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Me & the father of my child are not together. He hasn't gone to any of my appointments, he never calls to see how me & the baby are doing, he hasn't bought anything for the baby. He hasn't even spoken to my father since I became pregnant, & I am only 16 so that would appropriate. But my question is, is he wrong? He even said he doesn't know if he's coming to the baby shower. Do you believe although we aren't together a man should be there for a woman that he impregnanted? Because let's be honest PREGNANCY IS NOT EASY. Am I wrong? Or is he wrong? She he be there for me & the baby? Also do you think is non existence during this pregnancy will mean he won't be there for our child in the future? He also has another kid on the way, but he GOES TO EVERY one of that woman's appointments. (link)
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Of course a man should be there for his lady when shes pregnant but hes not a man yet is he?? and your not a woman either so we can scrap that idea right out the window.
Hes an erratic teenage boy with raging hormones and your a teenage girl that fell for him long enough to let him impregnate you, not thinking of the future here clearly and what might happen if you getting pregnant might actually come to pass.
Im sorry to sound blunt with you but your a child still and so is he, you really have no right to expect anything from him as far as being a father to a child he didnt want, at a time he really wasnt ready to be one. He probably still needs his OWN fathers guidance right now more than anything else here.
If you know or knew before hand that 'pregnancy isnt easy" then you also could have had the foresight to see that YOUR the one that has to carry and give birth to this child and after hes impregnated you he really doesnt have to do anything but sit back and watch. Im not going to sit here and tell you what you "should have done" because obviously its all in the past now and youve chosen your path, weather we think about it in those moments in life where its "to wear a condom or not to wear a condom?" or not, you are still in full control of your life allowing him to have sex with you. He obviously isnt ready and not you or anyone else is going to be able to force him to care. im sorry but thats the way these things work in life. Hes probably distancing himself BECAUSE of the fact that he doesnt want this baby and just doesnt know how to tell you, and maybe knows that he messed up big time but isnt ready to confront that yet. Maybe some day he will but it doesnt sound like its going to happen anytime soon.
All you can do now is try to rely on loved ones to help you so that you can finish school, and try to work until you CAN file for welfare or whatever state benefits you can get.
Im sorry that your in this situation, and im sorry that the both of you didnt have the foresight to understand the gravity of this before it was right on top of you, and that your both now saddled with a child you wernt ready for, and that your future is now at risk.
good luck and i hope when he IS a man that he will be there for you and your child.
Im going to add to this even though typically i dont. You didnt go that far into detail about him or his age, just yours until you edited your post. Although i was wrong to assume he was your age, him being 20 STILL doesnt man a male a MAN, that just counts the years hes been here on earth. There are PLENTY of 30 year old men walking around that are STILL immature as hell so putting that aside now, id like to address something else. I understand that your 16, hes 20, your parents approved, and thats great, HOWEVER you may have lacked the forsight here to see that him having a child on the way with ANOTHER woman may have been a huge red flag that would tell more mature or experienced women that you should probably leave him to that other woman and child because he needs to man up and help THEM. Instead what you did here was become his "side piece" so he could get some action while his true lady is his main priority. I mean by the situation youve described here it looks crystal clear to me that you DONT matter and hes NOT going to care and you cant make him. No men usually DONT attend baby showers, thats for the women of the mother and its usually a female only event.
Him distancing himself is a huge sign that wants nothing to do with you or the baby.
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How do i survive from a situation where people around you believe a gossip about you and still continue to make up stories to make it worse? (link)
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Well first what you do is you cut those people out of your life as much as you can. People will SO easily believe the bad shit about someone they've heard through "the grapevine" then believe anything good about you. So if you cut people out that you know have been talking about you behind your back youll find out who your real and loyal friends are and keep THEM. you dont HAVE to keep all your schools friends through life and your life wont be any less exciting then if you did have them around still (that is unless you LIKE drama and scandal) the people who REALLY know you or who WANT to be real friends with you will continue to stick around despite any of the bullshit people might be talking because they know thats not you and that you couldnt have done any of the things their saying.
Stay true to YOU and dont feel the need to prove your innocence to anyone, just because people are making up things about you. usually people that start these kind of things are just jealous of you for one reason or the other.
