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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i have the orange env
for verizon
and sometimes when im texting
the text i recieve come late
it depends on how late
but its normally 30 min
or sometimes up to 2 hours
and it makes me very mad haha
and idk why its doing that!
i know its me too casue its not just certain people
its like everyone
i havent even had this phone for long
maybe a month?
if anyone knows why
tell me!

Don't listen to the person below me. They'll be banned soon.

Take your phone back to the store & see what's going on. If they can't fix it, they'll probably have you call Customer Service. If you have insurance on your phone, they can probably replace it for you.

I have only had sex 3 times and my boyfriend is all turned on about "girl on top" what exactaly do I have to do? What would be some other positions that would be good to try for beginners?

my aim says "attempting to sign on again too soon" when i ttry and sign on, what do i do?

It means that it can't sign you on & you keep trying to even though it won't let you.

Wait about 10-20 minutes & try again.

Theres this boy who wont stop herassing me all the time its really really badly getting to me now its been going on for ages. Yesterday my friends and i all went to the cinema and everything was going well until he went and through chips over me he kept doing it until he got my attention, i jus ignored it and walked off! If i turn up tp the beach with my friends he be like why are you here etc and what the hell are u wearing just little commments all the time, then the next day he will be like aaar we are friends really arnt we then he goes and laughs about me with his friends? he trying to get everyone to have a grudge against me! i realy dont no what to do iv tryed everything i jus dont no anymore....

My obvious solution would be to kick him in the teeth, but you should probably solve this without violence.

If you want him to stop, you need to sit down privately with him, & ask him why the hell he does this to you. Tell him it pisses you off & that it needs to stop.

In all honesty, boys are weird. He could be doing this because he likes you. Or he could be doing this because he's an asshole. Talk to him & figure out what his deal is, then see what you can do to stop it.

I was babysitting this ten year old... he was bein a brat and wouldnt go to sleep... my girlfriend was there and we couldnt have any time alone... so we had coke n we did it cause we were gonna have to stay up to watch him... he said he wanted to try so we let him... he started running around and actin like an indian... we got a pipe and some pot and smoked... he wanted to try but when he did he coughed n said he didnt want to do it... i told him if he didnt he would die... so we smoked 3 bowls with him and he got sleepy and went to bed... I feel bad that i gave this kid drugs... His parents never found out... what should i do???

I just wanna ask you something real fast, okay?

WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU!? What in the hell made you think that giving a 10 year old drugs was the right thing to do? You are a fucking idiot, and I HIGHLY suggest you turn yourself into the police RIGHT NOW.

You are a waste of skin & disgust to mankind. You really, really need to rethink yourself, and your morals. After you do that, NEVER, EVER babysit again. I can't believe those people let you into their home.

You're a horrible person, and I hope you rot in prison & hell for the things you've done to that innocent little boy. You're disgusting. And another thing, punch your girlfriend in the face, cause she's just as stupid as you are.

Fucking A.

I really like this guy in my school and I told my BFF and she promised to keep its secret but the next day she told another girl and now to make it worse that girl went up to this certain boy and told him that I like him, and before I could hang out with him and be fine but now I get really embaresed my friends keep telling me to ask him out but I know he wouldnt go out with me because I'm not very pretty:(, and I am kinda shy but I am still madly in love with him and I havent even seen him since May 26, what should I do!

He knows you like him, so you need to take a chance & ask him out! If you don't want to ask him out just yet, ask him to hang out with you & just chill. If things go well, and he seems interested, continue to go further with the relationship. And honestly, you may not think you're pretty, but he might, and you never know until you ask. Besides, looks don't make you pretty sweetheart, your personality does.

Take a chance & ask this guy out. If he says yes, then you know he was interested all along & you had nothing to worry about. If he says no, then don't beat yourself up over it. It's his loss. Good luck; let me know how things go!

okay so i started cutting myself in 8th grade and now im going into 10th. half the time i dont even know why i cut. i just get the worst urges and if i dont cut the urges just keep getting worse and worse. i really want to stop but i just cant. i hate that i cut myself but it seems like theres no way i can ever stop. and no im not doing it for attention. please help.

