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Secretly dating a coworker.. =/
20/f
I started working at my retail store back in January and I became close friends with one of the assistant managers, who's 19/m. We got very very close and I really fell hard for him. We started dating a few weeks ago (our one month is coming up next week), and our friends and families know about it and support us. But he doesn't want to make it "facebook" official or let anyone at work know because he's scared our manager will fire one of us or both of us. I don't see this as being likely because we're both good employees, and our manager knows that my bf used to date another one of the girls we work with and he never said anything.
How can I convince my bf to at least try to see if we can be fully public about our relationship? I feel like I'm lying to my bosses and our coworkers, because I have to pretend not to be interested in my own boyfriend :(
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I am an assistant manager to a retail store also (Sears) I can say you are better off keeping it quite. Relationships between co-workers is considered to be inappropriate to some workers. A managers main focus is to get the job done, Make sure everything is in tact and done right. Not babysitting two people who are in a relationship and feel the need to express themselves freely because they think they are lying to their boss. Harshly put, Nobody cares. A management position at the age of 19 is an accomplishment just like Witty said, Instead of possibly jeopardizing that for your boyfriend keep the relationship to yourselves. Better safe than sorry
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You need to settle down and leave sleeping dogs alone. He's 19 and an assistant manager. That's something of an accomplishment at least as resume standards for 19 year olds go.
Don't screw it up because you want people to appreciate your relationship. If you REALLY want to be public, get a job somewhere not under him and THEN tell everyone.
If your boyfriend has had a relationship before in this position and is worried about firings then for Christs sake _listen_to_him_.
He's a manager. He's worked there longer than you. And if you're dating him, that means (I assume) that you respect his intellect and don't consider him stupid.
Whether you agree with him or not, whether you need validation from your co-workers and he does not, respect his wishes and keep it silent. Do this in good faith, don't sabotage it by "accidentally" letting something or several something slip to give it away.
Because it's his job and his ass on the line much more than yours. Again, if you really have this much of an issue with it, put in your two weeks notice and go find another retail job.
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If a Facebook approval is the validation you need to have confidence in your relationship, maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities.
Your families know, your friends know. As hard as it is to believe, people outside these groups really don't care about your personal life.
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I think you should say to him by going public with your relationship you wouldn't have to act like your
not interested in him even though you are and things
would go alot smoother and easier for the both of you tell him that you feel like your lying to your
bosses and coworkers also tell him that you don't think the manager will fire you or him because you
both are good employees maybe once you tell him that
he'll loosen up and allow for your relationship to go public it's worth a shot telling him instead of
not talking to him about it if he doesn't allow it then you'll probably have to wait until he's ready(:
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