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need advice on the relationship that i have at the moment i am inlove with someone who has a kid with another man & the relationship between the is not working & my girlfriend still have feeling for the father of her son. iam 26 years old & i am from Botswana
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WEll I think you should consider these issues.
She may in this relationship with you because she does not want to be alone. She still has feelings for the father of her son, and that is also a good reason for her to continue to see him, in one capacity or another. How will you feel about that. There is no way this can be avoided. The child has a right to contact with both of his parents, no matter how each adult involved feels. So you will have to be dealing with her having contact with the father of the boy. Also, depending on her ethnic background, and the customs of her up-bringing. They may put a GREAT emphasis on "family". Even if the father is not a good, someday he may want them to be a family again, will she leave you so that they can make a family for their son?
There is no guarantee. She could grow to love you and realize that you are the better choice and a good influence on her son, and someone that she wants him to grow up to be like.
But is could easily go the other way. There is no way to tell for sure. But since you are asking, you have to ask yourself (in fact you can ONLY ask yourself and decide for yourself) if you are prepared to deal with the outcome, no matter what it is. Because you do have an alternative, and that is to find someone who does not have any children and start your own family.
Michele
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the women your with has had a kid with someone, so shes always gonna have some kind of feeling for him. because hes part of her kid.
but that doesnt mean she doesnt love you or wants to be with you, cause if shes with you right now she does wanna be with you.
not him.
im in this kind of thing right now just not with a kid. but my boyfriend has feelings for one of his first loves, and im learning to deal with it.
and im learning that he may have feelings for his first love, but that doesnt mean he doesnt wanna be with me.
ya know.
you just gotta have faith.
hope i could help
-jess
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