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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

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I hate school so much! Like its crazy how much i hate it. So does anybody have some advice on how i can enjoy it more? Or at least get some kind of motivation to do my work. Its not really school i hate, its just the work part of it. Please help, thanks.

Take some electives you'll like, it'll at least make a part of your day worth having. I know taking my art classes gets me through the day, and makes it worth it to go and try my hardest.

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Ok, there's this kid at my school, Drew. We sorta like each other, so on Sat. we had like, this 5 hour long convo, and we just decided to go to the Snowball together. (it's a dance). So anyway, today at school, I was telling my friends Jenny and Nicole (Nicole likes Drew) about it. Jenny was real happy for me, but I noticed Nicole just looked mad. So I just online a little bit ago, and my one friend was talking to her, and IMing me their convo, and turns out, she's real pissed about me going to the dance with Drew and just liking him in the first place, but I can't help it. I heard from Drew that he doesn't even like Nicole the way she does. So I IMed her saying I was sorry if I made her mad, but we both decided to go to the dance together. I told her to stop bein so weird about it cuz it has nothing to do with her. And then she signed off. Idk, I just want your opinion about this. Who's right and wrong here? And I want to go to the dance w/ Drew, but I don't want to upset Nicole either. What should I do?

Hmm.. Nicole will probably get over it. Be sensitive about it and don't say ANYTHING about drew while your around her. I advise that maybe you should spend some time with her, like bonding time, because this seems like the right time for you to build on your friendship.

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I am 15.recently my best friend said he likes this girl. he talks about her alot! I think its cute! but anyway. Recently he has said he has lost feelings for her and that he likes someone else. Ive known him for about 8 years and ever since then hes always told me who he likes and suddenly he wont! In class he'll say things that kind of lead me on to think that he may like me. like...randomly say i love you and he jokingly asked me to marry him (in the future of course!) now...am i jumping the gun or does he like me?!? HELP PLEASE!

Maybe your feelings for him are making you want to believe he likes you? never the less, if he is becoming a bit more flirty than usual there is probably a hunch he likes you. But don't do anything too rash(unthought out). Flirt back a little.. see what happens? Maybe he'll open up to you if you drop a few hints.

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how do u become popular and have alot of friends

Why would you want to be popular? Ok first.. being popular is not everything, infact, most popular people will be pumping the nerds, geeks, and punks gas someday. You don't want to be one of them, one of the many and one of the generic. Be different, and you will probably find a click that you can hang out with. If you have any talents, music, art.. math? Anything that you can associate yourself with would probably help you make a few friends. And lastly, try and be a little more outgoing.. I'm not asking you to jump up and down for attention and tackle people to the ground.. but just go up to someone that maybe is alone.. they are probably pretty cool and someone that could use a friend to. Friends aren't about quantity, they're about quality.

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Ok, I'm having my b-day party this fri. and I invited a whole bunch of people and everything, but my one guyfriend, Matt found out that my friend Crystal is going (they're like fighting and everything) and now he doesn't want to go. I really want him to, cuz he's like my older brother. Crystal's definitely going and doesn't care about whether Matt's going or not, she just wouldn't talk to him if he did. She told me to tell Matt not to ruin my party and just go and stay away from here. Well, I did, and he still won't go. He said he loved me (as a friend) and he'd do anything for me, but he just can't go to my party. I think he's bein real immature about it. During 1st period today, Crystal told me he wrote he a real nasty letter about her, but then at lunch, he let me read it and it wasn't bad at all, he was actually just trying to make peace and all. So I'm really confused. I really really want him to go. What can I do?

OK, get out of their business. Crystal and Matt have issues between THEM.. You can't make him go to the party, and you can't make Crystal leave. If Matt has the balls to come then he will, regardless of another person that is there which is completely immature in my opinion. But, the thing is that if he is going to be moping about, and having a bad time.. he shouldn't come anyway.. it would probably ruin your party if they got into a huge fight half way through. I hope I helped a little.. sorry if I was harshfully truthful.

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my boyfriend and i have benn going out for 11 months and he is always saying how much he loves me and stuff but then he hurts me so bad sometimes and he thinks he can like other ppl but im not allowed and i cry almost everytime we get into a fight and he thinks i dont care about him and the person i would think understand this bc shes been with him b4 said i need to move on but i guess thats really not what i wanna hear because i love him so much!!! but i dont think i can trust him cheating on my and playing with my mind but i love him so much!!

