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summer fling or the real thing?
K well I’m 14/f. I have a boyfriend that I don’t know what to do with. I mean all of my friends are like break up with him but I don’t know if I can I mean he’s so hypnotizing! Like the first time we broke up it was because I heard he cheated but I never had proof. So I asked him and he flipped saying if that’s what I wanted to believe that’s what I should do. So I was all like w/e and so we broke up. That same night he came over to my house with his cousin when I was on the buoyancy and we got back together. The next day I saw him flirting wit some girls so I decided to hang out with his homies which were all guys at the moment. So he calls me and says, “o so I guess I wasn’t good enough for you.” then he clicked. We started arguing and I brought up how he ignores me in front of his friends and how he treats me like trash and all the other girls he flirts with. Then he was all like I do the same thing with guys when that was the first time. We ended up making up the next day and he talked to his friends telling them not to talk to me or else which I didn’t find out until later then he said I couldn’t kick it with any more guys. Then he started being way more affectionate in public. I mean he’s sweet too though like he buys things for my lil sis and he’s good with kids & funny. But the other day I asked him where our relationship stood, was it for the summer or more and it was funny cuz we talked about how this relationship could fail but we never broke up. one of my friends said he’s using me for sex but we haven’t done it for like a month and he’s still with me. But I don’t know y he’s still with me when I’m 14 and he’s turning 17.
Well please your opinions and help on this thank you. =]
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Girl,
you are too young to be dealing with stuff like that. Relationships at your age should be fun and exciting! He doesn't sound very honest. Have you heard the saying that the truth hurts? Well in this case he was hurting when you called him on his cheating. Your friends know you best, you might want to listen to them this time. I know it's hard to let him go, but you've got to take care of yourself. You deserve much better than this.
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I personally think you like having a boyfriend. Honestly, this guy isn't good enough for you. From what you've told us in that paragraph, he's an asshole, & he's controlling.
He flips out on you for asking a question, then rants about how you should believe what you want. He flirts with girls right in front of your face & doesn't even acknowledge how it makes you feel. Not only that, he puts words in your mouth saying that he's not good enough for you. He hangs up on you without hearing what you have to say first. He tells his friends not to talk to you, and doesn't let you hang out with a certain gender. You guys break up for the stupidest things.
And you're having sex? Sweetheart, you're only 14 years old. There's a lot more things you can be doing with yourself than having sex with some 17 year old guy. He's 17, he more than likely IS just using you for sex. Most teenagers only want one thing & will do/say anything to get it from you. Honestly, break up with him. You're too young for his bullshit & the drama, and definitely a little young for sex. You can do a lot better, and maybe date a guy your own age. This one will just hurt you.
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