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I started working at my retail store back in January and I became close friends with one of the assistant managers, who's 19/m. We got very very close and I really fell hard for him. We started dating a few weeks ago (our one month is coming up next week), and our friends and families know about it and support us. But he doesn't want to make it "facebook" official or let anyone at work know because he's scared our manager will fire one of us or both of us. I don't see this as being likely because we're both good employees, and our manager knows that my bf used to date another one of the girls we work with and he never said anything.

How can I convince my bf to at least try to see if we can be fully public about our relationship? I feel like I'm lying to my bosses and our coworkers, because I have to pretend not to be interested in my own boyfriend :(

I think you should say to him by going public with your relationship you wouldn't have to act like your
not interested in him even though you are and things
would go alot smoother and easier for the both of you tell him that you feel like your lying to your
bosses and coworkers also tell him that you don't think the manager will fire you or him because you
both are good employees maybe once you tell him that
he'll loosen up and allow for your relationship to go public it's worth a shot telling him instead of
not talking to him about it if he doesn't allow it then you'll probably have to wait until he's ready(:

I resently asked a question about If I shuld go out with my best frend of 3years. And you all said yes. So I hav another question. How do I actually ask him out. We txt all the time and somtimes it's really perverted things. Like him" haha" me " ur so mean" him " you like it like that." and there was also another one not too long ago. Me "did you start ur project yet." him "not even close" me "ur Gunnar get an F" him "ya an F in duin you." so could I ask him during during one of the perverted txts. But then there's another problem. Wenever we txt it's lik he's a different person. And then wen I c him........I'm disappointed. Is that bad.

Yes it's a bad thing when the both of you text & he
acts perverted and is a different person when you see him face to face i think you need to sit him down and talk to him about it i'm sure since he's been your best friend for that long he'll understand make him realize that he needs to stop acting perverted while texting so the two of you can actually have a decent conversation without his comments being said it would probably be a good idea to ask him out when you see him in person that way he won't be saying the things he does when the two of you are texting(:

(20yr old female)

I like a guy (Kevin). I have been talking to him for a couple of years now, though I never met him in person yet. It has been inconvenient to meet with him, and I have parents who are trying very much to protect me and dont allow me to meet with guys at all (unless they have met him and have gotten to know him).

I am in a relationship with a guy (Qua'Nell). He has been my friend for a while and has always hoped for a more than friend relationship with me. He is really sweet. I have hung out with him without my parents knowing, and eventually we arranged for him to come over to meet my parents, which he did.

I am going out with him because for a period of time I had thought that Kevin didnt like me anymore and was avoiding talking to me. So I told Qua'Nell about how I was sad about that. And he seemed he was waiting for a similar opportunity so that some other guy wouldnt be keeping me from being with him.

I like him alot as a friend, and I have felt some romantic feelings toward him and we kissed when we hung out; so I decided to say yes to him asking if we could be boyfriend and girlfriend now. I thought it would be best to move on and not dwell on Kevin, and I thought being in a relationship with Qua'Nell would make me happy.

But, like, the next day after I said yes to Qua'nell, Kevin texts me and apologizes for not getting back to me sooner. I told him I felt like he didnt like me much anymore, and he said that was not the case.

So now I know that the guy I rreally want does also want me still... but I am in a relationship with Qua'Nell, and he is such a sweetheart and I would hate to hurt him with a break-up. I want to see Kevin and I think we could do that soon, but it would be wrong. And I'm not sure if my friendship with Qua'Nell will be preserved after I break up with him.... Or maybe it would be wrong to even talk to him while I'm with Kevin.....

What should I do and how should I do it...??