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I'm sorry. (link)
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Sorry for what sweetie??
We're here to help but we cant fix it if you dont tell us whats wrong??
come on now.....out with it...
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One of my friends EX's told me and only me that she and my friend broke up. she sent me a text with a smiley face emoji.I also don't know who broke it off. So I don't know if she is hitting on me and if she is should I go for it or should I wait and see what her next move is. I also don't want it to be weird for me and my friend because we have to work together for the next 9 months on a committee. (link)
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If you have to keep seeing him then no, i wouldnt pursue that until AFTER. Shit could turn awkward REAL fast and it WILL translate over into the work environment weather you or him is aware of it or not because emotions are emotions and they dont listen to anyone most of the time unless that person makes a concerted to NOT let it get in the way so i would just wait it out if you do want to see where it goes.
((id try to find out why they broke up just so you can get a better picture of who did what and why it didnt work out. if you can get BOTH sides of the story too that'd be great so then you can use your own judgement on the situation to let you see the bigger picture here. You dont know weather shes a cheating skank or hes a compulsive lier , or one of them was abusive behind closed doors))
good luck
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Hi im mia from Dubai I'm 27 yrs old Can I get pregnant if we both release? Me and my boyfriend sex last month and my period should come this August 10 but until now I don't have it . He think when I go to pee i will not get pregnant he come three times and I come also. How big is the possibility to get pregnant ? But I drink oral contraceptives after two days having sex and its my first time to try thank you I need some advice (link)
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Yup, your probly pregnant. Your in the prime of your life, your most likely fertile, and you both used ZERO protection. To be blunt here it doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure this out. Not trying to be mean but ANYTIME a male releases in you, you have to know that (unless a doctor has told you otherwise) you CAN get pregnant. People get pregnant even from PRE-ejaculation, ok. and thats the stuff that can come out and HE may not even realize it!
You need to insist on there being protection for YOUR safety because YOUR the woman here. YOUR the one thats going to have to carry this baby (should you choose to) put in nine months of what could be extreme discomfort, ruin your body, and then be tied down for 18 years to raise a small human being that needs you for EVERYTHING.
trust me, i had my son at 25 and i was a model ok. Being pregnant caused me to develop a now life long seizure disorder that i have to take meds for everyday for the rest of my life, my pregnant was high risk, i was on doctor ordered bed rest for the last 4 months of my pregnancy and had my drivers lic. pulled because i couldnt come to terms with the fact that i now have this disorder and i drove around outside when i shouldnt have and almost crashed my car through the front of a subway resturant nearly killing myself and four others and my baby.
so you need to think about how your life can change once you do allow yourself to become pregnant. This is real life, its not going to be easy or fair, and people can also change alot afterwards.
I dont want to come off mean, i just feel like at your age you should be more informed about this by now and knowing that this is the kind of stuff that could happen. i want to encourage people to make informed decisions.
good luck
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I started to have a crush on my cousin but he's gay. I feel like I can talk to him about anything, that's why I like him. Is it a sin to go out with your cousin? Were not,gonna have sex just dates and stuff. Please help. I'm only 14. (link)
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I have to agree with the other other here on something. Its completely normal to feel that way when you have a person (weather it be a family member or not) to associate feelings of what you know so far as love for this person because of the fact that you can talk to them about anything.
BUT what that feeling is right there is a usually what a great friendship is, not a relationship that HAS to lead to a sexual one. It seems to me like your confused a little bit here about what the difference is between a friendship or kinship with a close family member and what is considered a deep friendship with a person that just happens to be related to you by blood. These are two completely different things that you need to figure out for yourself in your own mind are.
IT sounds like you have a great friendship with a family member, and that you just like to do things with them alot. thats all, and youve developed what you perceive as a love feelings for him because you are thinking that this is the kind of understanding that ONLY comes with someone who is your partner AKA a spouse. This could not be further from the truth.
A great friendship is full of all the same understanding, and loyalty and communication that a partner would have, (or should have and what you should be looking for in life) just hold the sex part for only your partner not a friend. see?
So your "dates" arent the KIND of dates your talking about, their just you and your cousin CHOOSING to spend time together which theres nothing wrong with so long as it DOESNT turn sexual.
