My older sister is 17 and tonight (a few minutes ago) she came home from her friends house and her room & clothes - everything - reaked soo bad of cigarette smoke. When i confronted her about it she told me "yeah i know, Nikki`s [the girls house she went to] house smells like that." I dont know Nikki that well but should i believe me sister? I mean, i dont even think i need to nark on her. My parents will find out eventually. But, what do i do???
You should believe your sister when she tells you that she doesn't smoke. My friend used to smoke cigarettes and I would always smell like smoke so it's possible for your sister's clothing to smell if she doesn't smoke. If Nikki's house does smell like that, then it's true and you should believe your sister. If your parents find out, then support your sister and tell them that she doesn't smoke. I don't think your sister would lie to you about something like that.
-Karen
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ok, so my best friend's boyfriend raped her, and i don't know what to do. i know i should tell someone, but she's being dumb, and saying it was her fault, but when you get down to the point SHE WAS RAPED. i don't want her to be mad at me, but i should tell someone right? either that, or i could kill him, but i wouldn't do that. so help????!!!!! please. thanks everyone
Sincerely,
Confused concerned friend
Yes, you should tell someone. Even though she doesn't want tell someone, this guy shouldn't get away with what he did. She will be mad at you at first but she will thank you in the end when this guy gets in trouble to what he did to her. You really need to talk to someone and tell them about this. It's the right thing to do, even if your friend doesn't think that.
-Karen
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how do you know if you have mono? like what are the symptoms? does it have symptoms? i dont know anything about it and so i dont really know if i have it...! thanks yall!
You know if you have mono if have the following symptoms: Fever, which may range from 101 °F(38.3 °C) to 104 °F(40 °C), and chills. - Sore throat, often with white patches on the tonsils (which may resemble strep throat). - Swollen lymph nodes all over the body, especially the lymph nodes in the neck. - Swollen tonsils. - Headache or body aches. - A lack of energy and fatigue. - Loss of appetite. - Pain in the upper left part of the abdomen, which may indicate that the spleen has become enlarged.
I got these symptoms from: my.webmd.com/hw/health_guide_atoz/hw168657.asp
-Karen
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see theres this guy at school and hes really hot...we never really talk but sometimes he shows interest in me and i know i have an interest in him, but we've never really actually talked, sometimes i feel like shy around him and my face gets a bit hot, so then i dnt want to talk to him with my face red...but like my bff she said she liked him a bit, but shes extremely shy...like when she likes a guy, she jus obsesses over him and freaks out everytime hes near, but she never really does anything...so ya i dont want to tell her i like him...because i kno this is all jus gonna come around and bite me in tha a$$...i really want to get to know him better even only as friends...how do i do that?!
thx...
If you want to get to know this guy better, start talking to him online but first get his screen name if you don't have it. Talking to someone online is quite easier and you can get to know him better. Once you get to know him, start hanging out with him and talk to him at school. If you don't want your friend to be mad at you just because you are taking this guy away from her, invite her when you hang out with this guy. Just talk to this guy, get to know him, and hang out with him.
-Karen
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Like...see i jus moved to a diff place last summer... and ive been here at my new school ever since. ive jus been realy sad at times because i really miss my friends and like the old life i used to have and everythin and i jus wish i had someone to look to for support...like a shoulder to lean on..like a guy, so i can really feel happy here...like i dnt wanna say i have found bad friends but like my bff shes like really unsure of herself and really shy and most of the time im the one helpin her with advice... i mean shes really nice...but ya like shes not the most "stable" person to lean on if u know wat i mean. like there are tons of ppl (guys) who seem interested in me, but yet seem distracted...or somewhat scared of me. like they try and like talk to me, but not really...and when they do i feel all like red in my face for sum odd reason...i mean like...im a sorta shy person...especially when it comes to guys but i really want a guy to at least be friends with...
plz help! i feel so lost sumtimes...
