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Q: for two weeks, and he has to stay there 2 more weeks. i miss him like crazy! ike ive been crying a few times each week, and it feels like hes been gone way longer than he really has. what can i do to make the time go by faster??? its driving me insane!
I think thats love, that you miss your boyfriend so much!

Maybe, you could make him a scrapbook while hes away with a bunch on memories/pictures of you together, and give it to him as a welcome back present when he gets home.

Keep busy. Maybe get a job, or put your time into somthing so that you arent always alone at home thinking about your boyfriend.

Happy Summer!

Q: okay so i gave this guy a hand job and we were both naked on his bed. and he fingered me but he didn't touch himself before it or anything(atleast i'm pretty sure) and when he cummed he didn't get it on me or anything. but my period is five days late, could i be pregnant? and if you think im not is there any reason my period is late? cause now im starting to freak out ive never wanted my period to come more than my entire life:(
thanks for your help :)
Dont worry, ur not pregnant!

So relax! Your period could be coming late because your stressing or if you travel or if you get to sleep really late one night or if you diet and you get skinnier just takecare of yourself and relax you are fine

Q: I wanna get a hard-start for next year where were going to be learning basic algebra.
We satrted at the end of last year and it was So over my head i got soo confused with just stuff like
x(-4)=7
I just made that up by the way adn would that be 11?

So i was wondering if anyone could be nice and make some hard problems I dont want my family to know because they'd make fun of me..

Thanks!
Algebra..i learned it this year. Its not so hard.

Usually in multiplication you use an X to symbol "multiply" but now we use variables (letters) somtimes instead of numbers (when we are trying to figuire out the letter) so we cant use X anymore. Now we use a dot �


There is the power stuff which is like
5³ would be 5�5�5 which would be (or five times five times five)

To work this out, we would set it up like this

5�5�5
^
25 � 5
^
125

I know that looks complicated. The ^ symbol means that we solved part of the equation, and brought it down to the nect line. So the 5�5 with a ^ under it and then a 25 means that 5 times five is 25

I have my summer paket with me now so ill give you some of the problems.

A number directly to a variable means to multiply.

So 2x would mean 2 times x
(Or 2�x)

If any of this is confusing please leave me a messege in my inbox. I dont know how to explain it because i dont know which way will make sence. Algebra is like that. My teacher explains it three different ways because different people understand it worded differently.

Can you try this one now? (X is traditionally used as a variable most often)

12x=48

Now, 12 and X are connected so we need to seperate them. To do this, we need to do the opposite of what is supposed to be done to X.

So 12 is supposed to be multiplyed by x, so we need to devide it by x. What we do to one side of the =, we need to do to the other so we devide 48 by 12 also.

Does that kind of make sence? What did you end up with?








It should have been x=4

If you didnt get that, please messege me with what you got and ill help you figuire it out.



Mostly, algebra is just re-writing things until the make sence. Like "the product of 9 and the number x is equaled to nine" isnt very easy to work out so we need to look at what we know. Fistly, see where it says "the product of nine and the number x"? Product is the answer when you multiply so we know to multiply. So we have
NINE TIMES X
******Or 9x*********
Thats the first part. Now, see where it says "is equaled to nine"? That simply means
****** =9 *******
so if you put it together, you get 9x=9
Now, do you remember from the equation before this when we devided? Were going to do that again. 9x devided by nine is x
And 9 devided by 9 is one
So x is equaled to one


a fairly difficult equation would be
9 ( - 2 x + 7 ) + 11 x

In this equation, your going to have to distribute. We know this because the 9 is directly next to the (), with no plus or minus sign interfering. So we need to multiply the 9 by everything in the perenthesis.
9 times -2 is -18
9 times x is 9x
9 times 7 is 63

Now we've got
- 18 + 9x + 63 + 11x

Do you see the 9x and the 11x?

They both have x in them so we are going to combine them by adding then together

9x+11x=20x
So now we've got
-18 + 20x + 63

Now see the -18 and the 63?