Him being gay doesnt really come into play here because hes family and you dont have sex with family. It will create problems within the family should the rest of them find out and not take it well. Things could go badly down the road. During family gatherings in the future, should you "grow out of this" and are ashamed and realize you "made a mistake" doing that kinda thing and neither one of you wanna see each other again because of it and no one knows why, then youll have people asking questions and investigating what happened with each of you in the past, and its just not a road you wanna go down. It can break families apart from the inside BECAUSE of the fact that its so frowned on. Not only that but if hes gay and your not and you try to make a move on him you'd be disrespecting his boundaries as a person, and it would cause irreparable damage to the friendship and it could never recover.
good luck ; )
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Im 17 and my gf and i took each others virginities last night and when i was inside her she said she felt like she had to pee and that it was too late but when i took out my penis clear gooey stuff was squirting out of her vagina onto me and i just want to know ifthats
ifthat's normal or if im hurting her (link)
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Basically your doin a good job buddy, and keep it up! lol ; )
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So I'm a strong Christian and I'm 15 and going to be a sophomore. I have been a Christian for years. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months and he is a Christian also (17 and senior). As Christians we don't believe in marriage before sex but we have already been to third base together even though we say we won't go further. Is that too far? Inside I feel like it is but I don't know how to slow down sexual but keep up in the relationship. What should I do? (link)
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Wait you mean you dont believe in having sex before marriage?? lol cause usually thats how this statement goes not the other way around.
If youve already been the third base then its a little late now for regrets. What you should do now is continue to make sure the relationship stays strong enough for the long term now that youve moved to that next level.
What you should ask yourself next is, Is this relationship strong enough to last forever or for the long term? is he as dedicated to the relationship. If his love for you hasnt changed and you dont see things running their course then you might just have a long term relationship here. If so you wanna nurture that.
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How to convince my g.f. for sex
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well first off you shouldnt have to pressure or convince her to have sex with you. If shes down for that then things will naturally flow that way once your in a room, comfortable, and alone together.
soooo, create the environment and see what happens.
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My brother and I got into a fight and he threw something at me, leaving a bruise on my upper thight right near my bikini line. I talked to my mom about it and she treated like a typical dumb fight between two siblings. I "provoked" him so it was a two-way street, but the problem is that I feel disgusting, like a victim of abuse. I've never been bruised from someone hurting me or hurt in my genital area. I feel degraded and I can't shake the feeling. How do I cope with this feeling? (link)
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Ok, ive had this same issue before and maybe in my family it was handled differently but with ours if i provoked my older brother then i "Got what i deserved" but my mother also did tell him that he shouldnt be throwing things at people.
what you can do is let things cool down and then go back to your mom later and tell her that even though you may have accidentally provoked him that no one has the right to be throwing random objects at people and that it is still bothering you and that you'd like her to talk to him about it.
this could be a learned thing which basically means "he got it from somewhere" that it was ok to do things like that, and your mother needs to acknowledge that and UN-DO it pronto. Pretty soon he'll be throwing things at his girlfriends too and end up in jail if someone doesnt tell him to stop that nonsense.
that might scare your mom into saying something if not on your behalf then for his own sake in the future. other then that im not sure what to tell you.
My mother also through things at us as kids when she was angry. We had some domestic abuse issues so i may not be the best person to be helping you here but the least i can do is let your mom know that its still bothering you after a day or two.
good luck, and try to speak up for yourself to your brother and tell him yourself if you have to.
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I am in a committed relationship (3yrs) and we have a 16 month old son together. I love him more than anything. We have a couple issues but are open and communicative about them. One is that he is a workaholic and his current job requires minimum of 12 hour days. The second issue is that he had a low sex drive where as mine is insatiable. Add that to the fact that he's never home and our love life is pretty much nonexistent.
I met a guy and he has become my best friend. He is an amazing person. I know that he is not someone I would likely end up with but I can't help but feel this insanely strong attraction to him. I don't want to cheat but I am finding myself wanting to spend all my time with him and I desire to be intimate with him. How do I deal with this feeling without losing a life long friend? Chances are it's just a crush and will fade but until then how do I prevent something from happening. My willpower is fading quickly. (link)
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Ok first off im sorry your going through this, and secondly i was just going through this with my husband of 5 years so i am really right there on your level with you about this issue.
