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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.

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Here is my Recommended Columnist of the Decade for the 2020s:
Laura!

--Jack

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on your pictures for myspace, how do you put like another picture or an icon or something for a caption

If you find the picture online, right click it, then hit "copy location", and then put it into this type of thing:

Then put that code into where you would type a caption.

--Jack
(15/m)

OKay my dad just got an ipod so that means there is goign to be 2 ipods on one computer.... how does that work???What do i do .... do i have to dowload another itunes

If you have 2 ipod on one computer can u tell me how you do it and how it works.....

Thanks

You can't have two iTunes on one computer.. you can only have one. That means that the two iPods will share the same iTunes. My mom and sister have that. It works out quite nice if you have a large space to hold music (30, 60 or 80 GB)

--Jack
(15/m)

Do you honestly think that you are qualified to give anyone advice? You claim that you will graduate validictiorian... yet you still can't get over someone that you dated 5 months ago?! Why are you even counting? So what if someone wants to post pictures with thier boyfriend kissing? Its their buisness... stop making it yours. Do you really care about her sooooo much that you need to check up on her and worry that she is dating a senior? Get over yourself. dick. Go back to your ego masturbation and leave it at that. Stop trying to spread it around. No one wants that.

I'm sorry that you'll be banned!

Have a nice day- and you can't judge me, as you don't know the situation I went through.

And isn't this quite hypocritical, Lauren?

God Bless you
--Jack (15/m)

ok, let's say there's a girl at your school, and *everyone* knows that her boyfriend is cheating on her, but she doesn't seem to realize it. do you feel sorry for her, or do you just think she's stupid for not seeing it? and then... when she does find out, she forgives her bf and gives him a 2nd chance. do you think she's a nice, forgiving person who loves her bf, or do you think she's a complete idiot for letting him play her like that? just wondering, becuz that girl is me and i wonder what people might be saying/thinking about me!

Honestly I would feel sorry for that girl (you). I don't tend to think people are idiots for not knowing things- just a little naive. And forgiving him (not a choice I would have made if a girl cheated on me- but hey- we all have different views)- it just shows that you are a forgiving person and can see the best in people- something most of us can't do.

And as for wondering what people think about you- ignore it all. Trying to manage what people think of you will only lead to you striving to be what they want you to be and not what you want you to be (if that makes any sense).

--Jack

what's the 1st most popular website in the world? it's not myspace and i googled it and it didn't help. thanks!

Even though we might think its Advicenators.. I'm pretty sure its a search engine website..

i.e., Google, Ask, Wikipedia, Yahoo, Dogpile, etc.

My best guess would be Google.. since that's the one website everyone's heard of.

--Jack

ok..srry this is gonna be long...i got a bf at school..even though i'm not allowed to have a bf (i'm 15/female) and a week and a half later my mom and dad found out...and i've only hugged and held hands w/ my bf,fyi...my dad said i can hold hands w/ him..and hug him only, but as friends. so i asked him " why would i hold hands w/ one of my friends" he said "take the offer or leave it" and i told my bf all this and he said "whatever ur parents dont know wont hurt them" but if i ever went out w/ my bf to the movies or anywhere my parents said we had to go w/ a group...and i want to kiss him and stuff but if i went out w/ him its for sure that my parents would ask "did you two kiss" and i cant lie..i dont want to lie...i have my parents trust and loosing it would be awful...but i'd die if i had to be his gf and not kiss him or anything...and i like him a lot! any advice?
thanks

I know this is going to sound lame, but you should always try to keep your parent's trust. You'll know your parents the rest of your life, and just one little high school boyfriend shouldn't outweigh your want for a trusting relationship between you and your parents. Just continue to be trusted by your parents, and they will eventually let you have a boyfriend. They can't hold on to you forever, so it won't be long before they trust you enough to have a boyfriend. Now don't get me wrong, continue to hang out with your friend/boyfriend, but don't go against your parents just to sneak a kiss. You'll have many boyfriends before you get married.

Hope I helped!
--Jack

do you have facebook or myspace.

P.S i added you on my favorites

Thanks, but I don't wish to give out my myspace or facebook.

--Jack

I don't expect you to respond to this, and that's okay with me. But I just wanted you to know that it's comforting to see that other people my age are not completely retarded and can actually give good advice. I saw on your advice column that you live in Australia. I went there once, and I really enjoyed it; it was a nice change from where I live in Texas. Anyway, I don't really know how to end this because I'm not a fan of talking to people I don't know on the Internet, so I'll just say goodbye.

Thank you very much!

Funny thing is that I'm really not from Australia.