We are going to combine them because they both dont have variables attatched to them.

- 18 + 63 is the same thing as
63-18

And 63-18=45

20x + 45 is as far as it will go

There dosent have to always be an answer, this is good enough.
Now, lets say they tell you that x is 0.991

You would have to keep going

20(0.991) + 45

19.82 + 45

64.82 is your answer

BY THE WAY, I DID WRITE ALL OF THIS AND IT TOOK ME FOREVER.

Q: Whenever I'm with my friends or when I kiss my boyfriend once.. I get nasty comments. I don't understand it. One girl kept saying that leads to.. this! -points to her baby-

It's making me angry because I'm not stupid. She's the one who slept around and didn't use protection.

My friends went through my camera and saw a picture of me in a bra. They screamed in an over reacting way. Yelling /keep your clothes on/ and stuff. "Don't do anything stupid".. when she has done drugs and had sex numerous times. she made herself seem all superior and well, it pissed me off :)

What can I do to make them shut up? I'm older than them and they are not joking, believe me. I'm not stupid enough to make the same mistakes. I've done a lot of sexual things but they insist that I shouldn't do anything and that I'm innocent. I'm on birth control and I already talked to my boyfriend about this. I'll have sex with him when I'm ready and when BC has taken full effect. And he MUST bring condoms or he gets nothing. We have done everything but actual sex. About drugs, we aren't doing any of it.. but we will drink a little together around a group of friends [sober]

Maybe my friends are trying to protect me.. I don't know. but I hate when they tell me that and everything. I'm a year or two older and I've been reading a lot about birth control, sex, etc. They act like it's a deadly sin when I kiss my boyfriend :(

And i hate when they scream in public. They practically said i was naked [when i was not] at a middle school graduation. oh yea, that really makes me look good in front of middle schoolers and parents! it makes me look like a slut and i haven't done anything. people always ask me if i'm a virgin.
Yes, theyr just trying to protect you because they love and care about you. They dont want you to make bad mistakes and ruin ur life. But, its not nice of them to yell at you, especially in public! Maybe, you could tell them that if they have a problem with anything that you do, they could calmly talk to you about it, and give you any advice that they think yu should use. Think about what they say, and really listen to them. You are older, and i know that your not going to do anything stupid but you need to make your friends see that. Tell them that you would never have un-protected sex, and nobodys ever going to pressure you into it so kissing wont lead to babys. I hope everything works out.

Q: Ok. I am going to use real names because I don't feel the need to hide this.

I have a friend Taylor. We have been good friends for a while. I also have a best friend Dave.

Dave and Taylor were together, but not going out. They really liked eachother, understandable right?

Taylor "broke up" with Dave, then hated him for the last 4 months. For no reason at all, just wouldn't talk to him and made fun on him constantly. Dave hurt for a while, but finally got over it.

Dave and I have been extremely close ever since we met. Dave and I now are kind of, as you can say, together.

Ever since Dave and I have been together, Taylor has been trying to talk to Dave again, and asks me ridiculous questions about me and him and what we do. She said that him her and can only be enemies, or lovers. So what does that mean? If she is trying to talk to him, that might mean she wants to be lovers with him.

She insists she is over him and does not want him, but why is she constantly asking me about it? And flipping out on me about him. I think she still has feelings for him, which is understandable. But she has hated him for 4 months, and Dave would try to talk to her, but she was just such a BITCH to him that he got over her.

It's not my fault me and him like eachother, we cannot control feelings. I understand where she is coming from because it is her ex, but still, they are over, and she knows it.


I don't know what to do. I do not what to loose either of them. Taylor is just being very immature about this and said she might as well go hook up with my ex boyfriend Justin, so I would know how it felt.

Dave and I have been through A LOT together. Like, a mad amount of stupid shit we have done and gotten in trouble for. Taylor seems like it is right to bring those mistakes up to make me sound like a bad person.