MY husband is also, an admitted workaholic. He works 40 minutes away and commutes on a train there and back everyday, then comes home only to get back ON his own personal computer and do MORE shit on there that he wasnt able to do at his day job. lol.
His libido could be down because he works so much to take care of his family that he is stressed and exhausted. So try to understand his side of things (totally not defending his actions over this) but it IS a fact of life that a man feels the need to work as much as he can to care for his family.
The problem is that sometimes when this happens, you have to both come together and have a serious talk. Tell him that you feel like hes not making ANY time for family. Make sure that you mention that your grateful for the fact that he works so hard to care for you and the baby but that any family that doesnt spend time together WILL fall apart eventually, its just a matter of time.
"if you dont use it you lose it" and the same applies to family and relationships.
I talked with my hubby about it, gave him some time to process it and think, and then did something really unexpected. I bought him a beautiful pocket watch and had it engraved on both sides saying "make time" "for love"
Now he can do this by helping you put the kid to bed early, spending weekends together even if the kid is there, sending the kid to the grand parents house if they are fit to care for the baby for a few hours so the two of you can go out to the movies. things like that.
The weekdays will be harder but if he has the weekends free, then he needs to try to carve out some time for you and the baby.
these changes could take time....feel free to inbox me if you have more questions. since ive been there maybe i can help more later as well.
good luck
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I am a 15yr old girl frm nigeria nd my bust is jxt 2 smal for my age nd this always mak me feel sad,al my friends hav bigger bust than i do nd most of them laugh at me,i hav also wore different typ of bra sizes buh ntin work out for me i hav also used breast cream to make it bigger buh itz stil jxt d same tin..though a frnd of mine gav me an advice..that i shld hav sex with my boyfrnd nd during that period i shld let him massage my bust wel that it wuld make it grow bigger nd i hav been duin this for a while nw buh ther is stil no difference,what do u think i cn do to make my bust bigger plz (link)
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I agree with Dragonfly here. There is nothing you can do to make your boobs bigger ok, secondly those girls that are teasing you or giving you problems are just jealous because they are being viewed as nothing but property or pieces of sexual meat and your not. This is your chance to make sure you get a guy that will love you for YOU and not your body.
you dont need to look like them. You can demand respect and your personality will shine through and any GOOD GUY will see that once he gets to know you.
Also having large breasts isnt always a good thing at a young age because they arent even pregnant yet and their boobs will get even bigger once they have kids and down the road will most likely suffer from back problems where as you will not. ; )
i was a late bloomer and was teased a little here and there but those girls that had bigger boobs were always complaining of back problems.
You can always buy a training bra and exercise type clothes and explain whenever someone mentions it that you wear sports bras because your "an active person" and that you "need to keep the girls in place while you jog or work out" and we all know that sports bras can make the boobs look even smaller but you can then explain that also and then just SAY your boobs are actually bigger, your just wearing a sports bra because their more comfortable.
Then tell those girls who tease you next time that "at least i wont be having back problems because my boobs arent all heavy"
this is true and is a fact of life, and theres women all over the world that HAVE to get breast reductions because their in such pain that their slouching over half the time and throw their back out easier just while doing basic things around the house!
so in the long run YOUR the lucky one my dear.
good luck and dont let them get to you! ; )
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I had a boyfriend, got pregnant by him, and at 6 months pregnant I found out he was cheating on me with 2 other women when he was supposedly doing other things and I trusted him. I had my son, his name and my name are on the birth certificate and I gave him a chance to change his ways. HE moved in with ME and my family. So he paid no rent, no food expenses, no utilities, nothing besides baby needs. (The basics). We split up and after that, he started working 2 jobs and gave me money every week for my sons expenses. I wasn't so aware of child support and didn't have much knowledge about it until now. He and I got into arguments and I started to feel uncomfortable with him, so I want to put him on child support, so I won't have to be responsible for collecting the money and talking to him about what he owes. My son is 10 months, he has only paid an estimated 600 dollars of child support since my son has been born. I'm nervous to do this because he says it will only cause problems and make it difficult. Will he have to pay ever since my son was born, as in owe money from the past? Will it be worse if I put him on child support? He makes an estimated 830 a month and does not pay rent because he now lives with his mother. He only pays for his personal needs and gas for his own car, and his phone bill. (link)
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No, since his name is on the birth certif. he is the legal father and they will garnish his wages to make sure you get the right amount and EVERYTIME, so theres no inconsistent months from the point that you file and are processed ON. Until that child is 18 years old.
some of the minor details can differ alittle from state to state im not an expert but i came from a welfare home and know friends that are single mothers and on it currently.
