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THIS CANT BE HAPPENING!!! HELP!!!!
[14/f] my parents are divorced my dad is a great man, works 5 days a week and has been doing the same job for 13 yrs. My mother on the other hand has never been able to keep the same job for at least 2 weeks, and im not lying on that one. she has been going to College for 6 yrs. and hasnt even gotten her bachelors degree yet! Because she keeps changing her mind on "what she wants to be when she gets older" Well when she told me that she would be transferring AGAIN but this time to get her masters degree. I flipped! she was like whats wrong and i told her, YOU NEED TO GET A JOB! and you need to DECIDE WHAT YOU WANNA MAYJOR IN!!! im sick of it. Soo a day later she tells me i thought about what you said and im gonna start my own buisness selling pottery,(pottery is her hobby) and in my head i was thinking all i wanted her to do was get a little part time job maybe at like borders or something. Soo im like whatever i give up. Then i go away on vacation for 10 days come back and she throws on me, by the way i filled out a job application for Urbana Library (a library in my dad's neighborhood!!!!!) AHHHH i dont know what to do, someone please HELP ME! I want my mom to have a job BUT not one in my dad's neighborhood!, i mean one of the reason's why i like to come to my dad's house is to get AWAY from her, if you can't tell we dont get a long at all...i dont know what to do, please ANYTHING would help at this point, even just support. Thank you =]
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well you can't do anthing about her behavior.And it's not your fault she does that.And I'm sure your Mom will be busy with her job and she won't bother you.I live with my Dad. I love him alot. My Mom works in the same neighbor hood as us. But it works out pretty good. So,I'm sure it won't be too bad.
And if that fails you can hang out with your friends alot more.That way,you won't have to be with her.
I'm really sorry it has to be like that.
~Hitsugaya~
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Talk to your mom about this job. Tell her why it bothers you if she works there. Explain to her in a calm manner. Try not to lose it. On the up side, Your mom may not get the job. Even if she does, you'll manage to live. This isn't that bad. Plus your parents may feel obligated to talk more and think about what to do about their relationship. Don't let this bring you down. Its a minor set back. Explain it to your dad. Maybe some way he can convince your mom to take another job. Don't let one set back ruin every thing.
♥ Mz.JENNiFER
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Give it a bit of time. It could be she is just saying that to make you upset. Talk to your dad about it. Maybe he can put a little dent in her plan.
Or sit her down and tell her you know what she is trying to do. And that she can do whatever, she will lose it in 2 weeks anyway right ;)
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Well with her poor work history maybe they won't hire her. It is funny, you seem to be the parent in this relationship. That is sad for you. I hope you survive this. Is there any reason why you just can't avoid the library in your dad's neighborhood? I mean you don't have to go there do you. There is a chance that your mom will find that she likes working in a library, because the pace is sort of slow, and it's pretty hard to do something wrong. She needs to grow up and this may be her chance and that along will make things easier for you. Listen it is not your job to keep your parents separated or out of each other's hair. They made the decision to marry and have a child, and maybe they hoped for the best, but it didn't work out. I am sure that they are used to dealing with each other, and if they continue to annoy each other, well it's not your fault, and I hope that no one is putting pressure on you to make the other behave in a certain way. Because it won't work and it just makes you crazy. I'd say ignore both of them. Although you are certainly right, your mom does need to get a job. she is not the first adult person though, who becomes a perpetual student. Allways going to school, and never putting their education to good use. She probably has no confidence in her abilities.
Good luck to you honey. I hope that you are working to excell in your life so that some day you can say good bye to each of them, and live your own life on your terms.
Michele
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