I tried talking to her so many times.
Now I am thinking I should just end it wtih Dave so this whole thing would stop, no matter how much I don't want to.

Someone please help me, I really don't know what to do.
I'm just going to be the Devil's Advocate, and tell her side of the story.

For whatever reason, she broke up with Dave. She was probably mean to him because she was trying to get over him.

She was probably very close to over him when she found out that you two where together.

I think this upset her.

Now, if she does go hook-up with your ex, Justin, shes only doing the same thing you are doing, so you cant get mad.

I'm not saying either of you are right. I think you should talk it out, and see if you can be friends despite all of this.

Good Luck

Q: I'm 15/f and my cat is a non-pedigree black and white male ....and he's 7 years old (is that considered a senior?) I should also probably mention that he's been castrated since like 4 months old.


My cat is SUPERR lazy....VERY inactive.....and he just sleeps around the house...in any place he can find to sleep on. He crawls ANYWHERE just to sleep. And he only wakes up when he wants to go to the bathroom. I know that cats are supposed to sleep so much...but he sleeps in the day AND night! He's quite fat also. I'm beginning to worry..because he has breathing problems. And I never want to overfeed him....what should I do? How can I make him more active so he'll live longer and be healthier? Because now, he's just growing fatter and fatter :(
Because your cat is old, it may be more lazy. you might need to just let your cat rest, it could be what it needs. you could try getting your cat some toys that intrest it. also, you might consider getting another cat for it to play with. it may be good motivation, and also, that way in a lot of years, IF your cat ever dies, you will have another pet to love. i know i new cat could never replace your old cat, but it could help you to feel better. i only say this because your cat is very old. try getting your cat up and active. Have it chase around yarn or little rat toys or somthing.

Q: heyy this is realli random o"o but I recently went to a beach party and theres loads of sand inside my phone, gone in through the speaker holes and the gaps between the keys, i have shaken and lightly hooverd some of the sand out but there is loads of sand still there and it has jammed my keys, the sand was dry at all times btw.

Any suggestions on how to get more of it out? xxx
hoovering was smart

i blow-dried mine (on the cold setting)

it didnt get the sand OUT, but it did get it out of the way



Q: My very best freind in th whole world has this wonderful boyfriend who she complelty in love with .. and he likes her tooo but.. i tihnk he also lieks me. We tlka on the phone all the time (it used to just be when they were in a fight but now he calls me all the time, MORE then he cals her) he tells me he loves her alot but then he will say sometihng like " after me an jen broke u p would we ever have a chance?" and i always thought he was joking until today when he said "man this really sucks if me and jen broke up i wouldnt ever have a chance with you" and then last night he told me he would rather talk to me then his on gf....
HELP!
i think you need to make Å decision. if you want to stay friends with your friend and keep them together, you have to stop talking to him. give him advice on how to stay wiith her and let it go at that. its his fault not yours but that dosent mean that you cant fix it.

Q: any ways to get rid of a hickey...!!! that works!
its not like a really bad hickey..its not black..just dots
cover it up with cover-up

or Å band-aid if its in Å good spot

put ice on it

or heated stuff

brush it with Å toothbrush

Q: At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook?
i think it depends on the person

some teenagers have brilliant opinions

and some 50 year olds dont


Q: i just made 1,000 dollars from my job and i wanna buy some new jeans. I'm a 35 inseam and a 25 waist..anyone know any good brands for me??
ohh yes!!
okay maybe seven jeans. but theyr not amazing

i love true religion. it serously rules

and hollister jeans i absuloutly LOVE!! try them on though because some fits tend to go Å little bit to low where no matter what underwaer you wear everybody can see them.

maybe try DKNY or Mossimo or Guess


Q: Okay, so whenever a couple or a few of my friends get together and do anything, I always get VERY jelous. Like just now three of my friends all had "out for ice cream at kimballs" on their away messages. But it just makes me sooo jelous. What can I do?
remember that nobody gets invited all of the time

it dosent mean that they love you any less

maybe try planning your own things, so that you know youll be ithere

but just remember, they still love you the same.