The only way it makes things difficult is for HIM because they will take it out of his pay if he EVER works a legit job.
Also you have to report any side income your receiving so that they can reduce the amount accordingly. i have a friend who is on it with THREE kids and two of them have a bone disorder that will require them to be on SSI their whole lives, and she is now required to report that income to welfare.
You can also get section 8 housing or low income housing as well and food stamps when you file so you basically dont have to depend on your babys daddy ever again for anything.
good luck and he could just be saying what he said to make you afraid to file because he knows they will take it from his pay.
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Hello. I'm 22 and a male. For a long time now I've gotten this weird pain in my lower back and upper and lower back of my legs. I can mostly feel it when I'm trying to lay down and relax. Mostly I feel it at night when I'm trying to sleep. It keeps me up and I can't get comfortable or stay still. It's like a burning cramp like pain in my very lower middle back (around the sacrum joint) and down the backs of my legs all the way to my feet. It's horrible keeps me up and constantly tossing and turning trying to get relief. If I take pain meds it's fine and obiviously I don't feel it but if I don't have anything to take its like a 10 out of 10 pain wise. I had a mri that showed a disc somewhat buldged into the spinal cord. My doctor tried therapy physical and massage and a chiropractor but nothing has fixed it and he refuses pain meds. But they don't seem to be able to find what's causing this. It almost feels like the burning feeing like if you were to tie something around a finger and cut the circulation off that kind of pain. But I need help with this. So far no dr has been any help and this is a constant problem every night if I don't have anything for pain to take. I hope someone can help me figure out what this is because I need some type of direction for help with it. It's really effecting my life in a bad way. Any info will be a great help. Thanks (link)
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Oh thats just awful and im so sorry that your suffering like this.
I am going to back up what the other poster said here about finding another doctor and getting that second opinion. It sounds like the one your with really is doing little to nothing to actually handle the problem other then sending you on down the road to massage therapy or whatever and thats really not doing you justice here at all.
If you told the doctor already that what he said should help and it hasnt then its the doctors obligation to try harder to FIND something else that WILL have at the very last a large impact on your pain.
Also I'd like to ask you about your bed? if you dont have a proper or newer memory foam or partial memory foam, i would invest. I suffer from back pain alot (pinched nerves etc.) and getting an upgraded bed can really make a difference if you havent considered that yet. ((just as an extra thought here)) ; )
good luck!!
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Ok I'm from pa my girlfriend lied to me about her age she said she is 17 and November she be turning 18 but she's really only 15 and about to turn 16 in November and I'm 27 years old and we been with each it here for just about a year and and she might be pregnant now sense the baby wouldn't be hear until after her birthday would I go to jail sense she would say it was consistentual and would I be able to marry her. I just wish she would have told me but. I would like to marry her cause if it wasn't for her age and finding out I was going to marry her I know this sounds crazy but I was really going to purpose to her on what I thought was her 18th birthday. So if any body could help me with this thank you (link)
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Wow, im sorry your going thru this, some girls will do things like this to get what they want and unfortunately you were the target here.
Theres not much you CAN do. Are you sure shes pregnant? If not you can still gently break it to her that lying about her age to you was really messed up and uncalled for and not a way to start a long term relationship with someone let alone be with them for life.
This is the best way to sabotage a relationship by starting off with lies and putting you in direct danger with the law. Maybe you need to let her know that as well.
If she is pregnant and decides to have the baby, you need to pray that shes not going to tell a soul who you are, you wont be able to be there for alot of things that happen during the pregnancy OR possibly the birth depending on the family shes from and how they might feel about you unless shes wants to lie about your age to THEM also.
Any one of them could pick up the phone on you if they dont agree with whats going on here. So you need to be extra careful.
