drive in what she was wearing.
Those are just a bunch of reasons she might have made the mistake she did. In the end, she is your sister and you'll feel better if you can find it in your heart to forgive her.
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Well first of all I would say she needs to see the doctor again. Her medication dose may not be strong enough. Secondly, a food allergy can cause this to happen as well. Third, it is important for you to remain calm no matter how scared you are. The body has what is simular to a backup device. If she stopped breathing from panic or anxiety caused by a dream or stress, it would automatically take over the second she stopped breathing. What you can do till you get help or arent sure how serious the problem is at the time is this. First calm your mother down. When you cant breathe you tend to panic and that causes you to lose more air. Secondly, if it is an asthma attack, steam helps, so run the shower on extreme hot water and let the room get steamy and get her in the bathroom to breathe the steam. A sink with running hot water lets off steam and she can bend over and breathe the steam from there as well. If it is a matter of her tonsils being overly large or swollen, you can tilt the head back and lift the chin up like you are going to do mouth to mouth, this will open the air passage way. If she is throwing up, it is important to get water back into the body and to rub her back to talk in a calm voice and tell her its ok. Have her tonsils checked, she may need them removed.
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Yeah, that is messed up that your sis did that. She shouldn't have been worrying about her looks when stuff like that happens. You just got to know that it's in the past now, and what happened has happened. If you really want to figure anything else about it out you could talk to your sis. Hope I helped.
Bobby
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You are absolutely right. When someone can't breathe time is very important. Your sister probably didn't realize. The very best thing to do next time is get her an ambulance. They can get her oxygen immediately and other things to help her breathe. But, you did good :)
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