Well since you know a few guys that you can talk to and such, try talking to them more often and get to know them. Start hanging out with them and you will then feel better around them and you won't be shy around them. Just talk to them and tell them how you feel and such and they will be there for you. It's alright to miss your old friends but never forget about them. Stay in touch with them and let them know what's going on in your life and such. They can help you out too. Just be friendly and nice towards guys and you will make more friends, trust me.
-Karen
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what are the best shoes to wear when you're wearing a denim miniskirt and white knee high socks?
You can basically wear any types of shoes with your outfit that looks good with it. You can wear sneakers, since sneakers look cute with denim mini-skirts or you can wear anything else.
-Karen
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I recently got a haircut and my hairdresser cut way too much off! I was wondering if there were any products out there that could make my hair grow back faster. I know theres probably not much out there that could really make my hair grow 'faster' but even something to make it grow in healthier would be just fine. Anything to just make me feel like its growing faster would be fine. Thanks so much.. I rate high!
There are no products in this world that will make your hair grow faster but there are a few shampoos and conditioners that will make your hair grow healthier and stronger. Any shampoos and conditioners with almond extract means that your hair will grow back stronger. It's the same thing as eating almonds too. You just need to wait until your hair grows back because there aren't any products that will make your hair grow faster.
-Karen
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a lot of my friends tell me to dump my boyfriend because hes hurt me a lot. but hes also made me so much happier. i dont know what to tell them to stop them from telling me what to do. no matter what they say im not going to leave him. i'd rather die first. literaly. it just gets annoying when they do this to me. its getting me mad at my friends which makes my boyfriend mad at them because i get mad at them. and i havent had too good of friends in the past either. we've been going out for 1 1/2 years. i dont know what to tell them. any ideas?
You need to talk to your friends and tell them that their opinions about your boyfriend will not make you dump him. If he hurts you a lot but makes you happy, that's alright. Tell your friends to stay out of your love life and only you can control what you do and such. Also tell them that what they are saying is annoying and making both you and your boyfriend mad at them. Just tell them how you feel about all of this.
-Karen
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How can you get a faster matabalism?
To get a faster metabolism, you need to start eating differently each day; for example, tomorrow you can eat 3 big meals and then the next day, you can eat 5 small meals and so on. This will make your metabolism faster because your body will get confused because it was used to your normal eating ways and such.
-Karen
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I made my desicion but I dont know what to do I want to do I want to get put on the pill just to be safe but I dont want my mom to know about it I mean should I fake that I am sick and say I have to talk to the doctor privately what do I do I need help some one out there PLEASE HELP
You don't need to fake that you are sick, just tell your mom that your period is irregular and that being put on the pill will help regulate it and you will be safe by not getting pregnant. When your mom brings you to the doctors, tell her that you want to talk to them privately because you can and she should understand that. You can tell your mom about it because she should know and it's not like she is going to get mad.
-Karen
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i feel like im not a sensitive person. for example, if someone got hurt, it kinda doesnt make me feel sorry for them. i really want to be nicer, i just dont know how=)
If you want to be nicer or try to feel sorry for someone that has gotten hurt or whatever, put yourself and their position and then you will know how they feel and you will feel sorry for people. You are just a person who doesn't get hurt easily and that you don't feel anything for people who are hurt because you are strong and that's good. The next time something happens to someone that you should make you feel sorry for them, imagine if you were them and this will help you be nicer and care for people's feelings and such. Don't worry, this will all change, just in a matter of time.
-Karen
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I'v always had low self esteem and latley i'v been feeling a little better about myself. I always wish how i had a bf or someone who cares about me like that but i never ask guys anything cuz im to shy. I'm kinda the type of girl who mostly has guy friends but not the really hott popular ones because im to shy to talk to them. I'd just like to have someone there for me thats more then a friend but i never think that anyone will like me. I hate having low self esteem and i try to do things to help it but nothing ever works. is there a way to make me feel better about myself besides a "make over" cuz im not tha girly and its juss not my thing, and is there a way to maybe get noticed more?