I know this because my husband is 7 years older then me. We started dating when he was 21 and i was just 14 ok. One of my MOMS FRIENDS (not even my mom) didnt agree and called CPS on our family and told them that i had an older boyfriend even though my mom, dad, and immediate family were all cool with him and saw him as a respectable guy that really cared for me. Knowing my personality they ALSO knew that i pursued HIM (not the other way around) as i have a stronger personality and always have.
MY father is 8 years older then my mother and understood that if he was a respectable person and i was strong on how i felt with a good judge of people that nothing was wrong with our relationship. (our parents even met and decided that we WERE a good match) and my mother signed a paper once CPS came to our home after her friend called on us to protect my boyfriend from getting in trouble. So you see it doesnt have to even be an immediate family member, it can simply be a friend that "heard about it" and doesnt like the idea even if the parents are cool with it.
So now its up to you to decide weather or not you want to continue this with her. Ask yourself, do you trust her enough to not tell a soul how old you really are until shes legal (in your state) so that you dont get arrested?
Are you ok with the fact that she lied to you and put you in direct danger because if even tells a FRIEND of hers and that friend tells a parent, that parent can call on her family, and then try to probe her and people around her to get your info to track you down??
this is a critical time for you to decide if shes the right person for you after what she did. That a MAJOR thing to lie about and you have the right to be upset over it.
if you have any questions feel free to inbox me, i know about this first hand as i and my husband started out almost the same way (with him being significantly older.
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I am 14 years old and my best friend, who i notice, has head lice. She told me that she has nits, but she never said she had the actual lice in her head. When we would hang out, I can see the nits in her hair, and I did see a bug in her hair, which was lice. We had a sleepover and after a few weeks, My head started to itch but I just thought it was dandruff or something. One day, I was messing with my hair and I noticed that It had a nit stuck on it. I had lice before, so i know what a nit looks like. I had my mom check my hair, and she went to the store to get some head lice treatment. When I found out I had lice, I asked my best friend if she has lice and she said no, but im pretty sure I got it from her. I currently finished one treatment, but im going to do another treatment in a couple of days just to make sure I don't have it anymore. I am afraid that I will get it again, because we hang out a lot and I go to her house, but I really want to tell my best friend that I got it from her, just to warn her or something. I just don't know how to tell her? We have been besties for over a year, and I don't want to hurt her feelings. (link)
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this is unhealthy and dirty ok, you need to just be straight with her and ask her why her parents havent taken care of this for her.
If he parents wont take care of this problem, then see if you can "help" her by maybe telling your mom and seeing if she will buy your friend some lice treatments.
Tell her that you cant hang out until she takes care of the problem. its serious and hard to get rid of totally. She needs to wash ALL her fabric stuff on hot in the washer, put all clothes or sheets in plastic bags to make sure it all dies, and maybe even consider cutting her hair much shorter then it is now to be sure that if it DOES come back, that it will be easier to get rid of the second time.
tell her that your mom wont let you hang out with her again until you can prove shes gotten rid of the lice because those treatments are expensive and she doesnt want to keep on buying them over and over again.
if shes your best friend she will understand, and its ok to tell someone that you dont know anyone else who has it besides her and that its really easy to catch and that its not her fault but it DOES need to be handled.
good luck, she'll get over it and tell her that you just wanna be honest with her and that its no ones fault and that "it happens"
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im 18 f and my boyfriend and i had sex for the first time on the weekend however we had a really difficult time to actually get him to fit inside me. i know that probably just because i was a virgin however i want it to actually be pleasurable for both of us rather than a puzzle we have to solve. i also think that we should perhaps try some other techniques in the bedroom because its probably easier and more rewarding. so i was just wondering wether anyone had any tips ect (link)
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Ok, all virgins pretty much have this problem and if you dont know too much about sex then heres a tip that will never go wrong. LUBE!!!
buy some lube ESPECIALLY if your a virgin ok. That hole is far too small still and it will take you guys having sex a few times to stretch out a little more so that things are easier.
Have him slow down and little and "work his way in there" not just try to barrel into you. thats not going to work and it will only hurt YOU. Also if your more relaxed and he can finger you a little before he tries to enter you so that your body is "ready" then that can work too.
