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Surviving Destroyed Reputation
How do i survive from a situation where people around you believe a gossip about you and still continue to make up stories to make it worse?
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Most gossip has a reasonably short 'shelf-life' as you might call it. Most people who gossip and make tales have a short-ish attention span too. Sure, they have great memories, they'll 'remember stuff' with amazing clarity, but only while there's some fresh fuel to be put on the fire to keep it alive and interesting. They'll make-up a bit of fuel too, expect that. My advice? Don't even lend the gossip the dignity of a response mate! Once the gossip-mongers find there's no real sport in it and it goes cold they'll latch on to someone else. Bit sad really isn't it? Aren't you too busy living your own life to go poking and prodding into the lives of other people? Maybe your life seems more fun and interesting and colourful to them than their own? Do you know, I reckon if you go all through life without giving the narrow-minded, self-righteous, holier-than-thou gossips of the world something to gas on about, you're having a dull old life mate!! Just ignore it. If you can easily 'live it down' as they say, do so. But don't try too hard or go out of your way to do it. You don't need the approval or consent of these people to live your life. You don't need their permission to be yourself. Don't know what they're preying on in your case? Does it REALLY matter? Maybe you made a mistake? Can tell you now, anyone who isn't making mistakes isn't doing anything at all. Hang in there. You'll be fine.
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Those intelligent enough to realize what others say could easily be fiction or an exaggerated form of the truth will not bother you and simply treat you as you should be treated. If the problem persists, I advise you simply set those people straight or learn to cope with their disposition towards you and move forward regardless.
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You don't say what the stories are but I can guess. I also guess you are still in school and this is where these stories are being told. The stories having to do with your reputation are in some way sexual in nature.
If my guess are on target you can ignore them but I doubt they will stop. I also know teenage boys and these stories will have them harassing you wanting from you what these stories are about. This is where you can get help to put a stop to this both in school and out.
The harassment you are getting is sexual harassment. This is illegal at any age and people including teenage boys are getting arrested for it. schools have a zero tolerance for it and have been known to suspend and expel those who harass people.
You should go to a trusted teacher or school principal and report those who are doing this. IF the school does not take action then you will need to talk with your parents and have them step in and help. They can talk to school officials or file a police report with you.
Fact is you have every right to attend school without being harassed. It is the purpose of teachers and the principal to see to it that your rights are upheld. Report these kids and if it doesn't stop then I would suggest you make a police report.
Kids that do this think their age protects them. by filing a police report and having the police investigate sends a message that their age does not protect them especially if an arrest is made or a suspension or expulsion results.
You need to be brave and tell you parents so that no other young lady needs to suffer as you are suffering now. Report what is happening and let those who are harassing you suffer the proper consequences.
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Well first what you do is you cut those people out of your life as much as you can. People will SO easily believe the bad shit about someone they've heard through "the grapevine" then believe anything good about you. So if you cut people out that you know have been talking about you behind your back youll find out who your real and loyal friends are and keep THEM. you dont HAVE to keep all your schools friends through life and your life wont be any less exciting then if you did have them around still (that is unless you LIKE drama and scandal) the people who REALLY know you or who WANT to be real friends with you will continue to stick around despite any of the bullshit people might be talking because they know thats not you and that you couldnt have done any of the things their saying.
Stay true to YOU and dont feel the need to prove your innocence to anyone, just because people are making up things about you. usually people that start these kind of things are just jealous of you for one reason or the other.
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