What should i do :/

If that guy is cheating on you, you've been in multiple fights? You should completely drop it. If he LOVES you like he says he does and isn't just completely using you he will drop this girl like a hot potato and come back to you. I don't think you should keep drowning in this unsincere relationship when there are plenty of other fish in the sea that won't cheat on you. In my opinion you seem to be wasting your time with this guy.

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I just found out my husband has been cheating on me. We agreed to separate for a while because we can't live together right now. But he is still sleeping with this woman who is also married with children. He says he is not sure weather or not it is going to work out with her, that he doesn't know her, he is just living a fantasy right now, replacing what was missing in our relationship. He is getting attention he hasn't gotten from me in a while because our lives have been so busy. It doesn't make it okay, but our relationship is way to special to throw away and I want to work it out with him. We are going to couples counseling in a few months. I am having a hard time convincing him to stop sleeping with this woman, and I am thinking about sending this woman's husband the e-mails she and my husband have exchanged along with a letter I have written to him revealing the truth about what his wife has been out doing. But will this push this woman further into my husbands arms or will it make her and her husband focus on their own relationship instead of her focusing on hers with my man? Please help, I don't know weather or not to send it without everyone's advice out there!! Will it only cause more problems that will work against what I want (my husband back in my arms) or will it end the affair my husband is having?

Hmm.. that's a little tricky. If you send the letters it will most definately make everything more dramatic. Though, if you know about this other women, then shouldn't her husband? Your husband will probably be made that you did this to her though, behind his back. It might just push him farther away from you and further your problems. I don't think you should do anything of the sort until after the counciling which you and your husband seem to need right now. If you two have a truly special relationship you should be able to outlast this problem. Hope the decision you make is the best for you, and I hope I helped.. :)

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okay ill start at the beging, a while back my b/f and i got into a fight and he thought i broke up with him even though i didn't so a few years went past and i still had feelings for him and well now one of my best friends just broke up with him and it turns out he likes me too and i dont know what to do cux she still likes him and really wants him back but then again so do i, and im super confused cuz she told me not to go out with him but i really really want to so plz help me thanks

If you really would prefer to keep your friend over the guy then I say back off, your friend might dump him later anyways, and if he really likes you he'll dump her. All you have to do is be patient and see what comes of it..

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I took like a week break from gymnastics and now I am going back tomorrow with a bunch of cuts on my wrist because I slit my wrists a few times over the week. I didn't think I was going to go back to gymnastics and I'm still not sure but I might and everyone will see the cuts and they're going to wonder what they are. I don't think they will believe it's from my cat. What should I say? I can't wear bracelets or anything over them that is noticable because we're not supposed to. Help!! How do I hide them?

can I ask why in the first place you slit your wrist?

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ok so there is this friend, she used to be my best friend. we were like the best of best friends and did everything together. talked on the phone for hours got our nails done went places nd everything. just recently i went on a trip and i came home to find my "best friend" annoyed with me. i wasnt even home. she told my other really good friend that she realized she had other friends and now does stuff with them all the time and not with me anymore...at all. she told one of my other friends that she didnt want me to go somewhere everyone was going for no reason. now we hardly talk and she seems to avoid me...but whenever i ask her.."everything is fine" PLEASE HELP! I NEED MY BEST FRIEND :(

If she doesn't want to be your friend anymore because she thinks she's too cool for you I say drop her like a hot potato. If she doesn't even make an attempt and she is superficial and stupid, I would say don't waste your time. Though once her other friends drop her she'll probably be back and find who her real friends are.

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I always wished I was fatter I'm so skinny and all my friends can wear tight jeans and juniors clothes and I'm stuck in 10/12 in pants and 14/16 in shirts. The 10/12's are even baggy, I can't fit in 8/9 because they are to short. How can I gain weight? I know I have to eat but is there any other ways?

Actually, there is a special bar you can eat to gain wait. They use it for like starving kids in africa and wrestlers that want to go up a weight class. Ask your doctor if he thinks it would be healthy to try something like that.

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im doing 300-600 sit ups a day is this bad 4 me?thanx

geez.. I would kill to be able to do that. I don't think it's bad for you, actually it's probably really good, except if you don't want to look really bulky..

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hey i am going to formal soon and i got a dress and its really long down to the floor and stuff but soo pretty. and so then i find out everyone is wearing like shorter drsses like to their shins but mien is past the floor so wat do i do? i dont wanna be over dressed but i love this dress... wat wud u do

do you feel the need to be like everyone else? I mean seriously, if you like the dress so much why not wear it? Oh yea, just so you can fit in? Have some backbone and stand out for a change. You'll probably get compliments on your dress and other people will be kicking themselves for not getting on just like it.