If you don't want to hurt Qua'Nell with a break up
then truely don't i think you should stay with him
because finding a boy that is a sweetheart is hard to find seeing as every boy is different i think you should stay with him for your boyfriend's sake it wouldn't be fair if you were to break up with him for another boy it's Kevin's fault he didn't get back to you sooner even though he aplogized to you plus you'd have to start new if you were date to Kevin your parents would have to meet him if they haven't already you've been through so much in your relationship with Qua'Nell it would truely be a shame if you were to break it off with him and it probably took you a while to get where your at now in the relationship talking to Kevin while your in the relationship isn't a good idea it would probably cause problems(:

Sorry, I didn't know which category to put this in.
But what creams work best for ACTUALLY getting rid of stretch marks?

I'm not even pregnant but gained weight and developed stretch marks and they suck.

Also, I'm looking for a product that would be sold in the local market or CVS store.

I researched what made the marks go away and found
that cocoa butter works good also drinking water to keep your skin hydrated eating foods like vegetables nuts and vegetables healthy diet also something called Emu oil is suppose to help keeping your skin moisturized with vitamins & oils(:

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Treatments_or_remedies_to_reduce_fade_or_rid_stretch_marks_and_prevention

There's a website(:

SO im in 10th grade and i have a boyfriend for about amonth now. He doesnt live in my town, he lives about 10 min away from me and hes in 11th grade. I like him alot, but i find myself thinking about my ex boyfriend sometimes, but whatever. My boyfriend tells me hes IN love with me and im the one and hes never loved somone like me before and i feel like guilty cause i like him a little bit, but im def. not in love. I dont like how hes over emotional and acts like a girl sometimes. i like bad boys and hes def. way too good for me. I wanna break it off but then again i dont. SHould i stick it out and see if i grow to like him, because he treats me like a queen. But i kind of want to go back to my ex boyfriend who didnt treat me asss well but he makes me so happy and my boyfriend now doesnt really do that for me. I dont want to play games with this boy because hes so sweet, i need help quicklyy. But im almost positive im still in love with my ex

If you don't want to play games with your boyfriend then don't i do think you should stick it
out and see if you grow to like him don't give up so quickly your lucky he treats you like a queen because not all boys do that for their girl friends
seeing as all boys are different you can't change that he's over emotional and acts like a girl that's just how he acts if i were in your situation
i'd want to be with the boy that treats me like a queen and not the one who didn't treat me as well
there's always room for improvement and change in a relationship so yes i think you should stick it out
and see what happens for your boyfriend's sake(:

Alright, i'm 15 years old and I stated my period when I was 12. I knew it would be irregular for a while, but this isn't normal..

The first time I got it, was a December. I didn't get it again until August, the next year. I got it again in November, then from November up to July, it was enitrely normal. Every single month, I would get it the same time every month. For almost 9 straight months it was completely regular. It's now April, and I haven't had it since last July.. That's almost a year. I have no clue what to do, or think. I've talked to my family doctor about this, but she brushed it off as me being stressed. I really need help here.

Can anyone relate to my situiation?

Is getting on the pill a good idea at my age?

Will it cause me to get a regular period again?

How can I tell my mom I want to get on the pill, or talk about my period without it being awkward?

Please help,
Thanks

Yes stress can cause your period to be delayed it seems like the pill is your only option seeing as you don't know what to do i'm sure the pill isn't going to harm you and will simply help you it could
cause your period to be regular again research it to make sure and gain information iv'e had times where my period's came late & i thought myself that
i wasn't going to get it you should tell your mother
that your becoming concerned that you haven't gotten
your period and then ask her if going on the pill is
a good idea i'm sure she'll understand & will be more then happy to help you(:

I like this girl and I'm 99% sure she doesn't like me back what do I do? Do I tell her? It's hard to give up

Well you could tell her and see how things go and if for some reason things don't go how you wanted then you'll know you tried instead of not doing anything at all it's worth a shot you won't know if she likes you until you try and ask her so i say go for it i wouldn't give up so quickly i'd wait & see
what happens(:

Hey,

So I went out with a guy friend and we just going to hang out and then he wanted me to do stuff like handjob and blowjob and stuff and I didn't really want to ... but I did it... and then like I home and fell asleep I was so stressed out and I forgot to wash my hands and in the morning I touched myself down there to see because of prevoius things that happened and I didn't mean it... would the sperm be dead by then? I'm really worried...
thank you , betty

I think the sperm would be dead by then if you think your pregnant take a test and find out or go see your doctor since they are more knowledgeable it
could mean that he's busy & hasn't had the time to
come online but sounds like to me he used you for sex and forced you seeing as you didn't want to do it your best option is to visit your doctor they'll
be able to tell you more(:

This is the longest story but to make it short..my boyfriend (well ex) broke up with me because he felt like he didnt like me as much as when we first started going out.But him and all his friends told me i was the first girl he's ever talked about and the first girl he's ever even had real feelings for and he told me himself that im the most amazing girl too but he's just confused about everything. He told me he wanted to become "best friends " with me ,which was pretty cool considering we broke up.We hungout all the time still,he walked me to class,we hungout alone once,etc.etc.everyone thought we were still dating ,except for the fact that we werent kissing and all that junk.Well,about 2 nights ago,i had people over for some drinks and to chill. He wanted to come over so i picked him and his brother up.My best friend kate,doesn't like him and she was with me.My ex bf doesn't like her either,and they always tell me they don't like eachother but i just had to deal with it. We obviously got drunk and throughout the night,i would see my ex bf being VERY flirty with kate.She wasn't doing much back but i was still very bothered.Later in the night,i actually walked in on him kissing her,on the ground.I was mortified.Yes they were really drunk,but that's no excuse.They know im upset with them and haven't spoken to either of them because that's just code to not hookup with your best friends ex boyfriend.(especially because i still have feelings for them). It was only a kiss ,but still! I know they both feel extremely guilty and I know they both care about me a lot because they both show it often but for some reason,they both haven't even apologized yet or said anything! I have a class with my ex and he didn't talk or look at me and i avoided kate all day! Everyone was talking about it throughout the day about how messed up it was and i was hearing they were both sad all day.And i know they both don't want to lose me because they told people that. but do you think they will apologize? I know if I committed this little crime,i'd be begging for forgiveness already. It's been almost 3 days and no apology... my ex bf broke his phone but still! and i won't dare say anything to either of them but i know for a fact they didn't do it to hurt me and I'm willing to forgive them because everyone makes mistakes...i dont know what to do!

When people get drunk alcohol makes them not be in control of their actions & what their doing yes i
think they'll apologize at some point give it time be patient don't jump to conclusions you deserve a aplogy if they don't want to loose you like they told others then yes i think they'll apologize i don't think they did it to purposely hurt you it seems like it was one of those things that just happened so just wait it out until they both apologize to you but don't confront them just wait(:

in you're opinion, do you think a person means it when they tell their gf/bf that they love them when they're drunk? Serious, honest answers, please, thank you!

Alcohol makes people not be in control of their actions and what their doing so no i don't think when a person is drunk and they tell their boyfriend or girlfriend they love them that they truely mean it(:

Well, I'm an eight grader. And every year there's a dance called the "Eighth Grade Dance". I've went for my sixth and seventh years but this year I just didn't want to go through all the stress of finding a dress and such. So I decided I didn't want to go and that there would be other better, funnier dances in high school. But there's a good chance I will get nominated for Queen.. but that won't really change my mind about going. And my mother who hates to shop said that I HAVE to go and that she would take me shopping for a dress this weekend. But I told her again how I didn't like getting stressed about finding a cute dress, and that it wouldn't even be that fun because dances at my school are usually like stand around and talk. She finally agree and said "Okay, it's your choice but I think you should go." And now I just feel guilty and bad. And it feels like I should go just to make her happy.

I just don't understand why she would go shopping with me when she hates shopping and spend a lot of money on a dress and shoes and everything. And when we shop together we both usually get really frustrated. And I'm just trying to spare that all. So why would she want me to go so badly?