But the lube can never really do you wrong, because you cant always just produce your own natural lube, the stuff from the store will make up for any shortage you might have. ; )
also condoms with lube are a big help too.
If you get lube, and wanna try a different position, you can put some on his thys and lower stomach. This will allow you to be on top which is how alot of females are able to reach orgasm since some cant do it on their back with the guy on top. ; )
lube is your best friend hunny.
good luck
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I'm field hockey goalie and I have to wear a hot sweaty helmet. But I want to look cute for the first day of school. I have natural hair and it will frizz up from the sweat if I straighten it. I thought about getting crochet braids and then just ponytail it while I play but it would get really stinky. My mom suggested micro braids but last year I got those and I looked horrible. Do you have any suggestions for me and what I can do with my hair? (link)
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maybe do a cute short deep angled A-line cut??
shorter hair can be a TON easier to care for and you can still do something stylish with it. It will also cut down on getting ready in the morning, you can still straighten it as well, it takes less shampoo, and less fuss but is still long enough to tie back into a small ponytail if need be just incase.
https://www.google.com/search?q=deep+A+line+cut&biw=1280&bih=641&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0CAYQ_AUoAWoVChMI9_KH-_KTxwIVSJqACh2j1geX#tbm=isch&q=deep+A+line+cut%2C+hair+styles
hope that helps. These are all really cute and depending on the shape of your face it could frame your face really well.
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my hair is short like hers, but very very complicated. :'(
I'm going to get it shaved, I just don't understand how to do the whole bushyness. I'm not dying it that color, just do you know. I just need to know what products to use, the best straightener/curling tool, hair brush, etc. (link)
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you wouldnt use a straightener or a curling iron for this look. her hair is thick and full. it looks like hair spray and a comb and just poofing it up with your hands to make it appear more full will probably be fine.
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Since my girlfriend was introduced to my younger sister, they've always had a real sisterly relationship (even though they're not related). My sister was overweight for a very long time, and my girlfriend (who played soccer in college) served as an inspiration for her to lose weight
But over the past year and a half, their relationship has gotten worse
Only a few noticeable things have happened during this time - My sister has lost a lot of weight and has become her high school's top female sprinter, which is quite an accomplishment. On the other hand, my girlfriend and I are hooked on a pastry shop that opened very close by, and so we've both put on a bit of weight (about 40 lbs each in the past year and a half)
Anyway, my sister started wearing uber-trendy outfits that she was never comfortable in before, and my girlfriend actually gave her a lot of old clothes/outfits (everything from jeans and dresses to heels etc.)
As for us, my girlfriend is basically wearing yoga pants (which my sis makes fun of) and those suede Birkenstock slippers (Boston clogs?, my sister actually makes fun of them to my GF's face) and I'm wearing sweats a lot too now, which my sister also mocks
My sister and girlfriend are obviously not getting along like they used to. Sometimes, it feels like you can cut the tension in the room with a knife
AND - when we go to her track meets, she'll either act like she doesn't see us, or if we're in front of her friends, she'll actually make jokes about us. What needs to be done? (link)
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Well theres not a whole lot that can be done here, your sister isnt obligated to be her friend but she should at the very least be civil with her or not be around her if she cant.
on the weight thing, you two could really bond if you tried to take walks and lose weight together??
this can really help as a couple. My husband and i started taking short walks and started slowly eating healthier things. It simple you can still have things you like but try just replacing one meal a day with something healthier. ANYTHING, a salad, some subway sandwiches you could split a foot long even. Buy less junk at the grocery store or go with whoever in your house is buying things you would crave late at night, and buy something thats healthier that you could feel ok with eating instead. you dont have to go all cold turkey (no one can do that trust me it never works long term either) the main things to cut down on are junk foods and any kind of sodas even diet. drink teas or water and take walks and youll both start losing that weight in no time. or it will at least jump start your body to a healthier live style.
Try not to eat with your eyes portion wise, and most of all LISTEN to your stomach. eat slower and stop eating when your starting to feel full. Surprisingly alot of people dont listen to their stomach until its too late and think they need to clean their plate and stuff themselves sick.
good luck, and tell your sis to stay away from your girlfriend and you if shes going to say shitty things for right now.
good luck
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