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hi
ive got this friend and shes really annoying, she folllows me around EVERYWHERE and i mean EVERYWHERE! even when i want 2 talk 2 my other friends in 'private' she has to come up and listen in. my other friends think shes annoying as well and we dont no what do. and she always leans on my shoulder all the time and when i tell her to get off, she says that shes tired or something like that. PLZE HELP
what can i do/say to stop her from doing it???
luv nickixxxxxxxxx

xD I had a friend like that. well.. she wasn't really my friend. She probably doesn't have very many friends, correct? Show some compassion and get over the fact that she is completely clingy and annoying. I know what it's like where you just want to bash someones skull in with a hammer. Don't say anything mean to her because you never know, she could go kill herself and then you would feel really really bad. trust me, you would.. Why don't you get to know her, for all you know she couldnt' be that bad. I had a friend *cough* that used to poke me to no end in first grade, she kept poking me and POKING ME.. and gah.. it was really annoying. And then she could never remember my name.. but you know, later we became really good friends, as you get older you'll get more tolerant of people I've found.

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I have a huge problem. I'm always worrying about something. Like I worry about school, my friends, if I have enough money to buy a gift, a test coming, etc. I never have a moment where I'm not worried. It sucks!!!! Please help me. Thank you.

deep breaths.. go take a bath, put on candles, and relax.. you really have a lot of tension going but all you have to remember is that it probably won't last forever.. It's all drama nowadays in schools and no one can ever see that this isn't what your whole life is going to be like.

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is there any way to change your password once you have an account? if so how? thanx. x0

Yea, just go to profile settings, at the top you can change your password by typing in a new one and then retyping it in the box below.

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Okay well I am 13 years old. I think I am one of the fattest people out their! I weigh about 105, and I am about 5,1 ½ .. There are like 4 people who tease me, and call me fatt because they know it gets to me, and I cry all the time. About 1 week ago I tried making myself throw up. It hurts, but I don't care. I am also on a diet. So the food I eat is healthy still get's vomited out. But oh well. But my two best friends ones a guy who I like love with all my heart, and one is a good girl friend of mine are so pissed that I do this, and tell me not to listen to what people think =/ They said if I continue to do it they'll refuse to talk to me.. Urg! I wanna lose a lot of weigh for summer, and stuff and this is a pretty good way to do it but I dont know because I dont wanna lose my friends anymore =/ .. Ekkkk what to do?

First off, Bilemia is a serious problem. You should take your friends advice because once your on it, you usually don't want to stop and keep thinking your fat no matter what. Your friends shouldn't leave you but still, you can't do this to yourself, it can erode your esophogaus because a lot of what you throw up is probably stomach acid. You should get to someone who can help you through this before it gets too serious.

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About a couple of days ago I got an e-mail from my boyfriend's sister. She told me that he tryed killing himself and he's currently in the hospital for blood loss. I'm blaming myself for all this. He told me he loved me a week ago or and I rolled my eyes and blocked him. Because we've been fighting for awhile. One of my friends told him I didn't love him, but mixed up the converstation when he should have said I didn't know if I had the same feelings for him anymore. My boyfriend took it the wrong way because I do really love him. Problem is, his family doesn't know if hes going to make it. I have no way to get to see him, because he's on the other side of Canada. (He moved). We've been together for 3 years. I know this is all my fault and I think about it everyday and been crying all the time. I don't know what to do. ANY help would be GREAT!

Hmm.. I think all you can do is send your best wishes, pray he gets better, and talk to him if he does. I hope that they can save him and I really haven't been through anything that comes close to this so I can't even begin to relate how you feel. You might want to get some counciling if he does pass, it sounds like you guys were really close and that it will probably take a while to get over. But hang in there, and do all you can to try and support him while he's in the hospital. Send flowers with a card overnight?

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I want to loose wait but I crave candy and sweets all the time I do sit ups but I dont loose allot of wait plz help wut can I don

There are things you can eat that are healthy, and aren't bad for you. Popcorn is good for you if it doesn't have anything on it. And there are some sweets you can buy that taste just the same but are better for you as well. I think maybe you should try signing up for a gym a few hours a week, you can start off slow and if you get someone to help you you could probably get on some sort of plan to help you lose the amount of wait you want.

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OK in a flyer for ECKERD (its a drug store)they advertise a disposible camera with a photo CD. Does this mean my pictures can be saved on the CD? Can i make one of those online photo books i always see? How do i go about this?
Thanks for answering

I think that means that when you turn in the camera for your pictures, you get back a cd with your pictures on it. You can save them to your computer, or put them up on photobucket.

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