To feel better about yourself, you need to take chances and not be shy anymore; start talking to guys and be confident. To get yourself noticed more often, you can start dressing up differently and you can do your hair differently too. Start scrunching or straigtening your hair; that's not girly at all if you ask me. Just be yourself and act differently than you would normally act. Just try to talk to more guys and you won't be shy anymore and you will eventually feel better about yourself.
-Karen
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 3 months this guy jake all of the sudden starts liking me and all of my friends are telling me to break up with my boyfriend and go out with jake because jake seems way nicer and that he would treat me better. they say this because my boyfriend is kind of scared to make the first move and its fine im not in no big hurry but jake n i were talking and he said that my boyfriend doesnt give me what i want and he was talking about .. you know.. well c i dont know if jake only likes me for that or because of my personality and stuff and he said i was awesome n nice ? help
You don't have to listen to your friends that tell you to dump your boyfriend, just because he is nervous or scared to make a move and that Jake is nicer and would treat you better. Your boyfriend can be nice too and he can treat you better too, it's just that he is moving at a slow pace. If you are fine with him being afraid to make the first move, then you should stay with him and not dump him for Jake. Jake may only like you for that but then again, he may not. You just need to talk to Jake and find out why he likes you or why he would want to go out with you. If you like your boyfriend, then stay with him but if you like Jake, dump your boyfriend and go out with him but make sure he will date you before you actually dump your boyfriend. Just do what you want to do.
-Karen
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My friend is soo depressed, that everytime I'm with her, she brings me down too. And I try to cheer her up, but she just gives me one of those fake smiles. It is breaking up our friendship now, and I don't want that to happen. What do I do to help her?!
First of all, do you know why she is depressed? If you do, help her fix that problem that is causing both you and her to be depressed or down. You need to talk to her and tell her that her being depressed is breaking up your friendship and that she needs to be happier and try to fix her problem of being depressed. To help her, you can try finding out why she is depressed and help her fix it and you just need to be there for her and try your hardest to cheer her up.
-Karen
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Where can you get tagboard or chatrooms that you can put on your website? The website has to be a free non-profit website. The website also has to tell me how I can put it on my website.
If you go to http://chatter.flooble.com, you can register and get your own chatterbox/tagboard and you can then put it on your website. There is a link that tells you how to put it on your page too.
-Karen
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one of my best friends is in love with this one guy named bryan (renamed) she likes him alot and she always talks about him i mean alll the time. every day i talk to bryan either on the phone or in text messages. i think that i might be starting to like bryan. but i know that i cant tell anyone because they will tell my friend and everyone will freak out. what should i do? =(
Well, does "Bryan" like your best friend back? If he doesn't, then it's alright to like him and you can tell whoever you want because it's not your fault that you like him. You need to talk to your best friend and tell her that she needs to stop talking about "Bryan" because it's starting to become annoying and if he ever finds out, he will be freaked out. If your best friend is truely your best friend, you should tell her that you like "Bryan"; yes, she will get mad at first and will freak out but friends come before guys. You need to tell her that you talk to "Bryan" too and that you like him.
-Karen
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I wasn't completley sure what category this goes under, so I took a guess. My dad always tells me not to pop/crack my knuckles. And he always yells at me when I do. Is there a certain reason why you shouldn't? I heard you can get arthritis from it, I heard that your fingers will get bigger, and I've also heard that nothing will happen. So like why shouldn't I be cracking my knuckles? Can it really do that much damage?
If you crack your knuckles for a long period of time, you will eventually get arthritis and your fingers will get bigger. So that is true and it can really happen. The reason why you crack your knuckles is because there is air inbetween your joints in your fingers so you "pop" that when ever you crack your knuckles and it's a bad thing to do if you do it every day. It's alright if you crack your knuckles once in a while but you should really stop because you will eventually get arthritis if you don't stop.
