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not quite innocent
Whenever I'm with my friends or when I kiss my boyfriend once.. I get nasty comments. I don't understand it. One girl kept saying that leads to.. this! -points to her baby-
It's making me angry because I'm not stupid. She's the one who slept around and didn't use protection.
My friends went through my camera and saw a picture of me in a bra. They screamed in an over reacting way. Yelling /keep your clothes on/ and stuff. "Don't do anything stupid".. when she has done drugs and had sex numerous times. she made herself seem all superior and well, it pissed me off :)
What can I do to make them shut up? I'm older than them and they are not joking, believe me. I'm not stupid enough to make the same mistakes. I've done a lot of sexual things but they insist that I shouldn't do anything and that I'm innocent. I'm on birth control and I already talked to my boyfriend about this. I'll have sex with him when I'm ready and when BC has taken full effect. And he MUST bring condoms or he gets nothing. We have done everything but actual sex. About drugs, we aren't doing any of it.. but we will drink a little together around a group of friends [sober]
Maybe my friends are trying to protect me.. I don't know. but I hate when they tell me that and everything. I'm a year or two older and I've been reading a lot about birth control, sex, etc. They act like it's a deadly sin when I kiss my boyfriend :(
And i hate when they scream in public. They practically said i was naked [when i was not] at a middle school graduation. oh yea, that really makes me look good in front of middle schoolers and parents! it makes me look like a slut and i haven't done anything. people always ask me if i'm a virgin.
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You need to get meaner with them.Tell them if you want to do it,you are going to wheteher or not they tell you it is wrong so fighting about it will only corrupt our friendship. You need to make it clear to them that if you make a mistake,which I believe you won't,you will be the one paying for it,not them.
They are just trying to help you because they care,but they are going too far.
~Hitsugaya~
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They are trying to protect you, and there's nothing wrong with that. But yelling at you in public is wrong. If they don't see that they are making you look like a slut, and make you look like you are something you are not, then they have serious issues. Sometimes friends do what they have to to make sure a friend doesn't make the same mistake they do. I know I would do that to make sure my best friends don't ruin there lives. You should just say that you know they are trying to protect you, but acting immature and rude every time I kiss my boyfriend, won't work, and won't do anything.
Your friends might have trust problems too. Sometimes people do that when they don't trust the fact that you SAY you aren't doing something. If they are truely good friends they will trust you and your word that you aren't doing anything. They just need to calm down a bit.
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Yes, theyr just trying to protect you because they love and care about you. They dont want you to make bad mistakes and ruin ur life. But, its not nice of them to yell at you, especially in public! Maybe, you could tell them that if they have a problem with anything that you do, they could calmly talk to you about it, and give you any advice that they think yu should use. Think about what they say, and really listen to them. You are older, and i know that your not going to do anything stupid but you need to make your friends see that. Tell them that you would never have un-protected sex, and nobodys ever going to pressure you into it so kissing wont lead to babys. I hope everything works out.
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yes they are just trying to protect you so you dont make the same mistakes. just tell them not in a mean way that you appretiate them of thinking of you but you promice not do anything that would change your life drastically!
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Don't listen to them, they're just jealous and they say that cause they heard that on t.v. yes sometimes kissing leads to something farther but thats only if YOU LET IT HAPPEN, and only you can control yourself from letting the kissing get any farther.And some of the girls who say this are the most likely the ones who are doing these things, like you siad the girl pointed at her stomach? yeah, who is she to talk. And you posting a pic. of you in a bra, in opinion is not a big deal you just are happy with your body, and there is nothing wrong with that, honey, these are not your friends they are jealous people and are immature and it sounds like they like to humiliate you, don't give them a time of day or satisfaction you deserve better friends who love you for you and know that your not afraid of expressing your body and your right to say that you'll have sex when your ready, you know this cause you know better. You sound more mature than your "friends" , your just kissing him, it's not like having sex in public but maybe in another way of looking at it, maybe they don't like pda? IDK. Anyway you're not a slut, and people ask you if your a virgin because they're nasty perves , you deserve better friends. Hope this helps.
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