I think your mother wants you to go maybe because she didn't go to a dance when she was in school or
because she thinks it would be a good experience for
you even though you've already gone to dances in the past i think you should confront your mother and ask her why she wants you to go she'd probably
give you the answer your looking for(:

I was wondering what are some things to cut out of my diet. I know fast food, but what else? Also is there anything I should start eating more of. Im not trying to diet, more of a life style change.

I think the foods you should be cutting out are sweets seeing as candy gives you cavities donuts
fatty foods potato chips french fries seeing as their salty & greasy cheese since it could cause constipation chocolate cookies also eat foods that have tons of fiber fruits and vegetables drink plenty of water so it will flush out your system also cut out fast food like you mentioned(:

okai so this is really weird but i absolutely hate spring and summer. i mean i cant stand it when the sky is all blue and the sun is shining etc. i always get in a bad mood & i get a headache.
the other weird thing is that i LOVE rainy/ cloudy days. they just makes me feel happy & comfortable. i mean when i wake up in the morning and its raining outside i'm like : YAY! haha
& when the sun is shining i get all depressed. so basically when the sun is shining i feel the way other people feel when it's raining & when it's raining i feel like others feel when the sun is shining! & i obviously love autumn an winter. what is wrong with me?? cause its getting warmer and warmer & its really bringing me down :S do i have too much vitamin D or something?? :S

I don't think anything is wrong with you it's normal
to dislike certain season's nobody says you have to
like them i'm sure others don't like certain season's as well getting vitamin D is a good thing
if you weren't getting any then that'd be a problem
i think you should ask your parents about this they'd probably be able to give you a better explaination(:

okay , im 13 and i am a size 8 english sizes and 5 foot 6 .i weigh 49 - 53 kg depends on the time of day, i just started my period , and i feel fat aroung guys, i do 2 classes of ballet and 2 classes of moder dance each week and football, but im not losing any waite wat so ever , i also do home excerzize 2, i eat little n regular and NOTHING IS WORKING help! , i also tried puking myself but tht dosent work either! i need help

Exercise will help you loose weight also eating healthy loosing exercise isn't going to be easy and
won't happen over night it will take some time you've got to be patient you can't really change your height it's something that happens on it's own
attempting to make yourself puke isn't good and won't help if your curious then you should contact
your doctor seeing they are more knowledgeable and
will probably give you a better answer(:

me n this guy are very close .. but only on msn, hes a year older than me an im 13, he is one of the fittest lads in our school , but when im in school , i feel really embarresd , wat can i do to help it?

Try and be confident believe in yourself even though
every boy is different some look for confidence in girls if your close with him on Msn then you should do the same with him in real life also even though they are two different things start conversations with him maybe ask him if he'd like to hang out so you two aren't just talking to one another on the computer who knows the two of you could become more then just friends once you get to know one another better i say go for it it's worth a shot take the risk(:

Heres the thing, this guy i have been talking lately is in yr 8 shorter than me and well im not physically attracted to him. Im in year 9 and LOVE his personality but not sure what do...i think he likes me but im not sure...
suggestions

Well if you think about it you being in grade 8 and
him being in grade 9 isn't a big difference you
shouldn't judge him by his height just because he's shorter then you he can't help it..it's not something he can change i think you should continue to talk with him and see where your conversations go you liking his personality is a good thing & is a advantage even though right now you aren't physically attracted to him things could change & you could be in the future i say go for it(:

Ok well im 16/f and i cut my self . On my wrist and dont tell me to use a rubber band cause it dosent work ive tryed or write in a jurnal cause ive done that to.. IT DOSENT WORK. my friend always asks why i have cuts on my wrists and i say oh my cat cut it. and if he finds out he will think im doing it for attention but im really not my mom passed away 3 weeks ago. and my dad abuses me. I have no relatives. so i have no one to talk to . so i turned to cuting . It really helps me but i need to stop . Because of what i tryed to do. Commit suicide but i stoped because my one and only friend caught me and grabbed me and took me home. I have had a really screwed up past . i was raped at the age of 13 and took drugs at 14 so now all of that made me really depressed . I really am loseing faith so someone please tell me what i could do to help i dont have enough money to go to a theropist so dont tell me that. im really scared of my dad so please help..