-Karen
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okay so i met this super hot guy at a church retret. i like him alot!! we flirt alot at church and stuff like that but he has a girl friend but his best friend told me that this boy likes me. while we were at church he wanted me to come sit with him instead of him sitting with his girlfriend. im willing to do whatever it takes to get him. what should i do?
Well, if you are willing to do whatever it takes to get him, flirt with him and show him that he should be with you and not with his girlfriend but don't actually do anything that will ruin their relationship. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel about him. If his best friend said that he did like you, it's probably true and that if he wanted you to come sit next to him and having himself sitting with his girlfriend, that tells you that he likes you more than his girlfriend.
-Karen
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Ok, so theres a guy in my class named *Justin* (name changed) and I HATE him. He always makes fun of me liking his best friend, he stinks like Michael Jackson's butt, and he always tries to do things to humiliate me. I wanna get revenge on him, you know, give him a taste of his own medicine. But..I dont have a flamethrower or a pistol or anything. I'm on a budget. so PLEASE HELP ME!
signed-
VOODOO.DOLLS
No, don't get revenge on this guy, it sounds like he likes you. Some guys tease girls and always try to humiliate them if they like them, that's how some are. Just talk to him and tell him that you want him to stop wasting your time and his by teasing you. This guy is only probably teasing you for liking his best friend because he is jealous that you don't like him. Well, if you still want to get revenge on him, find out a really good secret about him and spread it. Yes, that's an easy one but it could work. Just try to think of something that won't get you into trouble.
-Karen
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I liked this guy at the beggining of the year and he was becoming one of my best guy friends. I always had a crush on him and we would always flirt a lot. Everyone always said oh my gosh you guys would make the cutest couple and oh my gosh you guys should so go out. Before I didnt want him to know that I liked him so I always said noo never hes my friend! I always thought that he might have a lil crush on me because we flirt so much and at the movies I would snuggle with him. Now like 5 months passed and I`ve been getting over him because he was going out with one of my best friends on and off and no one ever knew that I liked him so I let it go and forgot about him. I have a boyfriend and I've been going out with him for almost 4 months. Now me and this other guy still flirt and 3 other guys like me. He is always telling me if some1 is messing with me that he would punch them and stuff. Couple days ago we were talking and he was like did you used to like me and I was like hmm ... maybe and he goes I could always tell but U wasnt sure.He knows that I liked him then he asked if I didnt have a boyfriend would I still go out with him. He told me if he knew that I liked him that he would ask me out. but that was then anyways.. like when ever we talk and we joke around and stuff he always looks at my boobs and stuff and messed with me n laughs. he told me that he liked me and he always writes all this stuff over aim like give me head please and he would say lol and he was like show me your boobies and i dono if its just a joke or something. am i a horrible person for just lettin him say all this stuff.. i love my boyfriend really much but he doesnt treat me that good .. long story but its not that bad but sometimes i feel guilty for some reason. this other guy is really sweet and so is my boyfriend at times. not to mention everyone wanted us to break up but now its settled down. what do i do? i am soo confused? i dont kno if the only thing this other guy wants is to get some from me but im not like that and im not sure if he likes me. i like flirting with him and stuff but i dont know. im really sorry if this is confusing and that its long but i really need advice. thanks i rate 5`s!
This isn't confusing at all, it's just very long. Well for your first question, you aren't a horrible person, it's just that you shouldn't have let this guy say these things to you because you do have a boyfriend but it's not like you said anything back. It sounds like this guy only wants you so he can do stuff with you but he probably was just horny then. If he liked you before, then he probably still does. You need to talk to him and get everything straight with him. Ask him questions about the past and such and get your answers. Before this guy actually started being more "sexual" as in he was looking at your chest and said things like if you want to give him oral sex and such, he was actually nice and it seemed that he liked you. You need to ask him if there would be a chance that you two could ever go out in the future if both of you were single. If you still like him, even though your feelings for him are gone, you will always remember them and you should ask him this if you do. Tell him that you have a boyfriend and that he shouldn't be saying "sexual" things to you anymore. Just let him know how you feel about everything that has happened.
-Karen
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