Thanks for stopping by!

--Jack

So my and my boyfriend have been going out for a month now.. and umm we havent done anything like not even held hands .. and no his is not prude.. he is experienced.. and i can tell he is planing to do something soon.. what can i do to lead him on..

Don't force him to do anything. Give him time. Forcing and pushing a relationship to see what you can get out of it (like holding hands or kissing or making out, etc.) only leads to problems later in the relationship. Trust me, its so much more rewarding to just let him do it and wait until your both ready to do something as simple as hold hands..
but if you don't want to take that advice, just be proactive and hold his hand instead of waiting for him to do it.

--Jack

WOW ! your kinda cute.

Flattering, but I get that a lot on this site, but not in person.

what does this mean..
Did she actually give him head

"Giving head" is giving a blow job.. oral sex.. you know.. Its what every teenage girl feels she needs to do to be accepted...

--Jack

What are some good ways to be cool in high school?? I was just wondering about this question for some time. I mean what does the word cool mean? And how do people identify it when they see it exactly? Its just been on my mind for some time. Does it mean acting bored and dont care what people say or think?

Honestly- why do you want to be "cool"? All the "cool" people are the people who call themselves the popular people and they end up drinking and smoking weed and having sex and dumb thinks like that. Doing these things ruins your life- so why would you want to be like that?
If you're just asking what is "cool"- then "cool" is what people make it. I think "cool" is someone who is willing to stand up for what they believe in, even if it isn't popular by everyone's standards. Cool people in my eyes study hard and care about their education. Yes- you could label me a geek, dweeb, loser, etc. but honestly- that's what matters. That, and enjoying time with your friends.
So- be yourself and don't fall to peer pressure. Don't make it your life goal to be accepted by the "cool" people- because trust me- I've been there and it isn't worth it- they just end up hurting you.

--Jack

how do you give a blow job and what is it like ? my boyfriend wants me to do it and so do i

First off- this site doesn't give sexual instructions. Just for future reference.
Second- if you have to ask how to give one and what it is like, you're obviously not ready, even though you claim to want to do it.
If you boyfriend wants it as bad as you do- then he should know. Ask him.

--Jack

I'm doing a survey for English class about anything that I want. I chose to ask a bunch of people who they thought would win American Idol and why.
Please say who you think will win and why in a few short words.

Thanks so much, I can always count on you guys!

I think Blake will because he's got the best voice.. at least I think so..

but- he probably won't because I think Am. Idol is rigged

How do you get a guy to fall head over heels in love with you?

The only sure-fire way to do this is to be yourself. Don't be fake and act like most teenage girls do today. There's nothing wrong with showing off or flaunting your special aspects of you (personality wise, not necessarily physically).

--Jack

i recently gave my guy a hand job. afterwards and during it he kept asking how i liked the size. honestly its just average size and i told him it was fine and that i liked it, blah blah blah. i really dont care how big it is, thats not a big deal to me but he wont stop asking about it. how can i help him feel comfortable about being just average and by average i mean about 7inches which is good for us being only 15 almost 16, if i really cared what size it was and if i was that shallow then i wouldn't be doing things with him.

Hey-

Well if you've already sat down and talked to him about all of this and how you really feel that it doesn't matter a lot to you- then everything should be fine. If he doesn't understand- there isn't much you can do about his self-consciousness.

--Jack

f/16
me and my bf have had sex more then once already! but i can't bring myself to giving him a blow job! even though i really want too! someone please help me boost my confidence! what are some pointers? how do i know when it's the right time to do it? please GIVE ME ANY ADVICE YOU CAN! thanks soooo much!

If you EVER have any doubts- it means you probably shouldn't do it. If and when you're ready- you'll know it for sure and you won't have doubts or worries like you have now.
And- don't let anyone tell you that you NEED to give him one- because its ultimately your choice when you do it.

--Jack

If your scab comes out, does that mean that your cut will become a scar?

Not always. If your scab is big enough and it falls off- like if its ripped off- a scar will probably result. But if it just spontaneously "falls off", then most likely not.

--Jack

If you already tried out for american idol and made it far into the competition but didn't win, can you try out again?

I don't think they let you, because they know you've already made it far enough. Most that make it into the final 12 end up getting record deals anyway.

--Jack

How did islam spread with great success from 660 to the time of the ottamin empire?

I know I will get a poor rating for this, but seriously, we aren't here to do your homework. And I know you're going to say that you've done everything in your power to find the answer and this is your last resort, but it isn't. We both know that. I'm sure you have a textbook or a teacher, rather, that would love to help you with this question.

--Jack

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