Take this from someone who's been cutting for about 3-4 years now. It is VERY hard to stop, and you can only stop if you want it bad enough. If you say "I wanna stop" but do nothing to stop cutting yourself, then you don't really want to. It's enough to say it, but it's so much more to actually do it. It takes effort.

I'm in 11th grade, and I started in 7th grade. I was cutting because of something my mother said, and ever since I've found reasons to destroy myself & give people reasons to make me miserable. I didn't do it for attention either. I did it because there was something desperately wrong with me, and it took a lot for me to get help. In fact, I didn't even get help for myself. My friend got it for me because she knew I wouldn't.

Since then, I've been doing pretty well to stop cutting myself, and I've actually gone solid without it for almost a year. In November, it'll be a year since I've hurt myself on purpose, and it feels good to not have to pick up a razor, or a pair of scissors & put it to myself.

If you really want to stop, you need to make an effort. There are lots of ways to stop cutting, but you need to open to them & actually try them out. I can make suggestions to last you a lifetime, but it's all up to you to put them to the test & see what works for you. Honestly, what worked best for me was music. Whenever I felt like cutting, or dying for that matter, I listened to music. I listened to anything from The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus, to Cute Is What We Aim For to Escape The Fate, to Paramore. I listened to anything, and it helped me a lot.

Music was my release, and it could be yours. When you feel like you need to hurt yourself, turn on music. If you feel like music isn't going to help you in the least bit, try writing. Get a livejournal or a xanga & vent like there's no tomorrow. If you're not a good writer, that doesn't matter. Not only will you get your feelings out in a healthy way, but you'll become a better writer & improve the skills you've got. If you don't want to write, is there someone at home or school that you can talk to? A sibling? A close family member? A good friend? If so, talk to them! I listened to music before I could trust anyone with what I was dealing with, and when I finally did trust someone enough, it was my best friend. She understood me, and she wanted to help. She knows what I went through, and she did anything she could to get me happy again & back to normal. Your friends & family want to help you WAY MORE than you think they do, sweetheart. You need to give them that chance & let them in.

If you don't see family/friends as a good outlet, try a rubberband. Wear a rubberband around your wrist, and when you feel like cutting yourself, snap it against your skin. If the ruhberband doesn't work, don't get discouraged. It doesn't work for some people. It didn't work for me, so I kept trying new options. If you don't think the rubberband sounds effective enough for you, try talking to a therapist or a counselor. They are trained professionals that can help you specifically for this area & what you're doing for yourself. They can give you the help that you need to get your life back on track. Trust me, cutting doesn't have to exist to you anymore.

If you feel weird about getting help from a psychatrist, or you're worried about the expenses, [although your counselors at school are free], you can always talk to me. I'm almost always online, and all of my information is on my column. I would be glad to help you since I know how you feel & I've been through this whole cutting thing. If you do decide to come to me for more help, and my away message is up, please IM me anyways because chances are, I'm sitting right there & will reply when I see a message.

Until then, please stop cutting yourself. Life is a very good thing, and it's what you make it. By cutting yourself, you're making your life continue to be miserable & it'll only get worse for you if you don't shape up your ways. I do indeed hope you decide to come to me for help. Good luck with everything. =)

Hey everybody...Im new here,,but i really wanna share a story...so anyways my friend and i went to camp....she has never started here period. When we were at camp she had a huge brownish/red stain on her butt...all the girls were laughing! I pulled her over to the side and she got mad at me! She went to the bathroom and soon said sorry...Here is the bad part, so this camp was on a lake and we sawm ALOT..and this was only our 2nd day there! and she had to get "stuff" but she didnt know how to use a tampon...and the lady nurse was out, there was only a guy! so she asked me...I swear on tampons but i really fell uncomfortable...even though she is my bf! She ended up use pads and went canoeing...he boat fliped and there was white diapery stuf on her bathing suit! All the girl joked about it! we were tottaly out kasts!

This doesn't qualify as a question, so please don't post stuff like this on site. Tell a story in a forum, but not in the pool. This is for actual advice, not your little adventures.

i REALLY need the lyrics to "now that the love is over" by the New York Voices....can someone plez help me.
thx

If I'm 5'2 and I weigh 108 now how big do you think i would get if I was pregnant?