Q: 19/F

I'm currently in a relationship with a great guy, and it's been about 8 months now. We're living together.

I have to go away to work for the summer, and so does he; he's in the army reserves. We'll be apart for 3 months, which I was okay with.

This morning, though, he dropped a bombshell on me. Apparently he was asked if he wants to go to Afghanistan to work as a duty officer (it's an on-base job, pretty much staff rotation). We talked it over, and we agreed that it might be a good idea for us. The money will allow us to start our lives together, and it's a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

I just can't get over my sadness at him being gone. He'll be gone for about a year and a half as of September. I'm willing to wait until the end of the earth for him, but I'm still really upset and worried for his safety.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I guess I just need some words of inspiration to get me through this.
i havent been in this position, but many other people have.
i dont know if youd be intrested but there is Å good called "Chicken Soup for the Military wifes soul" and its like all inspirational stories. http://www.amazon.com/Chicken-Soup-Military-Wifes-Soul/dp/0757302653

maybe you could get together with other people who know men going into the army. you could make it like Å support group. if the people live far away you could email or call.

get busy with your work

and remember that he WILL be okay


Q: i got arrested last november and i was wondering if there is any way to get a copy of my mugshot by the way i live in evergreen park illinois (its liek 20 minutes from chicago)
Its Å public record so its opened to the entire world
yes, you can get your mugshot
try this:

http://www.GovernmentRegistry.org/?hop=vmbventure&xpath=lp_mugshots&xtarget=3

http://www.government-records.com/landingpages/mugshot.html

http://www.Webstigate.com/?hop=vmbventure


Q: I heard a song on the radio that I really liked! I'm not sure the name, help please?
It goes like this
"Wind it up (uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Wind it up(uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Wind it up(uh), wind it up(uh), wind it up oh yeah.
Forget the conversation, just wind your body up."
It's not by Gwen Stefani, it's a girl & a guy singing in it. Thanks.
can i teach you somthing? if you go to google, and type in lyrics and then put the part of thee song that you know in qoutes, you will find your song.

i cant find this one, which probably means its Å remix. it might be Å remix of gwen steffani's song wind it up.

Q: Sorry for the length please consider helping me.


So I started going out with this guy Tony from school. Tony is a stubborn and cautious guy, of anything, not just girls. He has this wall, like mine, just way stronger, he says it's to keep from hurting anyone, not getting hurt. Well we started going out, we fought about it on Friday but we finally started going out. I didn't see him/talk to him over the weekend at all so I sent him a message on Facebook and I said, " I miss you. =] " and his response was, " ok...so how did your weekend go. " I just responded back as quickly as possible and my message back to him was,

" Uhm thanks for not saying it back.
It sucks cause I thought about you all weekend.
So yeah
How was yours?
Are you still gonna hang out w/ me tomorrow? "

Well today he didn't hang out with me but when we were friends he did all the time in the morning, he also gave me hugs, but today he didn't, don't know why. He usually talks to me a lot at lunch since we have both lunches together, and I sit on his lap all the time, even when we were friends. Today I came over and sat by him and he got up and walked away. Some kids locked him out of school so I opened the door for him and he just walked past me. He didn't say hi to me even, just completely ignored me. He came over by the group of girls I was with, looked at Melanie ( his friend/ my friend ) and looked at Karen, and walked away. No eye contact between me and him. After lunch, as we're going to class, I was going to stop him and ask him what was going on, he just stormed off. Said not one word to me all day. Did I do something wrong... Is he mad at me? What's going on?