You need to tell someone a adult anyone you trust your dad abusing you is considered child abuse seeing as your a minor trying to commit suicide isn't going to help your situation just make it worst if your truely scared of your father then do the right thing and tell someone what he's doing to you it's not right the police will most likely get involved and child protective services your father will be arrested most likely and you won't have to see him again cutting yourself isn't going to help
either you could get seriously hurt and might not be
able to call for help you need to tell someone about
what your father is doing to you the quicker you do the quicker you won't see him(:

about a year ago i moved back in with my mom in her housing complex, she ended up getting into some legal trouble involving a dwi and drugs and now she is getting kicked out of her apartment because of it, she doesn't work a normal job and says that she can't because of "mental issues" she says that she is bipolar and who knows maybe she is but i think she uses things as an excuse to not change her life a lot. right now we live in a 1 bedroom apartment, i sleep in the living room which is also connected to the living room and she has this guy that she sees on and off again over all the time. When they wake up her boyfriend immediately comes out and sits on the couch right next to my futon and today i told her that i thought it was a little disrespectful since i don't have any privacy as it is for him to give her, her space by invading mine and she totally flipped her lid on me. I am 22 years old and every time i have ever lived with her it seems like i can be sacrificed in any way needed for her to still be comfortable so today I told her that if that is how its going to be then when the eviction is final that maybe we should go our own ways, the only thing is that I know she can't afford to live on her own and i dont know what she would do without me. I feel like a horrible person but if we moved in together she'd have to rely on me for a long time anyways. Am i being too selfish?

No i don't think your being selfish i agree with
you everyone needs privacy and in your situation it's tough to have that i think you should talk to
the person your mother is seeing since he's the one invading your space tell him that you think it's
disrespectful that he sits on the couch right next to your futon and say that you'd like it if he wouldn't do that anymore i imagine that being in the 1 bedroom apartment is small and there's not much room to move around speak up for yourself if you don't like what your mother's friend is doing then make it known to him & hopefully he'll get the hint & stop tell your mother that if you can sacrifice for her then she can certainly do the same for you(:

How can I get a new boyfriend? I don't know where to look and I miss having one. Plus I'm usually to shy to talk to guys

You've got to be confident and believe in yourself
otherwise your self esteem will go down if your
in school that would probably be the easiest place to look seeing as there's tons of boys there you could try looking at a mall or other crowded places even places you visit often around your neighborhood if there's some boys your age there if you feel yourself starting to get shy take
a few deep breaths to calm yourself down practice what you want to say before you start a conversation that way once you do you'll know exactly what to say & you'll be able to go from there(:

so this is about my fiance and his best friend from childhood/high school. my fiance (C) recently found his friend (J) on facebook. well J is in the air force and C is in the navy. the last time they saw each other was at C's high school graduation. what i want to know is if it's at possible for them to be close friends like they were. i know C really misses him and all i want is for C to be happy. my thing is i don't know if i should talk to J about it or maybe possibly visiting each other so they can work out everything from the past. also what are the possibilities of them being stationed in the same place even though they are in different branches.

It's possible that they could be stationed in the
same place even though they are in different branches i'm not familiar with how the military works but that could be a possiblity you could talk
to J about it and see how it goes it's worth a shot
and if for some reason things don't work out how you
wanted you'd still know you tried which is better then not doing anything at all them becoming friends
again might be tough considering they are in the military seeing as they are in different branches and aren't stationed in the same place but then again anything can happen(:

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