Women usually gain about 30-40 lbs during pregnancy, so even if you were pregnant, you wouldn't be too much overweight.

If you are pregnant, I wouldn't worry. You can always lose the weight by healthy eating & working out once the baby is born.

Hi,

I'm worried about my height. I'm not really WORRIED...im just confused.

ok, so both my mom AND dad are 5'8..ok? but i'm only 5'2. I'm 14 & I got my period two weeks ago. My foot size is a 9..and thats about it.

haha, so do you think there's a chance of me growing?

thanks.

There is a chance, but the way you grow is based on genetics. My dad & brother are the same height. My mom is 5'5 and I'm 5'2." However, I'm done growing, and I'm 16.

Chances are, you might grow a little bit more, but I doubt you'll get to 5'8." Honestly hun, you need to be patient because growth takes time, so just wait it out.

i saw some pictures of fonts i like and was wondering if you know what they are, or you know any similar one or even a few of your favorite fonts like to downlaod.
here are the fonts--

http://i8.tinypic.com/67prewo.jpg
&
http://i19.tinypic.com/4orns7b.jpg
&
http://i16.tinypic.com/62svxwj.jpg

I personally like those fonts, a lot. I don't download fonts though, so I couldn't tell you the names of those to save my life.

However, you can always try www.fonts.com or www.download.com & see if they have what you're looking for. Chances are, you'll find them.

Sorry that I'm not much of a help, but those sites could be a miracle worker compared to what I can do. Sorry again, and good luck.

14/f (9th grade)

I need a tote bag for school. It doesn't have to be big enough to carry a bajillion books (i still have arms and boys :] ), but I want it to be able to carry some books and stuff.

I like PacSun's bags (minus black and a lot of them aren't big enoguh :[ ) and I kind of don't want to pay $40 for one (coughAbercrombiecough).

So can you give me a link or a place to look at some cute totebags?

Thanks.
-Hater of akward backpacks

I get my bags from Wal*Mart & Target. Like you, I'm not willing to pay $40 for a bag, so I pay $15 instead & it probably lasts a lot longer.

Don't say that just because it's Target & Wal*Mart that it won't be cute, because that'd be a lie. I've found a lot of cute things there.

does anyone know of any brillaint lyrics that may include a phrase like "i would have called you but..." or something of the like? to tell someone that you should've called, but didn't.

Go to www.musicmademe.com

Once you get there, you're going to see a search box. Don't type anything into it, but click search anyways. It'll then bring a new page up & you can choose whether or not you want lyrics, album, artist, songs, etc. Choose lyrics & type what you're looking for in, and it'll bring up songs that has something similar to that.

Hi guys

Uhmm i have this assignment at skool about prostheses and i cant find some information! If you guys can (hoping that you will), please help me out!!

I need to find some websites that answer these questions:
"Why it is needed to be fitted into/onto the body.
What is the prosthesis made from?
HOw long does it last before the need of a replacement?
How is the prosthesis fixed into/unto the body?"
about three prostheses for an assignment.

THREE, preferebly one should be "artificial limbs"

THANKS FOR ALL YOUR HELP!!

I agree with Matt.

Google, Yahoo, & Wikipedia will tell you everything you need to know about this school assignment.

I just got married, and I'm a virgin. and me and my husband we're trying to have sex, but i cudn't let him in. it really hurt. i know people say it hurts the first time, but this is ridiculous. lol

is there any way to make it less painful?

Do foreplay first. It'll ease the pain & make it easier for you.

well im going to an outlet in a few days, and it has like american eagle, pac sun, and coach and stuff. i was wondering, are the clothes at outlets like crap and i shouldnt waste my time, or are they actually good? and are they regular price, or cheaper? and do they like have a good selection and all? i've obviously never been to one.

I've been to outlets before, and they're the same quality clothing. It's like walking into Hollister, but everything you see is on clearance.

So yeah, it's cheaper, the quality is the same, and they'll have a good selection.