I care about him a lot. I don't care how much I go through to get his trust (he says I already have it) but I don't know what to do.
I'm really sorry for the length...please consider helping me if you can in anyway.
hes trying not to get hurt
but that dosent mean he has to be rude!!
wow that is definately now okay
call him and confront him
ask him why hes acting this way

Q: ok im 19 and i have been with my man for like, a year and a half. the guy hasn't had sex in almost 2 years and i am still a virgin. he knows and respects that. But recently he has become sexually frustrated b/c we live together and he says it feels like we are already married with out any of ther perks ... meaning sex. im scared and i want to sleep with him i really do, but im afraid of the pain. he told me there are only two options for this situation. 1: I allow him to go and strictly have sex with another woman, just to get rid of the frustration (but he said he doesnt want that cuz he knows it will hurt me) or 2: for me to get over my fear and go through with it.

well, it all boils down to im afraid of both options, and well, i don't face fears very well. what should i do? Any kind of advice is welcome please help me out.
well, i dont think those are very fair options. hes not being fair with you. hes pressuring you.

if you want to sleep with him, not because of him pressuring you but because you want to, then you can figuire out Å way so that its not as painful.

if you dont want to, then tell him that. also, tell him that he can NOT go sleep with sombody else. and if hes that frustrated he can leave.

Q: What traits do girls look for in guys? What would your ideal guy be like?
wow this one i can answer!
i like cute people. but not the conventional cute. i like the people with gorgeous eyes or Å cute way of talking or Å sweet laugh. thats all it takes just one thing.

i love people who are okay being themselves. people who dont take things to serously.

i love Å sence of humour.

anybody who accepts me for who i am.

i like deep people, who can talk about serous issues but also flirt and have Å good time.

keep it real.

i love love love love people who when they give you hugs, it feels like they mean it if that makes sence.

Q: my bf and i hav been dating for 2weeks but we've only hugged 3 times and talked twice THERES SOMETHING WRONG!!
how do i tell him he needs to at least try without being a bitch?
maybe hes shy or somthing

its not being bitchy your saying that you like him and want to spend time wit him

maybe suggest that you hang out over the weekend or after school or somthing

Q:
Me and my Boyfriend were kisssing and he stops kissing me grabs me,and kisses me on my forhead..He always does that and then after he is finished he grabs me tight and Holds unto me for awhile.so i was teling my friends about what had happened And they just Looked at me like it was the stupidest thing ever...err..They didnt find it cute i think they found it childish or origninal and i dont think much men do such things..Is it me or was it realy sweet? or am i just a sucker for stupid things such as that.
awww no i think thats amazingly sweet!!!

your friends are either jelous
or, they are sick of hearing about your boyfriend
or maybe they just dont care about sweet things like that. maybe theyr un-romantics

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FRIENDS ARE LIKE ELEVATOR BUTTONS. THEY CAN EITHER BRING YOU UP OR TAKE YOU DOWN. CHOOSE WISELY
A friend will let you borrow their umbrella but a best friend will take yours and scream "Run Loser Run!!!"
we are all angels
with one wing
and we can wonly fly
with the help of somone else
my friends are my wings

TRUE FRIENDS
THEY ARE HARD TO FIND
DIFFICULT TO LEAVE
AND IMPOSSIBLE TO FORGET!

you can pick your friends, and you can pick your nose! but you cant pick your friends nose

killers stab you in the head
Frenemies stab you in the back
boys stab you in the heart
but best friends dont carry knives

a best friend will never ever come to bail you out of jail so never use your one phone call on them
i tried that, but she wouldent pick up. when i got back to our jail cell, i asked her why she wouldent pick up her phone.

theres no thing as strangers. there are only friends we havent met yet



ill give you advice the best that i can
im only 13 so the advice i give you may not be the best
but ive made tons of mistakes so i can relate
and im obsessed with shopping so anything with clothes i can help
and im always here if you want to talk or hang out or anything
im giving you the truth straight up
i am a brutally honest person
Im also fun-loving and adorable
I consider myseld a happy person
I just happen to love black
Do not call me gothic or ill kill you

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