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i am under stress....
my mom all of a sudden wants to get in my buisiness...she wants to know every detail of my life....i dont think it is her buisiness but she is just so nosey...she always looks through my stuff...i dont know what to do...along with this ..my dad is getting married to his old therapist who was "helping" him get back together w/ my mom...i dont like it...she acts like shes our mother...shes not....and my dad...that bitch...took his girlfriend to go see 2 concerts the night he was supposed to take me to see just one... i hate him...what should i do iam under to much stress for a 13 year old...ps along with that i have homework until almost 10:00 AT NIGHT ...PLEASE HELP ME!
ps ..my dad always rubs my back and neck in a father daughter way but it is very uncomfortable...i need info on what to do there too! Thanks!! i am a teen girl in need!!!
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i know all about stress and added responisblity. I think you mums worried she lost your dad to another woman and your growing you and now she has loads of free time on her hands. Maybe if you talk to your mum about this or look to spend a bit of quiluity time together go shoppin of play board games or help with your homework .
About your dad im sure he didnt mean to let u down when you start a new realtionship you offern go out on dates and eat out and then slowly it starts to slow down and becomes like a normal realtionship talk to your dad about what happened and tell him nicely that you feel a bit to old to be patted on the back it may take a while because you may not relise it but to them your growing up fast
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Maybe you need to talk to your father about the neglect that you've been feeling and how much it makes you feel stressed. Maybe you should point out what is more important to you when it comes to your relationship with him ,and that he hasn't been meeting those necessities within this particular father daughter relationship. After discussing that, then tell your father to lax up on the rubbing the back thing. Tell him that you're getting older and that well it's time to start treating you like you're older. Tell your mother this as well but please do not tell her this in an aggressive manner. It will only make matters worse. So when you talk to her tell her that you know that it is important to her to know specific things about your life. But that is just that, it's your life to live with your choices and that you acknowledge the fact that you know that your choices may have bad consequences. Tell her it's up to you to make them and that you understand that she is only doing her job which is being a mother. Oh and tell her that you're glad(maybe you aren't) that she cares, and tell her that when you need her you'll tell her . It may help if you actually, maybe not on a regular day to day basis, elaborated a bit about what's going on in your life. Oh and for the therapist, talk to her in a professional manner. Tell her that it's becoming ten times harder for you and that you really do need that time with your father. Hopefully she'll understand and if she doesn't , then you need to talk to your father.
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Simply tell your dad you don't like it and that it makes you uncomfortable. It is probably a habit.
You won't like this but mom has a right to look at things in her house even if they are yours. I know you are probably a good kid and not into anything illegal but a lot of kids your age are not. Be glad she cares enough to be nosey, most parents are not nosey enough.
There isn't a lot you can do about dad and his love interest. You don't have to like her...just be polite for dads sake. You may hate him now but he is still the only dad you have. Mine is a piece of work too so I sympathise with you.
Mainly, just try not to worry about what the adults in your life get up to. There isn't a lot you can do to stop them so just go along when you have to and learn from their mistakes. :)
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