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girlfriends lied about age
Ok I'm from pa my girlfriend lied to me about her age she said she is 17 and November she be turning 18 but she's really only 15 and about to turn 16 in November and I'm 27 years old and we been with each it here for just about a year and and she might be pregnant now sense the baby wouldn't be hear until after her birthday would I go to jail sense she would say it was consistentual and would I be able to marry her. I just wish she would have told me but. I would like to marry her cause if it wasn't for her age and finding out I was going to marry her I know this sounds crazy but I was really going to purpose to her on what I thought was her 18th birthday. So if any body could help me with this thank you
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It appears Razhie knows the laws in PA and knows what she is talking about. I don't know of any state where the age of consent is 14. The fact that she lied to you is of little or no defense in court even if she owns up to lying to you.
I would suggest, even though you don't know if she is pregnant, that you get yourself a good lawyer now, today, immediately. Explain the problem you have and make sure you have both daytime and after hours contact information.
This is called being prepared should she be pregnant and should you be arrested. If you are not prepared and have to depend on a public defender to get you out of Jail you could spend a few nights in lock up. A good criminal defense lawyer should be able to walk you out right after booking.
It is unfortunate and somewhat stupid on your part for not realizing this girl was not as old as she said she was. Given the fact that your 27 and she said she was 17 you may not be in line for any leniency depending on the age of consent in PA. The girl is culpable in this too unfortunately this doesn't help you. Get yourself a good lawyer today.
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You should talk to a lawyer about how to keep your sorry ass out of jail.
If she was fourteen when you had sex with her, it doesn't matter if it was consensual, or if you marry her.If you live in Pennsylvania, you have basically zero legal defence right now.
You and this young girl have put you in an extremely dangerous legal situation, and asking her to marry you isn't going to fix it. In PA it's not a legal defence that she lied to you about her age if she was under 16 at the time. The law assumes, that only an idiot can't tell the difference between a 15 year old and 19 year old.
At the age of 15, she can't marry you without both a parent's permission AND a the courts permission anyways. So don't be an idiot. Speak to a lawyer about how to protect yourself legally, and pray she's not pregnant.
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Wow, im sorry your going thru this, some girls will do things like this to get what they want and unfortunately you were the target here.
Theres not much you CAN do. Are you sure shes pregnant? If not you can still gently break it to her that lying about her age to you was really messed up and uncalled for and not a way to start a long term relationship with someone let alone be with them for life.
This is the best way to sabotage a relationship by starting off with lies and putting you in direct danger with the law. Maybe you need to let her know that as well.
If she is pregnant and decides to have the baby, you need to pray that shes not going to tell a soul who you are, you wont be able to be there for alot of things that happen during the pregnancy OR possibly the birth depending on the family shes from and how they might feel about you unless shes wants to lie about your age to THEM also.
Any one of them could pick up the phone on you if they dont agree with whats going on here. So you need to be extra careful.
I know this because my husband is 7 years older then me. We started dating when he was 21 and i was just 14 ok. One of my MOMS FRIENDS (not even my mom) didnt agree and called CPS on our family and told them that i had an older boyfriend even though my mom, dad, and immediate family were all cool with him and saw him as a respectable guy that really cared for me. Knowing my personality they ALSO knew that i pursued HIM (not the other way around) as i have a stronger personality and always have.
MY father is 8 years older then my mother and understood that if he was a respectable person and i was strong on how i felt with a good judge of people that nothing was wrong with our relationship. (our parents even met and decided that we WERE a good match) and my mother signed a paper once CPS came to our home after her friend called on us to protect my boyfriend from getting in trouble. So you see it doesnt have to even be an immediate family member, it can simply be a friend that "heard about it" and doesnt like the idea even if the parents are cool with it.
So now its up to you to decide weather or not you want to continue this with her. Ask yourself, do you trust her enough to not tell a soul how old you really are until shes legal (in your state) so that you dont get arrested?
Are you ok with the fact that she lied to you and put you in direct danger because if even tells a FRIEND of hers and that friend tells a parent, that parent can call on her family, and then try to probe her and people around her to get your info to track you down??
this is a critical time for you to decide if shes the right person for you after what she did. That a MAJOR thing to lie about and you have the right to be upset over it.
if you have any questions feel free to inbox me, i know about this first hand as i and my husband started out almost the same way (with him being significantly older.
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