'Ello. I'm going to go to a psychic soon and my mom, aunt, grandma, & cousin went to her and everything she predicted came true. I don't usually believed in them but this girl predicted my aunt would move to North Carolina but they would hate it & come back home within 2 years. A year later my aunt & their family moved to North Carolina and they couldn't stand it and after a year & a half they moved back home. It was freaky!! My cousin is 19 and she brought in pictures of people she didn't even know to the psychic to fool her and the psychic knew which people my cousin knew & didn't knew. She predicted my aunt would divorce 2 more times in her life before she found "the one" and then it really happened!! This psychic is AMAZING. She didn't know ANY of our family but everything she said came true. My mom says I'm old enough to go to her so I really want to. I want to try to find out if she's real the best that I can so what are some things I could do/ask to see how good of a psychic she is?? And what kinds of questions should I ask? I know you might think I'm nuts but this lady is scary!! My mom kept saying the number "37" in her head and the psychic randomly said "37" out of no where. That girl is a freakin' legend! Haha thanks for helping me.

Ask her something you'd think she'd know nothing about. Honestly, this sounds like a fun, freaky experience & I wouldn't mind going to a psychic either.

Anyways, ask her what your future husband's name is gonna be, if you're going to have kids, etc. Just ask her anything you wanna know.

Have fun.

K well I’m 14/f. I have a boyfriend that I don’t know what to do with. I mean all of my friends are like break up with him but I don’t know if I can I mean he’s so hypnotizing! Like the first time we broke up it was because I heard he cheated but I never had proof. So I asked him and he flipped saying if that’s what I wanted to believe that’s what I should do. So I was all like w/e and so we broke up. That same night he came over to my house with his cousin when I was on the buoyancy and we got back together. The next day I saw him flirting wit some girls so I decided to hang out with his homies which were all guys at the moment. So he calls me and says, “o so I guess I wasn’t good enough for you.” then he clicked. We started arguing and I brought up how he ignores me in front of his friends and how he treats me like trash and all the other girls he flirts with. Then he was all like I do the same thing with guys when that was the first time. We ended up making up the next day and he talked to his friends telling them not to talk to me or else which I didn’t find out until later then he said I couldn’t kick it with any more guys. Then he started being way more affectionate in public. I mean he’s sweet too though like he buys things for my lil sis and he’s good with kids & funny. But the other day I asked him where our relationship stood, was it for the summer or more and it was funny cuz we talked about how this relationship could fail but we never broke up. one of my friends said he’s using me for sex but we haven’t done it for like a month and he’s still with me. But I don’t know y he’s still with me when I’m 14 and he’s turning 17.

Well please your opinions and help on this thank you. =]

I personally think you like having a boyfriend. Honestly, this guy isn't good enough for you. From what you've told us in that paragraph, he's an asshole, & he's controlling.

He flips out on you for asking a question, then rants about how you should believe what you want. He flirts with girls right in front of your face & doesn't even acknowledge how it makes you feel. Not only that, he puts words in your mouth saying that he's not good enough for you. He hangs up on you without hearing what you have to say first. He tells his friends not to talk to you, and doesn't let you hang out with a certain gender. You guys break up for the stupidest things.

And you're having sex? Sweetheart, you're only 14 years old. There's a lot more things you can be doing with yourself than having sex with some 17 year old guy. He's 17, he more than likely IS just using you for sex. Most teenagers only want one thing & will do/say anything to get it from you. Honestly, break up with him. You're too young for his bullshit & the drama, and definitely a little young for sex. You can do a lot better, and maybe date a guy your own age. This one will just hurt you.

Right now i started to get Lots of brown liquid stuff on my panties I asked my sister what it means she said that Its bad and should go to doctor. Does it mean Im sick or My period is starting.

I think your sister may have said that to scare you. I honestly think it may be your first period. Getting brown discharge doesn't mean you're sick, it could just mean that your period is starting or ending. Since you've never gotten it before, it's starting.

When you start to get your period more, the ending to your period each month will look that way, just for a future reference.

Since you're just starting now, try to wear a pantiliner so you don't ruin your panties & maybe talk to your mom about getting pads & stuff. Make sure you get the super thin ones. Your's is just starting, so you won't need thicker pads just yet. However, if you're not so sure about pads, try tampons. Just make sure to wear a pantiliner when you wear a tampon because it doesn't always absorb everything.

Welcome to womanhood! If you need to know anything else about being a girl & having your period, inbox me!

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